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okay me and my ex were together a while and we had sex and i thought /think im pregnant okay and when i first told him he didnt want nothing to do with me or the baby and then the more we talked aboutit the more he started to want to be there and everything! But bow i dont know what to do because we were talking about getting back together and being a family and i had sex with him again when he said that he wanted me back cause he missed me and wanted me to be with him
but now..... he is saying he is having second thoughts and i dont kno if its cause hes scared about the baby or if he is just playing games with me!
what should i do or how should i talk to him about this without him getting mad at me for it? (link)
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well i think personally that getting back togehter would be ideal. this same situation happened with me and we got back together however if he is acting liek this is might just be stress or scared of the new responsibilities he'll have to deal with when the baby comes. calmly ask him "do you wanna work out theproblems so you dont have second thoughts?" or soemthign iek that dont jump down his throat about it. i dont think he is palying games with you but then again i could be wrong. talk to the ppl who live closest to you and know him so they can give you better judgment calls. good luck with everythign you'll be fine. be strong and message me whevever you need help.
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okay so i dated this guy for about 7 months.
and we broke up 2 months ago.
and i am not over him..at all!
we still talk at least once a week.
and i have tried everything to get over him, i have tired not talking to him. moving on. everything!
nothing works.
i am getting really sick of it.
even my friends have noticed that it is changing me.
music is not helping me anymore.
it just makes me sadder.
when me and him do talk all he does is bring up are memories. and how much fun it was. and i dont want to stop talking to him agian. cause when i do it makes me feel so much better.
i really dont know what to do.
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well i mean i dated a guy for a year and it took me ahwil eot get over him. what you have to realize is that there are better fish in the sea. believe me. and that seeign someoen else is not so bad. also talk to him about the talkign about old memories, thats water under the bridge now and its tiem for himand you ot move on. But remeber there still might be that chance you can get back together. Focus on other things work school friends. do stuff to amke you happy. and who knows you might meet the right guy when u least expect it cause hun there is life after this guy.
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ok everyone i want your view on something...
lets say hypothetically that a guy and a girl like each otherthey have all the aspects of a relationship without the titlenow lets also say hypothetically that the girl decides she wants to kiss someone else without repercussionsBUT the boy cant do the same because the girl says he cant(there will be repercussions)what are your views on that?is it fair? not fair (link)
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come on. really? it isn't fair. if he can't,you can't so ether deal with it or end your not relationship. it isnt fair to him that he cant kiss while you can. make the relationship equal.
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I've never had sex but I've fooled around a lot. I was scared I was pregnant a few weeks ago because I was 3 weeks late. I never got my period for the month of December (Prior to that it came around Nov. 30 and I am usually late). I feel like I should be getting my period now but it doesn't even feel like I'm pmsing. Its almost February and that would mean I didn't get my period in January either?
I took a pregnancy test around Jan. 17 or 18. I took 2 and they were both negative.
Is there any chance I could be pregnant?
Sorry if that didn't make sense. I'm just stressing a little bit.
Thank you. (link)
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ok first of all use your brain here. just because you miss your period dosen't mean your preganant many ppl can go months with out their period due to stress. it dosnet always mean your preganat so yeah and also your a virgin. chances are your not at all and your just scaring yourself. sure you've fooled around but semen dies when its air born and you cant get pregnant from oral sex. the tests also came back negative so just count your blessing cause your not preganant there is no way.
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Alright, tonight my girlfriend and I had sex, not the first time, and I wiped any semen I had still on me off of myself and my hands, and soon after I was fingering her again, is there any chance of pregnancy, since there was no semen on my hands, at least not any liquid semen? (link)
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ok now you have to have some common sense here. there is about .1% chance of her getting pregnant because semen canot last long in the air and dies and espessially when you whip it off so yeah there is not much of a chance.
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I am 17 almost 18 and me and my fiancee' have been trying to get pregnant for almost a year and we have tried everything we had sex everyday that i was ovulating and i still havent got pregnant. Can anyone give us any advice on how to get pregnant or why im not getting pregnant? (link)
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it sometimes takes a long time for someone to get pregnant depending on who they are. another thing is you or your partner might not be albe to carry a child or have one...it could be a medical thing so i think you and your fiance should go to a clinic to see whats going on.
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i was just wondering, how long does it usually take before couples talk about sex? do they even talk about sex? cause i've been dating a guy for almost 4 months...hes such a great guy...the farthest we've gone is making out...but we havent had a "sex talk" yet...and how do you bring it up? i don't really feel comfortable talking about it but i like him so much and i feel so comfortable doing anything but that talk with him....any advice? (link)
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well i would have to say if you aren't confortable with it yet then wait cause you need to feel confortable in order for this type of this thing to happen. if you dont want to wait just ask him what he thinks when it comes to sexual activities.
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17/f
I don't know where I screwed up. Everyone hates me, I have been assaulted at two school events so far this year. I have two friends, I did have three but one no longer wants to be associated with me (she doesn't want to be hated too). I don't think I will be attending my graduation ceremony, everyone takes limos to, because I don't have enough friends to have a limo and I don't want to go alone.
This is pathetic. The police and school are finally involved because I have been assaulted and harassed on numerous occasions over several years. So now even more people hate me because are possibly facing charges and expulsion.
All I have done is mind my own business. I am an attractive, athletic, straight A student. I have accepted that this is how things are going to be.. but how do I prevent next year (university) from being like this? I am outgoing, friendly, often the 'life of the party' .. I love to dance, I'm not afraid to approach a cute guy ... the only reason I have been given as to why everyone hates me is because '[I] am an easy whore who sleeps around with everyone' .. I'm a virgin. Not because I don't have guys after me, I do, I just haven't gotten very close with any of them.
I apologize, much of the information I have given is entirely irrelevant. Thanks for your insight. (link)
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this one is a tough one. i know it may seem like this is how its going to be but things can change if you do something to show how great you are. try getting into clubs that other classmates of yours are in therefore you would have more to connect with them on. try to interact more in class and make new friends one at a time. show them how great you are and if somebody says something to you just ignore them don't even respond or let them bother you cause your better than that. show them your the bigger person.
when your in college its like starting off new. do things differently than you did in high school and interact more with your classmates. if your rooming with people try to becoem good friends with them first and then span off and make other friends. get involved as well do a club or something to meet others. you'll be fine i promise just be yourself. you seem like a great person already and you don't have to change a thing.
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okay i got one of them dumb texts that says what do you want from me, hug kiss, blah blah blah, well i sent one to my boyfriend and it had lap dance, and he was joking arouund when he said he wanted one but i told him id do it anyway, only problem is im not sure exactly how to give him one.
i know a couple little things, like the i can touch him but he cant touch me and a couple little things liek that but im not sure wat else to do
any help is appreciated.
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well there isn't any easy was to tell you how to give him a lap dance. its something that someone needs to show you. however heres some advice i can give you:
try to have some smooth music on (like the type you would hear in a pornographic movie) and try to move your body to the music. its almost would seem like humping his croch area but not quiet.
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Male, mid 20's.
I don't need advice on how to get my ex to be my friend again, I've already asked and researched and everything. I'm ready to be friends again.
I just don't know how to get her to talk to me so I can do all that. I mean, is there like a perfect email/blog comment/phone call that will make her actually take notice enough to let me say what I have to say? (link)
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well i would say call her and just start up an old conversation ask what shes been up too recently. if she dosen't seem to excited that you are contactin gher then thats a sign that the friednship cannot bloom however if she dose take interest try to tell her all thoese things you looked up...but do it gradually over the span of the rest of the conversations, too much information at one time might bother her.
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i hope this isnt too long. anyway me and this guy usually say dirty things to each other online so we got so comfortable saying thngs that we planned to actually do things together. that day he said it would feel right to do it when he gets a new gf. i was completely fine with it because i kind of feel the same way.
b4 he said that we shouldnt do things, i always noticed him cheking me out and just standing there like looking at me and i didnt knowif he actually liked me back but he is actually really cute and im starting to like him now. the things is after that day i texted him once and he didnt respond and i wrote one comment on his myspace and he never said anything. we would talk everyday and its been 3 days since we've talked.
people know its not like him to do that bc he responds to everything and think hes really nice but i dont no if he feels uncomfortable or thinks its awkard talking to me but it wanna put that in the past and get him to like me more and talk to me again. plz tell me whats best to do. thx in advance!!! (link)
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well you could try to give it one more day and if he still dosen't respond call him. usally texting and myspace aren't really good ways to contact someone in this situation. if u dont get a hold of him the first time don't call back amillion times wait it out and then call back in an hour or so. if he picks up calmly tell him how you feel and your side of all this then try to fix the problem. if it can't be fixed then you are going to have to try and move on or just give him a little more time to think about it.
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how can i turn on and tease this boy i like?
i want him to reallly want me.
tips please! thanks! (link)
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well there are many ways you could go about this. it all depends on the boy and the situation. you can start by being really suductive towards him start to be flirty but don't put yourself completly out there because you don't want to come off as too desperate. then if things progress start to maybe talk dirty with him. whisper things in his ear in a very suductive voice things should progress from there.
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ok so i think itd e fun to role play with my boyfriend but im not sure how to go about it.
i know you can do nurse-patient and cop-criminal. but how would i go about doing this? or if you have any other ideas on what we could do... (link)
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well for starters if your nercouse or just don't know how to bring up the aspect of role playing just tell him about it. Guy like the sort of thing when they can dominate over you in a role play or just step into another fantasy. if you want more ideas ask him what he fantasies about and that could give you new things to try and role play with.
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Ok, so the guy i mentioned before, Jim, and i have been getting closer and closer. We talk all the time online, and he calls me, and we text each other all night. I told my best friend that i like him and she got mad at me for a few days, but got over it. About jen, shes still his bff, but shes been getting so jealous about me and jim.
he tells her about us, and shes always like, "Shes desperate, Dont hang out with her" and stuff. Well, i was too afraid to tell jim i like him because he said that he doesnt want a girlfriend until he can drive, i mean its 2 years! so now i have new troubles. What do i do about jen? and how can i get jim wanting a girlfriend?
Sorry its so long, and thanks in advance for listening! (link)
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Well first of all i think Jenn is being a (excuse my french) a big bit*h i mean i seriously get the vibe that she may like him more then just a friend. she shouldn't be sayign that about you. ans you shoudl tell Jim how you feel and if he stil feels that he shoudl wait then tell him you will too. if you liek him as much as you say you'll wait too. tell me how it goes and jusat tell jenn to back off or talk to jim about it.
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Diabetes runs in my family and I want to be extra careful not to get it. What are some precautions I can take? thanks so much (link)
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well thats also runs in my family as well. i watch what i eat maninly and exercise to make sure my body is at its best. lay off the suger and watch what yo eat only eat healthy foods manly with the once-in-a-while treat.
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So theres this guy whos kinda my friend. He likes me and i dont like him. I'm sorry but i could never like him. Hes just not doing it for me. Hes sweet, but hes not friends with my friends, and hes like my little brother. Hes going to ask me out. What do i do?
Also, my close girlfriend has a boyfriend who told me he loved me the day after he asked my friend out! i said i didnt like him but he said that he wouldnt give up on me. Its so weird because he didnt break up with his gf! i dont know whether to tell my friend or not.
What should i do about both guys?? (link)
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Well first of all i went throguh the same problem with the firth thing. i had a friend and i only saw him as a friend..i got scared when he asked me out...but insteed of sayign no..i said yes. and it was the best relationship by far. we're still together even now. so dont knock till you try it ok? give him a try....you never know soemthign unless you try.
With your secodn preoblem you shoudln't worry about him but you should tell your riend it wouldn't be right if you didn't tell your friend she woudl probley be even more upet if you didnt tell her. so tell her ok?
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there is this guy and i think that he is hot and people told me that he thinks i am too so he started to text me...i have never really talked to him but some of my friends are friends with him and everyone says that he is really nice. i think we are gunna start to hang out but i have never made out with anyone and i dont want it to be weird. i want to act like myself but i think its gunna be weird beacuse we have never really talked. how can i act like myself? and what is gunna happen if he wants to kiss..im not gunna know what to do! im not sure if he even likes sme but i think that he does? (link)
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Well you shoudl simply talk to him and see if he truly lieks you. then worry about makign out. you shoudl always ake it slow though cause you do not want to coem off as that kinda girl
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yeah i kno this prolyl is a stupid question
nyways
well my guy friends they most of them take me as a "sister"
is that better than being a friend?
closer?? (link)
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Well in some ways it is better then being a friend. but in others it can be a problem. if you want ot becoem more then friends then it will be difficult cause your relationship is liek a sister. so yes soemtimes it is good but others bad. that is for you to diside.
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me and my Bf has like 4 years thogether ,From the first time I did sex I really didn't like it at all but I just did it because off him
But now is extra boring and I really never want to do it ,...he asked me what was going on and I couldn't answer him
It's not that I don't love him anymore ,but I don't want to have sex
I even sometimes cry because I don't want to do it and if I do it and did want to ,...I ussualy cry afterwards in the bathroom
Is this normal ?
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This dosen't make you not normal. however old you may be you might not be emotionaly ready for Sex just yet. and you might need to take a break from your boy friend. it might just be that your not attrachtd to him in that way. talk to him about it and see what you can try to make it more exciting or just ask your swlf if you are really emotionaly ready for sex just yet.
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every night my EX IMs me and talks about us having sex and what we would do if we were alone and how great our sex was.. the thing is he has a gf now.. would that in anyway be cheating? its not like were really doing anything were just talking about doing shit.. (link)
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well it isn't fully cheating. but it isn't right ether. he shouldn't be saying thaat stuff and you shouldn't be lettign him. if he has a grilfriend then he should stop sayign all that stuff. He isn't faithful enough..and this coudl lead to potential cheatings so therefore youneed to tell him to stop or it is goign to turn into him cheating on her.
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