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Hey I'm Melinda & I am 15 years old; october 15th. I am currently single but my heart is taken. I live in West Haven, & attend West Haven High, there I am a sophmore. I love my friends, there amazing, & they are always there for me when I am at my lowest & i love them for it. I love shopping; Hollister, American Eagle & a&f. I love summer & vacations, & taking pictures with your friends is the best. I love Laguna Beach & the Hills; me & my friends can bassicaly have a conversation about it like we live there. I love being a dork with my friends. I'm always laughing & smiling, I always try everything at least one time. you only live once. I love The Notebook, its my favorite movie, & I also love Zoolander, I know almost all the lines to that movie! I listen to all kinds of music; rap,rock,techno, & country. ♥




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there's this guy i liked since the fourth semester and i decided to tell him how i feel. problem is, i dunno what to say to him exactly..any suggestions????? 13/f

tell him from your heart, that might sound stupid just say what you like about him, guys love confidence in a girl.. some suggest are..
first get him alone... font have friends around..

be lyk i think im starting to lyk you a lot

or tell a friend that you lyk him

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so ive been dating a guy for a couple months and he just recently said something really mean to my friend while she was working causing her to run of work bawling. i dont want a guy that talks shit to my friends. is it wrong to break up with him for it? please answer..

i would suggest talking to him first, be like thats my friends & i care about them.. & if your going to talk to them like that then i dont know if we can see each other, but first here what he has to say, if hes an ass about it totally dump him; theres other BETTER guys out there; trust me
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Me and my ex-boyfriend (first love) might try to try it again and see if it works this time. I still love and care about him. But there's another guy who I like and he likes me as well and wants to be with me. He hasn't caused me nearly as much pain as my ex (actually he hasn't caused me any) but I don't know who to choose or what to do? I love my ex even though it's been over a year since we broke up, but I also am starting to catch feelings for this new guy. Please help me . I will rate

well love is stronger then like.. but are you sure your ex has the same feelings as strongly as yours.. & if he hurt you a lot & this new guy hasnted then maybe try the new guy.. thats kind of a tuff situation.. but i would probaly end up with the new guy, maybe hes 10xs better.. & if your ex really likes you and if its true love then you guys might end up together in the future.
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To make this short.

I've had sex for the first time with my ex boyfriend even though he has a girlfriend...well i got sick of being the other woman so i told him that he either has to be wit me or her well of course he picked me but to my suprise the reason why he picked me was so we'll have sex and of course like a dummy i did it...well i thought we were together or going to work on it so the next day i waited for him to call me and he never did...it's been 3 weeks now and i've realize wat an asshole he is...i'm totally getting over him...i know hard to believe but it's true...but wat i'm wondering should i ask him why he or how could he do this to me or should i jus leave things the way they are? Thanks in advance!

wow he sounds like such a jerk.. & thats good that your getting over him.. well i would call him saying why he would do that & just tell him how you feel, but.. if you do call him and he says sorry and wants to hang out, dont.. because then you might get your feelings back for him & it would be harder, so i would just call him & be like why you would do that.
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I'm 15 and female and my b/f is 20, but I'm fixing to turn 16. My mom likes my b/f but my dad doesn't. They are currently filing for custody of me even though i don't want to live with my dad. The thing is that I may have made a huge mistake. I engaged in sexual activities with my boyfriend with my consent because I love him. We have been dating for nearly two years. The thing is that my mom has just informed me that the only way the can take me away from her is if we have had sex. I don't know what to do. Please, I need advice badly.

omg the same thing happened to my friend * kinda * shes dating some with the age length too, expect the mom doesnt like her bf but i would just say dont tell your dad you done anything sexualy, i know its bad to lie, but if you dont want to live with him then i guess you have to.
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hey guys well imma a well spoken person and well i hav a huge crush on this one guy ~n~ like well when i am around him i get really shy and i have butterflys in my stomache and when i am about to say something i have nothin to say....how do i stop bein shy around him?? and how can i make those butterflys stop holdin me back??
-penguin

well just dont think about it, try & be confident, & just talk to him like you would talk to one of your friends then sooner everything will be easier.
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my boyfriend has been an utter jerk to me lately. i dont know what to do. i found out a bunch of lies he been holdin out on me. but i cant break up with him because hes the father of my child- i just dont know what to do with him anymore. all he wants to do is hang out with his guys while i sit at home pregnant and in a crappy mood. hes blaming his ignorance on me, and says that im becoming the type of person he doesnt want to be around anymore. what in the world can i do to let him know tha its NOT all me, and that pregnancy CAUSES YOU TO HAVE MOODSWINGS???!!! hes jsut not gtting the concept.

yeah pregnancy does cause moodswings BIG TIME, he needs to mature & grow up & be there for you, you need to talk to him about this, you need to say that you are having moodswings because of being pregant & try to make him understand on how your feeeling, & if he still his being a jerk, then i suggest dumping him.. it just wouldnt be a healthy realtionship, & if your pregnat with his child then, just involve him in the babys life & stay friends maybe.
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Hey, may 29, this kid Mark asked me out. I love him so much, and a week later he dumped me. I loved this kid alot.


July 15, this kid Felix asked me out. I said yes, he was cute. I forgot all about Mark. I seemed to love him. I just spoke to Mark, and he seemed to like me again. Gosh, now i like BOTH of them.

The problem is, Felix really likes me, and i feel so bad if i would dump him for Mark. Mark on the other hand dumps every girl after a week or two.

Felix said, he would commit succide if i broke up with him. I know he ment it. Last night he said he had a pocket knife to his throat, because he had no one to live for. But then he relized he loved me. So, he put it down.

HELP! I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO I CRY ALL THE TIME

ok wow thats hard.. hmm i would forget about mark, if he dumped you in a week & does it to most girls, then he would prolly be the same, & as for felix stay with him, he sounds like he really likes you & at the same time, my friend went threw this with her bf everytime she tried to break up with ehr bf he would always threaten to kill himself, so she never really could, but later on when she did he was lying and never did, it could be different with him but you have to have a conversation about this succide thing because thats really not nesscary & its really big.
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My friend gave my number to the guy that I like and he said that he would definitely call me. If he calls me, I know that I'll get nervous and freeze up. In case he does call, how do I stop myself from being nervous and how can I calm down?

the same thing happened to me, just dont think about it, act like your talking to one of your friends.. & if you freeze up on what to talk about, just talk about stuff that happened at school or how hes doing the rest will just come.
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ok..so..i like this guy..we'll call him kv. well he turns out to be my brothers best friend..i eventually told him, and it didn't bother him at all. i told my friend jordan, who was kv's age (they r 2 years older then me)and kv's friend, and asked her if i should ask him out. she told me no, because he had a girlfriend, and his grifriend was her best friend. i had absolutly NO clue kv had a girlfriend. i immeadiatly felt emmbaresed. i remembered his old girlfriend (lets call her dee)dee, and wondered if they were still together. she moved to florida. i found out they were still together... a couple days after i told kv, he IM'd me and told me he needed to tell me something that was private, and not to be said to anyone else. he told me that he really liked me, and his girfriend, and he was confused. he told me that she would be coming back to where we live on june 21st to visit. he said they would probobly break up...but i'm not sure if i believe him...what do i do???

-conufsed..

okay this sounds like drama waiting to happen haha.. but i would deff wait to go out with him if anything, i mean if she lives far away then this relationship will not last at all, so just wait & see if hes telling the truth about breaking up with her, & if he is telling the truth & asks you out AFTER they break up then totally do it.. if he really likes you hed wait.
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well i really like this guy and he is real nice including really HOTT. Well i want to do some thing with him because ive not got to hang out with him out of shcool. but im not alowd to have him over. eny ideas were we could hang

aw, yah there are a lot of places you guys can go..

the beach
the mall (most guys dont like that though)
movies
his house
coffee place
walk around
a friends house
out to eat
bowling

hope i helped :o)
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hello, this is Jackie here. I have a problem. I am confused... there is this boy, I like him and from what I can tell, he likes me. I am 14 and he is a little older. This weekend this boy, my sister and another boy went to a community swimming pool. We sat next to eachother, he put his arm around me, and we held hands. after that I went home and soon I got a call from some girl saying that she was the boys new girl friend and that I need to stay away from him now. and I'm not sure if she's for real, or just being mean? I think that it could be this girl who's friends with him, that I made a comment about me not liking. So maybe she found out and knows that I like him, and wanted to get me back. I'm not sure. what do you think? Please help i rate well

*jackie*

well he deff likes you, if he put his arm around you and held your hand.. & this girl she might be telling the truth.. i dont know but i doubt it, unless this boy is a player, but just ask him what i think is, that this girl is jealous, but yeah jsut ask him if he has a new g/f & see wat he says.
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Okay, so I like this guy alot. And I heard he likes me too (he told my friend that i was hot and sent me 6 messages asking me who i liked), so I called him the other day and his sister picked up. So I asked if he was home and she said to me, "He's in the shower. And I dont mean to sound rude but he's not supposed to have girls calling him and he really doesnt like you that way." I got so upset I just said "Okay, I'm sorry, I didnt know." and hung up. Then I just felt sad for a long time. But I still really like this guy! And I dont know if his sister was lying or not. The only thing is if he's not supposed to have girls calling he's probably not supposed to have a girlfriend either. So what should I do in this situation?

Thank you.. I'll rate as high as I can.

okaayy, well seriously his sisters prolly lying, why would he mention you or anything, but yeah just talk to him about it, and ask if hes alowed to date.. & if he isnt you guys can be good friends ;o)
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15/F Alright, so I have been dating this guy, ryan, for about 6 months. I can honestly say that I LOVE him. Bu, lately he has been acting distant, strange. I was talking to a girl online and as soon as he found out I was talking to her he made me stop. It's just weird. And This may be a little TMI but the last time we were doing "things" He just stopped and said, "I can't do this." He's never done rhis before, What do you guys think, and any advice on how i may be able to figure out if he is?

the same thing happened to me once, my bf told me to stop talking to this girl and actually went on my buddy list and blocked her, i came to found out he was cheating, so maybe he MIGHT be cheating or just not like the girl, you have to sit down and talk to him, and explain how you feel comuacation is the best thing, and also ask around, or maybe start to talk to the girl again and ask her about ryan.. hope i helped.
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I'm 13/f and I have never kissed a guy before.
Well I really want to kiss my boyfriend within the next 2 days before school is over and I'm pretty sure he is planning on kissing me at one of the end of the year parties. I know I should just go with my instinct but I seriously am really nervous because I don't know how to kiss him. Any tips, or how-to's are welcome. I'll rate.
THANX

its really simple, just bassicaly kiss him & everything will come natrual, i promisee.
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ok well my boyfriends birthday is coming up like really soon but i have no idea what to get him.

guys are so hard to buy for and i need help plz! lol

haha yes they are hard to buy for, but you can get gim some nice smelling cologne, i like the abercrombie one, & hollister it smells really good, or you can make him a mix CD with all his fave songs, or buy him a box of his fave, chocolates, thatd be sweet too.
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well to start things off i really liked the girl the first time we started going out and we went out for three months and then broke up...she broke up with me because she said that i was to nice and just a great friend and i was not thrilled by this but i lived with it and became her best friend she has ever had but now that i have done that i really want to get back together with her cause she is such a great girl .... this pass weekend i hung out with her everyday and then on sunday i was taking her home and i told her that this weekend has been great and i really enjoyed spending time with her and then i asked if she wanted to give us another shot and she said she dont no...Now i love this girl to death and would do anything for her what do you think she will say ... and do yoou think i made the wrong move?? Thanks I rate!!

aww, well, they do say if you want a good relationship with someone is to be there friend & get to know them better, but yeah just tell her how you feel about her, bassicaly what you just said, good luck!
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So i'm a girl (15) and i like this guy we'll just call him hc. Well, hc and i are like really really good friends and he now knows that i like him. well, me and hc have not talked since i told him. Another problem, we are kinda related but not like blood related. his cousin married my brother. but we were friends before that and my brother got married in febuary and hc was dancing with me all the time we shrared drinks and food and we had so much fun. He's really nice and i can't stop thinking about him! I don't know how to even start our first conversation since he knows i like him! Please help! i rate all 5's usually!

omg, bassicaly the same thing happened to me "kinda" well this boy knew i liked him to and it was SO akward but i told myself to just act normal and act as if he didnt knew, and bassicaly i forgot her knew i liked him and the conversation just was easier, so just dont think about it and be yourself.
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Ive gotten to like this girl. Shes beautiful and has a nice personality. I want to say something nice to her and let her know how I feel about her. Im not keen on love letters, asking through friends and things like that, and I can't seem to find the right time because shes always with her friends everytime I want to talk to her. Ive heard that compliments work a treat. I need a list of compliments that are from a girls point of veiw that girls like said to them. Could you give me some girls advice or steps on asking her out or using special body language. 5's deffinately will be given out for really great advice/steps. Girls only.

aw thats really cute, i wish more guys wanted to know stuff like this :o) but anyways, call her beautiful, or say you look nice today.. touch her arm or try to hold her hand, and then ask her to the movies or out to eat, and then later on once you get to know her more ask her out im sure she will say yes :o) good luck!
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Ok I always use the term "i like him" because it seems at my age i can't really love someone (i'm 15 and a girl) but i've 'liked' this guy for almost a year and a half. Everytime i see him i feel lots of butterflies in my stomach, i find myself stareing at him and when he looks at me i look away. i also find him looking at me. but i also find myself constantly talking about him and when i talk about him muy friends are always like wow you smile a lot when you talk about him, and when i'm not talking about him i'm thinking about him. i feel a little over liking him for my age. I don't go out with him but i've turned down dates because i can't imagine going out with anyone else. I either need some serious help or could i be in 'love'?!?!
kinda scary to think about.

well ive been in a situation like this, i really liked the guy, and did all the stuff you mentioned.. but then i got over him and realised it was just a BIG crush, maybe you do love him, but i dont think so because you cant question love, i suggest try talking to him, or if your shy ask a friend to talk to him.
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