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Friend or Freak
I was dating this guy, and I was really starting to like him. We had "relations" and it became intense for a minute. But my best freind saw him in the mall, and every since then some how he got he number and they have been talking on the phone since. I stopped liking this guy because I felt he didn't respect me or my best friends friendship. Come to find out my best friend want to have "relations" with him and is talking to him on the phone. She really isn't telling me everything. We told each other that a man could not come in betwwen us, but I think in this situation it is diffrent. I mean I stop liking this guy because of her, and now she wants him. Is she being a friend or a freak?
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I think so is being somewhat of a freak because she should have told you she likes him and to see if it was alright with you. What she did was wrong. Even though this situation is different and you told each other that a man could not come in between you two, I think she broke this promise and trust between you. Talk to your best friend and ask her why she isn't telling you anything. Hope I helped :)
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Shes being ignoant and rude i think.
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the same exact thing happened to me a few months ago.. except they kinda hooked eachother up. well she knew that ive liked him forever.. and like they just started talking and w.e and it was just then that she started liking him.. and she went out with him too and shes like "oh a guy could NEVER ruin our relationship" yeah thats what they all say.. well that all changed and all this stuff happened and when they broke up.. she came running back to me.. and then they went out again and we werent friends again.. and were not friends now.. she keeps lieing to me when i ask her stuff about her and him and when i find out she lies even more and says she didnt tell anyone.. meanwhile everyone told me the same exact story except her.. so if you wana loose your friendship with this girl.. then tell her off and be like your a horrible friend and shes the one going off her word that a guy would never ruin your relationship.. but if you wana keep the relationship.. then just leave it alone.. bcuz this type of thing can really screw up all your friends.. it happened to me and my friends.. were all not friends with that girl anymore... and shes still going out with him.. but ill tell you this.. i think shes a "freak" bcuz thats just not something for a firend to do to another friend.. just remember "chicks before dicks" thats what a true friend relationship is.. friends do go behind what they say.. and that girl isnt a friend from what your saying.. hope everything works out.. and sorry this is so long lol ..
-->> Danielle <3
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Hey, you have a right to feel wierd about the whole situation...and she should tell you about wuts going on wit her and that other guy....I mean you did break up wit him..but she should have at least asked you if it was kewl...it is kinda messed up wut she's doing...you know not telling you that she's with that guy...I would have told ma friend...that way things don't get weird when their around...you naw mean?
--PinoyBoi
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shes being really selfish... if she knew that u were talkin to him... why would she give him her number or take his... you dont do that to ur friends... you should talk to her & let her know shes not being much of a friend... if i were you i would tell her off... tell her i dont trust her... & never talk to her again...
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hey! in this situation she doesnt seem to be a very good friend, but not a freak either. i didnt understand something, did you stop liking the guy because you didnt him to get between you and her? cause if thats the case, then you should tell her. she might understand that for you your relationship with her si more important than a guy. however, if she knows this, then she is being a freak. it is sometimes hard for people to deal with friends and bf/gf's. maybe you should tell her how you feel and let her make her choice. then you will be able to indentify her as a true friend or as a true freak. if you wanna talk mroe, hit me up on aim, good luck with her! peace and love!
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That's totally not a very nice friend, but since you told her you have no feelings for this guy, she went after him. It's okay to go after a guy that your friend has no feelings for anymore, but I totally understand how you feel. Have you talked to her about this? If she's going to let a guy come in between your friendship. It's not worth it. A real friend will always be with you no matter what. Go ahead and tell her straight up, how you feel. If she doesn't do anything to show you she cares, then she is a FREAK.
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I think you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel about this all b ecause that isnt a good friend and she needs to respect your feelings and other things. I've had the same situation but i've been the one causing problems. Good luckholly
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Well if she knew you liked him and were getting close to him but she still flirts with him, that aint right...talk to her about how you feel, tell her "i really liked him..." and see what she says good luk....
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I don't know if I'd call her a freak so much as a human being. People lose all their common sense when love and sex are involved - even if it means hurting friends they are close to. You've got a couple of options.
You can explain to her that you stopped liking him because of her and you would want her to behave similarly, or you can suck it up and just let her have a relationship with him. If you genuinely don't like the guy anymore, that might be the best option.
I do think I'd be cautious about your friend - it sounds like she was moving in on this guy when you were still with him. You want friends you can trust; you shouldn't have to worry that they'll steal your boyfriend, ditch you for a guy, or just generally treat you without respect.
The main thing is to treat yourself with respect - I think you have made some really good choices in choosing to not date a guy who was also interested in someone else. If you set your boundaries as far as relationships, sex, or friendship and then stick with them, you'll end up being surrounded by people who respect you and won't stab you in the back.
Good luck.
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freak...... no real friend would do that
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