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I'm Erin and I am 18 years old, I turn 19 in May. In the past year, I've moved over eleven times, I have experienced all of the lows life has to offer, and I have given my advice to many people I have come accross. I helped them in the past, so why can't I help you? advice
So, about..6 or 5 months ago i got a perm to make my hair curly. I didn't expect it to be like, SUPER curly! I hated it. I still do. It's not as curly as before but it's still pretty big and puffy. I want to get rid of this thing!! Anyone know a quicker way?!
I read online cutting your hair helps? I had one of my layers cut so now i only have two, and my hairs kinda short. Like to my shoulder, when i straighten it that is. Straightening ALL of my hair is a pain..ugh. I just don't have the patience to do it in the mornings, it takes hours! >.
Go to the hair dresser. You can ask them to do a hair chemical straightening. Just make sure you put leave-in conditioners in your hair all the time to keep it healthy. Look after it, get treatments frequently to keep your hair in good condition but the hair dresser SHOULD be able to straighten your hair, kind of like an opposite perm
ok this is kinda a weird question, but in some of the questions on here, people talked about "plan b". what is plan b?
Plan B is a back up plan for the first plan.
If the first plan doesn't work, then you go to the second plan, Plan B is just another name.
No, really.. I really really love you! MWAZ! XOXOX
I'm flattered.
ok im a 16/f. i first had sex right when i turned 15. im currently not sexually active but i probably will be soon. i dont think that i have ever had an orgasm and i dont know if my cherry has ever been popped. when i first had sex i didnt bleed and i have bled twice from getting fingered but it lasted about two days, and it was after i started having sex. my now boyfriend thinks it is weird that i dont and thinks he is doing something wrong. it feels great when i get fingered but i just cant seem to "get off". any help? don't tell me to google it. thanks guys.
You said you've had sex before so YES your cherry has been popped. You don't always bleed when you have sex for the first time. Sometimes you do bleed after such events after sex. Your boyfriend isn't doing anything wrong, some girls find it hard to climax, for many of them, penetration just doesn't quite cut it, tell your boyfriend that he needs to give your clitoris some action, it's sensitive and it should help bring on an orgasm.
I don't even know what I am asking, I just needed to be able to turn somewhere and speak my mind.
I've been having the hardest time trying to fine something that makes me happy. I've cried myself to sleep for the past two weeks. I have thought about killing myself. I hate school, and I used to love it. Dance, the one thing I used to find comfort in, is the last thing I want to do. My parents tell me all of our financial problems, and they don't get along anymore. Every day I go to school, I put an act on and pretend everything is okay. In fact, I am so good at that that I can't even be normal. None of my friends know that I'm so upset. Nobody knows. I am seriously making myself sick. People tell me all their trivial problems and say things like "MY LIFE SUCKS" or "I'VE HAD A TERRIBLE DAY!" when they have NO idea. And I would like more than anything to scream at the top of my lungs that I am mentally sick. I don't know what I should do. I'm seriously a mess and nobody knows.
If you read this, thanks. And sorry that it didn't have a purpose, I just needed to say something.
Confessing that you've noticed you have a problem is the first step and it's a good one.
I, personally think you should tell your parents that you don't need to hear about their financial problems anymore, they shouldn't be telling you these things to begin with. It's hard telling them that you don't want to hear about it though. Try sitting them down in a relaxed environment and explain to them how it's making you feel.
You should try to confide in someone, even if it's one of us, at least it's someone and you're letting it come out.
You could also try talking to a specialist, or even your local GP, they're very patient and understanding, maybe you might need some medication to get through the hard time your trying to deal with.
Try putting yourself in a relaxed environment, like a day spa or even take a day out, just take a day away from the stress and problems.
I, too suffer from depression and I'm on medication for it, I thought I couldn't feel happy again, but with time and patience, I'm alright now, and I'm helping people, well, trying to, so you never know what can happen.
Try going for runs, sometimes running or walking can stimulate the mind and generally make you feel better, and hey, if you feel like screaming, go somewhere were there aren't that much people and go for it, let it all out if you want to but the most important thing is, just don't give up.
i was wondering if anyone knew any good cute/love songs.
But i also want something I can use on myspace.
I'll tkae any ideas or reccomendations.
thanks :)
I listen to a lot of these sorts of songs so I might be able to help you out.
Gorecki - Lamb
Sway - Bic Runga
Colourblind - Counting crows
This years love - David gray
hear you Me- Jimmy Eat World
Boats and Birds - Gregory and the Hawk
These are just a few that I can think of just off the top of my head
Hope you like them.
I read yoru advice and well, what if it is all through out the period, not only at the begining or at the end.
You're still normal. It's probably just old blood that didn't come out during your old cycle. Blood turns brown when it comes in contact with air, it's old blood. It should be redder the next time you get your period.
If it isn't, ask your local GP about it if you are still concerned, they will give you a more detailed description about the situation, but for now, just relax.
I saw a question you answered about like, acne and dry skin, and you told them about a face mask of honey and asprin. That seemed like a really good idea, but, I'm realllyyy allergic to asprin. If I were to put it on my skin with the honey, do you think it could cause an allergic reaction? Thanks!
Yes, It will give you an allergic reaction so I advise not to use it if you are allergic to aspirin. You can use the honey by itself because it still fights the same deseases that cause pimples. You could also try mixing a small amount of eye drops into the mixture (for red/sore eyes) if you have them and aren't allregic to them because they also help soothe the red/inflamed skin. The honey will help with the bacteria and infaction but it won't stop the swelling of the pimples, you need an anti inflammatory for that.
If you're unsure, ask a pharmacist about it, or a doctor, they can prescribe you with medications that help a lot as well.
Hope that heloped
Ok, so, last night I finished the last pill of my first month on Yaz. Well, I've been having breast pain. They've been really sore. [I know it can't be because of my period, because it's never dont that before, and it wasn't even close to time for me to start] At first I thought it was because of the pill or something, but, they were sore at the beginning of last month, before I was even on the pill. Should I see a doctor? I'm 15, if that might make a difference for anything. Do you think they might be getting ready to like, grow or anything? Thanks!
Usually it is normal for a girl's breasts to get tender of sore when they're in puberty, it's also normal for them to be sore when they are on the pill but I would go to the doctor just in case, you never know and it's better to be safe than sorry.
i have really dry skin but i have a lot of acne.
like, all over my forehead
and some on my chin
i am really self conscious so i really would like some advice on this.
any of the stuff i have tried, dries me out so much my skin starts to peel, and doesn't reduce my acne at all.
what can i use then?
clinique, clean & clear, etc.
they all have that same acne medication, that dries me out.
please help. :/
Thre are a few things you can use thatwont dry out your skin and still help fight the acne.
You need to find a face wash that is PH balanced, a PH balanced was won't dry out your skin but it will still clean it, just ask your pharmacy to help you out.
You can slso use Clean & Clear oil free skin balancing moisturiser, this keeps your skin moisturised and helps clear your skin at the same time.
You could also try going to a doctor for another approach, talk to him/her about the problem and tell him/her how it's affecting you. They could give you a highly medication cream to use or they could put you on some medication that will help.
You could also try a home remedy that I've tried. Once a week make a mask out of aspirin and honey. You need to get pure honey, one that has no added anything. Get about 6 aspirin tablets and crush then up finely, add them to the honey to make a paste, after about 30 minutes, take it off gently with warm water, the granules should lightly exfoliate your skin.
Hope that helped.
For the past few months I've eaten very poorly and drank one too many sodas. Does anyone know any fasts or bodily cleansing things I could eat for a few days to repair my body before getting right back on track?
You can try drinking lots of water 6 - 10 glasses a day, it's a good way to flush out the system and your kidneys will thank you for it.
You could also try eating lots of fruit, apples are very good because they fill you up.
You can also make a soup filled with celery, carrot, tomatoes and green peppers, I know it's a gross thought but it helps with the detoxing because they are all low calorie foods which will also help flush your system.
You can also try drinking a warm glass of water with lemon juice first thing in the morning, it helps speed up your metabolism.
Hope this helped.
so i'm saving up for a $350 camera but i'm totaly broke...i'm trying to save up but i don't know where i'm gonna get that money...i babysit but not enough, and it's hard because you cant choose when to babysit, you baby sit when the parents ask you to. and i'm only 14 so i'm not old enough for a job....any ideas to make money quick? or at all???
You cuold always try doing chores around the house for your parents, ask them that if you do the washing, dishes, vacuum the house if they'll start up a pocket money plan for you, that should help you get a little bit of money on the side of your baby sitting career.
You could also look around your room and find stuff you no longer want or need and sell it. If you don't want/need it anymore, why not get rid of it and make a little profit.
Hope this helped
i wax my upper lip. i tried a new wax strip, because i was out of the ones i usually use, and it left a red mark on my upper lip. i used the soothing stuff that it gave me. and it still left a red mark. its all across my upperlip. i can kinda sorta cover it up with makeup, but i dont want to have to keep my head down all day at school tomorrow. i really need something to do so i can make the redness go away FOR GOOD by tomorrow morning. anything, like, maybe putting ice or something on it, or whatever. i just need the redness to go down and not come back by tomorrow. it keeps waring down everyday if that helps.
thanks so much for your help
OK well it seems to me ththe new wax you're using is harsher than the one you're used to. It's probably caused skin irritation on your upper lip, it's quite common and sometimes it canget very sore.
You can try keeping it cool, try to relax your upper lip as much as possible, the swelling should go down soon. If you can, get the a pharmacy and ask for something called hydrocortisone cream, it's good with skin irritations and rashes, it helps with the inflamation and reduces the redness. if yuo can't get the the pharmacy, try using sloe vera, it's naturally soothing and should cool your upper lip down.
iam a 66 year old female was married for 46 years have been a widow for 5 years but now have found a new love but when we make love i can not seem to have a orgasm. does that mean there is something wrong with me ? this man is very good and sweet and tender so know it is not him . we just really have fun and a great time.could it be some of the medications i am on or am i just to old? Thank you
It could be both. Some medications do affect the body in such ways. It could also be that you're in a menopausal stage, the decrease in hormones, such as estrogen can cause a woman to find it difficult to have an orgasm after she reaches a certain age. A trip to the doctor should easily help you with either or both of the problems. He can put you on stable medication that increases the estrogen in your body to help increase your sexual responses.
It also helps to have the propper amount of lubrication, it's easy to get, just ask your local pharmacy.
haha, thanks. =]
well when i first started to like him in april.
we discussed our wants and he knew i didn't want to be with him like that. im skeptical. i don't exactly fall easily or trust easily. i think it had to do with my childhood. my dad wasn't exactly the best person, he left us on and off about 9 times in the 18 years of my life. he knows a lot about my past and he knows i trust him more than anyone. but way before i met him, i told myself i would never date any of my close guy friends, because i don't want to mess things up. i'm not exactly boy crazy either.. i think the crap my dad did has affect on that, but anyways. i never exactly had a relationship for that reason, but i've had past on and off crushes slighty. but i'm now a senior. and in the 4 years of my high school career i've liked about 7 guys or so? i don't know..in the past few months, i had i think 3 on and off, that i've liked in the past years.. if that makes sense..but he always overpowered them. i just, yeh.. it's kinda hard.. we live under 2 miles away from each other..and we see each other a lot in school..and were in 2 clubs together afterschool. its difficult but i want to make this work.
thankssss for the advice!! =]
It'll work because you sound committed in making it work. I have faith in someone who tries to do something. You're stronger than you think you are.
Here's my MSN teenage_drifter@hotmail.com if you need someone to talk to...
here is the thing. like any other friendship of a girl and guy. one falls for the others.
in this case.. i fell for my best friend. we were open with each other, so i told him.. i dealt with liking him and i hid at times and lied that i didnt anymore just so it wouldnt mess up the friendship. then i admitted i loved him..he was okay with that, but he had a girlfriend. who he has known for 3 years..and yeah i know he is in love with her, he has been for the last 2 years or so, and has been trying to get with her for the longest time. we ended the friendship so my feelings could disappeared though i told him it wasnt possible for it to all go away like nothing happened, and that i will always have feelings.. so we werent friends for a month, and i was really happy..and i didnt see much feelings for him. last saturday we became friends again..and we took things so..though its a bit rocky..we dont talk everyday and dont have deep conversations, since we are barely friends and we both want to work on this..for some reason i got all these feelings that i battled back before we ended the friendship..i'm scared..i can't really talk to my friends about this..they are all sick of hearing this..and one could tell him about this..and yeah.
we agreed if my feelings increased again, then it'd be best to end the friendship. he knows that he means a lot to me, he knows that our friendship means a lot to me. (about 3 weeks ago he asked me what i wanted for my birthday (which is next week) though we werent friends yet..i looked at him, and said our friendship and started to cry.) we both want to be friends again and we were both working on it..and hope to maybe be best friends again.
i just don't what to do..my feelings are coming back..and i dont want to live in pain..but i dont want to loose him either. :-\
Ok, well it's always hard when you get feelings for a 'best friend' because you know there's a HUGE risk of losing the great connection you have with each other. It is so common to fall in love with your best friend because you trust them to tell them everything and not be judged, but always helped through the hard times. They're someone to lean on and someone to love, but when that love tirns into a romantic love, it gets complicated, especially when they're already in a relationship.
You've said that you JUST want to keep the friendship and get rid of those feelings. Taking a break was a good thing of you to do. it showed you that you CAN get over the person with time and space, unfortunately, that doesn't help with the whole 'keeping the friendship' thing.
Here's what I suggest you do. See who else is out there, you might be surprised. You could find someone else that you develope feelings for, even if it's just a little crush, it'll help show you that you don't NEED to be in a relationship with this boy, you just need him as a friend.
You could also set days to yourself where all you think about is you, think about what you want to be when you get out of school or, what parts of the world you want to see. Just don't picture a romance with HIM in it. If you give yourself little goals each month it should help, try to find someone that's similar to him, or someone that you're just distracted by.
Another way is to start reading/writing books, take up more sport, save up to go on a holiday. There are many little achievements you can make by yourself to get over these feelings for him. Find a great hobby you can do, you might meet someone there.
The point is, if you stay in this mess, all your going to do is hurt yourself even more, trust me, I know, I've been in the same situation as you, the problem was, I dated the person after YEARS of wanting, we broke up because we realised that we were too close as friends, then because we were breaking up, we faught and we lost everything all together. You just have to see that maybe going into a relationship with this guy isn't the right thing and it'll probably end badly.
Love him as a friend.
P.S sorry about the long answer... it's hard to think about things to say that make sense.
Good Luck.
so im very confused right now. like there is this guy that i kinda like and he likes me back cos he's been giving me the right signals. but when i added all his friends on facebook none of them added me back. [i didnt add him btw cos i wasnt sure - a bit stupid i know lol] but its just a bit weird since they didnt add me back. so now i think that the guy hates me as well which doesnt make sence since he always smiles rly sweet and stuff. so what does that mean?
Just because his frends don't add you to their facebook, it doesn't mean they don't like you. They might not know you all that well yet. It also doesn't mean that this guy doesn't like you either. If you think he's giving you all the right signals then I think you should go with it. Maybe go up and talk to him one day, see what kind of things he's interested in. Maybe if you make some contact with him, he'll KNOW you're interested. Try adding HIM to your facebook and see what happens, he's the one smiling at you, not his friends. Give it a go and see what happened.
Good luck.
my hair is naturally thick and wavy. if i don't blow-dry it, it gets kinky and weird and frizzy. the same thing happens if i don't straighten it. i really want soft, shiny, straight hair but i'm worried about heat damage. any tips for how i can achieve this? i want to stop using my straightening iron because of the heat damage, does anyone know how i can achieve the same effect without the iron and make it more natural?
Hmmmm. That's a tricky one. I know using the heat is bad for your hair (especially when you use it all the time.) There are other ways you can have your hair straighter but it includes going to the hairdresser. They can thin it out a little and then chemically straighten it for you (sort of like a backwards perm) which lasts a long time and keeps your hair relatively straight. You could always try using leave-in conditioners to make sure your ends don't dry up so much, you just leave it in your hair after you have a shower and it helps prevent breakage and damage.
Hope I helped
My friend Sarah broke up with her bf John about one month ago and they only went out for a month or two. Last night I found out that John cheated on Sarah the day before she broke up with him, but even after she broke up with him, he didn't tell her about it. John only told one of his guy friends who told two other girls. Anyway, I found out last night and I don't know if I should tell Sarah about since my friend pointed out, "nothing good can come of telling her." I think thats true, but I also feel like she deserves to know even though they already broke up for other reasons. If it was me, I think I would want to know, and if I did find out later and then found out my friends were hiding that from me, I think I would be pretty mad. I have no idea if I should tell Sarah because she is one of my best friends, but then the people who told me will get it trouble cause it might get back to John that his guy friend told people. It's also really hard to keep that big a secret from Sarah.
Please help!
You need to let her know. Like you said, if she finds out about it later on and then finds out that you, her best friend, knew about it and didn't tell her, she would be really hurt. She needs people she can trust right now, and althought what you have to say might hurt her at the time, she'll appreciate your honesty. You need to be there for her, you're her best friend. Tell her, be there to help pick up the pieces. In time when she gets over it all, she'll see you as a GOOD friend, unlike the ones that didn't tell her.
GOOD LUCK
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i've been going out with an amazing girl the past 13 months. we're both in highschool and she recently got a job. so she's been feeling responsibilities pile up on her. it was all going good until she wanted time to herself.
she said we're very likely to get back together, but it's nothing i haven't heard before. i guess i just need some comforting words.
but i love this girl and she knows that, she loves me back. i don't get how two people can have feelings like that and one just doesn't see a point in going out.
This happens so many times in relationships. I've even said that to a guy because I had to run a job, school and still devote time to him as well. Sometimes when we have responsibilities, it's hard to cope with everything all at once. Sometimes the girl just feels like she needs to take a breather. But if this is really hurting you, let her know, talk to her about it and see how she feels then. Maybe she doesn't know how it's making you feel and she thinks you're okay with all of this.She might think you're going to be there after WHATEVER she does to you but that isn't right, you should tell her. I know that might not have sounded comforting but believe me doesn't mean it won't get easier. In time when she settles into her job and she feels confident in herself, you should be back on the scene, I know you love each other and that's great so it should work out all in good time.