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Hi everyone, I am 20 years old. I dated this guy who is much older than I am for about 10-11 months. Him and I lived together, and things fell apart. Even before we lived together him and I would fight. We would argue about my friends texting me late at night, we would argue about me falling asleep on the couch to early, we would fight about dinner, we would fight about my family, we would fight how if I didn't do anything around the house, but when I would do things around the house he would feel bad. He didn't like my family very much, he called my family names, he didn't like my friends very much, and anytime I would se them (which was not often) I would be very anxious, and would always try to be home as early as possible because I knew that if I walked in the door after 9 p.m. him and I were going to get into a fight, because "he's been waiting on me all night" but when he goes out with his friends I let him do his things and when he gets home he gets home. No big deal. Point is, we would fight about everything. And we lived in his house. Him and I did not have anything to special that made us, us. We would laugh sometimes, but he is very controlling and very manipulative, and I was not happy with him. There are dozens of red flags about him, like the fact that I was scared he was going to hit me every time we got into a fight. (He never did, but I was always scared he would.) But why do I Miss him so much? I feel so lonely, and so heart broken, somedays I feel okay, like I am strong enough to handle this, and other days I cry, and feel more alone than ever. Would it be so bad to ask him to get a cup of coffee, no strings attached? He is a great guy, just not a good boyfriend. He wanted me to be completely dependent on him, but I was more defendant on myself than anything and he hated it. The bad times easily out weigh the good times, now what do I do? Its been just over 3 weeks since I have seen him last. I miss him in my life as a person, not as my boyfriend But who knows, maybe if I see him hell steal my heart like he once did before. Do people change? Could he change? Should I move on? Should I reach out? I am mind bogled, and I need outside none bias advice. if you need more information please reach out. Thank you. (link)
When you first break up with somebody, you remember all the good things and the bad things just seem stupid and you tend to blame yourself for all the fights, but give it time. It seems like he was very controlling and yes, its okay to pretend you need help so it looks like you need him for something, guys like to feel like you need them, gives them some kind of ego boost. Just give it time before reaching out again, I'm sure you will feel different about the situation. When i first broke up with my boyfriend, i just wanted him back and so i stayed friends with him, but as time went on, rebounded and now we barely speak because i realize i made the right choice by breaking up with him.


First off, we're both adults and we attend the same college where we both dorm. We've only been dating for a month, but unlike the usual "one date a week" relationship we've been seeing each other almost every day and have stayed the night together multiple times so we know one another better than most couples at this point. I've been in a serious long term relationship before so I'm also not new to dating and I know the differences between infatuation and love and when you're just in the honeymoon phase.

Anyways, everything was going really well with us, we were both incredibly happy and I was really starting to believe maybe I found the right one because it was just that amazing (compared to my previous relationships).

Then we got into what I thought was a small argument a few days back. I backed down really quickly and apologized for something I shouldn't have because I wanted to salvage the rest of our night and then we went on about our relationship like nothing happened. He's gone back to being as happy as he was before and I've been trying to act like it too, but I'm not okay. I had let down a lot of my walls with him which I'd never done so quickly with anybody else and I really truly trusted him. During the argument though he made a comment about how if anybody was going to end the relationship it would be him. Maybe I'm being a little dramatic, but something about that hit me really hard. I know at the time he said it that he was upset, but it still hurt a lot. Since then, he's been his usual sweet and loving self, constantly telling me sweet little things, doing things for me, ect...but I can't get what he said out of my mind.

Another issue is that when we get romantic he talks about how much he cares about me and how he can't wait until we're actually intimate (we're waiting until I get on BC and for the moment to be right) and has even begged me once or twice to engage in the act. I took that as obvious signs he wanted to be intimate and the other night I asked him about how he felt about planning a special night for it not too far in the distance (because the way things were going in bed I didn't think he wanted to wait much longer to have sex and neither did I especially being that neither of us are virgins). To my shock, he wound up telling me that he wasn't ready to have sex with me yet and was afraid he'd regret it if we did it this soon. It made me feel incredibly naive and stupid and I can't understand why he kept saying he wanted to if he didn't or why he wanted me to get on birth control. I didn't let how much it hurt me show and told him I'd wait for him however long it took.

Today he pulled up a picture on my computer that said "I love you" but I totally blew it off because I didn't believe it. He's never said it out loud and didn't verify if he meant it or not so I'm assuming that he was just trying to be cute and didn't mean it, but that's just one more thing that confused me.

It seems like he's giving me mixed signals and I'm starting to rapidly build my walls back up and find myself reprimanding myself for trusting him and letting my emotions get in the way of my common sense.

I feel really stuck right now and don't know what to do. I don't want to go on feeling like this, but I also can't bring up how hurt I am because I don't want to put any stress on the relationship. I'm constantly scared that he's going to break up with me at any given moment and that I'm going to have done things with him that I shouldn't have. I'm afraid I'm going to be the stupid naive girl that he's going to talk bad about if we break up and I'm scared that he doesn't care as much for me as I do for him. I don't know what to do. I don't mean to make him sound like a bad person at all either, because other than these instances he's absolutely wonderful. The best guy you can think of which is why I do care so much.

Please help?













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I totally get it, i just got out of a relationship like a month ago that was very similar to that. We lived literally half a mile from each other so basically every moment we had, we were doing stuff together from just hanging out at each others houses or taking classes together or getting something to eat. Every day we would text each other nonstop. We were in a relationship for a year and a half. As I look back at my relationship, i did the same thing you did. When we would get in an argument, i would cave in even if i knew it was wrong because i didnt want to fight. I didnt want him to be mad at me. In reality, he should be apologizing to me. Don't do what i did. I should have broke up with him so long ago. I finally stood up for myself, he had gotten me to my breaking point. I'm not saying break up with him, but if you want a healthy relationship, bring it up to him. If the relationship is meant to last, he will understand and you can figure out how to solve the problem, compromise. My ex didnt want to compromise half of the time, he wanted it his way or nothing. I pushed so hard and became so numb to his control issues just so we could have happy moments. It was not worth it, he got use to the power and getting his way. Again, don't do what I did, you will regret it. And don't hang out with each other too much because you will lose sight to reality, I didnt hang out with any of my friends, he became my priority which shouldn't be the case. If you want to talk, email me: theonenonlyandie@aol.com


Okay, so there is this guy I really like. I've liked him since like October. We never really started talking until like January, but after that we became really close friends. Let's call him Derek. Then around easter time we were talking like all day every day, we never seemed to run out of things to talk about. But then for some reason we just kind of stopped texting. Like we are in the same friend group so we still hung out and stuff but we weren't a "thing" anymore. Then this other guy (let's call him George) started talking to me and stuff so that never helped either. Then in like the end of May Derek just started to completely ignoring and treating me like I never even existed. So I confronted him and we got into this huge argument tearing each other apart for things the other person did that hurt the other. Like we used to tell each other everything. Derek knows things about me that no one else on this earth knows. Anyways, we resolved the problem between us and we started talking again and eventually it became more often and consistent and in more depth. Then around exam time we were "otg" hard core and I really liked him and wee had our first "date" all planned and it was awesome! We talked all the time and everything. But then in July we just randomly stop talking...AGAIN!!! So I didn't know what to do and I was really upset because I really liked him. The whole summer I never liked anyone else, and he didn't move on either. When we went back to school he wouldn't talk to me and he still won't. I've talked to both of our very good friends and he said that Derek was really upset that we stopped talking because he really liked me and he thought that I just did't like him and I stopped talking to him which wasn't the case at all. My friend said that he won't talk to me because he thinks it's too awkward. But the thing is I really want to talk to him again. I didn't stop liking him and I want us to become close again because there are some things that I can only talk to him about and without him in my life there are some things that I just have too keep to my life. And he is just so wonderful and I just want him to so badly see that I still have feelings for him, I have since October, that hasn't changed.

Are my feelings realistic or is he over me? Should I wait until he is ready to talk or do you think I should move one? Please help me:(:( (link)
I can't tell you if he's over you or not because i do not know him personally but what i can tell you is go talk to him. Figure out the real reason why he keeps breaking that connection with you. Maybe he's scared; maybe its his first real connection with someone, maybe he has had a bad past. Just talk to him and ask why he does it and that if he trusts you, he will tell you why. I know you might not want to hear this, but just keep in mind you're only 16 years old and most likely, this will not be the guy who you grow old with, but you can still go after him, just keep in mind that there are many more fish in the sea :)


I have been together with my boyfriend of long distance for over a year now. I have no clue in the world why I have stayed with him so long since he has been the reason for my constant anxiety, low self-esteem and being depressed. It's not like he intentionally makes me feel these emotions and feelings; it's just I finally realized we're not compatible. For one, my dream that I have always held close to my heart since I was the littlest thing was building a house on my mother's land in the small town I grew up in. If I stay with my boyfriend, that would never be an option. I would HAVE to live in the BIG city or at least in a suburb for his gaming career. I can't do that for I would be severely unhappy for the rest of my life and he doesn't seem to understand it at all. I don't want to give up my life-long dream just because he wants to live in the city. It's not fair for me. I want to care for his dreams, and in all honesty I do. I truly do, but I can't leave this town. He's also always nagging me about getting a job, which he doesn't understand how hard it is with me having anxiety and how low jobs are around where I live. I tell him I look for jobs every day. I even signed up for "job training for the disabled" (anxiety is my disability; it's so horrifying!)

Well, my parents have been breaking their backs for months trying to get me to break up with him. And I've finally realized how badly I am with him and I think it's time to actually break up with him for good. But I want to change first. I'm always so depressed and anxious because of the things he does and I just don't feel beautiful and I don't feel good enough because of the way he acts. I want to be finally confident, positive about everything, happy, sweet, enthusiastic and just an overall different, better person.

How should I start and continue on my journey to change?

I'm changing my appearance to which I've already figured out because I don't want to remind myself at all of who I once was. I want to be confident enough to end it with him and hopefully just never speak to him again because of all the anxiety that is included in every conversation we have.

This isn't an emotionally abusive relationship in any way. He's one of the sweetest people I've ever met. It's just he doesn't make me happy at all. (link)
Look, if you want to change yourself, you need to let him go first. Do not completely change yourself to the point where you lose sight to who you really are. Stay true to yourself. I think that you are not in a place right now to be in a relationship and you need to take time for yourself and find out what you want to do with your life without any distractions.


My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now. I'm 25 and hes 22. We've had an amazing relationship together. We don't live together yet but have talked about buying a house plenty of times we are just saving up. His parents are divorced, they went through a bad divorce (which maybe this is all stemming from). About three months ago we had a bad fight. He said he just didnt think we were good together anymore and he wasn't happy with some things I was doing. I cried and cried. I asked him what I could do to change this or make things better. Well I did everything he asked, and its everything that bettered me as a person. I thought things were going really well. I haven't been happier. Well two nights ago he said that he just doesnt feel the same as he did when we first started dating. He lost the feelings. He said he needs time to see if breaking up is what he really wants. So right now we are on no contact. Ive cried every night I cant eat because im just sick to my stomach. he said its not me its him. That i have done nothing but support him, love him and do everything right. I said am I not pretty enough? Is it because I gained weight? And he said no your beautiful. I asked if there was someone else and he said absolutely not that hes always been faithful to me and if we were to break up he couldnt even think of being in another relationship for a long time. And he said if he has any doubts of not being together that he would not for one second hesitate to show up at my door step and ask for me back. He also cried the whole time he was telling me all of this. He said he felt sick to his stomach.

Im just heartbroken. I dont know what to do, where we stand. He said he needs a couple weeks to think. Hes the guy I can see forever with and every time I look at him I think of how in love I am with him. I cant picture my life without him. And he knows it. (link)
As i read this, i put myself in your shoes, I try to think how i would feel if my current boyfriend said something like that to me, how hurt I would be. I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months, but it feels way longer. Being with somebody that long and finding out that it can all be taken away from you is scary. All you can do is wait. You can show up at his house and ask him and talk to him, but if he no longer wants to be with you, I'm sorry. It's hard to lose so much of yourself, your other half. If he breaks up with you, it would take you some time to heal, thats just how life will go, something better will come alone, good luck!


I've been with my fiance for two years. We met when I was 17, I'm 20 now and he's 23. I love him a lot and he's my bestfriend as well but I don't really see us being together forever. In fact I don't even see us getting married...ever.

I feel like right now we both belong together because we're both still young. I'm in college and working part time. I will graduate in 2-3 years and in my field it will be very easy to find a good-high paying job. He's at the start of what might be an okay career path as an assistant manager of a store ( and he's been told he'll be a manager in a year or so) but that doesn't really impress me.

He's fine with a middle class to upper middle class life but I'm really not. I'm okay with it right now as I'm still young but when I'm 30 I want to be at the start of living an upper-class life and only move up from there. I want the kind of life where I can afford a luxury vehicle like a Tesla, nice house, and be able buy designer labels when and where I'd like. I'm not talking super rich but I'd like to at least be able to afford those things.

I don't really see him ever having those things as he doesn't think they're important (I obviously do). I also want a big beautiful wedding and I know he's never going to be able to provide that for me and I'm not willing to foot the entire cost. I'd rather be with somebody who can at least split the cost, you know. I'm also not willing to have a tiny cheap wedding. I want the disney princess glam wedding dress not something cheap from a thrift store. :( I want a husband who makes as much as I do or more and has more of the same opinions and tastes in life than my current fiance.

We have vastly different points of view on everything from our tastes in food to our major life goals and religious beliefs. Right now I'm okay with putting up with all that but I don't want to be with somebody who will never see eye to eye with me for my whole life.

Is it okay that I'm only with him for right now and I know it?

P.S.
I know this is trivial but honestly I also hate my engagement ring. It was like $700 but it's super tiny and I've always dreamed of showing off an engagement ring with a great big diamond in it (even if it's fake). I loved the one I have at first but now a year later I've realized what I really want and it's not this.



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You brought up so many things that doesnt seem right for you to think. It shouldn't matter about the money or the stuff you can but or any of that material crap, it just matters if you actually love that person. You briefly mentioned that you guys don't have anything in common; thats a different story. You should elaborate more on that side of it, not the money and upper class of it. More about lifestyles and morals


17/M
Hey guys. My friend is in a little situation right now.
A month ago,my friend confessed to his crush that he has a crush on her through text. My friend showed me their conversation and the she dont believe it at first. She said that my friend was crazy and blind. But I think that she only said that because of the shock of what my friend told her or she wants to make sure that my friend wasnt bluffing. A week past,and they gotten closer. But right now the girl acts like the confession never happened. And she doesnt consider my friends feelings anymore.

Is that a sign of rejection?? (link)
She may be overwhelmed and i might be a lot to take it. Just be patient and if she doesn't mention anything for a couple of days, then, he should mention it and bring it up again.


My boyfriend and I have been on and off but lately things have been well for us and I couldn't be ever more thankful that we have stopped arguing and tried to get to some common ground. Although, deep down, I can feel another fight coming, though I definitely don't want it to happen. The last time we talked to each other about our feelings and confronted each other on our problems, he told me something that just resonated and wouldn't leave my mind. When we first started becoming serious, and even when I was for sure serious about him, I remember that there was time where on social media, he would try to follow almost every girl he knew and would constantly like their pictures. I knew through people telling me and things I saw for myself. All of that hurt deep down knowing he was telling me one thing but was trying to get attention from other girls. Today, he doesn't really do it but I remember from our night's discussion that he told me whenever he was with his ex, he would think about being with other girls physically. He told me this because he was trying to say that he never feels that way with me. Of course after he mentioned it, I remember those times we were talking when I saw that same behavior from him. Now, I guess we are more serious but my question is, why does it bother me so much? I do trust him now but I'm scared if things go bad, what if he turns back to this behavior. It would hurt so much.
It also bothers me that he's had about 5 girlfriends in the past and he told me about some of the hookups he had too. I know its not a competition but I've had only one boyfriend in the past so... I don't know, it makes me a little insecure. How do I get over this? (link)
The most important part of a relationship is communication. If you don't communicate, you have nothing. Maybe you have a difficult past, maybe you come from a broken home. Theres so many possibilities. Ive at moments felt that way for the reason you said, the amount of partners they have had. But for me, theres more to it. Ive never really seen a stable relationship in my family growing up and my first relationship was so rocky and unstable, its hard to accept the fact that something good can happen. I don't know what its like to have someone who tells me the truth, who actually cares about me sincerely. Maybe its the same with you. Let me know


hi! im 19 years of age and i am a girl.I truly love my boyfriend more than anything else in this world.i love spending time with him.i spend most of my time everyday with him.we are always together.is it healthy to spend too much time with your boyfriend making love and etc? should I give him some space? (link)
If he doesn't make excuses to not see it, don't worry about it, The only thing that you may want to worry about is it might cause you to distance yourself away from your friends which is not good. I'm always with my boyfriend because we go to the same school and we live so close to each other, but I feel like he is all I have which is really sad. So, don't worry about what he's thinking about, just think about the separation between you and your friends.


I have a HUGE crush on this guy at my school. He asked out my best friend and he asked her out twice. I really want him to ask me out instead even though she is my besty. what should I do? Thanks for your help! (link)
So, im guessing that your said no both times and maybe he's trying to make you jealous. Flirt with him, maybe hint on how you feel about him, just don't stand back and continue to just watch it happen.


22/f
My ex and I broke up nearly a year ago. Before that, we were dating for 3 years and best friends for 2. I was insanely depressed when we broke up - I couldn't sleep for a month, slept too much for another, and hardly ate for 2 or 3 months. I didn't start feeling better for a really long time, and when I did, he came back into my life. He said he missed his best friend and still wanted us to stay in each other's lives.
In trying to be friends, one thing led to another and you could say we became friends with benefits. I was fine with that; I wasn't trying to get him back or anything. After a while though I realized I couldn't keep doing that. I still had (have) intense feelings for him. So we stopped.
I just found out he has a new girlfriend. She's absolutely gorgeous, and seems to have a lot more in common with him than I ever did (one of the many reasons we called it quits). I'm trying to stay rational and think that she's great for him, and I should be happy that he's happy - or at least, not be bitter. But it stings...really bad. I feel so stupid for being his plaything while he found someone better for him...and for still being in love with him.
It's currently 7:56am and I've been awake for 3 hours. That's after not being able to fall asleep until past 2am. I can't expect it not to hurt but I'm terrified of falling back into the depression I felt a year ago. The sleepless nights have apparently already started and I've been throwing up a lot ever since I found out (not intentionally l; I just literally feel sick to my stomach).
I know everyone says "focus on yourself, find someone better, stop thinking about him, forget he exists, etc" but it's ridiculously difficult to see past all this to get to that. Keep in mind, it's been about a year. And I'm still in the same place I was when it first happened. Any way I can avoid having this hurt to bad? Or am I really gonna be forced to feel it out until the end (link)
Falling in love with somebody could be so easy and feel so good, but falling out of love with somebody is even more difficult and hurts so much more and may feel so terrible. Don't let anyone rush you into moving on. One day you will want to put yourself back out there and that doesn't have to be soon. Being friends with benefits with somebody is so dangerous. The benefits comes along with that physical connection which could cause emotional connection to occur. It's mostly the girl who expresses that emotional connection or feels that connections because us girls are sensitive. We want to be able to have one night stands or not have to fall for somebody, but we aren't wired that way. I'm sorry you have to go through all of this pain. If you need to talk, e-mail me at theonenonlyandie@aol.com
Good luck!


Gender- Male
Age-14

I am a very intelligent and shy person. There was a beautiful girl at my school by the name of Kamryn. I had liked her for a very, very long time, even though we didn't know each other very well. After speaking to one of my best friends (who is also one of Kamryn's best friends), I discovered that she liked me as well. On February 12th I finally worked up the courage to ask her out. I had gotten her a heart-shaped box of chocolates and a rose (as cliche as it may seem, it was almost Valentine's Day). She said yes, and it was then that I had my first girlfriend. I tried to do everything right; I sent her goodnight and good morning texts every night and morning, I compliment her everyday (I tried not to compliment her to much, as not to dilute the meaning, but simply couldn't help stating my mind). We still didn't talk too often during school (as we are both very shy and soft-spoken people). We did, however, text each other all the time. I attempted to make conversation with her whenever I could, but she never reciprocated. I am an INTJ, and contemplate every finite detail very thoroughly. I took any blame or negative aspect out on myself. Out of the blue, after only twenty days of dating, she told me that there are a lot of things going on in her life, and that she thinks we should break up. I understand her point of view, but as a person of pure logic and reason, I am having a constant internal battle of reasoning. I am seeing two equal and true perspectives. I keep analyzing all of the possibilities; perhaps she only said yes to spare my feelings. I have been deeply depressed. I haven't slept more than three hours a night, and haven't eaten anything since the breakup, nor have I spoken to anyone for any reason. There is no advice that can help me, but I never speak of my feelings to anyone, so I figured, "why not?" I expect to see all of the things that are all too common and all the less helpful; "It will pass," "You're young, you'll go through a lot of girlfriends," "You can't let it get to you," and the classic, "There are plenty of fish in the sea." (link)
I'm going to sound cliche, but you are young. Another thing is it wasn't that long and you should be glad she confronted you early on in the relationship and you didn't find out way later on she didn't want o be with you which would hurt you way more. It seems to me like there was a lot of miscommunication and she didn't see the relationship going anywhere since you didn't do anything with her, take her on dates, talk constantly or anything of the sort. You have to talk to her to be in a relationship. You should also be comfortable around her because if you aren't, then what's the point? It's just a label.


I am an 18-year-old female. I've been in a relationship for 6 months. earlier in the relationship my boyfriend was a big flirt with a lot of girls (I later found out about that). he ended up cheating on me and I found out about it. I decided to stay with him but I can't seem to move fully past it. I'm not sure what to do or think through all of this. what should I do? (link)
The part that is unclear is if you talked about the incident or not with him. You have to communicate to him about it if its bothering you. The two main points of a relationship is trust and communication. Without these, theres no point of the relationship at all. You have to communicate with him your concerns of the relationship and if theres any way he can make you feel more safe. If he turns very defensive or the relationship doesn't improve after that point, it might be best to stop the relationship altogether. Relationships are there to make you happy, not to stress you out


Hi, so I am 19 and I am a virgin and I have never kissed anyone, I am what you would call a good girl and I like to take things slow.
Most people say I am too mature for my age, so guys my age don't really fancy me.
The other night I met this guy who I have a lot in common, and he said he likes me and he wants to take me on a date... now the catch is that he is frikkin 32!!!
He is really hot, but I am scared to go out with him, because as an older guy he will probably want to take things fast and he probably is really experienced... and the whole thing scares me as I don't feel ready... and older guys usually wait 2 or 3 days to have sex with a girl!! I don't know if I should date him, but I really like him.

HELP!! (link)
I think you should be open with him and tell him your situation and that he has to be willing to be patient with you. If he gives you a weird look or tries to persuade you to do otherwise, he's not the right guy for you. You want to find somebody who's worth your time. It may be scary to ask or find out, but you should know what you would be getting yourself into. Dating isn't only about looks, its about getting to know someone and seeing if you mesh well together.It might be hard to find the right person, but theres someone out there for you no matter what. If he's willing to make it work, he will respect your wishes and show some sympathy and patience

Let me know what you think!


Hi! I'm having a love crisis here that I need a little advice on. There's a guy that I like and I'm pretty sure that he likes me. He's pretty cute, hilarious, an amazing artist, and a decent writer. The problem is, he's not smart. He gets straight C's at best and he's just over all not super intellectual. I wouldn't mind him not being naturally academic if he would just TRY. I've worked with him in groups and partners and he doesn't try to hide the fact that he doesn't care about school at all. I've been an above average hard working honors student my whole life so you can see why his lack of effort turns me off. Am I being shallow? I really like him, but I'm not going to even think about asking him out if he doesn't put in a little effort. (link)
Look, it seems like thats just the type of person he is, you can't change that, but maybe if you date, he will change because he sees what you are doing. Dating is about seeing if two people really understand each other and enjoy each others company and if you get along and get to know each other

Give it a chance, maybe he is just trying to act cool to fit in. Maybe you can get him to open up more about that stuff.
Let me know what you think!


My boyfriend and i broke up about a month ago... Before we broke up we had communications issues. he said we should stay friends and see if things fall into place. I didnt like that so i called it quit, after a few days i called him back saying that we should fix it, he agreed, but after days go by he wont call or text, i would bring it up again, he would after to fixing it and the same thing would go on again.. At some point i would text and he wont reply. Finally one day i told him that i dont want to be led on again and he should tell me where we both stand, he then said that he cannot commit to me. I was very hurt i just thanked him and said goodbye he replied that if it was the final goodbye then okay... So i deleted him from my contact, bbm and everyoda social network. I didnt call or text him, a week went by and the second week came... Towards the end of the second week, he called but i didnt take it, after about four days he called again and i didnt take it... I decided to download whatsapp on my new phone, because i stopped using my old phone which was giving me issues.. i started seeing his messages he sent to me Within those four days consecutively.. his not a type that goes to whatsapp,he barely even used it... So when I saw the msgs i replied Hi and immediately he replied "how have u been" after about 20mints i said "fine Thank u" he replied "just checking in" and i didnt reply afterwards.... Is he trying to come back or is he just missing me.... (link)
I think this is both. From not hearing from you, he may have been worried or he may have finally realized what he was missing. It is a very common event that occurs. He may gave finally woke up and know what he actually wants. You have to be straight forward with him and ask him what he wants. If you think its worth going back to him, take the risk. If you think that you're tired of falling for him, don't start back up again


So there's this guy at my work that I like, and we've been texting each other back and forth pretty often. Before reading week ended, I gave him this gift card to a sushi restaurant and he said we should go, and asked me to go to dinner! He picked me up and dropped me off home but didn't make any move. All throughout dinner it was really nice, it never felt awkward , but I just couldn't read him. Fast forward a few days, I texted him a "so do you know what I was craving today ?! Crepes ! Haha When are you free ? We should go out sometime !" And he replied "Haha I had some on my birthday! But I'm still down for crepes! We should go after exams are done! We can celebrate all of the A's we got haha" . Does it seem like he's interested in me ?? There were other instances where we were talking about soccer and I said I would watch him play over the summer and he said that he'll score a goal for me, or the time when he said he'll buy me green tea kit kat when he goes to Japan cause it's my favourite, or like how he'll teach me ukulele because I'm teaching him violin .... Like does it seem like he just thinks of me as a friend or more ? (link)
I think you should be upfront with him about all of this. I know it may be nervewracking or you may be very scared to talk to him about this, but make subtle hints. Ask him to go somewhere and you may have to make the moves. I know that sounds weird, but there could just be a possibility that he's nervous and he doesn't want to lose you as a friend. Your options are either confront him straight up or go with the subtle hints. I'm gonna be cliche for a second but you only live once, you its all or nothing. If it works out, good for you, if it doesn't, its not the end of the world, you have many more opportunities to find somebody amazing. You can't wait for what you want to just fall in your lap, you gotta go out there and get it.



Ok. I'm a girl, he's a single gay guy. We've been friends for over 2 years now, he even calls me his soulmate all the time. We always hang out and we do almost everything together. While I find him very attractive and a lot like me, I've respected his sexuality and refused to even consider to think of him romantically. That being said, I've noticed he's been getting REALLY friendly with me. He's always saying things like, ''I love your hair, it's so soft and long,'', or ''you have the prettiest eyes'', or ''you look beautiful today.'' He only does this to me.

We were going to his house to just hang out and the entire time we were walking home he held my hand and we didn't say anything. He let my hand go to open the front door and when I took my shoes off he slowly walked towards me and I kept stepping back until I hit the table and he leaned in really close and he was just staring at me for an entire minute! I didn't know what to do and he just kept coming in closer and closer and he was going to kiss me but then he stepped back and we were both awkwardly standing there and he muttered "sorry" ... I honestly don't understand, he told me he was 100% gay and he didn't have any interest in girls. I've never seen him act this way towards any other girl.

I guess my question is, gay men: do you ever find yourself against all odds, falling for a woman? Is it possible? What do I do? Do I just ask him directly?


He's forever complimenting me whenever we talk or just seeing each other. Always. I really do appreciate his compliments, but now it's always over the top. He'll compliment my appearance, say how perfect I am, that I'm amazing. It's almost like once he's on a roll with it, he will literally sit there and gush about me for a few mins at a time. what the hell is up with that, man? I'm extremely confused. (link)
#1: maybe he's bi and he thought you were into him too
#2: maybe he pretended to be gay to get close to you


so I'm relatively new to actually expressing my emotions so I don't want to mess up on this. I want to sing this song I wrote for the person I like and I want to tell her, but I don't know how to say it without sounding....stupid. Because I have the tendency to act completely stupid when it comes to being around her. And today had to be one of the best days I've had with her, we were smiling/laughing the whole time and messing around on the bus ride home. I don't know, it's just been a good day and I haven't been this happy in awhile. I just want to know what's the best way to say how I wrote a song for her. Not exactly sure how to present it...if that helps.
Additional- Genderfluid/18 (link)
That might be too much, don't rush


Hi, so I've been dating this girl for a few weeks. Now she is REALLY beautiful, all the guys are after her. I even received a text from one of her guy friends saying he was going to try and steal her from me. She also hangs out at some other guy's houses the whole time. I know she is loyal, as am I, I just get worried because we really love each other, but she lives in Texas and i live in Tennessee. It's just that I've dealt with long distance relationships before, they don't work out. But with her, I know it will last a long time. I'm just wondering, should I be worried? Should i keep loving her? :( (link)
You may need to add a little more detail about how you met and how you are so confident with her. Long distant relationships are very hard because if one person just decides to stop talking to the other person, they can, nothing the other person can do about it. Especially if you've never met them in real life before, there is a very small chance it will work out unless you guys are both very open with each other and make plans to see each other.




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