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Q: my hair is straight...and up to my waist...all my friends have wavy hair nd always scrunch their hair..its reallie cute..but when i try doing mine it doesnt turn out right...like i'll put my hair in braids over night, take it owt nd use my aussie sprunch spray, but it just doesnt stay in..any advice?!

Curlers....lol thats all i have to say is...curlers.
~EmmaLee~

Q: I sweat under my armpits A LOT!! and i just want to find out a way nto stop because i always have to wear sweatshirts to cover it up. HELP ASAP!!

Ur deodorent isnt strong enough. Try the strong enough for a man made for a woman stuff (Secret is what its called)
~EmmaLee~

Q: I've had my period for almost 10 months now and it still doesn't come on the same days or "schedule" or whatever. I don't know when I am going to get it, because it's such a bad frequency. I don't want to leak in school, and I'm always scared that I did leak, and I didn't notice, and like people are laughing behind my back. I just don't know what to do. I don't wear pads either so..please help?

You cant really help with that, but um...hmmm....When your in class and its been a couple hours ask to go to the rest room and go to ur locker grab a whatever u use and run to the bathroom and change before u leak. About the schedule thing? its because u havent had it long enough its just starting. Give it time and it will straighten itself out.
~EmmaLee~

Q: Okay well i was walken downtown with my 2 friends today and this druggie/badass was down there and he called over this geeky guy called Josh and all of a sudden he starts beating him up! i was so scared i didnt know what to do.. he almost started to cry and before he left he said im callen aaron (the cop in our town) and my friends r like dont tell him we were here. im afraid hes gunna tell the cop and he'll ask me and somehow it'll get back to the badass and he'll beat the shit outta me .. im a gurl btw and he hits girls and stuff and he like knows how to set up bombs n shit cuz he put a bomb in our school one year.. if the cop does ask me shoudl i say i witnessed it?

wow.....thats pretty bad but do whats right knowing that someone it always there to protect you. The right thing is to say u witnessed it and he might try to do something but you'll be ok!
~EmmaLee~

Q: one of my best guy friends, lets just say named steve, just told me today that he tried cutting his wrist tha other night..i saw the cut, it was TINY but still it was a cut..i dunno if he is trying to get attention or if he is serious..because the cut looked like it was from a longggg time ago and he said he just recently had done it..i dunno what to say to him because no matter what, real or not, i have to support him, etc...he is like the happiest pesron i know,but i guess i dont know anymore...help

Just make sure he knows your there for him and ya love him! Theres nothing else you can do. Luck.-EmmaLee

Q: Okay, I wanna get put on birth control. But, my mom doesn't know i have sex. I told her that it was to regulate my period. But see, im scared that if I go she'll find out i have sex. My friend said that they can't tell your parents if you have unless you have a disease. but shes never had sex. So my question is, If your under 18 can they tell your parents if you've had sex or not? please answer..Thanx!

Doctors have to take an oath to the privacy of their patients! Better safe then sorry (get the birth control!!!) the most important thing is, hun, protect urself!

Q: hey well i went tanning last week and on the 3rd day afterwards i would have an itchy like heat rash on my stomache and on the 5th day it was really bad. It was exactly like and alergic reaction. i had to take benadryl to stop the itching. Ive been tanning b4 this during the summer and this never happened to me. I did use a different lotion during the summer tho. Why am i getting this reaction? and its not because they dont clean the beds because i see them clean it and i lay on my back the whole time. What is this from??

Thanx!!

your stomach is very sensitive skin on it!!Careful watcha put on it! It may be just the lotion or the reaction you got from tanning with it.Hope i helped. Luck to ya-EmmaLee

Q: how often should u dye ur roots if u dye ur hair like blonde and ur hair is naturally black:?

every 6 weeks! Luck to ya-EmmaLee

Q: i am 17 and i have known this lad for 2 years now and i am falling in love with him i know he likes me but i am too shy to tell him how i feel as i do not want to get hurt i was seeing him before but it didnt work out and if i give it another try it will not work please give advice

If you DO NOT want to be with him just back off a little bit and ur love will fade. Try hard to focus on other lad's.It'll work.Luck to ya!-EmmaLee

Q: There's this girl in my grade. She really doesn't have any friends, except she persists to hang out with me and the rest of my friends. She's ALWAYS complaining about how fat she is. I tell her that she is not obese, but she merely says, "Oh, God, just shutup, will you? Of course I'm fat." Sometimes I tell her she's not like those obese people, but sometimes I don't say anything. Then she'll say, "So you agree. You think I'm fat?" She gets very much on my nerves. Except the thing is, she kinda is fat. Just like super super chubby, but it's not like she's really obese. Just how do I respond when she complains about her weight?

Thanks. Sorry it is so long, but I really need help. I would really appreciate it.

My friends do this to me all the time and theyre not fat! All i say is "Psh, please shut up your such a twig!" and they laugh it off. So, dont be mean but say something like that. Make your point AND lighting the convo =P!Luck to ya-EmmaLee

Q: (m/14)Ok, I'm going out with this girl, we've been going out for a little over a month now.. shes awesome, I like her a lot.. but unfortunately my parents don't. They really don't want me to have a girlfriend at all, especailly one like her they say. I mean she is a little wild sometimes, but I like that about her, but my parents don't. They want me to break up with her soon, and they're pressuring me to do it everyday. I want more of a long relationship with the girl.. but I don't want love. In my opinion, nothing good can come from love at this time in life. So do I stand up to my parents and tell them I won't break up with her?.. or take their advice and break up with her before this relationship turns into love? thanks

You can't avoid love...dont break up with her!Dont tell her your parents hate her either! I know how bad that hurts...you might mean more to her than you know. Follow your heart (yes i said heart!!)-EmmaLee

Q: My Ex is one of my best friends now and I have a new Boyfriend and He has a new Girlfriend... But today at lunch he pulled me aside and said this:
"If we were together again, like we were at one time, would you try harder to make it workout?" Now This has me seriously confused and I dont know how to take it So I just replied "I dunno" Wat did he mean?

He so wants you back!!!Guys can be hard to read sometimes, but thats an easy one;) hope it works for ya!-EmmaLee

Q: ok me and my boyfriend haven't made out yet and everyone is telling me to make the first move! lol how do you really make it lmao?! I never did before and I don't wanna but I'm gonna! any suggestions? please I need help! lol thank you sooo much!!!

Well Hun, follow your gut. Dont be shy, and lean in for that kiss! ;-)

Q: hi. im 15 and my bro is 17 and he has alot of hot friends that are always at my house... and they are OBSESSED w/ me... there always like touching me and telling me how hott i am and like hey sexy and uh more feeling.. lol. im not going to lie.. i like it.. what girl wouldnt like attention from hotties.. but its gets annoying.. and sometimes its uncomfortable.
should i do anything

Well i dont mean to sound....slutty but...alot of girls would still be flirtatious but like swat there hand away and shake ur head or something dont be all agresive just slowly but sweetly back them off. That way they dont think ur a slut OR a violent person :D

Q: ok well i hav known this guy chris for a while now and weve been friends with benefits for like a realllllly long time now...weve gone through alot.....and we finally made time to see eachother on a regular basis (we go to diff skools) and he asked me out sept 25....i seriously think im love...i know we havent been goin out for very long, but weve acted like it for so long...he is everything i WANT! and well i have a few probs....1..he smokes weed...he just started...last time i went to his house...he was high and he told me he loved me...i didnt know if he ment it...so i didnt say nething back..and i kinda changed the subj....well wat shuld i do bout that? and my other 1s are....he doesnt like to talk for a while like on the fone...he never has....i mean hell call me EVERYDAY which is gr8 but we only talk for like 2 mins....i try to keep him on the fone but he kinda is just like o well ill call u tomrrow n stuff like that....and we make plans in like 2 mins! its nice but i wanna talk longer but idk how to tell him this i dont wanna make him feel like he HAS to talk to me for 20mins or watever....ok n my other one...i think i love him....ive NEVER felt this way bout ne 1..i want to tell him i love him...but im scared.....wat shuld i do...plz help i just dont now....im scared of rejection...i have a REALLY hard time trusting guys bc theyve ALL screwd me over or hav only gone out with me for bets or watever....so when he doesnt call i think he hates me n i get really sad...idk i just need help wat do u guyz think of this?? =\

ive gone through that.Im not saying you should propose marriage or anything but tell him how you feel about him. If he is everything u WANT let him know that in a suttle way. Too much emotion scares some guys. The phone thing.....mention that you think you two should talk on the phone more. Most guys dont like the phone cuz well think about it the phone talk thing is kinda known for girls to do.

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I love giving advice! I adore my friends more than life itself. Life isnt that great though. I get through day by day and theres nothing wrong with that.I would do all i could to help a person. If they trully needed someone. I hate it when people sit alone, or walk alone. I know what that feels like i was a loner when i was like in 6th grade. No biggie though!