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Is it just me? Or are more people like this?
Okay, so i have been going out with my boyfriend for 7 months. We frequently get in fights, over stupid things though. An example is last night, i got mad because he added a girl he used to like on myspace, like 10 minutes after he made one. I wouldn't care, but i liked him while he liked both of us, and he was choosing her over me at the time. And he falls fast for people and i got scared he would drop me for this girl. And i love him to death and i would be so lost with out him, i care too much for him to throw what we have away for some girl.
So i guess what i'm asking is, am i not giving him "space" or am i being too like, protective of him or something along the lines of that?
Have you or anyone you know been like this with relationships?
please help, it will be appriceiated.
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No! No, honey! lol You're his GIRLfriend... not just a girl. You're supposed to act this way! All power to ya! You're strong and sometimes, he may think it shows a little TOO strong. You're concerned about him. You care about him. That's a good thing. Not a bad thing! Trust me... you're not JEALOUS of this girl... right? If you're not, then you ARE just concerned. You just love/like him a lot and the thought of losing him to her makes you feel insecure about him having her on his Myspace but it should be ok. Just keep a careful eye on him but not to the point where you're SPYING on him. Just watch semi-carefully about what he does on the computer and if/when/what he talks to the girl about anything normal "friends" don't talk about. It should be fine. Have some trust! You love/like him a lot so show that. Tell him how you feel. Tell him you trust him but his talking to this girl makes you not jealous, but insecure and uncomfortable that he may get carried away and fall for her... again. So this has happened before? Then, it should be within your instincts on what to do about it! If it's not, trust me! I will know the answer! Just take my advice!
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I wouldn't say that you are being too overprotective. Just concerned. It would concern me if he had feelings for this girl and wanted to be with her over me prior to going out with him.
But it's been seven months now and the fact is that he is with YOU now. Not her. As a girlfriend, you need to be able to trust his judgement. Because he may add this girl as a friend does not mean he will drop you anytime soon. He wants your trust and to be able to add whoever he wants as a friend. To him you may come across as being pushy and dominating his decisions. Then he will get mad and that might cause him to wonder. I know you're just concerned but he may not get that. Tell him that you're just concerned.
But I say let him know that you're going to trust him by allowing him to add her to his friends list. By doing this, I'm sure he'll be impressed because you're being really laid back about the whole situation.
This happens all of the time, and you are definitely not the only one who is going through this. When you have feelings for a guy it's hard to let go sometimes. You wonder if he's thinking about other girls. It's scary but that's life. You can't know what people are thinking, you just have to be able to have trust yet set boundaries to follow.
-Shannon
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I'm pretty much like your boyfriend actually. And I've been with him 7 months too! Anyways, if he's with you, it's a for a reason. He wants to be with you. Let him know gently that you're worried about him falling for someone else, but then drop it. I hate it when my boyfriend keeps asking me about other guys and checking I still love him, so I wouldn't get too protective. As long as nothing changes between the two of you, then you're ok. You'll notice if he's falling for someone else, then you'll have time to do something about it. Otherwise he might end up feeling as if you're smothering him.
Good luck and God bless.
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hey, im like that alot with relationships. its an issue that you have a constant fear that your not good enough and that he will pick someone else to like. so i get you. what i do is just calm down and think he loves me so hes going to pick me. if he ends up not choosing you then you were too good for him = ]. cait♥
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