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22/f: No men I have ever met are attracted to chicks who look anything close to me.
I am an extremely petite woman. I'm about 5"1, Asian and with tiny bone structure. Ballet dancer's build, basically. I wear 00 pants, size 2 dress and 32A bra and though not completely shapeless (I have long legs and a defined waistline), I am extremely skinny and fragile-looking.
There are literally no men I have ever met that are attracted to chicks who look anything close to me. Every single guy I know is obsessed with the blonde hair extensions, blue eyes and big boobs, and it feels like I'll never be able to compare. I suppose if I was persistent I could get someone to date me, but during the date I know they wouldn't be able to stop themselves from constantly stealing looks at the voluptuous all-American woman at the next table.
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I think you may be too worried about your looks. I do think you should eat a little more, 'cause you sound like you may be underweight. I'm saying gain some for your health, not for the fact of you wanting to attract guys. I was really self conscious at one point, and worked hard to get to the weight I need to be. I did it for myself though, not so guys would look at me. Now, every straight girl wants guys to look at her, so I understand. Everyone is truly beautiful, but if you are worried about how you look, maybe you just need the right hair, skin, nail, and makeup products. Find the clothing and products that you like, and try eating just a little more every day. Get some recommendations at a hair or beauty salon and find the person you want to be and that will make you feel happy. Now, if you find a guy and he likes blonde hair, big boobs, ect. Don't get work done just for that one specific guy, no matter how much you like him. I promise you will end up regretting it. If you find the right look you want but still can't get a guy, don't change your look. If you have to, join a dating website. You would be surprised how many guys you could find, and someone that likes your looks and loves you just the way you are.
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If we look at our bodies as packaging to attract the opposite sex. Then we can say not everyone. Has the same packaging. Men your age are still quite shallow they are out for a good time and Sex for the most part. But all is not lost for it is what is under the wrappings that eventually shows through.
Relationships based entirely on sex generally fail for at some point you wake up and you actually have to talk to each other. This is when the relationship fails for you find out you have nothing in common. There is a better way to meet people and get to know them without the window dressing getting in the way.
What I would like you to try is this. Sit down with pen and paper and make a list of all the things you like to do both in school and out; both on campus and off. Trust me I have made this recommendation to others and they write back it works.
Include everything you like to do. Include church activities if it applies, camping, fishing, reading, hiking, cooking, photography, nature walks, sports playing and anything else you can think of. Then number them 1 to whatever.
Now take the top five and look to see if there are not any groups or activities going on specific to these activities and go to their meetings. I'm positive you will find one or more that will welcome you with open arms. You would be surprised to find that both men and women like to take part in many of the activities you do. You start by listening to conversations and adding your own interest or knowledge to the conversation.
Before you know it you're having coffee with someone after the meeting and then you are dating.
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Hi!
I know it can be hard to find the right guy. Don't date a guy who's going to look and flirt with other girls, he's not worth your time, and he's a jerk for doing that. In my opinion those girls that the guys look at might be pretty, but is she pretty in the inside? You don't have to have big boobs, blonde hair, or curves to be able to date. I don't know if my advice will help you in any way, and sorry if it doesn't.
best wishes
-swimmer133
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Start online dating.
Seriously. You'll find plenty of men who want to have sex with you. You might even find it uncomfortable how many men want to have sex with you because you are petite and of Asian descent.
You might still find it difficult to find someone who wants to be in relationship with you - because that is a tough thing to find for everyone, even the voluptuous blondes - but if you think no one is attracted to you sexually, just jump into the online dating pool for a week or two. You'll find out that there are many, many men willing who want to spend time with you.
Just be safe about it.
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