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Question Posted Wednesday October 13 2004, 2:08 pm

I am so sexually confused! One second I'm bi and another I'm
gay! I am 14yr.s old a freshmen, confused on what my sexuality is. People says I'm gay, but I still think girls are cute, but I would
rather go with a boy. So what am I!?! Need answers...

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Chivalrous answered Sunday June 11 2006, 6:54 pm:
It's insane that people get so crazy over topics like this. Are you gay?? Are you striaght? Lez? Bi? Trans? Who knows, who cares? At 14, this should be the LEAST of your worries.

I would try some relationships with girls first. Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to be anti-gay or anything, but from personal experience, and from people I know, it is emotionally more satisfying to be with someone of the opposite sex. I've known quite a few gay AND bi people, and most of them have been happier with the opposite sex. Not all, but most(and this is from JUST the gays and bi's that i know, not everyone i know). I'm not saying it's easier, because it's not (it's pretty hard), but it IS more rewarding.

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diva answered Thursday October 14 2004, 9:20 pm:
I think u just confused. And sooner or later u should find out what u like. i hope.

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kris567 answered Thursday October 14 2004, 4:12 pm:
I think that if you would rather be with a boy then you are gay.Just cuz u think girls are cute doesnt make u bi. If u are attracted 2 girls like u r 2 boys then u r bi but if u just think they r cute then ur probally gay.
hope i helped

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busterbrownxl answered Thursday October 14 2004, 3:14 pm:
dont be scared if your gay you gay i think its great that you like girls but you like guys gay people rock my sock's like i said dont be scared.

Te Amo,

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AnGeLtHuGsTa answered Thursday October 14 2004, 1:45 pm:
Your only 14, it's hard to know what you are and what you want to do now. That's totally okay...It's also okay to keep changing your mind because your at that age where your trying to find out, who you really are. I'm guessing though, if you would rather be with a guy instead of a girl, but think girls are cute....Your probably more gay than bi. If you were bi, you'd go with any gender, but since you'd rather choose a guy...I think your gay...Who knows? You might change your mind a million times before you actually find out what you really like....~good luck~

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HollyAnn2282 answered Thursday October 14 2004, 1:04 pm:
Dont be a faggot there is nothing better in the world than pussy. you probabally have never gotten laid so you dont know what you are missin.

man up kiddo,

-hollys friend juan-

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BJ2004 answered Thursday October 14 2004, 12:11 pm:
i have a gay friend and he once thought that he was bi last summer and then a couple of weeks ago he told me that he was gay and that it was kind of hard to figure it out...if you think girls are cute that doesn't mean anything because i think that alot of girls are pretty and im not gay so i think you mightr be gay!!!


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IPIiINIkI_my_anti_drug answered Thursday October 14 2004, 1:16 am:
well i think that you would b bi i mean i totally support you with your choice (not that i am lesbo or gay or bi) but like you no wat i mean and i love gay ppl!! they are hot!! lol anyway i think that that shouldnt matter to anyone anything!

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PiEtRuSzEwSkI answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 9:58 pm:
Well this is really a matter of whats in your heart, and at our age its really hard to tell your sexualitly cause its all about exprimenting and finding all that out in the process, try thinking about what your beliefs are about both males and females, like what you think would be a better relationship, and if you think your are strong enough to go through all this dumb ass shit people put bi's and gays/lesbians through, but always remember to be true to yourself, and listen to your heart!!! I hope I helped let me know how thigns work out, and Good Luck!!! And if you need anyone I'm here!!

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OnErOxYcHiCkEz answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 8:19 pm:
your bi, but maybe a homosexual.

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Chicagostar113 answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 6:31 pm:
your only 14 do you really need to be focasing on this but any way wat do you really want to be ? its all up to what u want for your self if you feel atracted to guys but u want to be not gay make a list of why you feel attracted to guys and why you feel attracted to girls witch one has more answers that what you should be you may be gay there is nothing wrong with that

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dramaqueenbabeiwb answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 6:12 pm:
if you like both sexes, you are bisexual or something like that. Do what you're happy with, and do what you want.

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AsweetGoodBy answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 5:28 pm:
you said youd rather have a male so i think your gay

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liddylflirtx3 answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 4:54 pm:
If you like both females and males, then you are considered bisexual. It is nothing to be ashamed about! Hope I cleared up the confusion, sweetie =)

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alisonmarie answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 4:36 pm:
Why worry so much about labels?

When it comes down to it, you aren't going to fall in love with another label. You're going to date someone who makes you laugh, lets you cry, and that you are attracted to in every way.

Whether that person has a vagina or a penis is immaterial.

I do understand that it's important to feel like you need a label, so I'd say this: we are conditioned from birth to date people of the opposite gender. That means you have been told a million subtle ways that you should be with a girl.

Many people initially come out as bisexual because they mistakenly think they still have feelings for the opposite gender, when in fact it's just a sort of cultural conditioning. The older you get and the more experiences you have, the better you'll understand your sexuality.

In the meantime, try to relax about it a little. Think about which label feels best to you right now - if you have to have a label, better to pick it yourself than let others do it for you. Saying you are one or the other right now doesn't mean you are locked into that category for life - sexuality is confusing and develops over the course of growing up; you'll find your place where you feel most comfortable and happy in time.

Good luck.

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texangirl01 answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 4:09 pm:
if you think both boys and girls are cute then you are bi....even thought you would rather be with a bot you still have a small attraction for girls!!

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kristen22 answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 4:04 pm:
There is no need at your age to try to sexually clasify ur self now. You will know for certain when you are older. Your feelings now are very much like other teens. I dont care who you are, Every teen goes through a stage of some sorts where they try to define there sexualty. If you are straight, then that is just something you know. But having other feelings, such as being sexually attracted to the opposite sex is not a easy thing to try to define. Have you had sexual intercourse with the same sex? If not, then you can't say that you are gay. Now, I'm not sayin for you to run out and do that, lol, I'm saying you wouldn't say I love M&M's if you never tried it....Hope that makes sense.. Just have fun, enjoy your teen years and don'[t rush to label yourself right now. And always remember that God loves you just the way you are.

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Jason38X answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 3:46 pm:
yes you are gay if you even think being with another man

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Karen answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 3:46 pm:
You're bi-curious meaning that you wonder what it would be like dating the same sex as you! Hope I helped :)

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Trevor-Wolf answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 3:45 pm:
No one is 100% straight, but then again people are not 100% gay...well the could be. But anyway, just go with what you really feel, this includes finding out what gender you like to do sexual things with more. Just because you think girls are cute, doesn't mean you couldnt be gay, or it could. Its really hard to say since you really have to go by person to person. Each person is different. But don't stress...your 14 years old, most people who are questioning dont know until years to come. Jus Chill, and it'll come to you sooner or later. Hope I helped, leave anything else you need in the inbox.


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frenchy answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 3:35 pm:
hey! listen to what your heart tells you. people sometimes just tell others that they are gay because of something they did, but that doesnt always mean that that person is gay. however, if you'd rather go with a boy than with a girl, then you seem to be gay. girls who arent lesbians sometimes think that other girls are good-looking, but that doesnt may them lesbians. you might be bi, but it might also be just the fact that they are good-looking. also, people our age (i'm fourteen too) are sometimes sexually confused. at one point you might think you're gay or bi when you're actually straight. my adive to you is to just go with the flow and follow your heart. hope i helped, if you wanna talk more, hit me up on aim, peace and love!

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Jane answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 3:32 pm:
*To settle this confusion of yours, here is something to think about. Do you have emotional and physical feelings for a boy or girl? If you have both for only one sex then you're gay. If you feel both for both sexes then you are bisexual.*

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babygrl93xox answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 3:25 pm:
Do whatever you want.. People that are against gays are faggets..Theres nothing rong with them..They are regular people too!I think you should keep who ever you love now..
- babygrl93*lyl

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Michelley answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 3:22 pm:
Don't listen to what other people are saying...I guess Bi people probably have a preference on who they like MORE but if you like both, then you're def. bi
=) HoPe I HeLpEd!

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xXxpinky615xXx answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 3:21 pm:
You're still 14... at 14 you're not sure exactly what you are because at 14 everyone is still exploring their sexuality. I'm 14 but I am NOT in any way shape or form attracted to females. I have a boyfriend and I love him and I'm just not attracted to anyone but my boyfriend. You could be Bisexual but as time goes on your interests might change. You just need to wait it out. Hope this helped.

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juicyfruit answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 3:07 pm:
Sounds like you are bi.

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Irishchick24 answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 2:57 pm:
First of all don't listen to what other people have to say. Just because your different from everyone doesn't mean that you should be criticized for it. And secondly you still think girls are cute your not gay..if you would rather be with a guy that's fine.. the question is would you be with a girls or would you rather be with a boy 100%? Either way if you are bi or gay it doesn't matter.. Be who and what you want to be.. no one else matters

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