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How to deal with needy friends?
I have a friend who I like very much, but who has a habbit of asking me to call her because she's feeling low at really incovenient times. I want to be there for her, but it becomes problematic when I feel I can't fairly say no when she asks me to call for a few minutes because she's feeling low, even it's like 1am. If it really was a few minutes, it would be fine, but once she has me on the phone she's impossible to let go, because every time I talk about having to be up in the morning she talks about how people always seem to let her down when she needs them. I do want to be there for her, but I do need to sleep too, and I simply can't survive on talking till 2am or later every night to get up at 7am. How can I be firm about needing to get off the phone without offending her?
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Just tell her like after school or something that she needs to call be4 you go to bed or what ever time you go to bed. If she does call at 1am and you want to go to sleep then tell her that you need to talk about this tomorrow and you need sleep.
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clamly tell her. that you will always be her friends and help her but you need some sleep also she needs sleep to maybe thats why she is so down.
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It seems like she is very dependent and needs to talk very often. Don't be rude to her, but when she calls and you can't talk long here is a trick you might try. Tell her everytime she needs to let out some steam to write it in a notebook and give it to you the next day. That should give you plenty of time to be able to slip helpingyour friend out in around your own schedule. It will also leave you with a huge scrapbook of your conversations. This method will also help your friend see how much she is really talking and might make her a little more considerate. If this doesn't help try scheduling a time (like about from 8-10) that she can talk so that she'll have reassurance that if she doesn't finish one day that she can get it out the next. Hope this helps.
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i have that problem to with my friend its like she uses me to make her feel better...and it sounds the same with you you need to just tell your friend that you will be there for her but cant be talk on the phone all the time or the lack of sleep will make it worse...how are you talking to her at 1 in the morning when she wants you to call anyways?
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just tell her, u have a long day tomorrow, and that u have to go get some sleep and u dont wanna let her go but u have to and tell her that u really do care about her adn ur not tryin to offend her by getting off the phone, and tell her u will talk to her about this tomorrow or another day and try to make it earlier.. or if she wants u to call her tell her u bout to leave and ull call her when u get in. maybe she will understand, or at least i hope so.
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sry i dont noe wut to say
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just tell her that you're very sorry but you could only stay on for about 10 minutes because you have to get up early the next day. and if you keep talking on the phone with her later you'll never be able to get up. then tell her to get all of her problems out in 10 minutes and if she can't do that then you guys can talk a/b them later that day. Once 10 minutes is up if she's still talking then let her finish her sentence and then tell her that you need to go because you're really tired and u need to get up early. if she gets mad about that then she's the one being rude for not thinking about anyone else but herself.
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*well tell her to come over one day so0o she can tell u* how she feels i mean evrything* so0o she wont have to tell u to call her* and also when she tells u to call her b like (what evr her name is) do u think i can call u in the morning bcz i am really tired or sometimes b like my fone is dying to get off the fone with her* well hope i helped *
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Just tell her what you told me, because you need to let her know that you can't do that, and you really want to be there for her. If she doesnt understand shes not worth having around... and she might also being looking for attention. I dunno. Good luck and best wishes
-holly-
hope i helped
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If she feels low at times,try to put a smile on her face and cheer her up.Girls have there times sometimes when they feel low.You need to explain to her if you have to be up in the morning and tell her that your there for her and that you care,but you have to wake up in the morning.What you should do is tell her that your tired and you need to go to sleep,but tell her that you would call her in the morning.And tell her that you still care though.Goodluck and hoped I helped.
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