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abusive
if your bf of one year physically hurts you..like kicks you in the leg..punches you in stomcach..throws you on the ground..pins you down..grabs you by the jaw..you get the picture..well anyway if that happened to you..and you have been together for a year and nothing like that ever happened..what would you do? would you forgive him? after how long? would you make him get help? i mean..we've all done really dumb stuff before...
17/f
he= 18/m
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that is Absuloutly not okay!!!!!!!!!
you need to explain to him that if he ever hurts you, you guys are through. you need to talk to him when hes calm maybe over the phone so your at a safe distance and ask him what the deal is. tell an adult and send him to therapy. and if he does it again, do not forgive him!!!! dump him on the spot
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HE SHOULD NOT BE ATTACKING YOU! so many people in abusive relationships dont know the signs. you need to make him aware that if he ever EVER touches you like that again then you are going to dump him, that is much too dangerous, you may still really like him but if he's hurting you its unacceptable and it can never happen again. if he threatens you, then you need to talk to an adult and work on getting a restraining order because if he has anger issues he could seriously hurt you.
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i would drop him like a rock honestly. if anything and you do decide to give him a second chance you need to have a SERIOUSSSS talk with him and tell him look if there is ever ANY OTHER SORT or abuse AT ALL then that is IT. no questions. unless he gets serious help hes not going to change. violent outbursts dont just come out of nowhere. yeah it was a year long relationship and it may have been all peachy keen but if he abused you like that and especially that badly then odds are he will do it again no matter what he says. if he gets professional help there may be hope for you two but he cant just say oh im sorry im better now and thats it. that is no way to treat anybody and you know it. id say either drop him now or if youre really determined to help him give him one more chance but tell him hes got to get help. i know you know whats good for you. just think, if one of your friends was in that situation, what would you tell her to do? good luck girl!
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I would send him packing.
I might forgive him after he got some help, but wouldn't even consider being in a relationship with him again.
Punching and hitting are not signs that he cares in any way. They are signs actually that he just doesn't give a shit about you. He only wants to control you.
Get out and do not look back or fall for the old "I will never do it again" line. Hes a loser. Don't know what triggered the change, but hes a loser.
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The thing you gotta think about is this. Are you willing to stay in a relationship that you get abused. And are you willing to risk it happening again. There are so many people out there in the world that go through this same thing. And at first im sure they dont think it would happen to them or they believe the person when they tell them it will not happen again. And then they get told the same thing the next time and the next time. If they know they can get away with it and you still be there then what would stop them from doing it again? You can find someone that truly loves you. Someone that would never do anything to hurt you. The kind of love that you deserve and want. My advice would be to definetly leave him. If he has hurt you, you are better off without him.
I wish you luck.
Tiffany
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I am a male myself; and I am telling you that if he did it once, chances are he will do it AGAIN. I know that it is hard to think that your boyfriend that you have been with for quite some time now, would do anything to hurt you,but you MUST accept the fact. So please get out of the relationship before it gets dangerous.
I had a friend that was in a abusive relationship but she never told anybody (including me). But all of the signs were there. She would complain about aches and pains out of no where and how her relaionship was getting a little rocky, etc. I never took the time to realize what was going on until it was to late. One day when they were supposed to be going on a date he shot her 18 times. This isnt a made up story or imagination, this is real life. Shes paralized now but its truely a miracle that she lived. And there isnt a day that goes by that I dont blame myself for what happened to her. I could have told her what Im telling you; and that is, to GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP.
I hope I helped but if not just leave me a message.
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well I am sorry to break it up to you but after revealing such a nature to you, do you still wanna b with him? Sounds really violent.
I see it happen all the time. Wimen being treated like shit. Only you started early. You deserve more, you need something better, someone who makes you happy and not makes you cry.
By the way, YES we all done dumb stuff before. But not everyone does stuff that are sooo dumb.
You can forgive him or not. In any case, you shouldn t wanna be with him. Unless you are into that type of kinky shit.
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No, please, I urge you to get help. Tell you parents, one of your friends, go to the police, etc. I know, you don't want to believe your boyfriend is a bad guy, and even if this never happened before -- it's happening now. And it will more than likely continue to happen. I don't know you personally, but I don't want you to get hurt. Or anyone else who's going through this type of abuse.
No one deserves this, and please do not think you do. Many fall into to that trap, and never, is it true. I definitely recommend getting help, there is national abuse hotline, if you would like me to post it here. I can look it up for you and edit my answer, and do so. If you would like me to do that, please post it in my feedback. And I will be more than happy to do that for you.
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