22 year old girl.
Been in a relationship for the past 2 and a half years with a guy that is 24 and is great. Funny, intelligent, ambitious, and caring. And things were wonderful until I found out he was talking to another girl ..Texting, snap chatting, face times.. I talked him he apologized. He then went to the movies with a girl that he went to middle school with that he hadn't seen for years and used to crush on her to "catch up".. He then went out of the country and met up with the girl that he was constantly face timing and texting.. That bothered me... I started to get very fed up and stopped caring as much yet he still claims that they're both only his friends and that its all in my head... But my thing is if I were to be the one doing this, he wouldn't even be with me anymore. Fast-forward - I recently went out with a friend and met this one guy who is a cop. We kind of have the same history and let me tell you that every time I see this guy my heart starts racing.. I love talking to him and how much of a gentleman he is and I just feel so safe around him.. My feelings for my boyfriend are starting to fade and I just don't know what to do.. Advice greatly appreciated
Well, he could very well just be friends with her. Middle school was a long time ago for him, and to see someone from way back then, he probably does want to just catch up. To be honest, I would do the same. I'm sure right now with you meeting this cop that you like, and your feelings for your current boyfriend starting to fade, you are probably confused to know if this is just a simple crush or if you really like him, and may be just wondering how to break up with your boyfriend or whatever. My advice would be, pay attention to how you and this cop act around each other and compare that to you and your boyfriend. Talk with both separately (not saying to tell them both about the other) and see who truly cares for you more. The one that's more caring should be the one you go out with
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What does it mean if you cry over a boy every night while he has a girlfriend but he isn't happy with the girlfriend because every night he cries at night because he misses you?
I think it means you two love each other and can't stand the thought that you aren't together. If he cries at night over you, then he probably doesn't want to be with his girlfriend. There could be reasons as to why he has to be with her and he has no choice. But that really sounds like love
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It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it.
I can't say for sure whether or not they were just trying to get people's attention or just making sure no one was staring as they were making out. Some people just aren't afraid to be open with their relationships and want it to be public. Or some just don't care about the people around and isn't shy to show their love no matter who is there. It's possible they kept looking back because they didn't want people staring and we're keeping check on their surroundings. I can understand how it can be awkward simce this kind of thing can happen a lot in America. It can be rude, but when your in love you don't think about whether or not it's rude or even care what other people think about the situation. It's possible they could be those couples that basically place "he's mine!" Or "she's mine!" And wants to make it clear that person is taken. They could be one of those jealous couples, but they may also be those people who don't care what other people think of their relationship. It all depends on the people who is doing it.
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so I'm 24 ex is 23 we were together for 3 years. I broke up with him cause he wasn't make an effort to come see me or talk to me or spend the weekends with me. The only time we'd ever talk is through text and while he was working I had to ask every night if he was planning on coming over and at least calling to talk and he always had something more important to do. Then the weekends would come and I'd hardly hear from him only a few text or so. He just wasn't putting in the effort I needed him to. But somehow that was "my fault"... Everything was always somehow my fault. Well anyway we broke up on Saturday cause it was my birthday last week and I had to ask HIM if he planned on spending it with me and when I made him feel guilty he did but then the weekend came and I asked if he was coming out with some friends and me and he refused he wanted to play games. So I broke up with him I had enough. Well since Sunday he won't stop texting:calling so finally I answered last night to tell him to stop and he was like "ok fine sorry I even bothered trying" like really?!?! A few phone calls doesn't count as trying... I'm just over the whole thing am I wrong to be mad that he considered that as him trying?! I've been trying to get him to spend time with me for months and I get nothing but excuses
No way we're you wrong. Not all all, whatsoever! He clearly didn't care enough if he would prefer to play video games than spend time with you. No one would want to be together with someone like that. It's like that song 'gone' by tobymac. This situation is exactly like that. If you listen to it then you'll see. He thought you would always be there anyway, so he took advantage of you. NO ONE likes that. I would say try blocking him. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you being furious with him. I would be the same way. He clearly wasn't worth your time, so find someone who will respect you.
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M/17
This girl that like or have crush on,I dont know what to do anymore. This past few weeks we gotten really close to each other,we texted a lot but i dont if thats enough. I mean She knows that i have a crush on her,because I confess it to her,its suppose to be an April fools prank but I lost the oppurtunity to say the "April Fools" so I yeah she knows. Of all the girls that I have a crush on Shes the different one,because I didnt even bother to know those girls more,but this girl shes really different from the others....I dont know. I miss her a lot,because its summer vacation here in the Philippines,and Im not gonne see her at school anymore because were entering college soon (we have a different schooling system here) I think Im falling for her,and this my first time to make an effort to know a girl. Oh and never had Girlfriend before so I dont know what to do...so bear with me...Should I continue this??
If you confessed on April fools day, then she probably didn't take you seriously. Take her somewhere nice and sit down and explain your love. Don't just say "I have a crush on you", tell her everything you love about her. Say you want to visit over the summer, and don't want to let college pull you two apart. Tell her all that you love about her, and that you want to be together. Yes, it will be very hard, and take all your strength to do if it's your first time, but if you don't tell her and you two go off to college with you never saying anything, I promise you will have major regrets. Ask a friend to help you prepare for telling her, so you will know what to say and not get tongue tied. It will also make it a little less scary of your prepared for whatever answer she may give you.
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I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and I'm very much in love with him.. he has been fantizising about seeing a girl with me.. I'm not at all about a "threesome" he hasn't said it out but he hints bout it turns him on to see another with me... I'm scared if he's wanting to be with someone else or he just doesn't love me or respect me.
If he truly loves you, then he will lay off all these hints. Many do like three some sex, so it's very possible that he thinks you feel the same way about it. Ask him if he's happy with you. It'll take a lot of courage, but you need to get the truth right out of his own mouth. And pay attention, because if he feels you won't like his answer, he will lie to you. So watch closely. I know you are in love with him, but if he's just using you to get sex, then he doesn't really love you. It's better to get the truth, then do something you might later regret.
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I was wondering.. Is it ok for a 22 year old male to date a 17 year old girl as long as both are alright with it and everything is concentual?
If you both are happy together, then go for it. You could make a whole new Romeo and Juliette story. Just make sure this has a happy ending and doesn't end up like Romeo and Juliette. It's only five years difference and my grandparents are six years apart. Just think, when your 25, she'll be 20. When your 30, she'll be 25. When your 35, she'll be 30 and so on. When you look at it like that it doesn't seem like to big a difference. If you like her, and she likes you, then do it!😀
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what do i do? i am a girl my best friend is a boy and i have a crush on him, how do i tell him it without it being super awkward?
If your best friend is a boy, there is more of a chance he feels the same way that not. Guys seem to fall for the girl first. To see if he feels the same way, pay attention to his body language. Does he listen close you what you say? Does he smile a lot around you? Does he casually bring up places to go? Does he sometime seem nervous? Now this last one may not be the case, because if you are best friends then he may be used to being around you, or could be like me and is easily able to put a mask on how he's really feeling. There has to be someone else you both trust and talk to. If so, speak to him/her because there is a good chance that friend would know. Probably came for advice on how to make the next step or something. If there isn't anyone like that, speak to someone he hangs out with sometimes and ask him/her how he feels. If there isn't anyone and you just want to go up to him yourself, then beat around the bush while still bringing the point across. Maybe make a joke on you guys going out or something and see how he reacts. Try to go places with him more like to eat or the movies. You could go as friends, and if he truly enjoys himself he might think of you as someone to date. I hope I helped~
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Gender- Male
Age-14
I am a very intelligent and shy person. There was a beautiful girl at my school by the name of Kamryn. I had liked her for a very, very long time, even though we didn't know each other very well. After speaking to one of my best friends (who is also one of Kamryn's best friends), I discovered that she liked me as well. On February 12th I finally worked up the courage to ask her out. I had gotten her a heart-shaped box of chocolates and a rose (as cliche as it may seem, it was almost Valentine's Day). She said yes, and it was then that I had my first girlfriend. I tried to do everything right; I sent her goodnight and good morning texts every night and morning, I compliment her everyday (I tried not to compliment her to much, as not to dilute the meaning, but simply couldn't help stating my mind). We still didn't talk too often during school (as we are both very shy and soft-spoken people). We did, however, text each other all the time. I attempted to make conversation with her whenever I could, but she never reciprocated. I am an INTJ, and contemplate every finite detail very thoroughly. I took any blame or negative aspect out on myself. Out of the blue, after only twenty days of dating, she told me that there are a lot of things going on in her life, and that she thinks we should break up. I understand her point of view, but as a person of pure logic and reason, I am having a constant internal battle of reasoning. I am seeing two equal and true perspectives. I keep analyzing all of the possibilities; perhaps she only said yes to spare my feelings. I have been deeply depressed. I haven't slept more than three hours a night, and haven't eaten anything since the breakup, nor have I spoken to anyone for any reason. There is no advice that can help me, but I never speak of my feelings to anyone, so I figured, "why not?" I expect to see all of the things that are all too common and all the less helpful; "It will pass," "You're young, you'll go through a lot of girlfriends," "You can't let it get to you," and the classic, "There are plenty of fish in the sea."
The old "there are many fish in the sea" and the others don't help at all. I'm not here to tell you you'll find someone just like her, but you will find the one right for you. I don't think she just said yes to spare your feelings. I know the easiest thing to do is think she never liked you to begin with, but there really may be things going on where she can't have a boyfriend. You have to consider all the possibilities. She could have family trouble (which me and my dad experience every day) or maybe she's a little afraid right now. If you really love her, give her some time, and maybe ask her out again. Just because she broke up with you doesn't mean all hope is lost, so don't think that it is. Keep your head up and be determined to win her back instead of closing yourself up from everybody. Your really hurting yourself doing this. Try to eat a little. Even if it's just a meal a day or having a little snack. You don't want to win her over by worrying her your gonna kill yourself. Please speak with someone. Get your closest friend and open up. You have no clue how much better it is to speak your mind then let it all bottle up. It may help you
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Hi! I'm having a love crisis here that I need a little advice on. There's a guy that I like and I'm pretty sure that he likes me. He's pretty cute, hilarious, an amazing artist, and a decent writer. The problem is, he's not smart. He gets straight C's at best and he's just over all not super intellectual. I wouldn't mind him not being naturally academic if he would just TRY. I've worked with him in groups and partners and he doesn't try to hide the fact that he doesn't care about school at all. I've been an above average hard working honors student my whole life so you can see why his lack of effort turns me off. Am I being shallow? I really like him, but I'm not going to even think about asking him out if he doesn't put in a little effort.
Being above average, I can understand why you cannot stand him putting in no effort. Though on the other hand, he may not have an easy time concentrating. It could actually be bothering him because he wants to be better but just can't break old habits. My grades aren't so hot, and that's how I can kinda understand. Sometimes the thought of school can make one nervous and not being able to concentrate, so he may just want to go out and have fun. That's the way most teens are. They don't want to just get bad grades, but sometimes it's hard to just study. If you like him, I say give him a chance, and maybe help him study without him knowing it. Turn it into something fun. Best of luck!
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i'm 12 and my bf is 13. my bf is more experienced than i am and he wants me to do stuff that i dont think i should cuz of my age and i'm not really ready for. i need help to know how to tell him that i'm not ready for that stuff. pleez and thank u if u can help
Be honest with him. If he wants to do stuff your not comfortable with, remember--you don't have to do it. I know it's hard to say no because your afraid of what he will think, but if he gets mad about you not wanting to go all the way, then he isn't worth your time. He would only end up hurting you. If he's truly an understanding guy, then he will accept that your not ready yet and feel too young and will give you time and let you wait till your ready. Let him know, that when people sex, girls are the ones who will get found out. Guys may never get caught, but girls lose something when going all the way, and uncles there is a condom, they can very we'll end up pregnant. Tell him the truth, and hopefully he will understand
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I'm a 27 year old gay male. He's 34, also gay male. We live apart in the same city. We mostly see one another on weekends, even though he works just two blocks from my apartment. Truly, I love him and don't want to hurt him. I know this is bad for me, and for him, even if he never finds out. I don't want to continue these patterns of behavior, but can't manage quitting them, and don't have people in my life I trust to confide in. I have been trying to stop cheating for over a year now, but I end up giving in about every 2-3 months by having a one night stand on a gay dating app or website. I feel awful afterward, delete any profile or email or pictures I used, and vow that this time was the last time and that I won't ever do it again. But eventually I do, and the cycle repeats. I don't trust myself anymore after seeing failure after failure. This is so unfair to him and so wrong. I fear if I told him the truth that I would lose him, and that's the last thing I want, but it's not right to keep on like this, even though I really do want to stop. If I break up with him (for his own sake), I would still have that problem with someone else down the road, so breaking up won't really fix anything in me, and I would lose him.
I've questioned myself a lot about why I cheat. Here are a few factors that I feel contribute to my tendency toward infidelity. I have a higher sex drive in general, than he does, and feel bad initiating sex when he isn't interested. His lower drive is at least partly due to his psych medications, so there is little we can do to fix that. We have limited time together, so it makes it that much more frustrating when sex doesn't happen during our weekends at his place. Sex is great when we have it, and I like being intimate with him as a person, not just the physical pleasure aspect, but certainly that too. He also does not "bottom" for me, mostly for health reasons complicated by his medications. I like both sexual roles equally, so it can be frustrating not being able to fully express myself in those ways in the bedroom. I accepted this after a lot of talking with him about it and trying things to help him feel more comfortable, but then gave up many months later and tried to move on and be happy as exclusively the "bottom" in bed. Don't get me wrong, I like that, but I like to "top" just as much, and it feels like something is missing never getting to have sex that way. We have a good relationship outside of the bedroom and love each other very much, but my sexual interests and urges keep drawing me away to other outlets to satisfy them. I feel like I should be able to control myself, but I apparently I can't because I've been trying for so long to stay away from casual sex outside the relationship, but keep failing. Not being together all the time also makes it hard to be as spontaneous or frequent about sex. I hesitate about moving in with him because I fear my infidelity could continue - despite my best best intentions - but living with him would give me much less opportunity to seek out sex outside the relationship, and more opportunity to enjoy sex inside the relationship. What should I do?
Maybe your not meant to be in a steady relationship right at the moment. You can only see him on weekends, so you have a strong desire to be with someone and its causing you to grow weak and download those dating apps. I don't think you would have any trouble whatsoever staying in a steady relationship if you could see each other regularly, but you can't and you want someone to fill the other days of the week. This may seem a little drastic, but maybe you should get couciling and see if the councilar can help you stay with him. I think your desires are getting the best of you, so it causes you to hook up with someone else.
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Okay, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, he's great. He supports me and my 2 children from my marriage. I'm 25 & he's 4 yrs older then me. He's had over double the sexual partners ice had, which in my opinion he's pretty experienced and I'm not so much. I have always been pretty adventurous sexually. We have a great sex life. He's only enjoyed oral from 1 other girlfriend and I've only enjoyed anal with him,as examples. Also we both watch porn from time to time when the other is at work or out... well I just found out its actually very common for him. Habitual even, which I don't mind, he watches safe and age appropriate porn., but I discovered he does it when I'm home and go to sleep before him. The problem is I've told him I want to have sex with him pretty much always. Tired, mad, annoyed , sick , whatever. So why pleasure yourself to porn when he has me? I mean, I do just as dirty nasty things as those girls do. Im also in shape and curvy in tge hips which he loces, i mean, im hot. So,I can't make sense of it and he says its a problem he's had since 2 years before we met.
Is it possible to overcome this? I don't want him yo stop completely ( unless he has to) but I'm do in love with him and I prefer sex than masturbation. If I'm here he shouldn't need to do that. Am I right to feel this way? Insecure? Please help. - Kelsey Jaye
Yes, he does have you, but sometimes when guys get hooked it's hard to get off of. Very very addictive. Who knows? Maybe he thought you were asleep when you headed to bed. If you want him to go for you, just ask if he wants to join you. Like I said, I don't think he means any harm by it. It is something very addictive. Before you go to bed, put something on that will grab his attention. Maybe some lingerie.
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I am an extremely petite woman. I'm about 5"1, Asian and with tiny bone structure. Ballet dancer's build, basically. I wear 00 pants, size 2 dress and 32A bra and though not completely shapeless (I have long legs and a defined waistline), I am extremely skinny and fragile-looking.
There are literally no men I have ever met that are attracted to chicks who look anything close to me. Every single guy I know is obsessed with the blonde hair extensions, blue eyes and big boobs, and it feels like I'll never be able to compare. I suppose if I was persistent I could get someone to date me, but during the date I know they wouldn't be able to stop themselves from constantly stealing looks at the voluptuous all-American woman at the next table.
I think you may be too worried about your looks. I do think you should eat a little more, 'cause you sound like you may be underweight. I'm saying gain some for your health, not for the fact of you wanting to attract guys. I was really self conscious at one point, and worked hard to get to the weight I need to be. I did it for myself though, not so guys would look at me. Now, every straight girl wants guys to look at her, so I understand. Everyone is truly beautiful, but if you are worried about how you look, maybe you just need the right hair, skin, nail, and makeup products. Find the clothing and products that you like, and try eating just a little more every day. Get some recommendations at a hair or beauty salon and find the person you want to be and that will make you feel happy. Now, if you find a guy and he likes blonde hair, big boobs, ect. Don't get work done just for that one specific guy, no matter how much you like him. I promise you will end up regretting it. If you find the right look you want but still can't get a guy, don't change your look. If you have to, join a dating website. You would be surprised how many guys you could find, and someone that likes your looks and loves you just the way you are.
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My ex-boyfriend (Sammy) broke up with me on December 26th. He was older than me and after he broke up with me, I met Edward but we broke up today. Anyways, Sammy used to call me cutie and I loved it. Now, I don't let anyone else call me that. Today, I found out that he died because someone hit him with a car. I remember that the last thing I said to him was "look at the stars because we're both under the same sky and I'm sure we're looking at the same bright stars." Now that he's gone, I'm going crazy. I still love him and I have no idea of what I should do. I'm just too young to be going through this and I can't take it anymore. My life is too hard and sometimes I don't want it.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I think you need someone to talk to and grieve with. It's hardl lose someone you love, and I can't say that this is just a passing pain, 'cause it's not. The pain will ease, but everyone someday in their life losses someone they care very deeply about. Visit his grave and talk out your feelings to him. Sometimes when there are words you want to say, it will help to go where he is or will be buried and speak. He may not speak back, but at least you can say how much you truly love and care for him.
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is that weird? is there etiquette for that? he didn't do it back to me, did i mess things up?!? or does it mean he's just shy? it was my gut reaction, but i'll stop doing it with guys if i have the etiquette all wrong.
I do the same thing. He was probably shy and didn't know how to react. If he's shy, and didn't expect you to put your arm around him, it was probably instinct to freeze. I've met guys like that. They will let you do it, but are too shy to do it back. IF he appeared like he could be no more comfortable with it, he may either be used to it, or not a touching person. Unless he was really shy about it, I doubt he gave it any thought.
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Thanks for the advice but he literally just left me. He told me that he's in love with my best friend and that I'm annoying and I never give him space. Ive been with him ever since January 1st and we used to be happy. He just now told me that he stopped loving me at the end of that month because I loved someone else. He's totally wrong because I only have eyes for him. I guess that doesn't matter now because he's gone and he doesn't even care if I kill myself. I thought he was different.
He knows you only have eyes for him, he just wants someone else to pin the blame on. I'm sorry. It's hard now, but one day you will find that someone who truly cares about you for who you are. Maybe even the last person you would expect. You may be looking at the school jock while your Prince Charming is the class nerd. it's hard losing someone you care about, but don't lock yourself up in your house, get out and talk to people. Get your most trusting friends together, and see if they know someone, even if you don't fall in love right away, maybe love will blossom and you will have someone to keep your mind off the jerk who ran after your best friend
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so i recently have been on a few dates with this guy and things are going well so far, meanwhile a different guy (they slightly know eachother) started liking me and just asked me out knowing that i am dating the other guy. all this aside, theres a third guy who is close with both of them who i actually like a lot, i know based on things he has said to my friends that he would date me if it werent for his friends. i realize this makes me sound horrible but in the event that things dont pan out with the first guy, since it is very new, how do i get the 3rd guy to ask me out without feeling like hes being a bad friend?
His friends are obviously the cause for this, so try to befriend them. They may not like you, or know you, and that can affect their decision. If you try to be their friend, maybe they will like you, and let you date him. They may just want what's best for him. A lot of people are like that, myself included. I don't want people taking advantage of my friends, and maybe they feel the same way and that's the cause for their actions. Best thing to do to keep him from losing his friends, and still be able to date you, is do what you can to be their friend first, so they will approve of you two
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I want Shaylan, I want Josh, and I want Jay. I just don't know what to do! They all offer me things.. Shaylan is in love with me and I've liked him since 5th grade (I'm a freshman in Highschool).. Josh is the sweetest thing ever and is in love with me, plus we're like best friends... And Jay is so hot and is willing to wait for my decision.. :'( and I need to make a decision fast before I loose all of them.
If you want to know who it is you like best, try all three. Now I'm not saying to have three boyfriends, I'm saying to tell them you don't know and want to try one date with each to see who it is you truly like best as a boyfriend. The decision won't be easy, but it might help narrow it down. Think of all the likes and dislikes you have of each one, and which one will cooperate the best. Make sure your family approves first, or you may make a choice and have your parents on your back. To start with, take two of the boys and get some paper and compare them. Then after you narrow it down do it again with the third. And talk to your friends and family and see who they prefer, and they will help you and tell their reason for picking him. Lots of luck👌
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Hi, so I've been dating this girl for a few weeks. Now she is REALLY beautiful, all the guys are after her. I even received a text from one of her guy friends saying he was going to try and steal her from me. She also hangs out at some other guy's houses the whole time. I know she is loyal, as am I, I just get worried because we really love each other, but she lives in Texas and i live in Tennessee. It's just that I've dealt with long distance relationships before, they don't work out. But with her, I know it will last a long time. I'm just wondering, should I be worried? Should i keep loving her? :(
If you love her and try to give up, you will regret it for the rest of your life. Yes, long distance relationships are difficult, but if you truly love each other, you can make it work. If your worried, save your money and drive up there to throw a romantic date. Tell her you love her and you hope to never lose her. It's not bad to be worried, in fact, it's a good thing. Let her know how amazing she is and that's why your afraid someone will snatch her up. Tear yourself down, while building her up and say you never want to lose her and that you want to be with her. Girls love when guys do romantic gestures and like to feel special. If you truly love her, distance will not keep the two of you apart. Don't just say you love her, show her and prove it.
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