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okay so i saw alot of pictures of people kissing in which the girl kisses the top lip of the guy's, is that what your suppose to do? im never really romantically kissed a guy before so im really unsure. please help, thanks.

There are lotss of ways to kiss. Just do whatever feels best to you. Once you find your comfort zone then you can go from there.

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So when I told my friend that I am bi and that I like her more than a friend. She said that she was fine with it but doesn’t feel the same way because unsure of her sexuality. I knew I had to move on. That was last year.
This year she seems close to me. Like flirting and close. When school started at college she asks me when I have class. I told her I have two English classes on Monday and Wednesday and Friday. She asks me to meet her at the front of the stairs at 2:00pm when the bus drops me off. I start class at 3:00pm. She been doing this lately and I ask her why she is here early because her classes starts at 5:30pm. She said “because I want to spend time with you we haven’t talk” which we do every other weekend with our friends. Then she been try to grab my attention. Like when we are talking just the two of us its fine till one of our friends come by to talk to us she seem to hit me playfully when I make a joke and then playfully argue with me. Last time I push her (light push) cause she hit me and she said “hey why you do that for? I been do nice to you” she crosses her arms and look away from me and I said sorry “you better be” she said and hits me again. When we were walking together she seems to walk close to me side by side. Our hands brush against one another twice. I pulled away but she got closer. Last time she asks me when I work and I said tomorrow. Then at work she text me “when are you off?” I reply soon at 8 why? She didn’t reply till next morning. I ask her “why do you want to know when I work?’ she reply “I am just curious” but she kept bugging me when I be off work and when I have work. I told her she is confusing and she reply “your confusing” I told her she was a stocker and she reply “your point?” when I ask her face to face why she wanted to know when I am off she looked away from me and said “because I was curious.”
She seems flirty and she closes to me. I mean she will lean on me and show body language. But her verbal language is different “when I get married” or “if I have a boy friend” or “I like you, as a friend”. Its just she seem her body is reading “I want you” but her voice is saying “you’re my friend”. last time in front of our friend she said out load “she’s my ducky” (ducky is my nickname.) it sounded like she was claming me.

I like her for 6 years and I ask her before do you like me more than a friend? She shook her head no. I ask her that last year because she got jealous that I met a guy at a party (nothing happen). She said she was jealous but last time I ask her to explain herself she ignore the question but answer “I was being over protective”


What am I to do?
She is confusing me.

F/21/bi

She seems like she doesn't know what she wants and is contemplating whether she wants to be with you or not. I think the best way is to make things crystal clear to her. You should say something like "You know i've like you for a while now, but i'm getting mixed signals from you. I need to know whether you want to be with me or not." If she says something like "I dont know" then let her know that you must move on. You should start dating other people and see what happens from there. Her jealousy may really start to kick in, and she may let you know and show her true feelings. If she doesn't, then its best to keep it on a strictly friends basis with her (preferably w/o the flirting)

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I want to speak to my girlfriend for about 15 minutes per day. Usually i will call her fairly early on in the night about 5pm. We have been going out about 6 months now. The problems only really arise when she is busy and says she will call me back later, usually in ten minutes to half an hour. When she doesnt call me back, i call her again, she will then usually say she is busy doing something else and will once again say that she will call me back in ten minutes to half an hour. Then she doesnt call so i call again, this happens a few times in the night until i get upset she doesnt want to talk to me, and she gets angry that i am calling her so often. Then we have a massive argument where she says im too clingy and i say she doesnt really care about me. We only really get to see each other once a week because she lives quite far away. She says she loves me and i say i love her, but she never really seems to want to talk to me unless she is bored. I'm really struggling for what to do because it is upsetting me a lot but i love her and dont want to break up with her. Any help would be much appreciated. thanks.

If a girl says she will call you back, then let her call you back unless you think its an emergency or something is wrong.
The more you constantly call her, the less she will want to talk and the more further you will be with her.
You two should work out a plan like "The both of you will try your best to talk to each other for 10-15 minutes a day, but if one is to busy to talk, the other will respect that." or something of that nature.
Good luck.

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me and my Bf has like 4 years thogether ,From the first time I did sex I really didn't like it at all but I just did it because off him
But now is extra boring and I really never want to do it ,...he asked me what was going on and I couldn't answer him
It's not that I don't love him anymore ,but I don't want to have sex
I even sometimes cry because I don't want to do it and if I do it and did want to ,...I ussualy cry afterwards in the bathroom

Is this normal ?

I'm not a girl but I do know that you shouldn't be emotionally crying due to sex. It seems like sex is an uncomfortable activity for you. Since you two have been together for 4 years most likely yall are in love. So love can stand the test of time meaning that he should be okay with the fact that it may be best if you stop having sex for a while. Talk to him about it and let him know how you are feeling. Let me know what happens and I hope I helped.

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kk. im going out with a girl who is nice but im beginiing to lose interest in her. and theres another girl who i loved before and every since i went out with the girl my feelings for the other one have just become stronger

so do i let the relationship dye down so she dumps me, or do i tell her the truth

Wow, I've been in the exact same situation before. But instead of doing the smart thing, I stayed with the girl that I really didnt like and continued to fall in love all over again with my ex. This is exactly what you SHOULDNT do. I learned from my mistake and I hope it will help you to.
You really should let the girl your going out with that you think its time that you'll stopped dating because of PERSONAL REASONS DO NOT SAY ITS BECAUSE OF ANOTHER GIRL. That will definitely get you smacked in the face if you tell her about the other girl.

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14 f

Does anyone have good flirting tips? what do boys like? What are some things I could do to show this boy I like him without saying it ?

The main thing that I look for in a girl is CONFIDENCE. You have to have enough confidence to smile at him and just walk up to him and start a little conversation. If he is interested in you then he will try to talk with you also. Don't worry about rejection and just live for the moment. Confidence is key to flirting.

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14/f

OK...so i'll try and make this short...me && this guy named jonathan have liked eachother for about 1 month now. we would talk on myspace and call eachother sometimes. then two days ago we got into a stupid argument that was pointless but, it was VERYY minor. WE GOT OVER IT...so he was suppose to ask me out but, he didn't. and he posted a bulletin on myspace saying that he was taken and loving it. i thought he meant me,,but I found out yesterday he's back with his ex. He didn't even tell me..my best friend did.. and when i found out, i was CRUSHED.. i was in tears and i couldn't believe that i was actually going through this again.[this happened w/ another guy].. and my friend told me that even though he's back with his ex,,he still has feelings for me. AND I'M HIS #1 ON MYSPACE..if that even matters...

so my questions are:

should i still talk to him??!! ..what's the point he has a girlfriend now..right??!!..i'm not even sure if i still like him because it hurt me soo much..should i move on to someone else??!!..what should i do overall..??!!

THNX IN ADVANCE

You should move on to someone else. Because if you continue to like him, he will think that its easy to get you. You seem like you deserve much better than a guy like him.

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I'm 14/f and i used to like a guy in my english class (16/m) since the first day of school. the crush ended around the beginning of march, but now him and his friends think i like him, and now he likes me and won't stop trying to talk to me and saying hi. it's so annoying and embarassing

how can i get him to stop?

Take him to the side and let him know that he is a good friend but nothing more. Don't say it in a rude way but let him know how you feel. And make sure there is no one around because you don't want either of you to get embarrased.

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15/f. when a boy asks you out in person, what are you supposed to say? you can't just say YES. that would be weird. what else can i say?

When I ask girls out, I hope for their response to be yes. I don't won't them to tell me their life time story because all I want is a short answer; yes.

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15/f. ok, so there's this guy who's a senior and lives about 45 min away from me, but he's kinda scared to drive on highways and so doesn't really visit me. we're really close friends and we hooked up on saturday. problem? he and my sister hate each other and my friends don't really like him either. i know my friends wouldn't care if i hooked up with him again or did anything else, but my sister would. she hates him. she started the fight that got them to hate each other in the first place and it's just so ridiculous. after he and i hooked up, she asked me about it and she knew i was lying, so she eventually got the truth out of me: we did. she told my mom and we didn't speak for a full day, the longest we've ever been mad at each other. she really hates him. so what should i do? should i just completely defy her and be "friends with benefits" with him? or should i not let the relationship continue?

Normally friends with benefits don't work out. Because atleast one of the people is going to develop feelings for the other. Your sister is probably concerned about you dating somebody that could turn out to be a jerk. If I were you, I would consider your sister's opinion but at the end of the day your the one that has to make the decision. Life is all about taking chances. Getting into a relationship with him could either be good or bad. But the only way to truely find out is to try it and see it.

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Okay I know I'm being totally old school here but why doesn't my bf open the doors for me and whatnot?

I know I know totally weird for asking that but my mom, aunt, uncle, etc, will get on to me about that if she sees how he kinda let the door shut on me.

Also, I'd like for him to do that as well because I dont know im weird like that

But I dont think its right for me to say

"dude, you are suppose to hold the door for me"

so um whats up?

Most of us have our own ways of doing things. And It seems like your bf doesn't realize that you want him to atleast open the door for you. The only way he is going to know this, is if you tell him. You don't have to worry about being rude because as long as you don't demand him to do it, then things should be fine. You can just say something like "[your bf's name] you know it would be kinda of nice if you opened the door for me every once in a while"

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ok so me and my bf just hookedup and he asked me not to tell anyone what does that mean?and what do i do?

Okay i'm going to tell you my honest opinion (keep in mind that this is from a guy's point of view)
-he doesn't want his friends to find out
-he's embarrased
-he's cheating
-he's shy

Now I KNOW some of them arent what you want to hear but I must be completely honest with you and I just want to let you "in" on how a lot of guys think (but NOT all)

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i'd like people's opinions- do you believe that it's possible for two teenagers to fall in love? i'm 16/f and he's 17/m. this is our relationship in (very small) nutshell:

we talk about everything. we care about each other to the deepest, most loving extent possible. i don't see other guys [friends, random guys] in the same way i used to. neither of us would ever do anything to hurt the other [emotionally & physically, for that matter.] and anytime either of us even suspects something is wrong [which has only happened twice], we bring it up and talk through it. he makes me genuinely happy- the happiest i've ever been in my life. i'm constantly in a state of bliss when i'm with him, no matter what we're doing or what's going on. we've been dating a year and almost seven months. i can honestly see marrying him and spending the rest of my life with him. no words can describe how much i love him.

i'm sure i'm forgetting other things. but anyway- in love? or just a "teenage love"? [in your opinion. of course, my opinion is the former, haha.] thanks in advance (:

I think its definitely a posibility that you guys are in love. But you two are the only ones that can know for sure. And I 100% believe that teen love can be accomplished. I was in love before (and I am a teen). We were together for quite a long time and we had the type of love that it seems like you're describing.

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if your bf of one year physically hurts you..like kicks you in the leg..punches you in stomcach..throws you on the ground..pins you down..grabs you by the jaw..you get the picture..well anyway if that happened to you..and you have been together for a year and nothing like that ever happened..what would you do? would you forgive him? after how long? would you make him get help? i mean..we've all done really dumb stuff before...

17/f
he= 18/m

I am a male myself; and I am telling you that if he did it once, chances are he will do it AGAIN. I know that it is hard to think that your boyfriend that you have been with for quite some time now, would do anything to hurt you,but you MUST accept the fact. So please get out of the relationship before it gets dangerous.
I had a friend that was in a abusive relationship but she never told anybody (including me). But all of the signs were there. She would complain about aches and pains out of no where and how her relaionship was getting a little rocky, etc. I never took the time to realize what was going on until it was to late. One day when they were supposed to be going on a date he shot her 18 times. This isnt a made up story or imagination, this is real life. Shes paralized now but its truely a miracle that she lived. And there isnt a day that goes by that I dont blame myself for what happened to her. I could have told her what Im telling you; and that is, to GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP.
I hope I helped but if not just leave me a message.

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Okay, my boyfriend and I have been going out since October, and have spent the whole summer of 2006 with this little crush on each other thing. He's liked me for a whole year before that summer, too. Basically, after he asked me out we've spent so much time together. I can't imagine not being with him, and neither can my friends. Everyone expects us to be the couple that will never break up, high school sweethearts, etc.

Lately, though, I've been getting bored from being in a relationship so long. I've started noticing all the little things he does that bugs me, and it really irritates me how he gets upset when I hang out with or talk about another guy.

I don't know. I feel like I want to take a break or dump him or something but I don't know what to do or how to do it, and I'm afraid that in the end I'll regret everything.

If we always thought about whether we would regret the decisions we made, before we made them. We would accomplish nothing in life. Sometimes we just have to the things we think we should, without worrying about it. Take a chance and see what happens. You may like the end results, but if you don't; just look at it as a learning lesson.

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19F - he's 24 - there is this guy that works at a company that my company deals with... i speak to him regularly for work stuff... at the christmas party we went out clubbing and made out... i REALLY like this guy, like seriously, as in get butterflies in my tummy when i hear his voice. when we were out he said i'm too good for him. we have spoken through work many times since then but havn't mentioned that night. i really wanna ask him out or something but i dont know if he likes me and i dont wanna make things awkward at work. what do i do? help!

Take a chance and ask him out.
Don't worry what his response may be or what he's thinking about you.
Live for the moment.
Because for all you know, he could have the same thoughts goin through his mind "Does she like me?", "Am I her type?", etc.
But one of you must step outside your comfort and make a move. Otherwise you'll just be stuck on liking him.
So I say GO FOR IT and see what happens from there.
Good luck. If you need any more advice feel free to send me a message.

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ok, how do you like a girl you show her affection for you? and no, not sex thankyou. 15/f

-flirt
-kiss
-let him know that your thinking about them.
So definitely treat them better than the rest of the guys.

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guys wat do you like in a girl? like wat attracts you to a girl?


thx

I want a girl who...

-Beauty inside and out
-Keeps her self up
-Easy to talk to
-Fun to hang out with
-Doesn't act clingy
-Can be patient
-Has book smarts & common sense
-Won't get made if sometimes I would rather play video games than talk to her on the phone
-Doesn't put a lot of pressure on me

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Since you were the guy that answered my question before, about whether i should move on from my boyfriend or not i thought i'd ask you just another one. Well i went on my ex boyfriends myspace and he is already telling this girl he thinks shes amazeing and that he didnt talk to me no more wich he did. so then i totally called him up crying my eyes out and he lied about it and hung up on me. Even after all of this i still want to be with him. i dont know why. I feel like killing myself. What should i do?

You have the proof to show that he is interested in other girls so now you have to believe. If he is denying the fact that he talks to you he isnt worth your time. Yall can still be friends but I dont recommend having something more.
And most guys definitely dont like it when girls cry over them. Its makes you look very clingy and thats a big turn off. If you really want him; show him that you dont "need" him but, let him know you "want" him. DONT play hard to get because that also can be a turn off but just let him know whats up. If he is really worth it he'll come back but if not thats your hint to move on.

Please dont get in the mind set of "if i dont have him then my life isnt worth" NEVER threaten your life over ANYTHING(including guys). NOTHING is worth giving your life up for. You have a lot to live for.

edit: You have NO reason to apologize to me. I'm here to GIVE ADVICE to anyone in need. And that day you were the person who needed some advice. I'm glad that you choose to write to me. Feel free to write me back any time.

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well, i was with my boyfriend for 9 months. He is my first love. But we recently broke up. were still talking and stuff. We broke up because i lied before, and he has this thing with flirting with every girl and thinking hes always right. Well the reason i lied was because i was afraid to loose him, but then i did loose him so i said i wouldnt lie to him again. But he just doesnt seem to care. Like one minute he'll tell me he loves me and wants to be with me still. Then the next hes all i dont know if i want to be with you again. And he like is out partying with all these girls. And my sister keeps telling me hes playing me. But i could never see him doing that. And people are always telling me he messed around with alot of girls. I love him so much, But it hurts me to feel like he doesnt care, and hes out with all these girls. What should i do? Should i move on, Or keep trying.

I am a guy and I have seen this happen so many times. When I guy tells you he doesn't know if he wants to be with you that means he doesn't want to be with you. It doesn't matter if he sometimes tell you that he loves you. All it takes is for him to tell you that he doesn't want to be with you once and his actions will follow. If he is out partying with other girls then he doesn't care that much about your feelings. The best thing to do is move on. You seem like a nice girl and I think you deserve much better.

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