I really like this guy, my really good friend, who is taken but he doesn't know it. I got him something for Valentine's Day, but obviously, I haven't given it to him yet... I'm wondering if I still should. I'm giving things to other people (both ladies and guys). It's nothing big, I mean what I got for him. Maybe I shouldn't give it to him... or? I don't know... I really want to but it might seem a little wrong. Should I? Or I shouldn't?
Well if you got other people gifts I dont see why not. It wouldnt be obvious that you like him.. Unless you're trying to show him. But if you're giving other people gifts as well I say go for it! He might really appreciate it!
Best of luck
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hey guys.. well pretty soon my friend is having a keg party(drinking) and inviting everyone because her moms going to be out of town that night.. and i want to go but im scared that the cops will come and we all will get busted.. shes done a lot before and never gotten caught by her mom or anything but since its this big of a party im not sure if i should go or not it would be a ton of fun but i dont want to get totally screwed.. so let me know what i should do, thanks...
parties normally get busted. You wont get into trouble if you arnt drinking or doing any type of drug. If you're there just for the social you're safe. But if you have an ounce of alcohol and is under age you're fucked.
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My friend moved out to Colorado a year ago. I'm 15/f and he was my best friend. Yesterday he told me he had sex for the first time. Which is totally different from when he lived here. He never would have done it. I understand that he changed because of the different people. I get that. But, its just the fact that sometimes, when I talk to him online, he's drunk. And alone. When he's sad, he tells me he WANTS to be drunk. I'm afraid I'm going to lose my best friend.
What should I do? Just get over it?
Well theres not much you can do for the kid. since he did move. You just probably need to talk to him while hes sober and tell him how much you really do care for him and that you think somethings going wrong and that he should hang out with a diff crowd or something. i'm sure hes just trying to fit in and thats the cool thing to do around there. If he gets upset with you then i dont know... because that might happen. Good luck and best wishes
-holly-
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Ok, I'm a 16 year old girl and I've got this really great friend who happens to be a guy. We've been friends for a really long time and he lives right next door to me. Since the Homecoming dance was coming up, I asked him to the dance without thinking. (he's the only guy friend who I know that I'd have a good time with and we've gone to the past couple years' dances together so it seemed only natural that we'd go together again) He agreed to go with me so I thought that everything was ok... so we went and had a great time as always. Nothing interesting happened (we are JUST friends afterall) Later, I found out that he was planning to ask his secret crush out to the dance and now I feel really bad because I hadn't considered this when asking him to the dance. I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW HE HAD A SECRET CRUSH! Now he refuses to talk to me and won't even let me have half of the pictures from the dance. What do you suggest that I do? I can't take back going to the dance because it's already happened and now his crush hates me!
Alright well the least he could have done is told you that he was going to ask someone else and if they didnt say yes then he'd go with you. Seriously he shouldnt be mad because when you asked he could have told you what was up. You shouldnt be sorry either hes just being a rude little selfish prick that will get over it. Who cares if his crush hates you... you had no idea. You can even tell her be like "yo i didnt know he was going to ask you... he said yes and didnt mention you.. so get over it" Sorry i'm a little mean sounding but you shouldnt be sorry! its his fault... and he'll get over it.
-Holly-
hope i helped
and best wishes to ya hunnie
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there is this boy that goes to my skool and i used to have a crush on him until my friend called him on 3 way and she told him that i liked him and he was like HELL NO SHES UGLY AND FAT AND JUST HELL NO!!!! as you can tell 1 i was upset and 2 i was just str8 up MAD!!!so the next day at skool i told him my cousin Nikki(not a real person)had a crush on him well i pretended to be her on the foneand stuff and when we went to the movies my cousin pretended to be Nikki and he fell for it and he really liked her but some gurl thought that me and my friends were being mean and she told him what we were doing and hes mad...do you think he'll forgive me???Should i forgive him 4 what he said abuot me????PLEASE help me
He might forgive you but he might never give you the chance to end up liking you. But hunnie he sounds like a complite asshole so who cares if he forgives you! You should forgive him for what he said because it was him opinion but I dont think you should get to involved with him. He also could have put his answer with a polite ugh no i dont have feelings for her... but he went way over the top. MOVE ON! :-/ you deserve someone better
-holly-
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dear advicenators i have a friend who cuts herself i havent known her for a long time bcz i just moved here but she does it and she cant stop !!! i would like some advice on how to help her stop ...
thanx
Alright if the girl does the cutting to a point where shes trying to kill herself... then theres some serious issues there. But i know several people that have anger problems and have no other way to take them out besides releasing all their anger on themselves. Try talking to her. tell her you're worried... but if she snaps... its her job to get the help and you need to step back and let her live her life, i know cutting gets very addicting but thats just how some people deal with their stress. If its to the point of her trying to commite suicide... then i'd say talk to a school consular. best wishes
-holly-
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I am so sexually confused! One second I'm bi and another I'm
gay! I am 14yr.s old a freshmen, confused on what my sexuality is. People says I'm gay, but I still think girls are cute, but I would
rather go with a boy. So what am I!?! Need answers...
Dont be a faggot there is nothing better in the world than pussy. you probabally have never gotten laid so you dont know what you are missin.
man up kiddo,
-hollys friend juan-
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I was dating this guy, and I was really starting to like him. We had "relations" and it became intense for a minute. But my best freind saw him in the mall, and every since then some how he got he number and they have been talking on the phone since. I stopped liking this guy because I felt he didn't respect me or my best friends friendship. Come to find out my best friend want to have "relations" with him and is talking to him on the phone. She really isn't telling me everything. We told each other that a man could not come in betwwen us, but I think in this situation it is diffrent. I mean I stop liking this guy because of her, and now she wants him. Is she being a friend or a freak?
I think you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel about this all b ecause that isnt a good friend and she needs to respect your feelings and other things. I've had the same situation but i've been the one causing problems. Good luckholly
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Ron just asked me to go to the movies with him and his friend, Alex. Im bringin my friend Cayla too, so its like a double date. But Cayla doesnt like Alex and I think she's a little jealous of me and Ron. SOo0 should I say anythin to her or just wait n see if she likes Alex ?
be like ok cayla since ya dont wanna go can i just invite someone else. easy as cake. if shes got a problem then she can get over it.. Just go have your fun with ron.
-holly-
hope i helped
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Ok, I'm 14 and I have this friend. She truly is a nice person, but she flirts with EVERY GUY in sight. No joke. It really gets on my nerves, and plus she has a boyfriend anyway. And it's not just normal, friendly flirting--she hangs all over them and is always hugging all over them and stuff. Her boyfriend goes to another school, which happens to be convenient for her. Anywho, it gets on my nerves soo bad. How should I tell her that its not right? Or should I just lay low and hope she stops?
Nah she wont stop... ya just need to tell her.. Hey look are you forgeting about your boyfriend... girls at a young age their hormones get them acting all freaky and stuff. Believe me I went threw it all my 8th grade year! It'll pass. meanwhile i'd tell her boyfriend.
-holly-
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anyone have idea`s when there stressed.. or shitty mood and feel blahh how to cheer up.
any thing im out of ideas..
Get together with all your friends, invite them over to have fun... go swimming... play vid games... Just do things that you enjoy! and try and forget about other things
-holly-
hope i helped
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My friend Harmony is always telling me that I need to let God into my life and look to him as a source of comfort. I believe that God exists, but I have doubts about whether he really cares or not. I feel like she trying to force me to believe like she does. I respect the fact that she is strong in her faith, but I don't neccesarily want to talk about it with her. She gets really offended when I say something that she doesn't think is right. When I told her that I didn't want her to tell me to go to God for guidance, she got angry and told me that at least she knew that she couldn't be open with me anymore. Am I wrong for asking her to not talk about this? How to I tell her that I would rather not talk about God without offending her?
No you arnt in the wrong at all! Seriously you just need to let her know that you dont have a faith and you'd rather not have to hear about hers. Thats kind of rude but just let her know how you feel... as a friend she should respect the fact that you've made the choice not to live for the lord and if she has a problem with that then maybe you guys shouldnt be friends. Good luck and best wishes
-holly-
hope i helped
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I have a friend who I like very much, but who has a habbit of asking me to call her because she's feeling low at really incovenient times. I want to be there for her, but it becomes problematic when I feel I can't fairly say no when she asks me to call for a few minutes because she's feeling low, even it's like 1am. If it really was a few minutes, it would be fine, but once she has me on the phone she's impossible to let go, because every time I talk about having to be up in the morning she talks about how people always seem to let her down when she needs them. I do want to be there for her, but I do need to sleep too, and I simply can't survive on talking till 2am or later every night to get up at 7am. How can I be firm about needing to get off the phone without offending her?
Just tell her what you told me, because you need to let her know that you can't do that, and you really want to be there for her. If she doesnt understand shes not worth having around... and she might also being looking for attention. I dunno. Good luck and best wishes
-holly-
hope i helped
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There is this kid danny, and ghe lives down the street from me, and i like him alot, and i mean ALOT! But he is in the 8th grade and im in the 7th grade, so i never really get to see him.But instead of telling him that i like him, i want to make him like me! what should i do? PLEASE help!
Maybe you should talk to him and be like yeah you want to come over some day since we live down the street, we can watch movies. Try having him come over... and just be flirty with him. Talk to him and smile and laugh and stuff... guys like girls like that. Just be nice and stuff. :)best wishes and good luck
-holly-
hope i helped
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ok my bff just stop bein friends with her old bff her old bff hates me she always puts me dowm and makes me wanna stab her she also calls my cell and says "ur ugly im pretty u need to die gay loser biotch" wat should i do??? i really need help or it will go on forever!!!!!!!!!!! plzz help.....thanx!!
well that is harrass and you can get her into a lot of trouble, but why dont you tell your bff to have her tell her to shut up because its not cool, shes just jealous that you are friends with this girl now... Girls are stupid. You'll learn that as you get older.
-holly-
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well i have some of my friends going to my advice column and asking questions, which is pretty cool, BUT.. some of the questions are involving me and idk how to answer them! help! idk what to do?!
reject them.
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ok well these girls i dont no keep instant messangeing me sayin that im fat and ugly because they saw a picture of me on my profile and they say all these mean things to me and im not the kind of girl who can take stuff like that and everyone tells me oh dont worry about them ur pretty and all that but i cant just ignore them they go to my school now too
someone please help me figure out something to do
Well if you want it to stop for good you need to tell someone because that is harrasment and they can get into some serious trouble. Dont be afraid to tell. They need to be stopped. Good luck
-holly-
hope i helped
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My friend just told me today.. that she ALWAYS throws up after she eats. As much as I'd love to help her, I just dunno what to say. Cuz she might get mad. I don't want anything bad to happen to her. The past couple days shes been telling me that shes been haveing bad stomach pains and she feels sick ALL THE TIME. I wanna help her, I don't wanna make her mad and say the wrong thing though. Should I just forget about it, and let her live her life the way she wants it? What would you do? Please I need help.. =(
*amYy.. my AIM sn is NaInErZzZ
I think you should do some research about bulimia, print it up and find pictures and stuff of girls with this disorder, print them up and show her what this is doing to her. Maybe write her a letter telling her how you feel about it. Make it a sweet letter and let her know what she is doing isnt right, try asking her if you can take her to a doctor or someone to help her. Let her know that you are there for her and that You want to help. Best wishes to you.
-holly-
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my friend is cuttin her wrist and stuff wat should i do to help her?
Alright, some people cut themselves to let some stress out... and anger and stuff. If it was in the situation if shes just cutting and not trying to commit suicide I'd leave it be, shes just trying to get things out and thats the only way she can do it. If you told I think it'd make things worse... Dont say anything unless shes trying to commit suicide... best of luck.
-holly-
Hope i helped
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Ok, well i have this friend who always tells rumers about me! i hate it and i always tell her how i feel, but everytime i tell her she goes and tells another rumer! what should i do?! help me please!
signed.
Losing a friend?
Just forget about her if shes going to tell your secrets and start stuff about you then shes not a good friend. Find someone else to hang out with and dont talk to her people like that are stupid.
-holly- hope i helped
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