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Sex is getting boring !!
me and my Bf has like 4 years thogether ,From the first time I did sex I really didn't like it at all but I just did it because off him
But now is extra boring and I really never want to do it ,...he asked me what was going on and I couldn't answer him
It's not that I don't love him anymore ,but I don't want to have sex
I even sometimes cry because I don't want to do it and if I do it and did want to ,...I ussualy cry afterwards in the bathroom
Is this normal ?
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Feelings are normal. They tell you what is going on with your body and mind and spirit. These feelings are telling you that a lot is wrong with something in your life right now and you need to change it. Feelings are your friends, so listen to them. Until you listen to yourself, you will feel powerless and stuck. Sex is not boring. You may just be bored with having sex with someone you are not excited to be with. When you first started having sex, you were not ready to do it physically and emotionally, so you had to shut down emotionally to get through the experience physically...which made it more unenjoyable. This is not a relationship, it is a liability and you have been playing the victim role and going along with someone who has hijacked your will. Get it back. Take it back now. Don't ask permission, just say to him, but first to yourself, "No more." This is your life and your body. Never have sex with someone unless you really dig the prospect of both the act and the person. Don't cheat yourself out of real joy, by settling for this poor excuse of a relationship. You have wasted enough tears on this, so I predict that when you really break it off and begin living your life, you will not cry over the loss...you will be gaining so much joy when you take your will back. Do it now.
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This dosen't make you not normal. however old you may be you might not be emotionaly ready for Sex just yet. and you might need to take a break from your boy friend. it might just be that your not attrachtd to him in that way. talk to him about it and see what you can try to make it more exciting or just ask your swlf if you are really emotionaly ready for sex just yet.
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I'm not a girl but I do know that you shouldn't be emotionally crying due to sex. It seems like sex is an uncomfortable activity for you. Since you two have been together for 4 years most likely yall are in love. So love can stand the test of time meaning that he should be okay with the fact that it may be best if you stop having sex for a while. Talk to him about it and let him know how you are feeling. Let me know what happens and I hope I helped.
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Hiya Darl,
This is normal, once you have sex a lot of times it can get boring for you whaat you need to do is try out lots of different sex moves. This will get you and your boyfriend excited and it will also bring a lot of sexual pleasures. try out new positions try things like you on top then him on top, blowjobs, handjobs, you know your boyfriend 'eating' you or playing with your breasts something new.
Mandy
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First off (as the person before said) you should never be pressured into sex. Sex may not be boring for you, you may have a little libido and that is why you do not find yourself wanting to have sex. It also may be that you are just not comfortable doing it with the person you are having that relationship with. Sometimes people that are not comfortable with sex at all have had a tramatizing experience sexual with someone. I am not saying that these are your problems, I am just listing different reasons why some people do not want to have sex. I definetly think that if you are crying because you do not want to have sex or even after you have sex; then you must stop until you understand why you have those feelings. I hope I have helped. Good luck! :)
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it's because you're being pressured into something you don't want to do. like....a test. if you didn't study for it, you're not ready and you freak out.
maybe you're just too young, but you shouldn't have to do it just because HE wants to. it's your life, you tell him straight up.
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