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is he coming back to me
My boyfriend and i broke up about a month ago... Before we broke up we had communications issues. he said we should stay friends and see if things fall into place. I didnt like that so i called it quit, after a few days i called him back saying that we should fix it, he agreed, but after days go by he wont call or text, i would bring it up again, he would after to fixing it and the same thing would go on again.. At some point i would text and he wont reply. Finally one day i told him that i dont want to be led on again and he should tell me where we both stand, he then said that he cannot commit to me. I was very hurt i just thanked him and said goodbye he replied that if it was the final goodbye then okay... So i deleted him from my contact, bbm and everyoda social network. I didnt call or text him, a week went by and the second week came... Towards the end of the second week, he called but i didnt take it, after about four days he called again and i didnt take it... I decided to download whatsapp on my new phone, because i stopped using my old phone which was giving me issues.. i started seeing his messages he sent to me Within those four days consecutively.. his not a type that goes to whatsapp,he barely even used it... So when I saw the msgs i replied Hi and immediately he replied "how have u been" after about 20mints i said "fine Thank u" he replied "just checking in" and i didnt reply afterwards.... Is he trying to come back or is he just missing me....
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I think this is both. From not hearing from you, he may have been worried or he may have finally realized what he was missing. It is a very common event that occurs. He may gave finally woke up and know what he actually wants. You have to be straight forward with him and ask him what he wants. If you think its worth going back to him, take the risk. If you think that you're tired of falling for him, don't start back up again
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Hmm. He's definitely got interests elsewhere. There's no telling whether they've been fulfilled or not though. However, he wants to keep you hanging on if he can.
He can tell how you feel about him, but I really give you kudos for walking farther away than many girls are able to get so soon. I see great signs of the type of self-confidence that will serve you well.
He's playing games, stringing you along. He's more interested because you've given him a challenge, but that's it. There are many people, especially men, that are only interested in something when it's running away from them. It's not love at this point, just the thrill of the hunt, a game. Sometimes it's low self-esteem on their part, to chase something only when it's not interested in them. But don't feel bad for them, because even the most beautiful mate will never satisfy a person like that. The problem is inside.
That's not to say that if you don't completely disappear, he might change into a decent guy and realize he lost a good girl, but many times people don't. However, you should just completely disappear and really make it hard for him to get in contact with you. He needs to be bringing flowers to your door type of stuff; and even then, I'd be suspicious until you truly know it's love.
So far, your gut has led you to ask b/c you feel like something's off. You're right.
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I would't count on it. I know guys who when they befriend someone, even if the relationship doesnt work out, they tend to think of the person as adopted or extended family ever after, like a cousin or sister and will from time to time keep in contact to see how you're doing. My own husband is like that. Old male friends, a few of old co workers, female friends, and his ex. wife. Not many people are like that, I'll agree, but its possible this old boyfriend of yours is.
If he had wanted to come back he would ask a question to determine if you are still single or seeing someone. like "So are you dating anyone new yet?" Since he didn't, I think you can safely assume that his decision of before, that he cannot committ to you, still stands. If he didn't explain in detail why...it may be not knowing the issues that give you hope that something can be worked out. But he may have not given more info. simply to spare you from having any more hurt feelings than you did from just the break up.
Put yourself in his shoes (if that was the case) and lets say you were dating a guy who was extreme needy and a low self esteem, always apologizing for no reason, too shy, and you didn't want to tell him that those are the issues he has that are the reason you are breaking up. It would make him feel worse of course. So you say instead, "Well, I've decided after all this time that we just don't have enough chemistry to be a couple, so I am breaking up with you." It will hurt him but not as bad as the extra weight of the issues why. Hope this helps a bit.
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