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He's dead...
My ex-boyfriend (Sammy) broke up with me on December 26th. He was older than me and after he broke up with me, I met Edward but we broke up today. Anyways, Sammy used to call me cutie and I loved it. Now, I don't let anyone else call me that. Today, I found out that he died because someone hit him with a car. I remember that the last thing I said to him was "look at the stars because we're both under the same sky and I'm sure we're looking at the same bright stars." Now that he's gone, I'm going crazy. I still love him and I have no idea of what I should do. I'm just too young to be going through this and I can't take it anymore. My life is too hard and sometimes I don't want it.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I think you need someone to talk to and grieve with. It's hardl lose someone you love, and I can't say that this is just a passing pain, 'cause it's not. The pain will ease, but everyone someday in their life losses someone they care very deeply about. Visit his grave and talk out your feelings to him. Sometimes when there are words you want to say, it will help to go where he is or will be buried and speak. He may not speak back, but at least you can say how much you truly love and care for him.
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Loss, whether of a person a job or some other loss in life is never easy but it is an inevitable part of life. We all die eventually, just that some die early and young. It could have been just a classmate, not someone you loved, but either way, a loss like this means you will need to go through a grieving process which has many steps to it including anger and such things as you might think are wrong to experience but all Very Important to the healing process for you. If you are an adult, I suggest going for grief counseling, if not, ask your parents to help you get set up with grief counseling. If they won't do it, talk to school counselors, as it is something schools take very seriously. While my daughters went to school, there was a kid in grade school who died and the school called in grief counselors to speak to the whole student body/. When my kids grandma died, we were immediately offered to have a grief
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I can't stress this enough for you to get grief counseling.
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I've always thought that as we come to know know people, we also take a part of them with us in our daily lives - even after we part ways.
You and Sammy were close - and based on what you've written, it sounds like he had a huge impact on your life. Given this, what about Sammy can you incorporate into your own life or the lives of others? What you can you pass along to keep his memory alive not only in your life but in the lives of others?
In time, you'll come to accept and understand what has happened. While that happens, share the best of him and he'll live on through you and others.
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Let me start off by saying that I am truly sorry for your loss.
Based on your last words to him, it seems that you guys where still on good terms, so at the very least, you aren't having remorse about your last conversation being a fight or saying something terrible that you didn't mean. You should try to take comfort in that.
Life can be a wonderful thing but it can also be sad and difficult at times. And we have to come to realize that this is OK. In fact, without the times that challenge us, we would never be able to understand and appreciate the value in the good times we had.
It has become a cliche over the years but the phrase "time heals all wounds" didn't become so famous for nothing.
Just know that what you are feeling is a natural part of the grieving process and all processes take time. Sooner or later, you will be OK.
Remember the good times and your own words, you're looking at the same bright stars, just now it's from a different angles.
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