well, you can't FORCE a guy to go out with you.
Either he likes you or he doesn't.
But if a lot of people are saying he likes you, he probably does. He is just shy.
So you should write him a note or something and ask him to go out with you, instead of having a friend do it.
Why? Because if you have a FRIEND do the dirty work FOR you, he may take it as a joke.
And that's why he is saying no.
Maybe if he knows you are being serious, he will say yes.
:D

reply and let me know if this work.

xoxo, Kayla.

Geez.
Guys can be so mean.
But you know what?
That's USUALLY their way of hinting that they like you.
I mean, does he do that to any other girls?

I know how you feel, babe.
I have BEEN THERE DONE THAT.
Trust me.
Give me a relationship problem and I have been through it.
The best thing you can do right now is to ignore him.
Seriously.
This makes him want you.
If you act like he doesn't exist and just talk to your other friends, he'll feel like he can't HAVE you because YOU'VE moved on.
Then, he'll want you even more so he'll start talking to you more and more, possibly annoying you to get you to notice him.
I know, guys are complicating.
haha
they just are
they don't have a clue what they want.
Us, girls, know what we want and we want it NOW and exactly how we want it.
haha
But guys are different.
They don't express feelings like... normal.
haha
they show it in different ways.
depending on the guy.
some guys may play around with you or want to walk you to class or be mean to you but deep down, they want you.
haha
complicated, I know.
But just try it out.
Come back to me if it doesn't work and we'll work out plan B together.
:D

I hope I helped you in any way.

And I'm extremely sorry if I didn't.

♥KAY-LUHH

wow.
died?
I'm really sorry.
=[

Butttt...
Guys mostly like confident but not cocky girls.
You know?
Like, you believe in yourself but you don't show off.
Guys like that in a girl.
Try flirting like, over the internet or something and see how he reacts.
If he seems into you, then it shouldn't be that hard at all to talk to him.
Work up the courage, babe.
If you flirt [[don't tell him flat out that you like him. It turns most guys off]] then he SHOULD flirt back.
A guy cannot turn down a flirting girl.
:D
haha
Well, I guess my advice to you is to work up the courage.
Or become his friend first.
Get close.
And then, make your move.
:D

Best of luck.
I hope I helped you in any way and I'm extremely sorry if I didn't.

♥ KAY-LUHH

Well, the term defined "Liking both sexes" is called bi-sexual.

It's not gross and it's nothing to be ashamed of but you too could maybe possibly... become more than friends! ;-)

♥ Kayla

I'm really glad everything worked out for you two. I hate to see any relationship that good end. :-]]

♥ Kayla

Now,

I'm not saying that his friend is lying but sometimes, you should always believe other people. It's a lot more accurate if you do it yourself. Just say, "Hey." in the IM and see what he says.

It's not gonna hurt to flirt a little. Flirting is a good thing and gives them the HINT to ask you out to make it more obvious.

Don't THROW yourself at him or whatever. Just be cool. Be yourself! :-]]

Act like you're into him and he'll start getting interested in you and nature will take it's course from there.

Whatever happens just happens and whatever doesn't wasn't meant to be. It's that simple.
:-]]

Just talk to him. It's easier than it looks. lol.

It's not embarrassing or anything. You're just making conversation and if he's mature, he'll know that and take it to heart.

Be flirty but not "I love you"ish just yet. Be confident but not cocky. :-)

With this advice, you should do fine! :-]]

If you need anything else, you know where yo find me! ♥

♥ Kayla

Hey!

You need to relax. Take it SLOW. Relationships take time. They don't grow overnight. You have to work at them.

Flirt a little but if he flirts back, don't assume all these things like he wants to marry you or anything. lol.

You just need to chill out.

It does scare guys away and... that's not good so you just need to ((like you said)) play that game.

Flirt with him and stuff but don't get too deep. I mean, you're just STARTING. Take it a lil slower. :-]]

Be FLIRTATIOUS but don't like, be cocky about yourself and KNOW you're gonna get the guy because then, you end up screwing everything up and it doesn't work. Be yourself. I know you hear that a lot but it works on a lot of guys, unless they're worthless, clueless pigs!

Just relax and let it work on it's own. If there's a chemistry, It'll happen. If not, maybe he's not good for you. Maybe you deserve better than him. You never know until you find out so experiment and flirt to see what happens!

Nature will take it's course. :-]]

If you need any more advice, you can certainly message me or whatever and I will try my best to answer every question you have. :-]]

♥ Kayla

No,

it wouldn't be wrong at all. A year is not a big age difference at all.

That would not be wrong at all! :-]]


♥ Kayla

If you need anymore help, message me or whatever! :-]]

Well,

Sometimes, your boyfriends friend will lie and say "So-And-So wants to break up with you."

You can't always believe what he says...

You need to talk to him if/when you talk to him.

Say, "Your friend told me you wanted to break up with me. Is this true?" and see what he says.

Maybe his friend wasn't lieing. But maybe he was. You will never know unless you find out yourself.

Also, ask him about not answering his phone. Say, "Were you avoiding my calls or just not availible?"

Do you call a cell phone to get to him, or his home phone #?

If its a cell, don't you think he would call you back if he saw missed call?

If its a house, there's caller ID. He can look at the call time and see that you called.

If he doesn't have caller ID ((which I doubt)) then you're pretty much screwed. lol.

Well,

You don't need to believe every word that everyone says because HALF of what people say turns out false.

It's called a rumor.

If he was telling the truth and yo uask him and he doesn't say anything or he says, "I don't know..." Say, "Well, you're not the breaking up with me. I'm breaking up with you." and hang up on him.

He should be sure of himself and "I don't know." Is just innacceptable.

Besides, you deserve someone else. If yall hardly ever even see each other, it's stupid to waster your tiem on him when you can get a local guy who you see all the time and trust more.

Trust me. True love will come. :-]]

If you need any more help or if you need me to clarify something than you can send me a message in my inbox.

♥ Kayla

No, do not change at all.

Never change for a guy. He should like you for WHO YOU ARE. If you change for him... that's just stupid. ((Don't mean to be blunt))

He's a guy... not a GOD. You don't change for him to like you. Your true love will love you the way you are and will love everything about you. If he isn't interested in your style or attitude, he's not the guy for you.

However, I'm not saying give up. Flirt with him. DO NOT ASK HIM OUT! That'll freak him out and scare him away. The BIGGEST turn-on is HARD TO GET. Works everytime. Act flirtatious around him, make him want you, and yank everything out from under him. Then, eventually, give in. lol. Works everytime.

If you're not very good at flirting, just have a conversation. Start out as friends. Act like he's one of your best girlfriends ((But don't talk about nails, hair, and makeup. :-P))

If you're really cool and outgoing and you act like yourself and you be who you REALLY are, he should like you for that. If he's not interested in you, Do not take it personal. Don't think you're ugly or anything. Don't feel down on yourself. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
:-]]

You don't need a guy like that, anyways. A guy who is thinking of changing you is a jackass and you deserve better than that. Any girl deserves than that, unless it's a complete bitch.

Hey, you're still young. Have fun being ingle!
:-]]

The right guy will come along for you and you will be very happy with him and he won't care WHAT the hell you wear or how you have your hair/makeup. He will love you for YOU. Personality means everything to me. Looks matter too but not as much.

Trust me. Your guy will come. Try this one out. Have a descent conversation with him/flirt and everything will work out fine.

If this doesn't work, I'm really sorry but I'm trying the best I can to give you the very best advice I have. :-]]

If you have any further questions or if I didn't clarify something, message me and I will be sure to fix it!

♥ Kayla

Hey.

I have to be blunt with you. You cannot think that EVERY single girl who looks at you likes you!

I'm a girl so I know this... a girl will look at you sometimes if she thinks you're cute but that doesn't mean she wants to go out with you or MARRY you. You just have to know that girls send mixed thoughts. She may be playing hard to get. I don't know... but girls tend to lead guys on a lot... It's not very nice but they don't like being mean by giving you a dirty look or whatever.

I'm not saying she doesn't like you. She could, seriously. She could just be shy. Why don't you make a move on her? Go talk to HER. Girls don't like making the first move. There is ALWAYS a thought in EVERY girl's head saying, "What if he doesn't like me?" If she is looking at you like she wants you to talk to her, do so.

I have NEVER made a move on a guy. My point is you need to talk to her and do a little work. You can't expect her to read your mind. Inside, she's wondering if you even like her. If you do, show it. That's what every girl wants. If she doesn't like you, she'll usually tell you, unless she's just being nice.

I have no clue why girls are like this but they are. lol :-]]

But yea... Try talking to her. I'm sure she hasn't forgotten about YOU. If she has, remind her.

I hope I helped you in any way and if you need me to clarify anything else for you, just drop a message in my inbox.

♥ Kayla

Hey!

Hmm... Sometimes, you shouldn't listen to what other people say or care about what other people think.

I understand you don't want to get hurt again, which is TOTALLY understandable. You cannot go through life always worrying about whether or not you get hurt. Maybe he'll change for you because he really likes you and you guys will end up happy and dedicated to each other. Or he could be just like the others. Sometimes, you have to take chances! ♥

Try talking to him about it... that could work.

Tell him you like him and everything but if he wants to be with you, he needs to treat you like you're the only one he sees and you're the only girl in his life. Sure, he can have friends and stuff but he needs to focus on you, not other girls.

Tell him that you want to be with him but he needs to straighten up because he is NOT going to hurt you!!! :-]]

If you need any further advice or if I didn't clarify things enough, you can put a message in my inbox and I will answer it the best I can!
:-]]

♥ Kayla

If you're shy ((like I am)) You always do it with a NOTE! That is the best way... Make it say: "Dear _____, I kinda like you, etc." Just tell him how you feel.

Me? I've always had a friend do it for me. Hahaha. Give him the note, I mean.

You could even have a friend ask you out. That's a good and high effective way too.

I hope you don't blame me if he says no ((not that he will say no ;-])) I am just telling you what I have done. Personally, asking him out is a bit extreme but that's just me. I have never asked a guy out and I don't plan on it. I always tell them I like them and usually, they're pretty cool with it. I flirt with them and eventually, BAM... It happens... But hey, we're all different so if you really wanna go for it, I say GO FOR IT!

Now, there are other ways too... like the phone. Have a friend ((if you know his number, that is)) three way him, pretending your not on the line and she'll ask him all these questions to find out if he likes you. That's a good way too...

Trust me honey...

I've done it all... Hahaha...

That's about all I can think of right now at 6:30 A.M ((lol)) but feel free to drop a question in my inbox if you want anymore ideas... I will think of some more if you don't like these ones.

I hope I helped you in any way and I'm sorry if I didn't. Just give me credit for the time and effort put into this answer but hey, I love doing it! :-]

♥ Kayla

Well,

if he was really happy with you in the first place, he wouldn't have done it BUT then there is ALWAYS the possibility of him CHANGING his "ways" and trying to improve the way he treats not only you but other girls too...

It all depends on the guy... Is he known for lieing? Would he ever lie to you MORE THAN ONCE? Has he ever lied to other people?

Ask these questions to yourself.

If he has a history of lieing to peopleust ask yourelf those simple questions. Lieing isn't good at all, especially to a boyfriend/girlfriend.

Either he likes you or he doesn't but he cannot keep lieing to you.

It ruins everything. Yall will never be the same, you won't have as much fun together, and eventually, you'll get sick of seeing each other. You do not want that to happen.

So my advice is: Give him another chance but keep a CAREFUL eye on him... it's not called SPYING...it's called BEING A GIRLFRIEND! Hahaha. Come on, you have to know what he does. Just don't get carried away and go to the extremes with this. Don't hide in bushes or follow him around with video cameras. Just watch who he hangs out with.

I hope I helped you in any way possible. You can ask me anything, anytime. I'm always here. :-)

♥ Kayla

Hmm...

This is a really tough question... even for me. It seems to me that you don't really know what you want yet. You're having mixed emotions. This is normal. I'm the same way sometimes, with my boyfriend.

It's the feeling of insecurity. Maybe you like SOME things about him but OTHER things bother you a little bit.

Here, think of it this way: Write down all the things you would change about him and all the things you love about him.

See which column has more, likes or dislikes.

If you have more likes, then you'll be able to work everything out and stay with him for a while... I hope! =-]

If you have more DISLIKES, you should probably talk to him about it. Not about him changing ((I don't mean to be blunt)) but about breaking it off...

Maybe just spending some time being single and then consider rekindling everything after thinking a little bit about what you want to do.

You cannot have a relationship where you feel insecure or unsteady in any way.

Your relationship should be steady and healthy and I guarentee you will be happy! =-]

I hope I helped you and if I did, you can ask me ANYTHING ANYTIME! I'm always here! :-)

♥ Kayla

Hmmm...

1. Well, if he says that directly to you, than maybe he does. That might be his way flirting. Guys are very complicating. They have their "ways". ;-)

2. I don't mean to be blunt... but I don't think you should tell her. Put yourself in her position. What if your best friend came up to you and asked you to break up with your boyfriend so they could go out with him??? You wouldn't want to because she's trying to steal your man. Maybe your friend is being nice by telling you she doesn't care but maybe she really does and she doesn't want to tell you so she doesn't start a fight???

3. Maybe you shouldn't flirt with him in FRONT of her... I know it sounds wrong but do it when shes not around...

Or.. for the better, don't do it at all because she IS your friend. I mean, if you didn't like her, THAT WOULD BE A DIFFERENT STORY! ;-)

Well, I hope I helped you in any way. :-)

♥ Kayla

No! No, honey! lol You're his GIRLfriend... not just a girl. You're supposed to act this way! All power to ya! You're strong and sometimes, he may think it shows a little TOO strong. You're concerned about him. You care about him. That's a good thing. Not a bad thing! Trust me... you're not JEALOUS of this girl... right? If you're not, then you ARE just concerned. You just love/like him a lot and the thought of losing him to her makes you feel insecure about him having her on his Myspace but it should be ok. Just keep a careful eye on him but not to the point where you're SPYING on him. Just watch semi-carefully about what he does on the computer and if/when/what he talks to the girl about anything normal "friends" don't talk about. It should be fine. Have some trust! You love/like him a lot so show that. Tell him how you feel. Tell him you trust him but his talking to this girl makes you not jealous, but insecure and uncomfortable that he may get carried away and fall for her... again. So this has happened before? Then, it should be within your instincts on what to do about it! If it's not, trust me! I will know the answer! Just take my advice!
I will be here for you whenever you need me! Just ask me a question on here or email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com
Either one is fine with me! :-)
-Kayla

Hey! She can try to "steal" him all she wants but if he doesn't like her, you have nothing to worry. It takes two people to date and if he liked her, he would date her but he likes YOU. Why would you feel bad for dating him? There's no reason to feel "bad" for dating him. You liked him first, right? He likes YOU,right? Then you guys should date? I know your "best friend" would probably be mad at you but try to explain to her that you liked him for a while and I'm sure there's another guy for her but this one is yours. :-)
Don't feel bad. My best friend almost always likes the same boy as me but I don't care. We just compete to see who can get him first. lol
Just play it cool. Tell her how YOU feel about the situation.
I'm sorry if I didn't help you much. I really tried my best. My advice to you is... GO FOR IT!
-Kayla

Hey!
I say... go for it. If you feel this strongly, you shouldn't let her slip away. You may never have a chance with this girl so I say... go for it while you DO have a chance. Sign your name on the note. It'll make it more... exciting. Nervewrecking, but exciting. It'll be more "romantic" and she may like you even more. If your nerves get ahold of you, do what you want and put "secret admirer". Whichever one, I will give you credit just for giving her the note... period! You are very brave! You have to have confidence in yourself because if you say you can't, you won't and it'll never happen. Now, there's a difference between being confident and OVER-confident. Don't get cocky. It's good to be confident and KNOW you can do it but don't try too hard to impress a girl. BE YOURSELF! To me, that is the most attractive thing in a guy. If a guy is sweet, generous, and caring, looks don't matter. I'm a girl... I would know this! :-)
;-)
Believe in yourself and give this girl your note!
She may not like you right away but be nice to her and show her you care about her. Her boyfriend won't matter to her once she gets to knwo YOU! ;-)
-Kayla
♥♥♥♥

If I were you, I would just not care what ANYONE thinks of you. Just show them that you like your boyfriend and nothing they say can change that. Once they see that their little comments don't offend you or get to you, they'll quit what they are doing and realize, "Hey! I'm only doing this to make her mad, and it's not working... there's no point..." and they'll stop! The onl reason why they even mess with you is because they think it's fun to mess with you... if you show them that what they are saying and talking amongst their little friends about are bothering you, that will do nothing but satisfy them, making what they say even funnier and fun to them.
Don't be so hard on yourself! :-)
You're not ugly... if you think you're ugly, you're not appreciating God because he made you that way and critisizing the way he made you isn't something you should do. You should feel good to be you... You should feel confident. I mean, hey, you've got the looks, you've got the brains, what more can you ask for? :-) I want you to know you don't have to feel bad about yourself just because a few people say a few things about you. Peopel tease me all the time... I ignore them and they shut up because it's no fun when the person you're insulting isn't hurt. It's sick the way people get their pleasure from other people's pain and trust me, I understand perfectly well! I just want you to know you are NOT ugly... no one is! People tease other people because they are ugly themselves and they tease other people to make them feel better. I know sometimes, some people feel ugly but it makes them feel better knowing there's someone uglier than them so they tease that person because they don't think that person'll come back with something that will make that person shut up. It's confusing, I know but you'll get it. Just go through high school without caring what anyone else thinks. I should take my own advice, since people tease me about my nose. I think it's big... some people say it's not but I don't listen. When I look in the mirror in the morning,I hate it... what I look like... But I have to go through the day anyways. When someone says something about my nose, I cry because it hurts, yes, but you have to control. I'm trying to prove to you that you are not alone because I go through the same thing as you EVERY single day! I have people say things about me and really try to ignore them. I understand that sometimes you just can't but just try. They are worse than you... you know why? Because they tease people better than them to make themselves feel better about themselves. You probably think I'm telling you this to make you feel better but it's true! I would love to hear about you again... please please please email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com or just rate me and in my feedback, give me an email where I can reach you... I would love you to ask me anything you want and to not be shy about what it is... I want you to feel open around me and feel free to say anything at all without feeling stupid or low. You can talk to me about anything anytime! I would love to hear about some more of your problems so maybe we can fix them! I'm really sorry that you're going through this but from what it seems, you're a strong person and you can make it through anything and anyone! Just set your mind to it and you'll be fine. Please email me to update me. I know you'll be fine! Bye, hun!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

Luv Kayla

I'm Kayla.
:D

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