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Hi. I am a 31 year old life coach and professional writer and the mother of a beautiful 6 year old little boy. I believe in the kids and teens out there today and I want to be of service in any way I can. I know what it's like to be young and not want to talk to parents about problems. I specialize in relationships of all kinds and parenting. I also am very well versed in health and beauty. I will always respond with sincerity and to the best of my ability. I will always be honest, even if that means I may tell you something you don't want to hear but need to. I am all about inspiring the best from people I come in contact with so that's the approach I take with everyone.
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heyy ii really need someone to help me in this situation. please i rate high =) ..
ok well my boyfriend and i have gone out like once or twice b4 and were going out as of now again and the first 2 times i broke up wit him for the same reasons being 1) he acts all different around me and its like its not the person that i actually like in him 2) he choses like his friends over me for example we`ll be talking on the phone and hes like ''my friends calling i gotta go love yah bye'' *hangs up* its like yeah i love yah 2 .. talking to the dial tone. and im just soo stuck.. i mean 2day he came over and ofcorse he just had to bring over one of his friends.. and this is one of the problems tha way he acts when hes around his friends compared to me.. and like his friend wanted him & i to make out and stuff and thats just not something that my bf would do right away in a relationship and stuff so he started acting like lets do it type of thing when thats really not like him.. idk and like he tells me im beautiful like only when his friends are around i mean is he just trying to get something from me, im soo confused. do i believe him or not? .. and im always tempted to break up wit him but the past 2 times i broke uhp wit him i regreted it .. and soo yeah im really just stuck..and i just wanna move on in life.. i dont know what to do .. anyone have any sugguestions between break up or just like any other ideas? please help!!
If your gut is telling you to move on - then move on and don't look back. First rule of thumb - if there was good enough reason to break up the first time - don't go back. If he really liked you and respected you then he wouldn't be trying to get you to make out in front of his friends. Sounds like he wants to show off...but before you dump him - maybe let him know how you feel. Have you done that? Don't expect him to know automatically what's going on. He is probably figuring stuff out too, ya know? So give him a chance to compose himself and be who he really is. Let him know what's going on with you and how you feel. I wouldn't ask him to ditch his friends becasue the bottom line is that he won't. And you really don't want him to! Friends are good for him and for you. You guys do need 'your time' but he's gonna be into his friends to - it's just a guy thing - it doesn't mean he doesn't care =) So let him know how you feel.
Okay so i`m 17 and i was goin out with this 20 yr old boy for about 7 months..but we've been hookin up for almost a year. Then he cheated on me with his ex. so we seperated. Lets pretend this boys name is Bob. So while me and bob were broken up, we still talked and hooked up every once in a while. but not much. So i had a lot of free time for once. Durin the free time i met this other 20 yr old boy. he was so sweet and everything. so we started talkin. We`ll call this boy Joe. So later on, i come to find out that Bob and Joe are like worst enemies. they`ve been beefin` with eachother for YEARS! So then they find out about eachother, which isnt that big of a deal bc im not goin out with either one. but still they were mad and wanted to fight eachother. so Joe got locked up almost 2 weeks ago. And everyone wants me to help get him out. But i currently go out with Bob again, so he doesnt want me to. I mean some times i think i love bob, but i find myself constantly thinkin about Joe. and i miss him a lot. I dont know who would be a better choice for me? and i dont wanna make the wrong one.. I really need help. I dont wanna be lyin to them, so i just want one... plzzzz help .. thanxx
These are both thugs if they are always fighting and 'beefin' as you say and what's up with that? I mean you are desperately wanting a guy in jail? Come on - Bob already cheated on you and the other one is in jail - they probably just fought over you because of who the other guy was - not because of you. So let them both go and call it a day! You can do much better than that - I'm sure! I do wonder how you didn't know this guy was 'bob's worst enemy' and you two dated for 7 months...no mention of that huh? Well, what I can tell you is that the future with these two looks grim.
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 9 months. His ex-wife was always calling and telling him that she missed him and wanted him back. She doesn't respect our relationship at all. Now she wants to pretend to be nice and he doesn't understand why I question her sencereity. I have a lot of anger towards her and I don't like feeling the way I do when I hear her voice or her name mentioned. I was never aloud to say anything to her or he would of been upset with me. How can In deal with the feeling I have for her. I don't like that she gets to me. Please help I'm at the end of my rope and I'm trying really hard to make this relationship work.
Basically, the more you think of the things you don't like about her - the more she will show them to you. Instead of automatically deciding she has bad intentions by being nice, even though she may - give her the benefit of the doubt. He will not want to be with someone who is full of anger -no one does. Even though it's true the things you think about her and you may have facts to back it up - at the end of the day you feel horrible so you are not doing yourself or your relationship any good. Be supportive of him. Remember the things you like about him and why you are in this relationship to begin with. Make a list of his positive aspects - what's great about him. Then make a list of what things you can remember about your relationship - things that have happened that you really loved. Good memories. You will have to work to release the anger towards her - but if you can begin by giving her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she does really love him - what if you were in that situation...etc. It doesn't mean he loves her - but I can absolutely gaurantee you the more you push against this woman and his relationship with her the more it will be in your face.
Let me know how you are in 2 weeks after doing this. Don't focus on what is - becasue that is changable, right? Focus on what you want and what you like and pull yourself up emotionally. If you need more ways to do this, just email me.
Okay me n my boyfriend has been dating for almost 4 months and everything has been going good we have a couple of disagreements but who doesnt.. well a couple of weeks ago he got me a cell phone but i payed for it but its in his name and everyday he goes through it. people tell him that im messing around with other guys but how could i when im with him 24/7 well last nite my bestfriend who is a girl texted me stuff she didnt want anyone else knowing and he went to go through my phone and i took it from him. i knwo it looked as if i was hiding something but im not. now he thinks that im hiding stuff and im cheating so he doesnt want to tell me he loves me anymore intill i can change and get my priorities straight or however u spell it. and he doesnt knwo right now if we are gonna work things out he just always tells me i dont know i dont know.Please help me try to get my boyfriend not to break up with me im sorry its long.
First of all, your cell phone is your business - not his!! If he is that insecure - it really is not your problem. He can't have a healthy relationship with you feeling that way...I would just let him go before he starts accusing you and beating you up!!! I know it seems cute - but really it's to control you and it's not cute. It's the beginings of a miserable relationship. Trust me.
So me & this guy were going out.. it had been going great and all but his ex girlfriends were real bitches!! but anyways.. so we ended up braking up because he got suspended and got grounded for the whole summer. He's usually aloud to go to his best friends house (dont ask me why) even if hes grounded but he couldnt even go there.. so we decided to brake up. but see the thing is that about a week into summer (we broke up about a week before school ended) he was able to go to his friends house again. and about three days after that he wasnt grounded anymore.. i saw him at the carnival all over his ex girlfriend (the bitchy one) but he calls me once and a while(we were friends before we went out) but it just seems like i was someone to try and get over his ex and not someone who he really cared about. is he a jerk.. or what?
Yeah, I'd call him a jerk. And luckily you found out now and now later! He probably did like you -so give yourself the benefit of the doubt there - but things change and when you guys broke up maybe the other chic sweated him really hard and he took her back. Or maybe he just a good 'ole player that likes lots of options. Either way - count it as a blessing becasue you don't need to deal with that kinda stuff anyway. I wouldn't give him the time of day - let him miss what he had. All the other girls probably take him back -you will set yourself apart and rock his little world if you don't sweat him and don't take him back....don't fall for the bullsh*@ lines when he's begging either - let him sweat and love it girl!!!
Ok, well i know i already asked a question kinda like this, but i dont think i expained it well enough. heres the whole story. well there's this one guy who i went out with last year, he was everything you would want in a boyfriend, sweet, sensitive, treated you really good, i mean in school once he had to write a paper on his favorite thing, he wrote it on me! aw, right? well, kinda. Every guy has his down side, his was he wasnt the "hottest" guy, well not even close. but that didnt really matter to me because looks dont really mean THAT much to me. everyone used to say how good i was for him, and how they wanted me to dump him. well we went out twice that year, he asked me out both times. but i ended up breaking up with him both times. i didnt break up with him because of what other people were saying though and not because he wasnt hott. i broke up with him the first time because everything was really messed up and it was the best thing to do, he understood. so we broke up. we go to differenent schools so it didnt work out all that great anyways. but he asked me out again. i said yeah. but i ended up breaking up with him because i guess a lot of his friends were telling him i was a whore and he would never stick up for me..kinda messed up right? well a lot of time has passed..almost a year..and he hates me now..for pretty much no reason. i mean we were ok after we broke up the second time but now..we're not. he HATES me. he calls me a cutter whenever i see him (i used to cut. but it really hurts when he says that.and he knows that. thats why he says it) he even hates anyone who hangs out with me..i think he changed. well my friends agree with me..because hes mean now. not sweet. i tried talking to him..friendly.but it just makes it worce..i wanna be friends with him though..he likes someone else though..i might kidna like him still..i REALLY dont know though. i just found out he may have been smoking pot. im really worried about him..what do i do?
Baby let this one go. It sounds like you broke his little puppy love heart and now he's got no love for you. I mean if he's calling you names and being mean- why would you want him back? It is nice when someone likes you and you know they are always there - and then when they just totally freak and hate you - well that feels really bad and you want it back the way it was - but you didn't want him then. It's just the rejection button he's pushing that makes you think you might kinda like him now. Remember - the opposite of love is not hate - it's not caring either way - so if he hates you - well you have a hold on him. And aren't you glad you don't have to be miserable like that? And if he's smoking pot - there is really nothing you can do about it. He's gotta go this road. And why are you cutting yourself? What is up with teenage girls today? You are going to have scars that you will so regret later. Talk to someone - anyone - email me - do anything before you hurt your own body....please!!!
But back to him - leave him alone. Just ignore it. He probably likes that he gets the attention from hating you - or supposedly hating you. Just let it go. Trust me - you don't like him - you just don't like to be rejected and by someone who obviously had a big 'thing' for you in the past. It was like a past relationship I had. I was ready to break up with this guy and then he did it first!!! I was like what the hell just happened? And then, the rejection button was pushed and all the sudden I just wanted him back - and all I did was dump him in the end anyway.
Don't be fooled! Move on baby.
So theres this guy... he lives down the street from me. We're basically good for each other, I hear that a lot. He's a football player, I'm on the dance team, we always do the same things accidently, he's cute, I'm cute lol jk. Anyways he's come over a few nights, snuck out on a couple of them and we've kissed and cuddled and I loved it. We've never gone farther than that because I'm scared of getting attatched and hurt. He knows I like him, but I'm not sure he's feels the same. I don't want to be used.. It has happened too much to me (my boobs are big... naturally! and guys like them.. but i hate em). Once I start trusting him, it seems like he kind of pulls away. Ive talked to him about it but he never really says exactly he likes me or he doesnt. I think which him being popular he doesnt want to be a really sweet guy or anything around his friends.. I understand that though. It's fine. But it seems like he's only "with me" when it's good for him. When he's at a party with me or when he's at his house and calls me. But if I want to hang out.. its a bit different. He's not as into me as I'm into him. But I dont want to be into him. I dont want to get hurt :( I'm a hopeless romantic tho. If he did something sweet to show that he really liked me, i'd be his, no questions asked. I'm confused! please help
First of all, don't hate your boobs or any other part of your body. I had the same problem growing up - don't let it get to you honey. There are girls out there who would pay for them!!! On to the guy thing. Well, if it's working the way it is then do you really need him to say it? It's obvious he likes you. People make to much of this "I don't want him to use me" thing. Let it go. Have fun with him as long as it's fun for you and let the rest take it's course. Someone can only use you if you are looking for something in return for something you do. If you go into the situation saying, 'Okay, I'm gonna have fun right now and when that stops working for me I'll have fun somewhere else'. Don't make it too dramatic. That is part of the problem. Don't look for him to give you the same signs that he likes you as you give him. Just be laid back and carefree. Hang with the girls and let him call you for a while. If you run into him - hang out - but if you are came with other people then don't just leave them to be with him. Show him you are independant and have a life - he can either get right or get 'left' =)
By the way, don't make excuses for why he's not sweet - like because he's popular. He's either kind to you or he's not and if he's not - I don't care how popular he is, ditch him!!!
hey all my friends have made out and i am just really shy around my boyfriend (when i have one) everytime he gets close i kinda just abck off because i am scared i have never made out andi dont kno how all my friend ever say is it just comes natural ! i am complety feeling left out ! some off my guy friend would be like hey if you wanna make out just tell me and like there for real they will be all who cares and stuff and one of my guy friend has done every thing but sex and i kinda like him and he said if you can make out wiff me just to say you have and my mom loves him and she thinks he is the sweetes biy ever but she doesnt kno anything he has done! and she would totally not aprove if she heard !
question A: give me tips on making out! thx!
B:should i go out wiff him or is he using me !
C:should i make out wiff him just to say i have!
A: When it's right - you won't need tips on making out - when the person really likes you - the two of you will muttle through the first time and get better and better.
B: If you really like him, i think you should go for it. If he only says he wants to go out to make out - I would take making out - out of the relationship and see if he still wants to go out.
C: NO NO NO NO NO!!! Huge mistake! Don't try to keep up with your friends. Just because they are ready doesn't mean you are. Listen to your heart baby and follow it. If you are backing off - it says pretty loud and clear you are not ready. Later on - guys will really like the fact that you didn't make out a lot or any of that. Only do it if it feels right - not to impress or keep up with anyone.
ok im really confused and i REALLLLY like matt ((hes this guy that i goes to the place where i dance and hes always my partner))...but i kinda like Max and MarC ((which are like my BESTEST guy friends)) and like they all like me and i like dunno what to do..if enyone has adive PLEASE HELP..cuz i dont wanna hurt enyones feelings!
Go for the one who is not your best friends. You will have lots of boyfriends - and good friends last a lot longer than boyfriends in middle and high school. Do a gut check and see which one you REALLY like - and if it is one of your best friends - tell them. Just be sure before you put a twist in a relationship.
I am in love with this guy. We'll call him Zach. And I like this guy. We'll call him Elijah. Zach's in love with this girl. We'll call her Alli. Alli's in love with this guy and is in a lasting relationship with this guy. We'll call him Joe. Okay, now the problem is Alli has no feelings for Zach and she's told him so. Zach is still hanging on because it is so hard for him to let go. But he knows he has to. And he's told me that when he isn't thinking of her he's thinking of me. I am that girl that he will fall back on and I'm okay with that. But while I'm waiting for him to get over her Elijah really likes me. He wants to be the guy to make me smile. And the more time he spends with girls the more he thinks of me. I like him, but I love Zach. Elijah told me that he will wait as long as he has to but he will not wait if it will jeopardize his well-being. I don't want to lose him, but I don't want to lose Zach more. Zach tells me but he would be okay if I went with Elijah. But the problem is that if I get too deep in with Elijah and Zach decides he wants to be with me it will only make it harder to turn Elijah away. What do I do? I will rate all answers.
I read your feedback - and I just have to say that if you are not the most important person in your world - who is? It has to be you - love doesn't mean that you put other people in front of your needs. I hear what you are saying - but what I'm saying is not to close yourself off - by far - just don't sit and wait for him. I know it feels very kind and loving to do so - and feels kinda humanitarian to be the one person who understands him and is willing to wait for him...etc..but really it's not. I was there. I am 31 now and have had my share. I just don't want you to sell yourself short. You don't have to be closed off - just put yourself first. Love is not you giving 100% of yourself and waiting for him while he gives much much less than 100%. Love is giving and understanding - from both directions. Being good to you has to come first because - like the old wore out, but very true saying goes - you can't give what you don't have. It's true. Good luck. If nothing else, you will come out of this stronger - no matter the decision. After I came out of the situation over 15 years ago I learned so much. There really is no substitute teacher for life experience.
Babygirl - DO NOT waste your precious time waiting on a guy that has you second on his list! If you like the other guy - go for it - if the other one misses out - his loss. Never wait on a guy - to get over someone. That is like dating a married man that won't leave his wife but keeps promising someday - that is for the birds honey! I can tell you that he doesn't like you that much if he's telling you that it's okay for you to go out with the other guy. And it's fine to say that you are okay with being the rebound girl - but those things never last because they didn't really want to be with you to begin with... I mean for your own good and peace of mind let this Zach guy go!!! You sound like you are really ready to put your whole life on hold if he wants to be with you - you are giving him WAY TOO MUCH POWER. Pull your power back and don't wait on anyone!!! He will walk all over you if he ever does get with you - for the simple reason that he knows you are just waiting for him - won't date anyone - waiting for him - blah blah blah... That just screams I will do anything for you even if it's not good for me - because waiting on the sidelines is not good for you.
I don't mean to be harsh, I just hate to hear women giving up their power to guys that are not even worth it! Make him work for it girl! Don't just sit up waiting and hoping.... that is for suckas and I know you are not that! If he doesn't recognize what a good catch you are - he's lame - not you!!!
ok well im 14 and ive been going out with my b/f 9 months today. during the school year id see him every day and we would allways talk alot so we rarely talked on the phone and when we did we talked form like 8 till 2 in the morning...he liked me for allmost a year before me and him started going out and everyone says how cute we are and everything, my birthday was recently and he gave this bear that when u scweze it it says i love you and we went out to dinner, i ran out of room in my year book this year so me and him decided we would write each other letters insted and the one he wrote me was soo cute i wanted to cry i could tell that it came from his heart after i read it i thought that this summer would be amazing but now that its summer it makes me soo sad b/c i never see him as much as im use to and im the one who useally calls him and i dont useally do it alot b/c i dont want to be the girl who allways calls boys or anyoingg idk what to do like when ever i talk to him and im with him he acts like he loves me but i dont know what to do it makes me soo sad
helppp i ratee!!
First of all, do his friends have girlfriends? That could definately be part of the problem if they don't because they want guy time - and probably give him a hard time about it. AT that age he is still fitting in with the guys and doesn't wanna look like a puppy dog. Why he's not calling is a mystery I guess... If it were me, I would just do my thing with the girls and let him call. If he knows you will always call then he doesn't have to - turn the tables and bring the ball back in your court. If you didn't talk on the phone before then it does stand to reason that you wouldn't much now. Do you live close to him? Because if you don't and he has a friend around the corner then it may be easier to hang around with him... Don't worry yourself too much and definately do not be the girl always calling - it does take on a needy look after a while - especially if he's not calling back. I say hang with the girls - go to the mall - talk to people - get out more and just have fun. He'll be back quicker if you are not just sitting around waiting on him!!!
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okay i moved to a different city about a year ago. there is this guy that is like one of my best friends and everyone knows that he likes me and i like him too((but not alot)). ive gone to dances with him, but im afraid that if he asks me out things will get all weird, and i dont know if i would be able to kiss him without feeling odd.
please help me!
Kisses can break up friendships. My advice would be to figure out what you like him as more - a friend or a boyfriend. Listen to your gut and DO what you feel. A good friend will last a lot longer than most boyfriends in high school - so if you like him just as a friend - just tell him. He can only respect the truth and the fact that you care about him enough to be upfront and preserve the friendship you two have. On the other hand, if it feels right, go for it!
I was dating this guy for a couple of months, and everything was perfect. He was the first guy I could actually say I loved and cared about, and he loved me too. I was a freshman and he was a senior when we started dating. What's the problem you're wondering ... well he turned 18 and graduated at the end of May. His father is the real problem though. His father got a new job in another state, and moved a couple days after his 18th birthday and graduation.[he got to stay in his father's old house] This guy I was dating also stopped calling me [we talked every night!] the day his dad moved. His dad told him several times when we dating that he should be careful and it eventually got to where he told him to stop dating me because he thought we were having sex and doing things. We were never even close to having sex! Well its been almost a 1 1/2 months since we've talked. He never called to tell me he was breaking up with me, but I did find out that he told someone that his dad made him break up with me. I tryed contacting him several times for several weeks, but he never answered his phone or called me back. I need advice on what to do. Should I try to forget him and move on or what? It's driving me crazy not knowing anything. What do I do?
Thanks 15-Female
I know that it's hard when someone just up and stops talking to you. It feels incomplete, like just hearing him say "yes, I want to break up" would feel better. And it might, but it doesn't sound like that's what you wanted - sounds like you wanted to stay together. At this point, if he is not returning your phone calls and it been over a month, I would say that he has made a definate decision. Just move on. The energy there is probably so screwy now that even if he wanted to call you up and say something it would feel awkward. Just leave it alone. You know the saying - if you love something set it free - if it comes back it was meant to be (that's my shortened version =) ) Write him a letter - don't send it - just write it. Say what you need to say to him. Get it all out - the mad (cuz you have to be a little mad) the sad and hurt and the love. Get it all out. Then, get a metal container and a lighter - go in your garage or somewhere paved and put the letter in the metal container and light it on fire (make sure to do it in a safe place - and make sure your parents are okay with it beforehand) - make it your farewell ceremony. Sweetheart, there are soooo many men out there - and I know that sounds a bit cliche` but it's true. You are going to find the right one. When things work out like that I have always found that it was for the best - even though it didn't feel like it at the time. Whatever you do - please do not dial that man's number again!!! Forget it - unprogram it from your phone... You'll find better.
Well let's see....There's this boy that I really like....And a couple weeks ago it seemed like he liked me 2 ...well even then he had a girlfriend but everyone knew that relationship wouldn't work out.....Now he goes out with this other girl that goes to his church during the summer and some during the school year....What really got to me was that I thought he liked me and might would ask me out after him and the first girl broke up but apparently he didn't and it kinda makes me mad cause the girl he dates now is a total slut.... What do I do I mean he is just bound to get hurt by her and I mean I really like him?
If you wanted advice on how to stay miserable - I definately answered the wrong question. I was trying to tell you that even though you may THINK you know someone you don't and trying to break them up WILL NOT HELP YOU. If you didn't want the truth, you shouldn't have posted.
Baby girl, there is absolutely nothing you can do about who he is with. And why would you? It wouldn't make him like you or want to be with you. If you really like him, then respect him enough to have his own life and if he wants you in it he will ask you to be. And watch those finger pointing accusations of people (calling the other girl a slut) - that is just ugly and you don't know where she is or what she is dealing with. Don't hate on her because of him. Just find someone else. It's obvious that if he wanted to be with you, he would have asked you...and he didn't. Let it go. Maybe when they break up he will be into you - but breaking them up will not help you!!!
my soon to be boyfriend goes too far sometimes. he comes over to hang out a lot and we cuddle and everything but sometimes his hands wander and i want him to stop. it's really uncomfortable for me and i want him to stop but i don't wanna seem like a prude. i've tried moving around to get him to move his hands but i don't know, there's just something weird about it. my past two boyfriends have been really verbally abusive and my last boyfriend hit me a lot right before we broke up and after we broke up and i still don't trust guys and i don't know if i should continue hanging out with this new guy. i know he really cares about me and has for a while. he took a lot of crap from me before we started hanging out. i lead him on and broke his heart when i hooked up with a different guy. HELP. i'm a girl btw.
If you are attracting physically and verbally abusive guys then the chances are this one is no different. What do you have going in your energy that is attracting you to these types of men? If it were me, I would probably break it off with everyone until I figured out what was going on with me then wait for the right one to come. I don't know how old you are - but it's better to start early than late. The bad news is that the first two were just verbally abusive then it escalated into violence with your last boyfriend. What will happen next? This is pretty serious stuff and I will be the first to tell you that you don't want to go down that road. If you really want some help, I am a life coach and I will talk to you via email for free. Don't take me up on that if you don't sincerely want the help.
I'm girl thats 14 and going into 9th grade, but I'm dating a guy thats almost 17 and going into 11th grade. A couple days ago he told me that before he met me, he made out with pretty much all his friends that are girls, and he misses that because he doesn't see me everyday so hes tempted to do things with them. He asked me if it would be ok if he did stuff with them. and still did things with me too, in other words, have friends with bennefits instead of a relationship. I said no because I didnt want to be his piece of ass, so I told him it was over. Now hes asking me to take him back, and I know I shouldnt but deep down I really want to be with him. what do I do!?
I think, if he asked you then he at least respects you enough to discuss it first. Being tempted is not the same as cheating. Maybe ask him what he wants out of the relationship with you. Of course you can't make him be faithful...
Now, you say that you know you shouldn't...why? Has he done something or just talked about it? If he's just talked about it - I can respect that because most guys wouldn't have. If he did something - leave him on the curb where you kicked him! If not, then maybe you could give it a try. He should know now that you are not playing because you broke up with him...you never know...he might really want to be with you and just felt comfortable enough to tell you...
Bottom line, go with your gut. Women's intuition is nothing to be fooled with!!!
Hey. Okay so I have this really great friend and i like him. He likes me too. The problem is he's a grade younger than me ( i'm going into 8th .. he's going into 7th ) and he asked me out and i said maybe. My friends tell me to say no because everyones gonna make fun of us .. especially me. But im afraid if i say no because im afraid he'll get mad at me and we wont be friends anymore. So i made a list of things i can do.
1. Say yes .. but not tell anyone
2. Say yes and ignore everyone ( this might be a hard one .. )
3. Say no and explain to him that we should just be friends & nothing more.
Im having a hard time choosing one of these .. Help please! i rate high!
thanks in advance
Okay, so you like the guy right? Guys go out with girls in lower grades all the time in middle and high school. Before you make a decision - figure out what you REALLY want. If you really like him - regardless of others opinions then don't let them dictate your happiness. If you say yes you cannot keep it a secret because that is just plain mean - like saying that you like him, but not enough to admit it to anyone but him. Just think - he may be the next Michael Jordan or Donald Trump and if you let your friends dictate how you feel - you could miss out on something that really makes your heart sing.
Go for what you know and forget what they say. If you are strong and sure, they will follow suit. Just because they are not sure enough of themselves to do something like that doesn't mean you have to be that way!!!
To start out, I'll tell you this. I'm only 15, but regardless of my age I think I could be in love. I've liked this guy for almost three years and he's pretty much all I think about. Every song I hear relates, in some way, to him. But that isn't the problem. He recently told me he liked me. And a few days later said he thought we would eventually go out. well, I don't think that's going to happen. I heard from a friend that he hasn't liked anyone since this one girl he liked a few months ago. Which would mean, he didn't like me. I asked him and he said I'm great and all, but he didn't like me any more than a friend. That kind of made me give up, you know? I felt like I failed or something? I don't know. I'm not really the jealous type, until it comes to him. So recently I've been talking to this other guy, he really likes me and I really like him. But the way I like him doesn't compare to how much I like the other guy. so, this guy is supposed to ask me out when we hang out this weekend, so I've heard. If he does, I'm scared to ruin the chance with the other guy i REALLY like. Although, I can't wait forever. But I need help soon. I have to decide. I'm really thinking to go for this guy that really likes me. What do you think?
You can't ruin a chance that isn't there. The fact is that some people will connect and some won't. Just take it as there is something better out there. Don't save yourself for a guy who is not interested and told you strait up that he wasn't. I know that sometimes just not being able to have the person makes you like them more - but that really isn't healthy. Take back your power - because right now you've given it all to him. Thinking about him all the time is definatley not healthy. Let him go. Remember that the only person you need in this world is you - period. And when you can be fine with you and let this other thing go - then you will be in a place where a good guy can come along. Don't say yes to this other dude if you are not feeling it. He has feelings too. If you truly do like him - go for it! If not - be honest and let him know. DON'T BASE ANY OF THE DECISION ON THE OTHER GUY!!! This is your life and trust me - this other guy will not be in it forever!!
To love someone in the way you say you do requires a lot more intimacy. I'm not talking about sex - just intimacy of the soul. Remember this - if you wake up more than 3 days in a row thinking about him - you are likely slightly obsessed with him. It feels like love, I know, I've been there. And for where you are - it probably is love - but not the healthy kind. Let him go and move on - PLEASE!!!
about a week ago, me and my boyfriend broke up after being together for about 7 months. then this guy that i had kinda liked asked me out and i said yes but now i'm regreting it. i still like/love my ex. he says he loved me. and my b/f calls me every morning and all the time. it is starting to drive me nuts. But i don't want to hurt him becuz he is a real good friend.and me and my ex broke up becuz i don't even know y. But he didn't treat me very nice. We did kiss but he never hugged me or called me. Then he went and bragged about it to all his friends and at the time he bragged to my now b/f. I don't know which one 2 choose..i love 1 but i like the other. i dont know...please help me out
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Well first of all, if your last boyfriend treated you bad - then is that love?? I think it may feel that way - but love doesn't hurt and if he's hurting you - then you deserve better. The new guy - you probably got with him on the rebound -right after the last guy, right? Don't keep leading him on and letting him think you want to be with him if you don't. If you're old enough to have a boyfriend, you are old enough to be honest with them and not play games. I would leave them both alone. Ex boyfriends will say anything to keep you holding on...show him you have the power here (because you do) and pay him no attention. If he never called you - then he didn't like YOU -just the kisses, right? Let that guy go. The other one - let him go too. If you think you are doing him a favor by not telling him how you feel, you are wrong. He has a right to know you are not feeling the situation. Let him move on and find someone who is more into him. Get some time to breathe and the right guy will come. Don't hang on to guys just to have one - you will always end up unhappy that way. Don't settle for less - ALWAYS demand more!!!
im 15 years old.. and my best friend is a guy named mike.. and me and him have always had something for eachother and been together hooking up off and on for about 2 years.. and he has been the BIGGEST part of my life and my heart for longer than that.. and just recently he started dating this girl that i absolutly do not get along with and never have.. and the first day they staretd going out i got into a fight with him over something i said to her. and he chose to defend her and be on her side over me. and that hurt me more than imaginable. but hes hurt me in similar ways to this and made me hysterical to many times to count.. and every time he does we fight and i try so hard to walk away from him but i never can.. and i always end up going bak to him as soon as he tells me he loves me and hes sorry. and i just dont know how to be without him anymore and that i need him and am not whole without him.. can you please tell me what to do because ireally cant take this pain anymore my hearts in so many pieces it just hurts to even breathe..
Well darlin, he can't heal that kind of pain...although it may feel that way, the truth is you have to heal your own heart. No one can complete you - that's a lovely saying - but any healthy relationship is made of 2 complete people coming together to compliment each other - not hurt one another.
Right now you are just giving him your power - your essence in hopes that he will do something different from what he's done before. He won't. I keep hope alive, but I also don't believe in suffering over a man who is rejecting you over and over. Fine, you hook up and it's lovely then, but there has to be something missing because he's got another girl and uses you as a fill in.
I had a guy like that when I was 15 or so... I learned so much from him. When I finally figured out what I am trying to tell you I had my strength back and he was begging for me. The funny thing was, I didn't want him anymore.
Pull yourself together and leave him alone for a bit. Being mean to his girl will not make you two closer - he's gonna take her side because that is the most intimate relationship in his life.
Write a list of what you want in a boyfriend - without him in mind and see if he even fits...I think you may be suprised!!!