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help me!
Ok, I'm a 16 year old girl and I've got this really great friend who happens to be a guy. We've been friends for a really long time and he lives right next door to me. Since the Homecoming dance was coming up, I asked him to the dance without thinking. (he's the only guy friend who I know that I'd have a good time with and we've gone to the past couple years' dances together so it seemed only natural that we'd go together again) He agreed to go with me so I thought that everything was ok... so we went and had a great time as always. Nothing interesting happened (we are JUST friends afterall) Later, I found out that he was planning to ask his secret crush out to the dance and now I feel really bad because I hadn't considered this when asking him to the dance. I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW HE HAD A SECRET CRUSH! Now he refuses to talk to me and won't even let me have half of the pictures from the dance. What do you suggest that I do? I can't take back going to the dance because it's already happened and now his crush hates me!
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talk to his Crush and tell her you guys are Neighbors and that you didn't even know about her and just tell her stright out your sorry and that it was like a tradition and talk to him about it and tell him how sorry you are!
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This is all just a giant misunderstanding.
Leave a note in his locker explaining your case. Tell him he can always talk to you about this sort of thing. Also, you might want to try talking to his crush so she understands you are just a friend, and so she doesn't feel like you're trying to keep him from her or something.
I think he is the one who's at fault, but don't let him know that you know that, just apologize. Pride shouldn't matter too much in this situation, just try and clear it up as soon as possible.
-Farren
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Alright well the least he could have done is told you that he was going to ask someone else and if they didnt say yes then he'd go with you. Seriously he shouldnt be mad because when you asked he could have told you what was up. You shouldnt be sorry either hes just being a rude little selfish prick that will get over it. Who cares if his crush hates you... you had no idea. You can even tell her be like "yo i didnt know he was going to ask you... he said yes and didnt mention you.. so get over it" Sorry i'm a little mean sounding but you shouldnt be sorry! its his fault... and he'll get over it.
-Holly-
hope i helped
and best wishes to ya hunnie
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the least u can do is talk to both of them. its not ur fault u didnt know he had a crush and like u said, u asked him because yall went to every dance together and it was only natural to ask him. if he was planning to ask his crush to the dance tthen he should have told u that. afterall , u cant read his mind. so wht i would do is talk to him and maybe write his crush a note explainning how the two of you went to every dance together for the past few yers and u only see him as a friend and tell hjer that u never had the intentions to hurt her feelings. if u would have know that he liked her then u would have never asked him. and just apoligize and ask for her forgiveness.
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Oh dear. This is a tricky situation. But although you might not have thought, he isn't being entirely fair. If he didn't want to go with you, he should have just said, he also shouldn't have gone with you THEN tell you he was mad at you. Do you know who his crush is? If you do, then talk to her, tell her you didn't realise and you are sorry. Also, talk to the guy himself and tell him that you're sorry but you didn't know he had a crush and you would have understood if he had just told you he couldn't go with you. If he doesn't understand this and still dislikes you, then there really is nothing you can do. He is being selfish and unfair to blame this on you when you didn't know and although things are changing, he still shouldn't have let you go with him if he didn't want to.
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oh..man...i am so sorry..that really....
Do you happen to know if his secret crush likes him? Who did she go to the dance with? If you can find out what she thinks about him..without him knowing..and IF she likes him...maybe you could smooth it out.
But you DID not know..how COULD you know it was a SECRET...and if he REALLY was going to ask her out why did he say yes to you..wait for he was your friend.
Well he either is going to get over it..or not..You can apologize..which you already have...but his forgiveness is only his to give.
Plus how childish is tha to HOLD the pictures from you..if he had told about his crush You never would have asked him.
But HOW cool are you to ask a friend to a dance..to me..that would have made ALL my dances WAY more fun!
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Hey..well since you two are like best friends...you should just tell him your sorry...and that next time you'll ask first if he's planning to go with someone else...its just a little thing don't let it ruin a friendship...plus he should have told you he wanted to go with someone else...you naw mean? Well peace out!
--PinoyBoi
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He shouldn't have gone to the dance with you if he was interested in someone else. He only has himself to blame. Besides if you are such great friends, why didn't he tell you about his "secret crush"? And why the heck is his crush angry at you? If it was such a secret, how did the crush even know that they were crushed upon in the first place?
It almost sounds like he was looking for an excuse to get mad at you. Ask his parents to get you a copy of the photos.
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Number one, if he had plans to ask another girl out then he should have told you. It's not your fault. He has no reason to be mad at you. But, if he wants to be a jerk about it, there's nothing really you can do other than go next door and talk to him about it. If he doesn't want to talk to you just say, "Look, I know you're mad at me and for that I'm sorry. But I had no clue that you had other plans. If you had had other plans you could've come right out and told me about them instead of keeping it a secret. All I want right now is my half of the pictures. When you decide your calmed down enough to talk find me, but right now all I want is my pictures." Unless he paid for the pictures, then you either give him half the money for them or give it up as a lost cause.
Good Luck
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