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This one girl...
14/male
There's this girl I really like. We'll call her "B." I know some people said "true" love isn't real for teens, but I can feel that I love her. I have since I met her.
Well, she's a few years older than me, and she's dating this guy I haven't really enjoyed being around in the past. I wrote B a letter, but I signed it "Your Secret Admirer." It basically says stuff about how I love her, and things like that. But, I haven't had a chance to sneak it into her backpack or whatever.
The thing is, I think she might sorta like me, but I'm not sure. Should I sneak the letter into her backpack?
Thanks,
-Fyce
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Fyce, if you really like B or in your case "love" her, then go for it. Who cares what other people say about "true love isnt real for teens." If you have that strong of feelings for her then maybe it is.
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Do it! I love to hear things like that, and when I do, I never reject them! I tend to go head over heels. Haha. But put it in her coat or locker, not backpack. It could fall to them bottom, get crumpled, then she may never see it.
-Becky
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first of all i would like to say that is so sweet there needs to be more guys like you in the world
but yeah you should because girls are so into that getting letters from secret admirer's but you might want to make it very clear that its not from her boyfriend cuz that would not be good for you if she just thinks its the guy she is with but yeah you should totally give it to her and what you should start giving hints that its you like saying stuff about yourself like what you like....and stuff like how you know her and if she doesn't figure out its you, you should just straight up tell her that its you and most likely it will all turn out good for you......
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do it! but put as how you sign it "your secret admirer fyce"
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Hey!
I say... go for it. If you feel this strongly, you shouldn't let her slip away. You may never have a chance with this girl so I say... go for it while you DO have a chance. Sign your name on the note. It'll make it more... exciting. Nervewrecking, but exciting. It'll be more "romantic" and she may like you even more. If your nerves get ahold of you, do what you want and put "secret admirer". Whichever one, I will give you credit just for giving her the note... period! You are very brave! You have to have confidence in yourself because if you say you can't, you won't and it'll never happen. Now, there's a difference between being confident and OVER-confident. Don't get cocky. It's good to be confident and KNOW you can do it but don't try too hard to impress a girl. BE YOURSELF! To me, that is the most attractive thing in a guy. If a guy is sweet, generous, and caring, looks don't matter. I'm a girl... I would know this! :-)
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Believe in yourself and give this girl your note!
She may not like you right away but be nice to her and show her you care about her. Her boyfriend won't matter to her once she gets to knwo YOU! ;-)
-Kayla
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Well she might be flattered or she might think that someone's stalking her.
If you think that it's actually worth it, what is the purpose of your letter? You are telling her you love her, do you want to go out with her, or do you just want her to know someone likes her then later on tell her who you are?
she's got a boyfriend and , this might suck, but that probably means that she likes him, and she thinks you're a nice guy she doesn't really know.
The letter might wreck a number of opportunities especially if your letter gets out, and maybe her bf reads it.
think about it,
Good luck
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A girl is probably more likely to give you a better (shorter and to the point) answer than me on something like this, but I'm going to try anyways.
Personally, I think you should ask her in person if she likes you. While giving her a message signed 'Your Secret Admirer' may flatter her, it won't do much else. Now I know that the whole reason you probably decided to go with the anonymous message thing is probably because you're too shy and/or worried to confront her directly with your question, (partially because I've been there and I know it's easier said than done, to walk up to a girl and ask her that), but I think you got to do it.
Why do I say such things? Think of it this way, put yourself in their shoes, how would you feel about getting a 'Secret Admirer' letter? I'm sure at first you get the whole flattery thing like, 'alright someone out there likes me', but then what? You'd probably wonder why they didn't ask you to your face and wonder if there is something wrong with them (even if it's nothing more than just being too shy). Would you want to go out with someone who is too shy to even ask you if you like them? The answer might be maybe, but it probably wouldn't work out in the end either way, because if there is one thing that there is never enough of around in guy's (especially your age) is confidence.
While it is possible that you feel love for her, no offence to you (mostly because I don't really know your situation), it's probably infatuation. Even if it's not, and you really are in love with her, what's the point if it's no mutual? Your best bet is to let her to know straight to her face that you are interested in her and wondering if she is interested in you. This way you can see her expression as she hears the news/message, rather than you having to wonder by her reply etc, how she really felt about it. Also I think while everyone enjoys a bit of mystery, with a rise of crazy stalkers in the media today, etc, it's nice to know who is behind the words. Tell her how you feel in person and I suggest NOT saying that you love her, because if she's not dating you right now and is dating someone else, she probably doesn't realize that you do and would wonder how you feel so strongly about someone (herself), who doesn't know exactly how they feel about you.
So ask her in person so you don't come off as being timid and don't be too affectionate with your words so you don't come off as being too strong.
If you're worried about confronting her because you're worried about rejection, then you probably shouldn't even send her the letter, because as long as you are fearing rejection, you are just going to put yourself down, (especially if she doesn't feel the same way).
If you're reason for not confronting her is because you worry that if she doesn't feel the same way it might ruin your friendship with her, then maybe it's not a risk to take.
Overall, you're 14, you'll make tons of mistakes, if it makes you feel any better I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 21, (scary I know). The best thing is to take friends and family's advice for what it's worth and make your own decisions and not let others make them for you. So if you actually took the time to read this ramble, take it as it is, a suggestion, not a fact or a must, decided what you want to do.
Good luck, and whether or not she feels the same way, I hope you learn something.
Wes's Dating Rule #123214:
Never call a girl up on a Friday after school and ask her out and then not talk to her the next week at school because you're too shy to talk to her when she's around her friends. It will never work out.
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