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Once a cheater- always a cheater??
My boyfriend cheated on me one week after we got together. Now I have taken him back (about 2 weeks after he cheated on me). All of my friends thinks it's a misstake but I believe in second chaces and I like this guy...All advicenators out there do you believe in the term- "once a cheater, always a cheater"??
Was it a big misstake to take him back, should I dump him for what he did to me?
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Coming from someone who was also just cheated on. I was cheated on but me and my boyfriend have been going out for 10 months but in your situation its like after the first week he doesn't seem that comited but you can alwyas give him asecond chance . what i did was like a three stricks your out ya know so good luck and do what you feel and dont let anyone make the decission for you. make sure you do it because you'll regret it after wards
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give it a try.
My friend took back a cheater and is getting played again.
You need for him to come back to you.
but I'd just watch him
and let him know you're never going to forget that he did cheat on you.
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"once a cheater, always a cheater".....honestly i dont really beleive it....it just depends on the person and the situation i guess...i dont use that saying because your judging all guys....some are innocent
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Well honestly if you really think he changed in that short of a time period. Then I guess you can say go for it.
But still,don't put as much trust into him. Well technically, yes you gave him a second chance, but did he do anything to ruin this chance? If yes then you should probably break up with him.
And yes from hanging out with friends that are cheaters, once a cheater always a cheater, seems to be proven true.
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If he cheated on you once, he will absolutely do it again. He may not with his next girlfriend though. That's why I'm kind of fuzzy on that quote, but girl- he will cheat on you. Don't put yourself in that position.
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In the term once a cheater always a cheater, i believe it and i don't. i am a big person on giving 2nd chances. but cheating is also a big mistake as well, and it should not have happend in the first place. so i would talk to him tell him that i like you, but i won't take you cheating on me. i don't deserve that. go with the 2nd chance but if he does it again, dump him right away. you don't derserve to be cheated on, no one does. you can find better guys out there that won't cheat, and will give you the respect, and noncheating love that you need. i don't know how long you have been together with this guy, but from your question i am guesing that you were not friends first, and you kinda rushed into the relationship. so talk to him don't yell stick up for yourself say i won't take you cheating on me, and don't do it again, or your giong to loose the best thing you have. or something like that put it into your own words where he will get the point. and if he does cheat walk stright out, and don't look back. he will then see that he lost a good thing and he will most likely want you back, and he will for you, and you don't have to chase him. by walking out it's saying i told you so, and you should have listined. so good luck, and hope that this guy knows what you are capble of. :)
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i definetly believe in that term.."once a cheater always a cheater" your lucky you didnt get to be with him for long,dump him while you still can before he takes advantage of you and your feelings.its no mistake what he did,hes not ready for a relationship but save yourself before you fall in love with him and leave him.youll meet pleanty of guys that deserve it and dont EvEr TaKe HiM back cuz everything he says is and will be a lie,if he loved you or respected you he wouldnt have cheated on you.He just likes attention and likes a lot of girls around him so he can brag to his freinds.
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I believe that "once a cheater, always a cheater" because it's always with him now that he has cheated on a girlfriend, duh.
He won't change his ways, boys just don't do that when they "like" someone. I know that from experience.
They tell you they'll change, then if you're still with them in a couple months, "I'm not changing for anyone, if you don't like me the way that I am, then that's your problem".
So, i would say dump him, especially since he cheated on you after A WEEK, it shows no respect.
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okay, i do agree w/ you when you say everyone deserves a second chance but when my ex-b/f cheated on me i really had to think about it. then my mom told me(my best friend) if someone cheats on you they lost respect for you and they no longer deserve you. for all you know, he may just do it again if you take him back now thinking youll take him back again later...im not giving you an answer, im just giving you the advice someone once gave me and no matter what you do, your gonna think "what if..." and in the end you may get hurt by this guy. its up to you
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Well, some guys when they cheat they realize that the girl they cheated on really wasnt what they thought and will want to come back to you.I say give him another chance, if he cheats again then bye bye to him!! Hope I helped a little bit!! Neelz
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well since you already took him back, see how it goes. if he does cheat again tho then that should be the end
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I've always believed that if you love two, you don't love either one enough. No possible way around that fact, as far as I'm concerned. Though unfortunate, I say you're better off picking up the pieces of your broken heart and walking away from this relationship. He obviously doesn't hold a big enough interest in you. If he did, he wouldn't want anyone else, because no one else in the world would be able to compare to you and to what the two of you have together. Call me crazy for thinking this, but love is reciprocal. It's not just one-sided. Think of it this way: what's the point in giving your heart away to someone who isn't willing to give you theirs? I'm telling you to use your head, and think of your own well being on this one. Don't waste anymore of your time, tears or effort on this guy. He's already proven himself to be disrespectful and untrustworthy. I'm not saying to go out there looking for someone who is perfect, because you will never find that. Just don't settle for anything less than what you're willing to put in.
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Not always "once a cheater, always a cheater". He could of realized he hurt you and thought he would make things work out and never cheat again!!!
Just don't pick your boyfriend over your friends cause your friends are always going to be there and boyfriend are not.
HOPE everything works out.
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I'm extremely against cheating, so I suppose I'm a little biased here. Let's look at the facts here though: he did it a WEEK after you got together. That's pretty bad, it shows he just wasn't committed to the relationship even from the start. If he can't even last a WEEK without cheating, doesn't look very promising for the future. I mean, especially at the start of a relationship couples are all focused on one another and wouldn't even THINK of getting with anyone else.
Was he very apologetic? Did he crawl? Try and make excuses? Did he seem genuinely sorry? I guess people do make mistakes and people mess up at times, but something like that is quite a big letdown, not to mention a betrayal. If he seemed REALLY sorry for what he did, then I guess you should give him another chance. It's up to you, really, you should do what you feel is right no matter what anyone else says. I know that when we really like someone we're willing to forgive anything. However, think about what I said and think carefully about this. You just might get hurt again.
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Alright. I dont believe in once a cheater always a cheater. But, in this i do. What once a cheater always a cheater means to me is that if a guy cheated on a girl before, it doesnt mean he will cheat on his next gf because [for example]shes the one.
So, of course if he cheated on you he doesnt have any respect of doesnt feel like he loves you.
But, in the future he may find "the one" and he wont cheat cuz he has them love feelings..
You know what i mean?
Good luck
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Well,
if he was really happy with you in the first place, he wouldn't have done it BUT then there is ALWAYS the possibility of him CHANGING his "ways" and trying to improve the way he treats not only you but other girls too...
It all depends on the guy... Is he known for lieing? Would he ever lie to you MORE THAN ONCE? Has he ever lied to other people?
Ask these questions to yourself.
If he has a history of lieing to peopleust ask yourelf those simple questions. Lieing isn't good at all, especially to a boyfriend/girlfriend.
Either he likes you or he doesn't but he cannot keep lieing to you.
It ruins everything. Yall will never be the same, you won't have as much fun together, and eventually, you'll get sick of seeing each other. You do not want that to happen.
So my advice is: Give him another chance but keep a CAREFUL eye on him... it's not called SPYING...it's called BEING A GIRLFRIEND! Hahaha. Come on, you have to know what he does. Just don't get carried away and go to the extremes with this. Don't hide in bushes or follow him around with video cameras. Just watch who he hangs out with.
I hope I helped you in any way possible. You can ask me anything, anytime. I'm always here. :-)
♥ Kayla
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Hey there,
Normally, I'd say go for it, but, if you're friends think that it's a bad idea aswell, i think you guys should just be friends. Because if he's already cheated on you, i think he'll cheat again, and just think of all the pain you'd be saving yourself from. =] Good luck!
♥ Paige
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