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Friend Pregnant
13/f.Ummmm,I am in the 8th grade and one of my good friends some way have gotten pregnant. My friend doesn't know that my bestfriend and me know that she is.My best friend had to do some for my friend on her fb page because her phone is going to be off. So she told her to text her boyfriend that her phone is going to be off. My Best friend just have texted me sending me pictures of the messages between my friend and her bf talking about abortions and if she is going to keep the baby. Her child's mother talked to her too. Right now my most concern is like I know that its like we invading her privacy,but I need an adult advice. I want to tell my mother,but my mother would most likely make me stop talking to her or hanging with her. But now I don't know how I'm going to face her in school tommrow. Also,she told me many times that her father child use condoms,but it seem like they don't. So please tell me what to do. THANK TOU!
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Dear friend pregnant,
You can let your friend know that you know she is pregnant without letting her know your friend accidentally saw the text and then sent it to you. She obviously didn't mean to get pregnant if her boyfriend asked whether or not she was keeping it. If she meant to get pregnant, she would automatically keep it. When someone is pregnant, they start having side affects. Things like vomiting, food cravings, exhaustion, lack of sleep, headaches, dizziness, the list goes on. Let your friend know if you have seen any of these side affects. It will be obvious and she never has to know your friend saw the text. If she is truly your friend, and trust you like friends should, then she will tell you. Don't get angry that she didn't tell though, 'cause pregnancy is a beautiful thing, but if you didn't mean to get pregnant it can be really scary. Talk to her once you see the side affects and tell her if she doesn't want to keep it, she can put it in an orphanage so it will be given a loving home. I wouldn't recommend letting your mom know if she won't let you hang around her anymore. Right now may be the time your friend needs you the most, hair maybe not know how to tell you. See about talking to a different adult that you can trust. Maybe a young adult still in their 20s that can give you adult advice, but will be young enough to understand to situation from her view point. But right now your friend needs you, androstenedione likely wants you to know, but is scared. The three of you get together and tell her that you know and will be there for her, and support her. It will make her feel so much better that someone knows and she has someone she can put her worries on.
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She is 13 and having sex that's the first problem. She is way too young and this is the usual result of two young people having sex. They may have used condoms but if not used correctly they don't work. Even when used correctly they are less 85% effective in preventing pregnancy.
The next problem is when her parents find out. By law she has no say over her reproductive system until she reaches the age of 14. Neither she, her boyfriend or his parents have any say only her parents have any say as to whether she has an abortion, keeps the baby or puts it up for adoption.
The best thing you can do for your friend is to tell you mother. If your mother knows her mother I would expect you mom will have a conversation with her mom. Pregnancies can=not be hidden for long unless the girl is grossly overweight. If her parents decide on an abortion which is legal up to 27 weeks. The longer they wait the more dangerous for the mother they become.
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