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Q: Okay i asked your guy's help once before about my girlfriend. But I have a serious situation, one of my ex-boyfriends called and asked me out. I haven't came out with this yet so nobody knows except my best friend and my gurlfriend and her aunt. I couldn't turn him down cause he's driving three hours just to see me. I wanna go but I don't think he would like the fact that i'm a 15 year old Bisexual and I have a girlfriend. And I don't think me girlfriend would like me going out with some guy!!!!!!!! Should I tell them????????

Yes, it would be better then losing both of them.

Q: Well my neighbor who is like my best friend is throwin' hints that he likes me or whateva, but he won't come out and say it. When I ask him questions to kinda "trap" him into tellin' me he always comes out with something for us either to start arguing or to get off the phone. How can I get him to tell me how he really feel?

You should tell him how you feel, && Ask him how he feels. just be straight up, good luck

Q: I have a small note I want to send to my boyfriend, and I only know the basics of Italian and French, so I can't really translate the whole thing. I know Spanish, but of course that's not too romantic. Anyways, this is for our 3 month anniversary note, please translate it in Italian, if you can't do Italian, French pleaseee?! I need it to be special. Thanks!

Here's the note:

Wow, I can't believe it's been three months already. It seems like we've been together for so much longer! I can't imagine if you and I weren't together; you're definitely the most important person in my life. I love you, always and forever.

Thanks! I'll rate if you actually translate it for me! Thank youuuu.

Wow, non posso credere che sia stato tre mesi già. Sembra come siamo stati insieme per cosí molto più lungo! Non posso immaginare se non eravamo insieme; lei è definitivamente la persona più importante della mia vita. L'amo, sempre e per sempre.

Q: I like my bestfriend Jeff people say that me and him will get married but im sure he dont like me like that....do u think i should try to ask him out in risk are friend ship?

well, before you do anything ask him how he feels, just talk to him. his answer will determine everything. Good luck hun

Q: ok im in a lot of trouble...here it goes, me, one of my best friends staci and her cousin nick got drunk at a party at her house(were all 13 and this is our first time getting drunk)...her aunt let us drink...so me and nick had like 5,6 straight shots and staci only had like 2. so me and nick were smashed and staci was a lil drunk...we went on stacis trampoline and we finally fell and were just laying there...i dont know i was being weird and was saying shit like"i love you guys, your the best, im glad we did this together." and i looked over at nick and we started hooking up he had his hand on my ass and i didnt mind, i had my hands all over him(not on his dick or anything) and we were making out for a while, my other best friend jessica likes him alot. but i was so drunk to even remeber that. staci finally relized what was going on and pull us off of each other and we were like what are you doing stop..and then she started freaking out and was like i need to call jessica i need to call jessica..and nick was trying to talk to her and i was like nick i love you and he was like yea i love you to..and he looked over and gave me a lil kiss. well jessica came over to stacis house and put me to bed and i fell alseep

this is wat nick said to staci about wat happened
-he said i was ontop of him and he would of stopped but he couldnt(while we were hooking up he kept saying i love u to me and he could of said stop, so that was a lie)
-staic said someone was holding her hands down he said he wasnt(like i said my hands were all over him so his one hand that wasnt on my ass must of been holding her hands down)

so now staci and jessica hate me and they believe what nick says and he was lying and they wont believe me..i cant even look at them any more and i tried to tell them when you get drunk you dont really relize whats going on..and jessica said she asked her sister and her sister said that u do relize whats going on when your drunk im soo mad and upset at the same time..i dont know wat i can say to jessica and staci so they know im sorry and that i was drunk and it wasnt really my fault

arrite, well im 16 i drink all the time. shit like that has happened to me but alot worse, you have to give them a little time to cool off, try talking to them online. if it doesnt work.. write them a note apologizing and explaining the situation. if that doesnt work, call them.. and then finally go to there house.. sit them down and talk to them.. there your bestfriends.. tell them when your drunk its a diffrent world, you seriously dont have any control, especially if it was your first time... my bestfriend finally forgave me. if you try all that. ask me for more advice and i will tell you exactly what to do. im so sorry this happened to you, some people are just stubborn and too immature to realize how drinking effects your brain. good luck sweetheart.

Q: OK,well. I am 13/f and i recently moved into my sisters old room. I am going to redo it. I can't repaint it tho. Two walls are red, two walls are white. I really love the old hollywood look like marilyn monroe, the coca-cola stuff... that type of stuff. Well, I'm having a really hard time thinking of ideas and finding stuff to do. If anyone has any ideas, or even links of things i could put in my room, that would be great! thanks a bunch! i rate! ♥

go to.. wakeupfrankie.com

there should be alot of ideas on there.

Q: In the last week or so, my one guy friend started flirting with me. And on Friday he sat with me and my friend at lunch. He sat by me and kept flirting by me, but I wasn't really thinking of it as flirting cause I didn't think he liked me. Turns out that night when we were IMing each other I said something like who do you think I should go out with and he said me. And i was just like...? And he was like you know I'm serious didn't you notice me flirting with you at lunch today. Then he asked me out and I said yes. Like an hour later he IMs me right when I came back from being away and said hey (my name) i was thinking and I like another girl too. And I don't wanna be going out with you when I like another girl too. So sorry but i guess its over. Does anyone have any idea why he did that in the first place? Or if it was just a joke? Or what?

I'll rate for good answers!

hes immature.. forget about him.

Q: What is the BEST energy drink for me to buy?

vitamin water.. thats all i can say.. its amazing.

Q: kayy well i was going out with a really cool guy and this girl that used to be my best friend asked him out when we just broke up and she told him she asked me that it was ok to go out with him but she never asked me. so im really mad at her. but now the guy wants to go out with me again but he doesnt like to say no to people like the other girl but i hate her now so i feel like getting back at her so this is the best thing i can think of. is it ok???

well, that girl obviously wasnt a very good friend. and if you still like this boy.. then go ahead.. but if you dont have feelings for him anymore.. dont go down to her level, and seek revenge.. just show her that your a nice better person then her. and you respect your self.. and your real friends.

Q: okay my homecoming is this weekend and im getting my hair done at a very nice place but i dont know what do get done. my hair is a little below my shoulders and i dont mind if the hairstyle is curly or straight. please send links of pics of you can! thanks

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v731/babydaisy5/weddinghair1.jpg

thats really cute..

Q: ok so my b/f and i broke up cause me moved....and i really cant get over him!! and i dont no how like i jus really really want to be w/him but i cant be w/him.....and i me and him were sooo in love at least i was....he was everything i wanted in a man or boy or whatever u want to call it....and i jus feel rite in love w/him we were sooo alike and i could get along w/him sooo well....and i wanted to marry him cuz i really think that i could live w/him for the rest of my life!! but the only problem was that he was 13 and kinda had the rest of his life ahead of him and i am 16 and i kinda wanted a serious relationship and he didnt.....but i still cant get over him and now he has a g/f!!! and i dont no how to get over him????please help me?!?!?!

iight look imma tell you straight up, tha same stuff happend to me.. about 3 months ago. my boyfriend and i had been together for more then a year.. i had to move and hour away. i loved him more than anything, and everything you said reminded me of him and i. except we were both 16 after i moved. we tried to have a long distance relationship.. everything was working out fine.. i would drive up to see him twice a week. untill school started.. i had made new friends, started having less time for him.. you know.. i would talk to him on the fone every chance we got. which was alot seeing how we have cell phones.

homecoming was coming up.. and he asked me to go.. the week before. that whole week he hadnt called me or answered my calls. i was devistated. he had told my bestfriend that he didnt wanna be with me anymore because he couldnt trust me. ive never cheated on any of my boyfriends. so i dont know why he would say that.

about 1 week after. i found out he liked a 13 year old and i was madd.. i threatened this girl.. so many times.. she finally got the clue and backed off.. but then he was mad at me.

i realized that even though i loved him with all my heart, and always will. things will move on.. were 16 i have partying to do .. and experinces to go through, im not going to find my husband at this age. nor do i want to.. im in highschool.. i want to have fun.. i recently found a new boyfriend, who makes me happy.. every once in a while i will find myself thinking about him and wondering what he is doing.

basically you need to move on, your still young and you still have alot of other things and boys ahead of you.

good luck. xOox Kristina

Q: ok some kid that i used to be friends with now i am not he got my phone number and he calls my house acting alll stupid and curses also i dont want my parents picking up and him curseing at them cause i wont be grounded for like ever.. what can i do to make him stop calling i rate 5s

Tell him he's being immature, and if he still does it tell your parents.

Q: I'm a really good singer. All of my friends have said so, and are threatening to take me too American Idol when I'm 16. And I love to sing. But when I go to do it in front of some people I get really nervous and choke up. Any suggestions on how to get rid of my nervous-ness??

well the first question is..Do you think your a good singer? because, in order to over come stage freight you need to convince yourself your good. Every morning when u wake up, look in the mirror and tell yourself your beautiful & your a good singer. Do it as many times a day possible, then soon you should be come comfortable with yourself.

hope i helped

Q: I'm about to make my friend a cd and he said to put whatever songs are cool and new and I like all old music. Does anyone know any good songs that are r&b and are new?

1. 50Cent - Candy shop
2. Crime Mob - In my white tee
3. Fabolous - Can you hear me
4. Fat Joe - Work out plan
5. Gunit - Wanna get to know you
6. Ja Rule - New York
7. Kiss me - Jadakiss
8. One night stand - Lil Jon
9. Luniz - I got 5 on it
10. Mario - Let me love you (remix)
11. NWA - Gangsta Gangsta
12. Red Cafe - All night long
13. T.I - Bring em out
14. The Game - This is how we do
15. Twista - Hope

Q: Ok im really skinny im 15 and about 92 pounds. Anyways girls are always saying how guys want skinny girls, but i dont think thats true. I thought it would be cool to be able to eat anything i want and never gain a pound but now i really am trying to gain weight and i cant! Today some guy told me i should eat the paper because i needed to gain weight. So coming from guys perspective i was wondering if guys really do like skinny girls and if they find them more attractive? People usually think im really skinny or aneroxic and its really pissing me off, because the guys are "suppose to " like skinny girls, but thats bull crap.. and i just dont understand guys.. because your either to fat or to skinny soooo I guess my question is any advice from a guys perspective on girls , and what can i eat to gain more weight?? And dont tell me it will catch up to me because you burn the calories now , you dont store them, and please dont tell me to not care waht people think! I will give 5's to anyone who gives a good answer! Thanks so much

Arrite, Eat alot of breads... I had the same problem.. and i quit cheerleading after 7 years... and now that all i do is sit at home and party, i gained alot of weight but till then eat alot of mean and bread.

Hope it helped

Q: Hi,
Sorry if this is gross.
I have really heavy periods and I know that they might settle down (I've only had four so far, but they have been really bad - I can't walk more than 10 steps without having to rush to the toilet) eventually, but is there anything (other than going to the doctors, something I will only do as a last resort) I can do to make them even a little bit lighter? I dunno, natural remedies, food to avoid, drink less...anything?!
I also seem to have like a really weak bladder or something when I'm on my period and I always need the toilet (like always, and I do 'go' when I go to the toilet). Is there something wrong there? If so (or not) what can I do to make it so it isn't so bad? I've tried drinking less and even drank nothing on one day but it makes no difference.
Thanks!

Drink water. x 1000

Q: If a guy touches your arm a lot as hes talking to you, is this a good sign?

yeah, he wants you.

Q: What do you do if your friend tells you to find someone new, because they like the same person you do and say they like them back? I believe it to be a bit harsh. If your friend cared for you, wouldn't they just leave it alone instead of saying something like that?

Yes, your friend... IS NOT a friend if he/she would do that. PLAY TO WIN. dont let him/her think they have control over you. And yes thats rude, if they cared for you they wouldnt do that.

Q: I thought i was over this kid that i liked for a while (we were close and dated a couple of times) but then he started to get over me to but i started gettin jealouse because he was getting over me...hes still not completly over me (I think)but im still jealouse...i dont think im over him what should i do?

[ Play hard to get ]

Be really nice to him, then when you think u have him where you want him, suddenly become unavailable.

Hope i helped

Q: I had moved to Cancun for like 4 months from aug.- december.. now im back in the states.. I have been with my BF for 11 months and when I was living in mex. in november he cheated on me ( meaning had sex!!) with a girl at our school.. I finally moved back when I found out.. I didnt break up with him or anything because I kind of understood since I was in another country and he didnt know when I was coming back.. he was so sorry and cried to me and told me that im the only girl he wants to be with for the rest of his life.. he also told me that they were drunk and that it was a big mistake.. I asked his best friend about it and he didnt know about it.. he told me that he must have been really ashamed of it because he didnt even tell his bestfriend... I know that if I was going to break up with him or anything like that that its a little too late.. but what can I do.. I already talked to him about it.. its just that everytime I walk by the girl he had sex with I get so disgusted and dont even want to look at my BF.. I sometimes cry because of what he did hurt me so bad..anyone have some advice?

Just remember your the only girl he wants to be with for the rest of his life! So when you see the girl, Remember what he said bkuz her slutty actions arent getting her any where except a worse reputation. You have it better then it could be, what if he broke up with you for her? that would be worse, and atleast he admittited it to you. Just stay with him, your better then that skanky girl anyway!!

Hope it helped