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guys, what would you think if a girl put their arm around you for a picture
is that weird? is there etiquette for that? he didn't do it back to me, did i mess things up?!? or does it mean he's just shy? it was my gut reaction, but i'll stop doing it with guys if i have the etiquette all wrong.
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I do the same thing. He was probably shy and didn't know how to react. If he's shy, and didn't expect you to put your arm around him, it was probably instinct to freeze. I've met guys like that. They will let you do it, but are too shy to do it back. IF he appeared like he could be no more comfortable with it, he may either be used to it, or not a touching person. Unless he was really shy about it, I doubt he gave it any thought.
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When it's a group pic, and you have to get a lot of people viewable in the photo, they have to huddle close to begin with, and where do my arms go, they're either squashed against my sides or it's more comfortable to put my arms around someones waist, back or shoulders depending how tall they are, I'm short. LOL And it doesn't feel odd at all.
Even if you made have consciously had thoughts while making that move, its a fairly natural one that most I don't think would take wrong.
Just the other day, my husband and I were as McDonalds when a Mom with 3 teens came up to us explaining they were in a photo scavenger hunt and one of things on the list they had to get was a photo of them with strangers with the McDonalds sign in the background, would we be willing, Sure, we huddled close and my arms went around the perfect strangers for the photo and they were all smiles as we were good sports to help them. No one had a problem with that, You can tell, the body stiffens or they pull away.
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I think you might have done it because society is blurring gender behavior in the media, so we're picking up on behavior that's trendy without even realizing it. However, people are still people.
Putting your arm around someone is still a sheltering, caring, sometimes dominating maneuver. That's why men typically do it. If you like him, and he's the type of guy that likes to take the lead, it was weird. However, it was just a one time thing and can easily be dismissed as awkwardness or jitters or nothing at all, like you were sleepy or something.
Popular TV, the media and other things nowadays are promoting an extremely different lifestyle, where everything is accepted and gender roles are nonsense.
However, not everyone comes from that type of home or agrees with that type of thinking. That includes people you might be attracted to. Don't be subconsciously fooled, influenced or manipulated by what you see on TV if you can help it.
Take people as they come. Get to know them for who they are before you reach out to them. Especially in this day and age, you might be surprised that many people don't agree with the status quo, (as your gut might be telling you).
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I think as long as it's not too touchy feely or anything, like putting your arm in the wrong place or something. But some people do that for pictures sometimes, it's just all about the way you handle it. It may not be best to do it to guys who are in relationships, but yet some girls don't mind. So it really depends, but I don't think it's that bad.
Hope this helps~
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