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worried about friend
one of my best guy friends, lets just say named steve, just told me today that he tried cutting his wrist tha other night..i saw the cut, it was TINY but still it was a cut..i dunno if he is trying to get attention or if he is serious..because the cut looked like it was from a longggg time ago and he said he just recently had done it..i dunno what to say to him because no matter what, real or not, i have to support him, etc...he is like the happiest pesron i know,but i guess i dont know anymore...help
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Just tell him not to do it. Because it's not good, and maybe he is just trying to get attention, but we don't know that so just tell him that you are worried about him and that he shouldn't do it.
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He may seem happy around you and your friends, but maybe at home he's sad and depressed...I think you should try talking to him, ask him what's up? Why would he try to get attention, if he always seems happy...Something is wrong with him, try to find out what it is, so you can be there for him and help him...
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hey, you should tell steve that he needs to cut that shit out...its not kewl and dosent just effect him but his friends too..like you...and you dont just support your friends you should help him and talk to him and tell your friend wuts going down and when he should stop doing things when you know its wrong...its hard to face friends like that but thats wut real frineds to for each other...but thats a choice you have to make...
--PinoyBoi
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honey as good of friend as he may be....you do not support self inflicted pain in any way shape or form!!!! you get help and try to make them stop...not supporting them by saying "oh well if you think that cutting yourself is the only way to make you feel better about the situation then im right behind you".....thats not a true friend!!! go to an adult or just tell him that there are other ways of getting help and finding a better healthier escape when needed!!!
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He's done this b/c sumthin in his life is bothering him and he needs to talk about it. Ask himw ut's wrong and y he is doing it.
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Hey~Trust me my friend did that and omg it was kinda scary!!! He might be doing it for both, what you can do is talk to him and tell him before he thinks about it please call you and talk it out! It worked for me and if that doesn't work then talk to someone older, I know it is stupid but it does work!! ~paige~
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Dear WaF,
Although this friend of yours may seem like he is the happiest guy around those people are sometimes the ones who are most unhappy. Cutting is a cry for help. Even if this cut is in fact old, the reason he is showing you is because he needs help and he trusts you enough to help him. He may also cut himself more recently in places you can not so easily see. Talk to him and then talk to his parents, your parents or someone who you trust and you feel can help both of you. If you feel there is no one you trust, then you two should talk together about it and how big of a problem it is and who you can turn to.
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Just make sure he knows your there for him and ya love him! Theres nothing else you can do. Luck.-EmmaLee
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Well Cutting is a serious thing... and some people do it for attention but others think that it really helps... obviously your friend is going through alot... you should really have a deep conversation with him and see whats bothering him... alot of my friends and i have had cutting problems.. (we got through it luckily) but.. your friend is going through alot right now the best you can do is be there and listen... he needs you the most right now.. Hope i helped
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You need to talk to your friend and ask what has been going on in his life and to see if you can help him through it.
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Well, to me, it just sounds like he's doing it for attention. People that usually cut themselves, don't show anyone else. Or maybe he might be like putting up a fake act, like being all happy and stuff..Talk to him about it, and ask him if anything is wrong, and ask him why he did it.
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Well, try talking to him about it. If he has enough courage to tell you and to show you then I'm sure he will talk to you about it and besides he IS your best friend. I hope everything goes good with him and I hope he stops doing that! Hope I helped! -Kayla
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By being his friend and being there for him are ways you can help him. He might be doing it for attention or he might have some emotional issues he needs to work out. Try talking to him about it but if he doesn't open up it would be a good idea for him to see some sort of counsler or therapist to talk about wat angers him cuz usually cutting is a effect of someone who is depressed or has built up anger. It could also be a combination of both. Best of luck with ur friend and i hope things get better soon with him :)
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You have to understand this, people with depression try to cover up their sadness with happiness so that they don't get people to worry about them unless they want to have people worrying about them. A threat like that still isn't good... I had depression for a year and a half and I cut, attempted suicide... the whole bit. When someone has depression and when they cut, it's like a sigh or releif. Up until the point when they cut, it's as if they're numb so the cutting makes them feel. You should talk to him to figure out what's going on. I know plenty of people that would say that they cut but they never did and just did it for attention. About 99% of cutters have move than just one little cut on their wrists after they say that they "cut" themself. He may be just be doing it for attention but someone saying that they are cutting themself is something you can't assume is a joke. You have to take it seriously. If later on he tells you that he's done it again and shows you his wrists and there are cuts there, you should either go to your guidance couselor or a trusted adult. I'm sure you've heard that from adults all the time but its true. If there is really something wrong with him he NEEDS to get help and I'm glad you've taken it a step further to figure out what you should do. Hope this helped. If you want please keep me updated on how your friend is doing and if you need anything just feel free to drop one in my box.
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cutting wrists is serious ask him if he is serious or not and how you can help him if he is if it is all about attention you should be able to tell and tell him thats its really not funny and if he is that desperate for attention something could be wrong find out!!
good luck!! sincerly,Chicagostar113
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