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long distance love
Hi, so I've been dating this girl for a few weeks. Now she is REALLY beautiful, all the guys are after her. I even received a text from one of her guy friends saying he was going to try and steal her from me. She also hangs out at some other guy's houses the whole time. I know she is loyal, as am I, I just get worried because we really love each other, but she lives in Texas and i live in Tennessee. It's just that I've dealt with long distance relationships before, they don't work out. But with her, I know it will last a long time. I'm just wondering, should I be worried? Should i keep loving her? :(
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If you love her and try to give up, you will regret it for the rest of your life. Yes, long distance relationships are difficult, but if you truly love each other, you can make it work. If your worried, save your money and drive up there to throw a romantic date. Tell her you love her and you hope to never lose her. It's not bad to be worried, in fact, it's a good thing. Let her know how amazing she is and that's why your afraid someone will snatch her up. Tear yourself down, while building her up and say you never want to lose her and that you want to be with her. Girls love when guys do romantic gestures and like to feel special. If you truly love her, distance will not keep the two of you apart. Don't just say you love her, show her and prove it.
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Long distance relationships have their challenges, but every relationship has obstacles. part of being with someone is having trust and another is communication. Have you guys talked about that text message? Did you tell her how it make you feel? If she doesn't care or if she makes you feel as tho it could be anything more than just a text . You should leave. In relationships especially long distance relationships. There should always be that security that you're the only one. You should talk more about that "friend" texting and figuring out a solution together. I hope this helps good luck!
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The only LDR's that have a chance of working are couples who were already dating and then went off to other colleges and after college got together again or marriages where the seperation is due to one of them going into the military. At that point, all they can do is keep contact frequently long distance.
However most the people in LDR's have never met face to face so they won't even have a clue if there is any sexual chemistry let alone what its like to be with them 24/7. I did dating on line after a divorce looking for guys in my local area but we met online first. I found that even just a week of talking online before meeting, I already had hopes and imagined things as better than they were. I found that it is just theatre of the mind when dealing with a person online.
Yes, I found a couple guys I could drool over who looked like males models, so surely with those looks and how I reacted to their photos on line, there must be chemistry. Nope. I found it doesnt work that way. What my response and yours is most likely is purely Lust instead of Love and chemistry. When I met him in person, we had 3 dates and I never heard from him again. I could tell there was no chemistry felt for either of us. Same with the other.
Yes you have good reason to worry, you are not local, in person for her. You worry because there is no way to fully trust her, trust is built slowly over time by being there in person and witnessing that your partner is everything they claim to be, are consistant in their character, personality and their beliefs and morals. You can't know that over the computer. Even if she didn't intend to fall for someone local, humans taste and touch and experience in person.
If your tummy was hungry for food, tell me, would a photo of a meal on the internet, a chef's prize winning meal, take care of your hunger, or would you need to eat a real meal of food to take care of your hunger? How about touch? A hug, a kiss or tickle fight. Does kissing her face on screen tell you what its like to kiss her, how soft her lips are when you are kissing a flat hard screen? There is too much info missing in such a relationship so we make up most of it in our minds, filling in the missing pieces with our imagination which is why I call it theater of the mind. If after a week only, I was already imagining the other person, any longer makes it even worse. The best advice I have is you are a teen is to give up as you can't just take a vacation to go meet her or relocate. If you are an adult now on your own, plan your vacation days with her so she has same days off and go meet her. If you both are madly in love, then you will do whatever to be together in one location. To go back to living in separate places means there isn't enough love to want to be together in real life.
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You may need to add a little more detail about how you met and how you are so confident with her. Long distant relationships are very hard because if one person just decides to stop talking to the other person, they can, nothing the other person can do about it. Especially if you've never met them in real life before, there is a very small chance it will work out unless you guys are both very open with each other and make plans to see each other.
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