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why can i not get over him
okay so i dated this guy for about 7 months.
and we broke up 2 months ago.
and i am not over him..at all!
we still talk at least once a week.
and i have tried everything to get over him, i have tired not talking to him. moving on. everything!
nothing works.
i am getting really sick of it.
even my friends have noticed that it is changing me.
music is not helping me anymore.
it just makes me sadder.
when me and him do talk all he does is bring up are memories. and how much fun it was. and i dont want to stop talking to him agian. cause when i do it makes me feel so much better.
i really dont know what to do.
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it's understandable that you can't get over him, and i don't want to sound negative but it may take quite a long time for you to get over him - especially if you are speaking to him frequently. this may sound very "old fashioned" and such a cliche - but only time will ease the pain. and trust me, you are not the first to feel like this and you certainly won't be the last. it takes different people a different amount of time to get over someone and it's completely natural. what you have to do is try and move on with your life - focus on other things. set goals for yourself...take out a new hobby..anything that will stop you from thinking about him! some people may say finding someone new will help you get over him, but i would strongly advise against that as it isn't healing the pain it's just covering it for a while longer. it's good to think, and chat about the memories you had together, but you can't focus on the past too much. i am not saying do not speak to him at all, but try not to speak to him as much...as it will not help at all!
hope i helped you
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well i mean i dated a guy for a year and it took me ahwil eot get over him. what you have to realize is that there are better fish in the sea. believe me. and that seeign someoen else is not so bad. also talk to him about the talkign about old memories, thats water under the bridge now and its tiem for himand you ot move on. But remeber there still might be that chance you can get back together. Focus on other things work school friends. do stuff to amke you happy. and who knows you might meet the right guy when u least expect it cause hun there is life after this guy.
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I was with a guy for 9 months and when we broke up, it took me close to a year to get over him. I even 'moved on' and those same feelings still remained. It does get easier, when you cut off all communication. But it still is hard. You need time away from him, seriously. Just don't talk to him. I'm not going to say it will be better soon because it may not. But IT WILL BE BETTER ONE DAY. Just ride out the path. And don't make it harder on yourself.
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Okay, seriously and honestly, you HAVE to stop talking to him. It's "making you feel better" because it's like a drug and you are getting your fix, but the addiction is still there and will keep coming back. You will not get over him if you do not stop talking to him, period. Also, he's wrong to bring up memories of you two if he has no interest in starting a relationship again. He's leading you on and crushing you at the same time. I've gone through this, so many times. Trust me, the only medicine is time. Time and good friends. If you cut off communication (and of course you can tell him why you need to stop) and get involved with school or friends, you will get over all this. Do not backslide and answer the phone or texts from him. The only way to move forward is to really, truly let go of the past.
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