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A really good mate
I'm 16, female, and straight. I have a few really close female mates, and occasionally I get really strong feelings for them. Like the other night, I was on the sofa with one of my closest friends, watching a film and we were just holding hands like we often do, and she was curled up with her head on my lap, and I had these really weird feelings, like I wanted to be closer to her, and have a really special relationship with her... I didn't say anything coz I thought she'd think I was really weird. But then the next day, she said to me "you know when we were on the sofa yesterday, I had this really odd feeling, like I wanted to kiss you or something," and I was like "thats so strange, I felt the same.."
We both have boyfriends who we love, and are straight. So whats with these feelings?
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This is kind of hard to explain, but I'll do my best. It wasn't necessarily your friend that brought out those feelings, it was the act; cuddling. For example, if you, for whatever reason, kiss a guy that you don't like, you will probably feel something. It doesn't mean you like him and you don't have hidden feelings for him or anything like that. Kissing stimulates certain feelings. You can softly touch your own lips and get that same feeling you felt when kissing that guy. Cuddling, holding hands, and things like that can have these same effects. Yes, the feeling can be both physical and emotional, but it doesn't necessarily mean that you two have a connection that is more than just being good friends. There's no reason to act on these feelings, there's no need to have a relationship with her, and there's no need to worry about being bisexual or not. The situation made you want to kiss her, nothing more. Bisexuality is more about what you believe and your morals than it is being attracted to the same sex. What we're attracted to are feelings (that can be stimulated by all 5 senses) not genitals. If you end up doing something with your friend (like kissing), don't worry about it, it happens all the time. Just don't make a habit of it and remember that it doesn't mean anything. It would be best if you didn't of course, but only because it would suck if a lot of people found out about it. They'd have a hard time understanding and would give you a lot of grief that you don't need. Plus, it could cause problems with both your boyfriend and your friend's boyfriend. I hope that I helped you and didn't confuse you too much. Good luck!
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Yeah, i was thinking the same as the girl below me, maybe since you guys are soo close you've became you know, closer than you maybe wanted? You could be bisexual. Or maybe it's just something about her you just like. Don't worry about it. Even if you are bisexual or not, it's normal, many people are. It's nothing too out of the ordinary.
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hey, it could be that you are bisexual. your probably thinking eww bisexual gross but being bisexual isnt that different. its totally normal actually. alot of people are like that. but its not normal to be holding hands and having her lay in your lap. theres def. some love attraction thing there. cait ♥
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