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UGHH Im so mad it hurts
I had moved to Cancun for like 4 months from aug.- december.. now im back in the states.. I have been with my BF for 11 months and when I was living in mex. in november he cheated on me ( meaning had sex!!) with a girl at our school.. I finally moved back when I found out.. I didnt break up with him or anything because I kind of understood since I was in another country and he didnt know when I was coming back.. he was so sorry and cried to me and told me that im the only girl he wants to be with for the rest of his life.. he also told me that they were drunk and that it was a big mistake.. I asked his best friend about it and he didnt know about it.. he told me that he must have been really ashamed of it because he didnt even tell his bestfriend... I know that if I was going to break up with him or anything like that that its a little too late.. but what can I do.. I already talked to him about it.. its just that everytime I walk by the girl he had sex with I get so disgusted and dont even want to look at my BF.. I sometimes cry because of what he did hurt me so bad..anyone have some advice?
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Just remember your the only girl he wants to be with for the rest of his life! So when you see the girl, Remember what he said bkuz her slutty actions arent getting her any where except a worse reputation. You have it better then it could be, what if he broke up with you for her? that would be worse, and atleast he admittited it to you. Just stay with him, your better then that skanky girl anyway!!
Hope it helped
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i think you really should think about it..is he the one? if he loves you so much why did he have sex with another girl? so wat that you were away you could keep in touch..if he loves you soo much he would do anything..i know it would be hard with a distance relationship but if he cared about you that much as he said he does he would do anything to make it work and not cheat on you...
MAYBE it was a mistake but a big one i mean having sex is huge..this also shows you that maybe he is a player just trying to get in bed with you..if you really love the guy then dont lose him but keep an eye on him if he does cheat on you again dump him..but if you think you dont love him that much and that you feel he might not be the one dump him rite now..
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You may love him, but that does not mean that its for sure. You have to know this, if a guy cheated on you, hurt you, or even hit you, you have to lay down your options. Hitting, you would dump them, and even if they beg and cry to you that they love you, saying they will never do it again, that is what always happens, but you always end up with more bruises if you take them back, so you need to know that just because its love, its not forever or for sure, no couple survives on just love, it takes more than love to be with someone, because unfortunitly, love isn't enough. Maybe seeing other people is not what you need to do, maybe its for sure that you need time. Now, for the cheating on his part, yes, having sex with someone else while still dating you is FAR beyond wrong, we both know that. But just because you were gone, it does not give him any permission, or right to go off with another girl, I believe that is a pitty excuse, and he hurt you, and he showed remorse for it, and cried, and you felt pretty sure he wasn't going to do it again, but just remember this, oh its never too late to break up with him, I hope thats not stopping you. You needed advice, you needed time to think and you can break it off with him anytime or anyday, I know you don't want to, I can tell you don't, trust me. It will take time to get over this, you havn't yet, but you just have to deal either way, you have 2 options, either you can break it off until you feel like your over it and ask if he will wait for you until then, or you can stay with him and let him help you deal with this. Thats all I can tell you, I hope your relationship with him goes back to what it used to be.
-TheTeenGirl
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Well, if he told you that you are the only girl that he wants to be with for the rest of his life, then that tells you that he really loves you and that he never meant to cheat on you. Being drunk causes you to do things that you wouldn't do if you are sober so you should just stop thinking about this because this all happened in the past. If he told you that this was a big mistake, then he meant it and that he never meant to do this to you. This will be hard for you to forget, but you need to, and that he didn't know he would do something like this and that you were gone. It's alright for you to cry when you see the girl that he cheated on you with. Just try to not think about this and this happened in the past and you should bring back things from the past.
-Karen
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You have every right possible to be mad. i understand that your boyfriend was sorry but sometimes sorry just isn't enough. "SEX" is a big thing- to me its a special bond between two people. The fact that he had sex because he was drunk is completely unexcusable- the fact is-he had sex with another women while he was still with you. I admire your strength and courage during such an awful experience in your life, but you have to understand that you defintely deserve better. He might have said sorry, but you never know if he'll do it again. Trust is something that you earn, and in my eyes, the moment he had sex with that other woman was the same moment he lost "your" trust. I recently told one of my friends to be more careful with the guys she goes out with- they have to respect you. I don't really know wat else to say- i hope i helped but i truly think that this is a decission that you have to make by yourself. Sit down and truly ask yourself if you could handle being with a guy who had technically cheated on you, even if he was sorry. good luck.
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you should try 2 past dis after all day were drunk, he cryed, u moved away. for give him. i hope i helped. please dont rate me low!
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