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I just don’t know what to do
So when I told my friend that I am bi and that I like her more than a friend. She said that she was fine with it but doesn’t feel the same way because unsure of her sexuality. I knew I had to move on. That was last year.
This year she seems close to me. Like flirting and close. When school started at college she asks me when I have class. I told her I have two English classes on Monday and Wednesday and Friday. She asks me to meet her at the front of the stairs at 2:00pm when the bus drops me off. I start class at 3:00pm. She been doing this lately and I ask her why she is here early because her classes starts at 5:30pm. She said “because I want to spend time with you we haven’t talk” which we do every other weekend with our friends. Then she been try to grab my attention. Like when we are talking just the two of us its fine till one of our friends come by to talk to us she seem to hit me playfully when I make a joke and then playfully argue with me. Last time I push her (light push) cause she hit me and she said “hey why you do that for? I been do nice to you” she crosses her arms and look away from me and I said sorry “you better be” she said and hits me again. When we were walking together she seems to walk close to me side by side. Our hands brush against one another twice. I pulled away but she got closer. Last time she asks me when I work and I said tomorrow. Then at work she text me “when are you off?” I reply soon at 8 why? She didn’t reply till next morning. I ask her “why do you want to know when I work?’ she reply “I am just curious” but she kept bugging me when I be off work and when I have work. I told her she is confusing and she reply “your confusing” I told her she was a stocker and she reply “your point?” when I ask her face to face why she wanted to know when I am off she looked away from me and said “because I was curious.”
She seems flirty and she closes to me. I mean she will lean on me and show body language. But her verbal language is different “when I get married” or “if I have a boy friend” or “I like you, as a friend”. Its just she seem her body is reading “I want you” but her voice is saying “you’re my friend”. last time in front of our friend she said out load “she’s my ducky” (ducky is my nickname.) it sounded like she was claming me.
I like her for 6 years and I ask her before do you like me more than a friend? She shook her head no. I ask her that last year because she got jealous that I met a guy at a party (nothing happen). She said she was jealous but last time I ask her to explain herself she ignore the question but answer “I was being over protective”
What am I to do?
She is confusing me.
F/21/bi
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I think she really does have feelings for you.
She's letting her jealously get the best of her, she always wants to be around you. I think she is still confused whether if she is in denial of her own sexuality. I say you just go to her and really ask her how she is truly feeling.
Youre a grown woman and do not have time for little girl games.
Either she is falling for you or not. Ask her straight up, youre out with your sexuality why cant she be??
Since you already told er how you had felt a year ago.
She needs to stop acting like she doesnt connect with you.
I know she is, since i read about everything you wrote and its clear that she reall does like you.
How about this, since she always want to meet up with you everyday. How about texting her and tell her to meet you somehwere where nobody is there.
This time instead of her getting close to you, get close to her.
Just let her know THAT YOU REALLY ARE FEELING HER, so she needs to show the same attraction.
GO FOR IT, let her no your grown and about the business in a relationship and since yall was friends she needs to be a friend and express her emotions towards you right then and there!
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She seems like she doesn't know what she wants and is contemplating whether she wants to be with you or not. I think the best way is to make things crystal clear to her. You should say something like "You know i've like you for a while now, but i'm getting mixed signals from you. I need to know whether you want to be with me or not." If she says something like "I dont know" then let her know that you must move on. You should start dating other people and see what happens from there. Her jealousy may really start to kick in, and she may let you know and show her true feelings. If she doesn't, then its best to keep it on a strictly friends basis with her (preferably w/o the flirting)
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You are confusing me.
You've asked very similar questions before. I'm certian of it. So, I'm going to give you the same advice I've given you before, only more distilled and to the point.
She is playing you. Stop leting her.
You have handed her ultimate power over your feelings and interactions with others. You have accepted behavoir from her that is completely unacceptable. You have put your romantic life on hold for someone who lies and manipulates you.
Long before you ever admited your feelings to her, she had total power over you. You are kiding yourself if you don't think she knows it, and enjoys it. All of her behavoir points to someone who delights in thier control over others.
Despite your confession and request for moving forward, she has managed to maintain the status quo. The status quo where you blindly worship here and she occasionally strings you along to make sure you don't stop worshipping her.
If you can't put a stop to this, you deserve just what you are getting.
Seriously, you need accept that a relationship with her is NEVER going to happen. Even if it were possible that she turned around tomorrow and said "Yes, I want you! Be with me." it wouldn't work. There is too much pain, too many lies and too much manipulation and game-playing for you two to ever make a healthy go of it.
You are in the exact same place with her as you were when you were 14! Move on. Ignore her attempts to regain your attention.
Her sexuality is moot, it doesn't matter. Stop looking for 'signs'. Look at the facts. The facts are that she has treated you like crap, for years, and strung you along. She might not mean to be so cruel, but regardless, there is no rational reason to believe she will stop doing so.
It's on you. Stop this.
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Well to me it seems like your friend is in denial. Sometimes actions speak louder than words. The fact theat the body language seems flirty and wanting is a very strong hint. She might be saying she doesn't like you because she might not be all that ready to admit it to you. Close friends can often develope feelings for one another in a more than 'friendly' way, this is normal. She might just need a little bit of time to figure it out. The fact that she got jealous is interesting because jealousy is one of our main drives and believe me, when someone is jealous, it generally means something.
Invite her over one night, when you two are alone and having a good time, just much around playfully, if the night progresses into a romance then there you go, there's your answer, just fill the night with opportunities for her to kiss you, if she does, then that's your answer, if she doesn't then maybe she's too shy, but in my OPINION I think she has a thing for you.
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