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Getting bored with my relationship...
Okay, my boyfriend and I have been going out since October, and have spent the whole summer of 2006 with this little crush on each other thing. He's liked me for a whole year before that summer, too. Basically, after he asked me out we've spent so much time together. I can't imagine not being with him, and neither can my friends. Everyone expects us to be the couple that will never break up, high school sweethearts, etc.
Lately, though, I've been getting bored from being in a relationship so long. I've started noticing all the little things he does that bugs me, and it really irritates me how he gets upset when I hang out with or talk about another guy.
I don't know. I feel like I want to take a break or dump him or something but I don't know what to do or how to do it, and I'm afraid that in the end I'll regret everything.
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I know, what you're going through. Once you're in a relationship for so long, or sometimes, a fairly small amount of time -- you tend to notice the little things he does, that do irritate you. And this is completely normal, everyone goes through it. At least those who are serious about their relationship, as you are.
My advice to you is to not make any snap judgements, at this time. Think about your guy, and the relationship you both share. Is it really worth giving up, right now? Is it best that you do break up with him, or take a break? Are the things you're noticing enough to break up or take a break over? These are just a few questions, that would be good to ask yourself before making a decision.
However, if I were you I would talk to him about not being able to hang out or talk about another guy. I mean, as long as you are just friends and he trusts you, there shouldn't be a problem. My guess is that he has an insecurity within himself, and/or he doesn't fully trust you. And he's afraid there is something going on, and I'm assuming there isn't. So I would definitely talk to him about it, because it's not really fair to you.
Good luck, I'm sure everything will work out for you!
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If we always thought about whether we would regret the decisions we made, before we made them. We would accomplish nothing in life. Sometimes we just have to the things we think we should, without worrying about it. Take a chance and see what happens. You may like the end results, but if you don't; just look at it as a learning lesson.
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Well, it sounds like you are in a relationship. After a while with anyone, you will get tired of them at times and find the things that used to be cute or endearing are now annoying. That is totally normal. He probably is having the same issues. The best thing you can do is talk with him about it. Be calm and rational. Know what you are going to say and how you are going to say it. Let him know what bothers you. Find out why he gets upset about you being around other guys. He is probably afraid of losing you. He has also probably picked up on you being distant (you probably are, if you are getting bored) and so the other guys seem like more of a threat to him. Let him know you can't imagine being without him, but also that you are feeling like there is something lacking. If you are calm and caring, the two of you will figure out what is needed and be able to continue in a happy relationship. If either of you starts to get upset, take a break from the discussion and do something you enjoy together. Talk again when you are both calm again.
Oh, I married my high school sweetheart. We eventually had troubles and ended up in marriage therapy, which worked wonders. Turns out we both had the same issues, but brought them up different ways and just upset each other more. So, if you have trouble talking with him, find a neutral person to help you out, someone who can translate for each of you. A school counselor might be a good choice.
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I wouldn't be mad about him not liking you talking to guys. I'm a guy and I hate it when my girlfriend talks to guys. :-/ It's just natural. But I would tell him how you feel and try to change things up, do something to spice up the relationship. And tell him what you don't like so he'll fix them, or if they're too small for that, then you really should just learn that he can't be perfect and you have to put up with it.
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