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My friend is preaching
My friend Harmony is always telling me that I need to let God into my life and look to him as a source of comfort. I believe that God exists, but I have doubts about whether he really cares or not. I feel like she trying to force me to believe like she does. I respect the fact that she is strong in her faith, but I don't neccesarily want to talk about it with her. She gets really offended when I say something that she doesn't think is right. When I told her that I didn't want her to tell me to go to God for guidance, she got angry and told me that at least she knew that she couldn't be open with me anymore. Am I wrong for asking her to not talk about this? How to I tell her that I would rather not talk about God without offending her?
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tell her your an atheist or that you don't believe in the bible or something that fits your belief and tell her you don't want to talk about god with her because your afraid of offending her.
she has no right to be trying to get you to convert or "see the light" because thats all crap. you need to do what you think is right for you.
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I don't think that your friend Harmony is trying to preach to you. Maybe she is just trying to share what she thinks about God, and she wants to try to help you when you are in pain by saying that God is a great source of comfort for her. And you aren't wrong for asking Harmony to not talk about this. But maybe you are wrong, in her opinion, for saying some things about God that made her upset, such as how he doesn't care. Religion can be a very touchy subject, and I doubt she means to come off so preachy. Remember, she is your friend. She only wants to help you.
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obviously she's strong on her religion... and u may have different beliefs... if i was u i'd just tell her that you dont feel comfortable talking with her about God. If she's a good friend she'll respect that! even I have doubt that god cares for me... because i think... if he cared why would he take my brother away from me?... anyways... just tell her u dont feel comfortable talking to her about god... and she should leave you alone. Good luck!! [H][U][G][S] ~Summer
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No you arnt in the wrong at all! Seriously you just need to let her know that you dont have a faith and you'd rather not have to hear about hers. Thats kind of rude but just let her know how you feel... as a friend she should respect the fact that you've made the choice not to live for the lord and if she has a problem with that then maybe you guys shouldnt be friends. Good luck and best wishes
-holly-
hope i helped
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It sounds like you have a very mature and sensible attitude. Faith is very personal, and you need to disccover and explore your relationship with God yourself. Questioning your faith and exploring your religious beliefs are good things. This may be tough to explain to your friend, but be firm with her the next time the topic arises: tell her that you respect her faith, but she needs to respect yours too, even if it is different. If she can't respect your beliefs, then perhaps you aren't destined to be friends. After you've had this discussion, then tell her (again, be firm) that seeing as talking about God seems to cause a lot of friction, perhaps you shouldn't talk about it. Good luck!
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shes a little childish if she gets offended by your choice of religion. it seems tah me shes trying to change your beliefs and whatnot. if i were you i would try to talk to her about this and explain to her "freedom of religion" and how she cant get mad just bc yu choose not to talk to god. if she doesnt get it and gets mad at you den give her a taste of her own medicine. do it right back to her and b like yea i dont like u talking to god it offends me how u wuld rather talk to him then me and then maybe shell get the point tht shes gettin mad over the stupidest stuff and that its not worth to lose a friend over this. Hope i helped ^_-
XoOx--DeE
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No youre definetly not wrong for not wanting to talk about it. Religion is a big part of some peoples lives and with other people it just isnt. She should respect the fact that you have diffrent views on God and relegion. You should just tell her that you'd rather aviod the subject because you dont want to get into another fight about it. Tell her its really cool that she has a strong belief in God but u just dont feel the same way and its your choice. Good luck! Hope I helped.. if u need anything else just drop it in my inbox!
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there's nothing wrong with what u did.. everyone finds God at their own time.. i was close to not believing at all for a while and then i went to work at a christian camp and seeing all those people there and how happy and kind they were made me start to believe.. there would be days i didn't think i could make it through and i just started to pray and i automatically started to feel better.. everyone finds God at their own time and it's ok if u haven't.. like i said i just found him recently.. but ur friend needs to understand that.. explain to her that it's wonderful that she has such faith but it may take u a while to be able to believe as much as her..if she doesn't understand then that is just her problem and she's not being a very good friend.. hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi
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I dk..how you would tell her.. that you would rather not talk about God without offending her..but I notice here and there..praying actually makes you feel better and all..and helps you belive in things that can be accomplish and all..- I know that wasnt that helpful..plz dont rate me inless you found that helpful which I dont really think you did sry..
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Though she has a point about letting God in your life she had no reason to get upset with you for not wanting to talk about it with her. But God does care...
*Haleigh Ann*
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Tell her that you are sorry but you aren't really in to all of that stuff, TELL her that you believe in him you just dont think he cares sometimes... And tell her that you'd rather not talk about it
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just be like "ok look, i respect your beliefs bc ur entitled to belive anything you want to, so you should do the same for me. i never force my opinions on you, and im uncomfortable when you do it to me. i was brought up to believe whati think is right, even if that isnt what you think is right. you know you can always be open with me, but dont try 2 force me to have certain opinions." haha mayb not those exact words but something 2 that effect! gl x0x0x
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im not telling u that u have 2 listen 2 me or ur friend, but it sounds to me that she might be rite. i am also very strong in my faith with god, and i am also trying, without much success 2 get people 2 believe like i do. now, i realize that sometimes i mite push 2 hard, but itz just so agrivating wen some1 u luv so0o much just wont listen 2 u about the most important thing in the universe. im not telling u how 2 live ur life or anything, but GOD is THE ONLY WAY!!! shes probably just terribly worried about u and just doesnt no how 2 get thro 2 u so she getz agrivated. ive been in that situation be4. just try 2 listen 2 her. wen u truly find jesus and accept him into ur heart, ul be very thankful.
~!LuCy!~
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