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high school is a place of judgement for sure
My bf and I started going out a few days ago. Thing is, I am not the most pretty person. In fact, I reaally lack in the beauty department. I am bigger than my bf PLUS I am ugly. I have already heard of assholes staring at my boyfriend and snickering and whatnot. It sucks how these people could possibly break apart a relationship with potential. I mean, who wants to go through this critisism and crap like that? Any tips on how to survive the first few 'judgement' days (or maybe weeks) as a couple? I dont want him to break up with me over something so stupid as this.
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If your boyfriend truly likes you and truly cares, he won't let a few stupid guys laughing ruin your relationship. I think the first month of a new relationship is the hardest. It takes time getting used to being with someone, and to get comfortable around them. Once he's comfortable with being with you..things should change. Maybe you should ask him about what he thinks about the way you like. You must have done something right to be going out with him. Looks shouldn't matter.
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If he really liked you, he wouldn't dump you because of what people think. Just ignore them. He obviously must think you are gorgeous and perfect if he is dating you!
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who cares what people think....people like that have nothing better to do with their lives so they go around trying to ruin everyone elses. All you really can do is just ignore them and then soon enough someone else will start dating and they'll forget all about you and your bf. Dont break up with him over somthing stupid like that, its totally not worth it if you really like him. Hope I helped :-D
<3 Kay
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first of all, if hes going to break up with you because of what other people think, then you dont want him as a boyfriend anyway. just talk to him about it, tell him how you feel, and if its meant to be, you two will work through it. plus, those people who laugh..its called karma. not only are they very shallow human beings, but it will come back to get them. also, never let anyone tell you that you arent beautiful, because you are. no matter what anyone else says. the fact that youve found someone whos looked past your weight and looks and found that you truly are a beautiful person makes you so much luckier than those people who laugh, they should be jealous of you. in fact they probably are. theyre jealous that they dont have a wonderful boyfriend or girlfriend who values them for who they are. you truly are lucky, and you truly are beautiful. i hope everything works out for you.
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If I were you, I would just not care what ANYONE thinks of you. Just show them that you like your boyfriend and nothing they say can change that. Once they see that their little comments don't offend you or get to you, they'll quit what they are doing and realize, "Hey! I'm only doing this to make her mad, and it's not working... there's no point..." and they'll stop! The onl reason why they even mess with you is because they think it's fun to mess with you... if you show them that what they are saying and talking amongst their little friends about are bothering you, that will do nothing but satisfy them, making what they say even funnier and fun to them.
Don't be so hard on yourself! :-)
You're not ugly... if you think you're ugly, you're not appreciating God because he made you that way and critisizing the way he made you isn't something you should do. You should feel good to be you... You should feel confident. I mean, hey, you've got the looks, you've got the brains, what more can you ask for? :-) I want you to know you don't have to feel bad about yourself just because a few people say a few things about you. Peopel tease me all the time... I ignore them and they shut up because it's no fun when the person you're insulting isn't hurt. It's sick the way people get their pleasure from other people's pain and trust me, I understand perfectly well! I just want you to know you are NOT ugly... no one is! People tease other people because they are ugly themselves and they tease other people to make them feel better. I know sometimes, some people feel ugly but it makes them feel better knowing there's someone uglier than them so they tease that person because they don't think that person'll come back with something that will make that person shut up. It's confusing, I know but you'll get it. Just go through high school without caring what anyone else thinks. I should take my own advice, since people tease me about my nose. I think it's big... some people say it's not but I don't listen. When I look in the mirror in the morning,I hate it... what I look like... But I have to go through the day anyways. When someone says something about my nose, I cry because it hurts, yes, but you have to control. I'm trying to prove to you that you are not alone because I go through the same thing as you EVERY single day! I have people say things about me and really try to ignore them. I understand that sometimes you just can't but just try. They are worse than you... you know why? Because they tease people better than them to make themselves feel better about themselves. You probably think I'm telling you this to make you feel better but it's true! I would love to hear about you again... please please please email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com or just rate me and in my feedback, give me an email where I can reach you... I would love you to ask me anything you want and to not be shy about what it is... I want you to feel open around me and feel free to say anything at all without feeling stupid or low. You can talk to me about anything anytime! I would love to hear about some more of your problems so maybe we can fix them! I'm really sorry that you're going through this but from what it seems, you're a strong person and you can make it through anything and anyone! Just set your mind to it and you'll be fine. Please email me to update me. I know you'll be fine! Bye, hun!
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
Luv Kayla
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I would just try to block them out I mean most of them probably don't have boyfriends. I know what it is like the first couple of weeks after me and my boyfriend were seen holding hands in the hall all his friends would come up and whisper something in his ear and laugh. I hope everything works out between you two!
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It would be stupid for you two to break up over what other people say. Looks are not the end all to be all either. You can have the most beautiful/handsome face and be a total ass. Having a horrible demeanor and personality will make you ugly. Some who are considered "ugly" can have great personalities that make them attractive. It is more (for me at least) about who you are and not necessarily what you look like. He would not have started dating you if he didn't find you attractive in some way. Just talk it over with him. Let him know that it is bothering you and see if it bothers him as well. Hopefully he is mature enough to see past the snickers and comments.
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beauty shouldn't matter. and even if you may not be the prettiest, he obviously finds you pretty. and everyone has a beautiful quality about themselves that stands out, so maybe he's seen it, cuz i'm sure you do. and as far as everyone else goes, ignore them. they have no right to judge you. talk to your boyfriend about it too. maybe he can help you out. hope i helped, and good luck!
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If he's with you, chances are he finds you attractive. The best thing to do in this situation is simply ignore these people. It takes their fun away when they can't get a reaction out of either of you. I went through a similar problem before in high school. My boyfriend at the time solved the problem quite easily when he told the people making comments that he was with me because he loved me and if they couldn't understand that, then it was their problem, not ours. We ended up dating for 3 years.
Congratulations on your new relationship. Keep your chin up. What's important is that he wants to be with you, not what others may think. Good luck.
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Definatley talk to him about it, I'm sure he understands and might actually feel the same way. As for surviving...just ignore all of it. Really, if you listen, or even think about what they say, let alone respond, then you are letting them win. First off stick to what you think and what your boyfriend thinks, and don't let the opinions of others change your thoughts about him, yourself, or your relationship - they aren't the ones involved. Think of it as a baseball game. You and your boyfriend are the ones down on the feild, actually involved, and trying to make something happen. You have a huge crowd, some who like you, some who don't. Should you let anything they say interfere with the game? No of course not, because they are merely spectators, and don't play a role in the relationship. So I'm not sure if that makes sence, but what other people do and say is irrelavent to how both of you feel about each other. So tell your boyfriend all that, and agree to simply ignore anything and everything that is said about you too that is negative. Hope that helped and good luck.
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If he's with you it obviously is because he likes you for you. And if it bothers you of it like this..all the pretty girls are making comments and laughing and staring like it's amusing but really they're just jealous because since they're pretty guys can use them for their looks but when you can get a guy and he like you for you well then you have something less to worry about. They're jealous because you can have a good relationship and that is something they usually won't get ESPECIALLY if they are like that. Forget them, they don't matter to you and eventually they won't matter to anyone but themselves.
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Beauty doesn't matter. It's what's inside that counts.
A lien form a song goes, " High school could be a mini-me of the rest of society there's always a prom queen there'll always be always be sororities and sadly some will be eternally keeping score for popularity and just cuz they all do doesn't mean we have to act liek we're in high school" so I say, who cares what they think? you are you and you're NOT gonna change the for some a-holes, right?
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