hey im the one with the question about should i call that guy.
okay but how do i make it final because like were both shy and i dont wanna be like firm
i guess ha
-Lauren
hey! alright, well you should sound really confident! be like, hey, so what are you up to this weekend? he'll probably say nothing. and you can say, ok good, lets go to the movies on saturday! i heard there is (a movie) playing at (a theater) at (a time) you wanna come with me? i heard its supposed to be really good!"
ya knw what i mean? sound confident and sure of yourself. i know how hard that is because your shy, but be strong, you can totally do this! make him want you! guys LOVE confidence.
and if he says yes, say the time you'll meet and confirm it. dont just be like hey lets hang out, because things like this always need confirmation..
keep me updated!
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this may be long but im desperate!
14/f
ok on october 25th me and my friend went to this hangout place and played games and stuff. now my friend is the type to go up to a guy and say hes hot then walk away. okay so shes had boyfriends but shes not a slut now im fat (but im working on it) and ive never had a boyrfriend. there were these to guys that we walked by and she went up to them and she was like do yall go to our school and i told her no they go to ***** (15 minutes from where i live) how do you
know and i said because i went to fifth grade with one of them (not the hot one) then we left. and i kept telling her how cute the other one was and so they both go to the school i was gonna go to if i hadnt moved and all my old bestfriends go to their school. so we were walking around and i was txting my cousin so i was like ya ok and she came back he the hot one was with her and im really shy so i was shocked and he asked me for my number and i got his then my friend and i were walking around some more and there was this one ride i REALLY wanted to go on but she was too scared so she went up to him and asked him if he would go on the ride (an enclosed, 2 person, upside down ride) and he said he didnt have any money left so she INSISTED on giving him the money so he said ya but in like 10 minutes his friend and him said they were gonna go outside to talk to somebody (and we were like ya right there not coming back) so twenty minutes later we went outside to see if they were there and they wernt so we came back and like five muntes later i saw them and he waved by to me and thats it so i fianlly convinced my friend to go on the ride with me and we were waiting in line and i was picking a ride and then i saw my friend turn around and i turned around and he was standing there (my heart dropped, i was so shocked) and so my friend was like you saved me and me and him got on the ride and then he left without saying bye but i started txting him that night and i was asking him questions like so whats your favorite band etc. and he was really short with his answers and he never asked me anything and i was like do u want me to stop asking you questions and he was like idc. then my friend took my phone while i was in the shower ( i told her to) and she called him! and she was like hey do you like her a little tiny bit? and he was like uhmmmmmmmm uhmmmmmmmm uhmmmmmmmmm ya i like her eyes, but i just need to get to know her before we date(:. then they hung up so i said good night then the next night (sunday) he called me from a different number and he was letting me know that hecan recieve and calls a texts but he cant call or txt people and i was like oh then he was like ya but you can call me tonight or tomorrow or both if you want. then that night i called him and we had a really good 30minute conversation, we have a lot in common. and he was like i have a question and i said what and he was like do you wear contacts? and i said no and he said you well you have really pretty eyes (there green.) and i was like aw thanks. (the nicest thing he has ever said to me. so i called him everyother day and he was really just to tired to talk and we have really awkward silences soin total we have only had like 3 good convos since then but one night we were talking and we talk for like 30 40 minutes and he was like hey what time are you going to sleep and i said midnight probably and he was like ok then ill call you at 11 so we can talk for an hour, and i was like ok but ur probably gonna forget and he was like know i wont i swear i double swear i promise. then he called me 12 cause he thought it was 11 and we didnt even talk a lot cause we were both really tired. so i ALWAYS CALL HIM like hes only called me TWICE and we never have anything to talk about except for on the weekends. and last weekend i was at his school cause my bestfriend was in a play and i went to go see it and the next day i called him and was like i was at your school last night and he was like why and i told himwhy and he was like ohh you should have called me i couldve seen it with you(: but yaa i mean i would LOVE to go to the movies with him or something im just so shy and fat... :/
what do you think??
should i stop calling him?
do you think he likes me?
ive gone 4 days without calling himn to see if he would call me and he didnt.
i need help dudes.
please??
yes, i think what you sent me is a great idea (about calling him on wed)
good luck girl! and let me know how it goes xo
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14/f
ok im the one that posted this question:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=553503
basics:
never had a boyfriend.
pretty chubby(working on it).
my friends say im pretty.
not popular.
shy/quiet unless you get to know me.
please read the question i provided in the link above, if you dont know what im talking about.
please, please, please read it.
im desperate.
recent update:
a few weeks ago we were talking on the phone and i was like i really wanna go to the movies and he was like we should go like not this weekend but the next.
we never did.
i like him so much.
but i dont want to give up.
but im always the one who calls him.
and like whenever i hear his name my stomach drops, i blush, my heart beats fater, and i can i hardly breathe. i think about hime everyday.
and the from the last time i saw him, i look way different in a good way and he doesnt know that.
what do i do and why do i feel that way?
He doesnt sound too interested in you...YET! you should wait a week, call him, and MAKE FOR REAL PLANS. actually stick to them. if you wanna see a movie with him, call him up and tell him the date and movie and time, so it sounds for sure like you will actualy go. and be like, "hey, lets hang out already! and actually do it this time" be really casual about it, but BE CAREFUL not to call/text him all the time cause guys dont like that.
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im 18 and my boyfriend is 16 is it illegal for us to date?
nope, not illegal :)
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17/F
I was with my boyfriend, Jake, for about 9 months. We've had MANY lows and few highs, but our relationship level was somewhat in the middle. A lot had to do with the fact that I live an hour away from him, so we only saw each other about twice a week.
Well, these past two weeks we hadn't seen each other much at all. We were also hitting a rough patch because I didn't drive down to see him as often as I usually did. I went and saw him the other day, and it was him who brought up that we should break up. The break up was not bad at all -- in fact, it was probably the best break up ever -- and that's what makes it so much harder.
He wants to be good friends with me. He even said, "If I could choose between being really unhappy but dating you, or not talking to you at all, I'd stay with you because I can't stand not having you in my life." Another things he said was "I honestly might regret this in a few days, so if I call you, you can do one of two things: disregard me, or really, really, reconsider it." He said that we would hang out often, call each other, etc. He said he would start calling me in a week.
I know I was mentally prepared for it, but the impact of the breakup really tore me apart. I teared up a lot when we were talking, but I really broke down when I left his house and got away from his view. Now, I can't stop thinking about him. I think it's one of those "want what you don't have" type of things.
I'm terrified to be his friend because I don't know how to be -- we were NEVER "just friends". We also respect each other enough to give each other room to adjust before dating other people. However, I'm scared of this whole friend thing, as I just said. I'm afraid that, if we're friends, I won't get over him when I really should.
What are the best ways to get over a breakup?
Has he called you at all since the breakup?
I think you should try and hang out with him as a friend, see how it goes. If things are going horribly, tell me how you feel. I know it is so much easier said than done, but it will help a lot!
good luck xo
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MY gf and i are together for almost 2 years, and now everyhings changed. i love her so much and i dont wan to lose her. i sometimes think that if she was not meant for me then i'll just end up my life because she's my life. it seems that our relationship is like a bomb waiting for its time to blow...everyday the clock ticks and the end is near for us. she always told me she love me but i could not feel it like before...was i too demanding for her to show it or she doesnt love me anymore? i am really confused and dnt know what to do..i wanted ending killing up myself so that i will not suffer the pain when the time comes..
please be careful. she sounds extremely important to you, and if you do lose her, please do not do anything to harm yourself.
i think you should talk to her about it. you've both said those important 3 words to each other, you've been together about 2 years! you have to be comfortable enough with her to tell her your feelings. i know its way easier said than done. but please try!
good luck with everything.
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Here it is. The famous kissing question. I know you are all probably sick of answering this question, but please I'm desperate.
A few weeks ago this boy and I started liking each other. I went over his house,but nothing happened because of a certain reason that has nothing to do wtih this story. anyway, and then the other day he kissed me on the lips, and so soon I'm pretty sure that soon we're probably going to make out. A lot of my friends just said go with the flow, do whatever feels right but is that really it? Can anyone relate me back to there first make out and what happened and how they felt? My guy friends always talk about how when someone is a good kisser, they just want to kiss them over and over again. How do you be a good kisser, liek what qualities does a good kisser have? Please, no one send me links to teen magazines telling you how to kiss. I want the real deal from actual people.
Thank you so much :)
Hi, alright, so I totally know how you feel.
I remember my first kiss, and how before it I was so nervous because I did not know what to do at all. The honest truth is that you just have to listen to your friends when they tell you to go with the flow. After you guys kiss, you will realize how easy that was and that it was not worth getting worked up about. I know this advice may not be what you want, but its the truth. JUst do whatever feels best.
Good luck!
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so me and cody have been dating for like 20 days. and me and him are as close to perfect (probably not the best word to get my point across) as a couple can get, until it comes to hangin out. like at school hell talk to me and well hold hands and he doesnt care what his friends think. but we had vacation and we made plans 3 times to hang out, HE made them, HE broke them ..
friday he said to call when i woke up, so i did and his mom said shed have him call me. well 6 hours later .. he hadn't called .. so i called and she hung up on me .. cody NEVER called to apolgize or say he couldn't. now hes in maine till vacations over. and his fones off ..
i left him a voicemail sayin it kind of hurt my feelings (he ignored my call, like it rang and he pressed ignore, so i know he had his fone, so i know he got he voicemail) and to call me. its 2 days later and he hasn't called. but he'll call me sunday before school and apologize and have an excuse .. he always does .. and i always believe him ..
everyone says dump him .. but i cant. i love him .. i just dont know what to do without messing it up and gettin him pissed off .. HELP?!
hes a little piece of crap and you should dump him before he dumps you. i know it may be hard for you to do but you gotta do it.
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lets call my boyfriend "bob" and the guy i cheated on him with we will call him "tj" anyways bob goes to a different school, we have been dating for about a week and i never get to see him nor do i ever get to talk to him except for weekends. last night i went skating and this kid that goes to my school that i like alot was there. tj just happened to finger me. anyways bob calls me today and asked me what i did last night and i tell him skating he goes i heard u made out with another guy. i say no..now im all worried that bob will find out and to make this any harder my best friend "ashley" likes tj alot..any advice ill do anything
15/f
well, if you really like bob, you should tell him the truth, he deserves to know. and as for tj, why did you do it? you like tj and bob too? you gotta make a choice on wheather you wanna stay with bob.
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There's this guy in my History and Math class that's very popular and goodlooking. Recently, he's been acting different around me. Unusually nice. He complimented on my shirt and necklace, and asked how my tutoring was coming along, etc. He's also lately been acting really cocky, but in a playful way. I don't know if he's flirting. Does it seem so? Because I'm confused as to whether I should flirt back. He has a girlfriend, and that might make me look like an asshole (I don't have a crush on him at all, by the way). Also, if he wasn't flirting I would look like an asshole. What do you think I should do?
Well, knowing that he has a girlfriend and that you dont like him, i suggest you should leave the sitaution alone. He seems to be flirting, but remember, if you dont like him, then dont get involved.
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im 13/f. My boyfriend beats on me. I have marks and scars on my arms and legs from him. Im a cheerleader so they always show. I really like him but i hate him when he does this to me. What should i do?
**sleepiesheep**
break up with this guy...QUICK.
i suggest telling an adult you trust or maybe even the police.
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I really like this guy and he told my friend he thinks im cute and he knows that i think hes cute yet he still hasnt said more than 10 words to me. My friend takled to him about me and he acted ike he really liked me because we have alot in common but now he jus stares at me and smiles but he wont say anything and thats whats confusing me so much! HELP!!!
he is so shy because he likes you! knowing that he is shy, you gotta be the one to make the first move by talking to him.
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well, ive liked this boy for months! hes a really shy sweet guy and i dont think that hes ever had a gf before. but a couple of nights ago, i found out that he liked me to. i was having a party, and he was there, and we sorta hung out. hes a very nervous and shy person, so he doesnt really tlak to me that much. but im a shy person to. well, last night, he asked me out. and i said yes. but today, we barely said more then 2 sentences to each other. and i have no idea what to do. im shy, and hes shy, and we cant have a relationship if were never going to talk to each other. but i realli like him, and i really want this to work. does anyone know what i should do so that we could communicate more, and like make our relationship work..?
thanks
well, the only thing you can do is talk to him. i know it is really hard, but u gotta do it. just think, what are u worried about? hes not gonna make fun of you! you already know he likes you. so talk to him, theres nothing to worry about.
GOOD LUCK!!
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hey um i've hu a couple times before but i dunno if i was like good hehe, how do u hu like really well? like is there anyway that u can be really good, if so please tell me haha sorry i dont like make sense hehe k bye thanks babe x0x0!
well, there is no right or wrong way to do it. just do whatever feels natural. if this does not help go to myjellybean.com
good luck!
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16 f. sophmore likes sophmore guy as well. never had a conversation with him. hell i doubt he knows i exist. but i still want to approach him.
1) He is scene or w/e and is quiet. he seems almost depressed. he just sits there at lunch with a friend or two and does nothing(though he is kind of popular) hes medium height. super skinny. pretty smile :]
2) i dont dress scene or goth or punk or ghetto or preppy so ive no clue wtf i am. im very shy. not too quiet but a lil quiet. short. im a lil chubby and i have a pretty face(like that matters all that matters are a hot body)
when i approach him what should i say?? could we ever be compatible? should i just give up all together? and how can i get him to notice me?
Sorry its long i rate 5's, thanx.
this is all totally normal. all you gotta do is make the first move. i know it is hard, but you gotta try. just go up to him and be like hey..whats up. say it really casually and friendly. seem interested.
good luck!!
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This boy that i love...yes for real...we went out about 4 times and the last time he broke up with me because he liked another girl.He doesn't like that same girl anymore but he likes another one. Anyways, we still talk a lot like we're very good friends. But he found out that I kinda liked one of his friends and ever since he found out all he says to me is about me liking his friend. It's getting annoying like we talked 3 times yesterday and all he said was " oohh you like *****.." "I saw you around **** sittin with him i saw you.." "i know you want *****" and i dont know why that's all he ever talks about now. I asked a couple of friends and they think he's just jealous. Do any of you guys know why he does this?? If you need any more information just write it in the answer and I'll tell you. THANKKK YOUU
ok, well it seems like this guy is not totally over you yet. if he was, he would not care about you liking *****.
i think you should ask him why he cares so much.
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Hey I'm Christy and I'm 13. okayy ill give you thw low down (haha sry i'm not a grate explaner...) so last year i had a bf (started in like january) and everything was fine and then in the end of the summer he went on a vacation and his best friend told me he hooked up with some1. i was soo sad and when he got back i just had to dump him but i still luved him...then in october he asked me out and i said yes. we were going out and everything was good just like last year. then he dumped me saying he didnt want a gf but still wanted to hook up with me and all. then about a week later we hooked up and he dosnt tlk to me for like a week! his best friend (the one who told me he hooked up with a grl in the summer)then told me he dumped me bc i have no ass and very little boobs...im not gonna lie haha im a pretty slow developer but anyway after that he stated to go out with this girl who has a huge butt and boobs and well not a pretty face and they seem totally different...he talks to me a lot lately but is always talking about her and saying oo shes so hot im like hehe and all bc i dont no what to say and i just cant help likeing him and and so sad...wat do i do?
ok, think about this lame guy. he cheated on you, broke your heart, dumped you because u have no boobs or ass!!! he was using you. you should not like someone like that. i know it may be hard to get over him but you will soon. just think of what an ass this guy his. you should not take him bullshit anymore. hes an ass.
good luck!!
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i found this guy from a couple towns over through myspace. we met today and totally hit it off! we like each other a LOT . but he lives 1/2 hour away..making it hard to see each other. i think i have to tell my parents..so maybe they can drive me out there sometimes..but how do i word it? i always kept my love life private from them..i never had the need to tell..im afraid of their reaction. help please?
16f
i think you should just say that you met this really nice guy who lives an 1/2 hour away. would you be willing to drive me on some weekeneds?
or somethin like that
i wouldnt really mention that you met him on myspace though, unless your parents wouldnt care about something like that. cuz most parents would think that myspaces are dangerous or whatever.
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My friend has being going out with her boyfriend for two years now - she's just turned 16 and he's just turned 18. They've always got on really well, and he's always been a really good boyfriend, but lately he's been pressuring her for sex.
She's really not comfortable with this and is happy to carry on as before, but he's been saying how selfish she is.
He also spoke to one of his girl mates about it (someone my friend doesn't even KNOW), and this girls said very nasty things about her.
How can I help my friend? What should she do?
your friend should defintely break up with this guy.
Clearly, he is the selfish one and if he really liked her, then he would not pressure her into doing anything she doesnt want to do. Make sure your friend DOES NOT have sex with this guy.
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okay.. this may be long..
I really like this guy. We are best friends to like, the fullest extent. He is also my ex-boyfriend. He is known throughout my school as "the flirt" because he flirts with EVERYONE. Well, he is always telling me about girls he thinks are hot and who he likes and how his relationships never work out and like, how he wishes he could just have a good relationship that isn't shitty. We tell eachother everything. He came over a little while ago and we were hanging out and he started kissing me. To say the least, we began to make out. He came over again a few days ago and we were hanging out in the same place and we were really close, and cuddling and stuff like we did the other time but he went in for a kiss and i told him i promised myself i wouldn't make out with him. he understood. ive been trying to get over him. so we just hung out .. cuddled and stuff still but didn't make out. we kept getting closer and i couldnt help myself..we ended up making out again. but in between that, he kept saying things like "i dont want to love you" and then he was like "i don't want to makeout with you but i can't help myself" and i was like "why" and he was like "i don't know. i don't understand myself.. but i can't stop myself from loving you" and this was basically in between breaths and he was kissing my neck and stuff. WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO
Well, i dont really think you have to do anything. you are basically boyfriend and girlfriend..right?
i mean, you could talk to him about all of this since you two are obviously really close. ask what he feels.
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