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"old school" manners?
Okay I know I'm being totally old school here but why doesn't my bf open the doors for me and whatnot?
I know I know totally weird for asking that but my mom, aunt, uncle, etc, will get on to me about that if she sees how he kinda let the door shut on me.
Also, I'd like for him to do that as well because I dont know im weird like that
But I dont think its right for me to say
"dude, you are suppose to hold the door for me"
so um whats up?
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Why not try holding the door open for him a few times and seeing if he takes cues from that? Nothing says it can't be a two-way street. It might even embarrass him enough so that he does it to avoid you doing it for him. Or he might just think it's nice and get the hint that you would like it too.
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I don't think he realizes it's the gentleman thing to do. You could say something like; "fine! don't open the door for me!" in a jokey way. It might spur him on to do it in the future. :)
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Most of us have our own ways of doing things. And It seems like your bf doesn't realize that you want him to atleast open the door for you. The only way he is going to know this, is if you tell him. You don't have to worry about being rude because as long as you don't demand him to do it, then things should be fine. You can just say something like "[your bf's name] you know it would be kinda of nice if you opened the door for me every once in a while"
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Some guys haven't been brought up that way. That's okay, you can train him ;)
Start dropping hints like "This guy walking in front of me at the mall saw me coming but pretty much let the door shut on my face" or "I fell on my butt when Jim pulled the chair out for me, but it was really nice of him anyway"
If he doesn't come around, it's time for a nice talk about etiquette.
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