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I feel pathetic
I'm a senior in high school and I really don't have any friends. There are people that I say hi to once in a while when I see them but we're not very close. I do have one very close friend but we have no classes this year together and barely even talk anymore. I spend my free period and lunch in the library by myself doing work. Even in my classes I have no one to talk to and I feel really pathetic just sitting there. I'm a nice and friendly person but I can't seem to make any friends. I also have very low self esteem, which I know is causing me a lot of problems but I can't seem to change it. I'm always feeling like a loser. I do well academically but I can't even participate in my classes because I'm worried about others will think. I feel like no one wants me around and I feel useless and worthless. I just can't wait for this school year to end, I'm going to college this year and I really want to try to talk to people more and make some friends. I usually don't go up to someone and talk to them first because I feel like I'll be bothering them or they won't wanna talk to me. Anyways, I'm not really asking for advice, I just wanted to say this since I have no one else to really talk about it with. My life at home isn't really any better.
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You sound like your too low in self esteem and need more confidence. I took up hypnosis online and it will help you. Listen every day for a week or two and it will help you free of charge. I know some people that hypnosis is some kind of mind control, but it's not. It just helps you do what you want to do, without the part of your brain that's always pulling you back. It may be hard now, but believe me, this truly honestly does help. I've done many hypnosis session for multiple things. Confidence, happiness, weight loss, memory improvement, whatever. I couldn't believe how much I changed, and finally became the person I wanted to be. Just find one that people recommend, even on YouTube, and plug in headphones while you sleep. Your subconscious mind will pick up the message, and give you the confidence you need. I really hope you try this
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He's right, without self esteem, others won't think highly of you either. Its a tricky thing, you can be saying and doing all the right things even but its not as much your appearance or what you say and do that make a person respond positively or negatively to you, it's what they can't see. Its about what their senses pick up, those vibes emanating from you, like radio waves that they pick up on.
Try this for boosting your self confidence. Search for a celebrity whose confidence and personality has one or two features that remind you of you, her sense of humor maybe, or how she acted in a role, and you can think of someone who you share some kind of feature with, thin lips, heart shaped face, straight or curly hair, deep set eyes. What you will do is 'borrow' their confidence until you grow some of your own. It only takes a few times of getting the right reactions from people to have it really make a difference on your own self confidence.
I did an experiment once, picking my eyes as I felt they were my best feature, and researched for an actress whose eyes were similar to mine, who I liked. Then every time I left the house, I imagined myself to be her, with her eyes, and her confidence. I know it's going to sound unbelieveable but since I chose to focus on eyes, I got nothing but comments from strangers on my eyes for as long as I did this visualization, or even just letting the thought cross my mind. My eyes weren't any different, no makeup, and yet everyone was responding about my eyes. So it wasn't my eyes they picked up on, it was the vibes I sent out that I had eyes as pretty as those of an actress/model. It would be one thing if a friend commented but I got the comments from strangers who felt so compelled to say something because of how strongly they felt that vibe from me. You didn't go into what the issues are with your life at home and perhaps that may be the underlying issues causing you to feel as you do. But otherwise, its worth a try dear. If you want feedback, not even advice regarding your life at home, i suggest posting it for all of us with detail and good examples so we have a good grasp of what is occuring and tell let you know what we think, if it is normal or not, something to be concerned about or not.
Good luck dear and blessings!
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Dear I feel pathetic,
Self esteem is all about how you estimate yourself and the hard truth is, if you don't rate yourself very highly, others won't either. You may even anticipate rejection and expect to be ignored or mistreated. People with low self esteem tend to be very sure of themselves and that's the problem, it manifests in their conviction that they are worthless or inadequate.
My advice to you is: Redefine failure and keep trying. The fact that you do well academically is proof that you're intelligent and I'd be willing to bet that when you want to, you could regale people with interesting stories that would crack them up. You could be the perfect partner or friend and I'm sure that you possess a genuine good heart.
However, no amount of intelligence or humor can give you the same sense of personal gratification or a sense of purpose as a genuine "thank you" from someone that you've helped in some way. As soon as you're willing to stop being so wrapped up in your own worries and start being a part of the bigger picture, with a role to play in this universe, your sense of self worth and self esteem will get a whole new definition. Give of yourself freely and help others whenever you can. You'll get more than what you thought you ever needed.
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