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Does my gay bestfriend have s crush on me?
Ok. I'm a girl, he's a single gay guy. We've been friends for over 2 years now, he even calls me his soulmate all the time. We always hang out and we do almost everything together. While I find him very attractive and a lot like me, I've respected his sexuality and refused to even consider to think of him romantically. That being said, I've noticed he's been getting REALLY friendly with me. He's always saying things like, ''I love your hair, it's so soft and long,'', or ''you have the prettiest eyes'', or ''you look beautiful today.'' He only does this to me.
We were going to his house to just hang out and the entire time we were walking home he held my hand and we didn't say anything. He let my hand go to open the front door and when I took my shoes off he slowly walked towards me and I kept stepping back until I hit the table and he leaned in really close and he was just staring at me for an entire minute! I didn't know what to do and he just kept coming in closer and closer and he was going to kiss me but then he stepped back and we were both awkwardly standing there and he muttered "sorry" ... I honestly don't understand, he told me he was 100% gay and he didn't have any interest in girls. I've never seen him act this way towards any other girl.
I guess my question is, gay men: do you ever find yourself against all odds, falling for a woman? Is it possible? What do I do? Do I just ask him directly?
He's forever complimenting me whenever we talk or just seeing each other. Always. I really do appreciate his compliments, but now it's always over the top. He'll compliment my appearance, say how perfect I am, that I'm amazing. It's almost like once he's on a roll with it, he will literally sit there and gush about me for a few mins at a time. what the hell is up with that, man? I'm extremely confused.
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#1: maybe he's bi and he thought you were into him too
#2: maybe he pretended to be gay to get close to you
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Sounds like you have a solid friendship indeed, regardless of his sexual orientation. I think you should definitely chat about it with HIM. It's not easy to generalise, so 'how do gay men feel about this' as a means to validate HIS responses is probably not much help. It might even steeer you in completely the wrong direction. If you got five 'definitely NOT, ever' responses, would that make you forget the whole idea, for instance? Would a couple of 'yes, we can' answers swing it the other way? What you REALLY want to know is if THIS gay man is falling in love with a woman, and namely YOU! And his is the only response that counts. Talk to him. It will be much more productive than a quick vox pop of the gay community. If you're barking completely up the wrong tree, he'll almost certainly understand. I doubt it will offend him. Sexual orientation is not necessarily 'absolute' (fixed, and fixed for life) by any means. The statement '100 percent gay' still has a conditional truth value, meaning it may have been the complete truth WHEN he said it. It's NOW you're interested in. Talk to him!!
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honey, he may be bi sexual...but you'd have to be okay with him having men or at least one special guy as a sex partner. This means he can be attracted to boths sexes sexually. You may be the only female he's attracted to that way and maybe still attracted to several guys. It can happen that way. Bring up the subject cus I am guessing it may not ha ve occured to him.
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