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My ex-boyfriend (Sammy) broke up with me on December 26th. He was older than me and after he broke up with me, I met Edward but we broke up today. Anyways, Sammy used to call me cutie and I loved it. Now, I don't let anyone else call me that. Today, I found out that he died because someone hit him with a car. I remember that the last thing I said to him was "look at the stars because we're both under the same sky and I'm sure we're looking at the same bright stars." Now that he's gone, I'm going crazy. I still love him and I have no idea of what I should do. I'm just too young to be going through this and I can't take it anymore. My life is too hard and sometimes I don't want it. (link)
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I've always thought that as we come to know know people, we also take a part of them with us in our daily lives - even after we part ways.
You and Sammy were close - and based on what you've written, it sounds like he had a huge impact on your life. Given this, what about Sammy can you incorporate into your own life or the lives of others? What you can you pass along to keep his memory alive not only in your life but in the lives of others?
In time, you'll come to accept and understand what has happened. While that happens, share the best of him and he'll live on through you and others.
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βThey" say all magic is from the devil. βthey" say that all magic is sinful, against God. But why? I know the bible says so, but, and I don't mean to question God: I DON'T!!!!!! Can the bible not know everything? Could the witch thing be based on the stereo typed, misunderstood witches of the past? My point is, some use magic to heal, help, BLESS, increase spirituality in someone, honor a dead loved one, banish evil spirits, would the devil give someone the ability to weaken him, and give good and happiness to others? How is white magic a sin? White witches are not using another source to fulfill needs. They are using the power within in them, their soul, spirit, whatever you wanna call it. So, tell me now, after carefully reading this, is all magic sinful? (link)
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Remember that you are basing the term "sinful" from the Christian interpretation of it.
It sounds like you have some guilt or negative feelings towards Christianity. Possibly you were brought up that way but magic is what interests you now and it's coming into conflict with how you were brought up?
Here's my advice: the difference between "right" and "wrong" existed before the Bible and before Christianity. Christianity wasn't the faith that restored order to the world. For example, when Jesus was alive in the Middle East, the Chinese had already developed civil service exams, were mass producing paper, and developing complex agricultural techniques. Most people forget that civilizations existed before Jesus and before Christianity.
What I'm trying to say is that I think you need to come to grips with how you feel about Christianity. Is it something that you are committed to or is it something that you aren't interested in? When you grow up in a Christian family, it can be hard to leave Christianity because you associate it with turning your back on God or making God angry. This shouldn't be the case and it's the problem with a religion that emphasizes a God that punishes.
If you use magic for good, I don't see a problem. If you use magic for bad, I see a problem.
Just don't let the Christian version of "God" be something that restricts you from exploring.
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Ok so I really like a girl, and honestly I love her, and I know teens say that a lot but we've been friends out entire life, and I've liked her ever since I can remember. Her name is Gwyneth and we've been friends since we were babies, and last year we went to school together. I thought I was friend zoned for years, but looking back I'm not too sure. I asked her to the dance once but I don't even know if it was as friends or as more. During the dance, I went back to a secluded area with my friend Bradley and we hung out back there. We were just talking and having some Dr.pepper lol and then Gwyneth's friend, Kate walked in and asked if I was mad at Gwyneth. I was so surprised and I told her "no why". She said they thought I was mad that Gwyneth wasnt dancing with me, and after all I was her date to the dance ( but I didn't know if we went as friends or more) I said that I was fine, but later Gwyneth walked in and asked if I was mad at her for not dancing with me. I wasn't but to tell the truth it would've been nice, but I didn't expect much thinking I was friend zoned. After telling her I wasn't, she said we should go dance, and I didn't know why she asked, if it was as friends, or if she even liked me. So we did but later that night a guy asked her out and they dated. The next dance we didn't go together but all my friends told me she wanted to dance with me and it killed me to leave her lonley but I couldn't be sure if she liked me, and if she didn't like me, I could lose a life-long friend. So I didn't dance with her at the second dance. I've never stopped loving her but now we go to different schools
Now she has a boyfriend but we go to different schools. and she liked my picture on Instagram for a wcw. I know that's really silly, but it's all I have left of her. she's had multiple boyfriends since then, it's only been a little less than a year.
So the question is: is it too late for me and her, I can't stop thinking about her, I'd do anything for her. It kills me because I had such an oppurtunity but I blew it. And sorry for the long post I'm at a new school and I don't have any friends yet so this is the only place I can talk about it and it's been killing me lately. THANKS FOR THE HELP IN ADVANCE AND I WILL GIVE ADVICE BACK! (link)
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Unfortunately, I think it's a bit too late to say something now since she has a boyfriend. However, if her relationship doesn't work out and you know she is single, I think having that conversation with her is perfectly fine.
I think you've learned an important lesson here, though. Sometimes, you just gotta ask the question instead of wondering because wondering will eventually drive you crazy and you end up with some regret like you have now.
There will be other relationships and girls that come along - if a relationship with Gwyneth doesn't work out, remember how important it is to just say how you feel and clear the air. It's a really important lesson because you should never assume that someone should know how you feel.
Good luck!
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OK I am 13/f and I have this relationship I'm in that is secret.
OK my friend started liking me and flirting with me. I liked him too just was afraid that he might not like me back. So he asked me do me and him want to be together. At first I told him we should be secretive. The reason why I said so because were both in the same classroom and I like kinda been with three of them in there and one was before some of our classes were mixed together. So I didn't want people to call me names and stuff like that. Our relationship is good in secretive but it's hard that we see each other everyday and its hard not to hug or try to be romantic. So my biggest question should i keep it in secret or tell a few people to get the idea. Or just start showing people that we are a thing and soon they will figure out.
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What you talk about in your question is how other people feel about you and your boyfriend. Don't worry about what other people think. In a way, you're asking whether you should make a decision based on what other people think.
You two should just do your own thing and not worry about what other people think. There's no need to tell certain people and there's no need to keep it secret unless the two of you want to keep it secret.
This is ultimately a decision between you and your boyfriend. Don't worry about other people and don't worry about whether they should know or not.
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hi, my boyfriend is leaving in 8 days and he will be leaving forever ,hes moving back to his country , i finished my birth control pills (21 pills ) yesterday, can i get a new pack and keep taking it so i won't get my period until my boyfriend leaves ? (in about 8 days?)
please its urgen since if i can do it then id have to get the new pack today.
after he leaves im stopping taking birth control for a long time so i wanna know if i can just extend the pills and take more than 21 pills ? (link)
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Just remember that if you really love your boyfriend, there are other things you can do in addition to just having sex for the next 8 days that are just as meaningful and memorable. I'm not saying this to be rude, I'm making a suggestion that you keep everything balanced while he's still here. Good luck!
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I have a 40 year old daughter. She is on anxiety medication. Being on this medication she lost her marriage and her children age 13 and 9. I tried to help her and she told me I am trying to run her life. I am trying to get her back on tract she is homeless now. She is living with a girlfriend and the children don't want to live there with her. They want to stay in there own house with there father. She is also turning the children against me. She has a lot of health problems. I wanted to go to the doctor's with her to discuss her medical problem and she said no. How do I find out what medication she is on? As far as I know she is taking Paxil and quetiapine. And occasionally drinks Vodka.
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I think the first priority here needs to be your grandchildren. This is not kind of life for a 13 year old and 9 year old to live. Your daughter definitely has some problems but these children have done nothing wrong to deserve this kind of life.
If the father has not done so already, I would recommend he file for custody of the children given the condition of their mother. I don't know why any judge would deny it. If he is unable to file for custody, you need to find a way to get the children out of this situation. Once they are safe and in a stable environment, THEN you can turn your attention towards your daughter. An intervention or ultimatum is needed here along with some mental health and substance abuse counseling. If she doesn't clean up her act, she should lose legal custody of her children.
I realize you're worried about your daughter and rightly so. Take care of the children first before focusing on your daughter. That would be my advice to you.
Best of luck!
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From the time I was almost two my mom hasn't been there for me. Shocking, considering it's usually the father that leaves the kids with the mother. No, in my case it was the other way around. My dad raised my brother and I alone while she raised our half-brother on her own.
When I say she's never been there for me, I really do mean she's never been there for me. I'm about to turn 19; if I added up all of the time I've spent with her (seconds, minutes, hours, days) it'd probably be somewhere around a year/ year and a half that I've spent with her. And that's giving her the benefit of the doubt.
Recently, she had my half-brother go meet her (by the way, she drives an 18-wheel truck for American Express; she's ALWAYS gone). She had him lie to me so I wouldn't go with him. I found out because he tripped and fell, fracturing his shoulder. When he told me the story I was confused; why was he at a truck stop, he said he was going to his friend's house. Secret revealed, and when I asked my mom about it she said I overreacted and needed to be more mature. Yeah, sure I do, I thought. You're the one that's never been there for me anyway, why should I take your advice.
Now I'm noticing that she calls my half-brother, but not me. I really don't know why. Maybe it's because she found out I found a few cassette tape recordings from the custody battle/child support hearings my parents' attended, or because I'm starting to stand up for myself.
She always seems to just want to be my friend instead of my mom. She's there when it's convenient FOR HER.
Is that right, or is she right by saying I'm "overreacting" ?
This has me really screwed up, worse than my parents' divorce, I'm contemplating cutting her out of my life for my own sanity. (link)
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In a sad way, I can relate to your situation.
I'm not sure about the circumstances around your mom wanting to be your friend rather than your mother. However, I don't think that you're overreacting. In fact, I think it's time for you to make a decision.
From what you've written, you mom has had plenty of opportunities to get to know you over the years. However, for some reason, she has chosen not to do so. Now, you are 19 and an adult capable of making your own decisions. Now is the time where YOU decide what you want from this relationship. The first step is telling your mom how you feel about the years she was absent and what kind of relationship you would like. At the same time, you should listen to your mom and give her a chance to explain and (possibly) apologize for all of those years. You shouldn't make a decision about your relationship until you understand all aspects of it.
If, after this conversation, things don't look like they are going to change, then you need to keep on living your life knowing that you don't need her approval or presence to be a successful person. If she chooses to have a relationship with you; so be it. If she chooses not to have a relationship with you, that is her loss. Either way, you must continue to live your life regardless.
It's a very difficult feeling when a parent doesn't know anything about your interests, hobbies, past, successes, failures, feelings, etc. I would assume that part of you wishes she did. Give her the opportunity to explain and give her the opportunity to listen. You'll never have the years back but you can certainly line up a future that defines this relationship on your terms.
Best of luck!
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If you are friends with someone that you really like and its in the middle of summer but you cant wait to ask her out but you want to ask her out in person so you seem more confident then what do you do? Do you ask her, or do you wait to ask her out in person? (link)
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You should definitely ask her out in person. Although it's easier to ask her in a text or e-mail, the experience of asking someone out in person is second to none.
Just remember, she has the option of saying "yes" or saying "no". If she says no, it's by no means a reflection of who you are as a person. It just means she's not interested in that kind of relationship; you can still be great friends!
My advice is to ask her out in person but don't get your hopes up too much because you will end up getting hurt more in the end.
Best of luck!
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I always try hard at everything I do even go out of my way to do it better than anyone just to get noticed but it never hsppens its like its expected of me .I get no appreciation .a simple thanks or man you did a great job .especaly at work .I have the store spotless when I close only to come back the next day to have the store trashed its like I'm the only one who gives a sh** but there excuse is all the time is we where busy .but there's times when I close by myself and I still manage to get everything done and then some so I don't like excuses because there is none and that's my attitude always proving a point . Iv gone to management they blow me off but I'm the closer so it has to be done all the cleaning and day shift does nothing just riding the clock like usual its like they know what there doing .charles likes to clean so we won't do anything he has to do it all I'm here is for a paychek .and that's what they think and I am tierd of playing the scapegoat rutine so what can I do can't quit need the job but I will not be taken advantage of either . (link)
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Well, let's step back for a second.
It sounds like you are a really hard worker and I can definitely understand the frustrations of keeping a place clean! When I was in high school and college, I worked in a supermarket produce section and always closed. I can definitely relate to your cleaning dilemma. Don't you just hate it when you mop the floor and people walk through it before it's dried?!
Anyway, there is something to be said about your work ethic. It sounds like you put pride and hard work into your job and making sure the place is spotless before you go home. That is to be commended and you should keep on doing it. Although nobody may tell you personally, you've probably already developed a reputation for having the place spotless every night. Just because someone doesn't tell you, doesn't mean it's not true.
You should never work with the expectation of receiving praise or thanks. Unfortunately, that's not how life works. People will take notice and your efforts will be recognized. Your co-workers may have a lot of respect for how clean you keep things, they may be too embarrassed to tell you because they're so messy.
My advice is to keep up your work ethic and don't worry about whether people are grateful or not. Unless you're expecting to work this job for the rest of your life, you will eventually find another job. The lessons you're learning here are very important; it is very frustrating to put in a lot of work to only to have it go unnoticed. However, it's even worse to have bad work constantly noticed because it can eventually get you fired. Your co-workers and managers may be a tiny bit jealous but your work ethic will get you far in life! Keep it up!
Best of luck!
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ok so my name is Maeghan and im 14 years old. i started doing an all star team when i was 12. this fall i am going to be a freshmen and i tryed for the school team and made varsity. my problem is im not sure if i should continue with my all star team or not. i love the girls and it's sooo much fun but it is also alot of money (about $3,000 a year!)we are kinda tight on money but my mom said i could do it if i wanted.i really need help because im losing sleep over this and i need to make a decision soon. i dont want either team mad at me. what do you think i should do?thanks in advance! (link)
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Hi Maeghan. Well, congrats on making the varsity team! In my opinion, since you mentioned that money is pretty tight with your family, I think that the best thing to do is take a break from the all-star team. You'll still have them as friends but, most importantly, you'll also still be cheerleading with the varsity team which is great!
I realize you're only 14, but this kind of decision making is really important for your future. It's taking the consideration of others (your family) before yourself especially when it comes to money. If you didn't make varsity, that would be a different story but the fact is that you did.
My advice to you would be take a year off from all-star and tell your parents you'd like them to save the money instead. They will really appreciate this kind of maturity and it will make you feel good knowing you've contributed to your family in this awesome way.
Best of luck!
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I have this friend who i used to be best best best friends with. now we barley talk and i dont know why. I always ask her to hang out, i give her tons of space, and she says she always cant hang because she has tennis. Thing is, she never trys to talk to me (i always have to start the convo), and she keeps making time for other people, who arnt even her friends. She used to complain about these people all the time to me, saaying that they are blowing her off because they got "better offers". Yet she never does anything about it...and still chooses to hang with them over me it seems...
I dont know what to do. I'm going with her to a concert in a few weeks, but we rarly talk(since i decided to stop trying). This has happened to us before, but she always seems to come running back to being my best best friend after like a week. But this is summer, and its been way longer than a week.
I really want to confront her, and talk about it. But shes not understanding and will be unreasonable. She always thinks she is right, and may not apologize.
So I'm not sure what to do.
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Well, from what you've written, it seems like you've tried talking to her face-to-face, right?
Don't jump ahead of the gun by saying she will be unreasonable. I mean, she might be unreasonable - but she also might not. Do you know if anything has been going on in her family or personal life that might be contributing to her behavior?
Overall, I think you two should sit down and talk about it. If that's not possible, then I'd write an e-mail expressing how you feel. However, make sure that when you write something, you do so in a non-confrontational kind of way. At this point, it seems you don't know what the problem is; therefore, you don't want to shoot yourself in the foot by being angry in your letter when you're only trying to find out what's up with her.
Remember, you can't expect an apology from someone who doesn't know what they should apologize for. That's where you come in.
Best of luck!
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so like most of my friends have guys that like them but i feel like im not going to ever have anybody. I feel lonely most of the time because no guys seem to like me. I just dont understand. I am 17 and a senior so i will be graduating this school year. I know lots of people just say wait for college but i get lonely and i see my friends happy. I dont understand why either. Im not ugly, im usually outgoing and funny. I have a pretty nice personality. Im nice but not to nice. I am also very friendly. i flirt with guys they flirt with me but they are just flirting. guys that i like dont seem to like me either or they just dont act like they dont. i just wished that i didnt feel so lonely all the time. I know i have great friends and shouldnt worry about the guys, but my friends have guys that want them to do things with and i always feel like the third wheel. im just wondering why guys dont really like me or see me as dating material (thanks for the help (link)
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loneliness is definitely one of the worst feelings in the world! i hear you on that one.
take a quick moment and think about all the things you like about yourself. what hobbies, activities, hangouts, or interests do you have? you'd probably want someone who can at least relate to them or like them also, right? what if the right guy came along but you didn't think your friends would think he's cool enough, attractive enough, or worth it? would you pass up a great guy because you're afraid of what other people will think?
if you're flirting with a guy and he's flirting back, maybe you should ask him if he wants to hang out sometime. this is a great first step. otherwise, you'll never know whether they like you or not! just don't get depressed because other people are dating and you aren't. you work on your own schedule and do your own thing until the time is right; don't force it.
best of luck!
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I had a bf and we broke up. he lives in canada and I live in the us. he has a new gf and she lives in north Carolina. he basically played us both at the same time but she's talking about killing herself and I tried my best to talk her out of it. I even said that she could keep my ex bf and I'll try and keep them together even though I want him back, just so she wouldn't do anything stupid. can i be held responsible for her if she does kill herself? I kept trying to talk her out of it over and over but she wasn't convinced. I don't want to be involven anymore. I don't want the police to try and find me or anything if she goes through with it. can anything bad happen to me? I've never met her before. (link)
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This can easily turn into a bad situation so let's break it down:
* Offering to put your feelings on hold so that someone else feels good about themself is not a good idea. Especially, when it involves relationships.
* You can not be help responsible for her if she kills herself because that's ultimately something she chooses to do to herself.
* If you don't want to be involved anymore, you need to stop trying to reason with her. Otherwise, this could turn into a long and drawn out situation. ESPECIALLY, since you've never met her.
Don't sacrifice your feelings and well-being for someone you've never met. If she is using suicide as a cry for attention, you'll find yourself stuck in a loop that is difficult to get out of.
Best of luck!
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Okay well, i have a boyfriend, Name is John. And im loosing feelings for him, and im starting to get feelings for this guy Chance. I know, break up with John.
Yeah, well its not that simple. Me and john are VERY close, AND weve spent a year and two months on each other. And i just dont wanna hurt him.
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My questions to you are: What is it that draws you to Chance that John isn't giving you? In other words, what gives you strong feelings for Chance? Are there things John can work on to make your relationship better? Why are you attracted to Chance?
See, the thing is it's easy to be attracted to someone else but harder to fix what already exist. If John isn't working with you in this relationship, then it's definitely time to talk to him about it. You always want to give both the relationship and the other person a chance. He can't fix something he doesn't know about, so it's up to you to tell him.
Best of luck!
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Im a 19 year old female and im with a 26 year old man.I just got out of a real bad relationship not to long a go now i have this new man thats 26 hes experienced alot more than i have. my problem is that we fight all the time but its mainly me i have trust issues and jealousy problems and i cant stand to see him with another girl. i know that the girls he hangs out with are his friends but i still get mad a i start accuseing him of cheating on me and we get in to a big fight.does anybody out there know how i can control my jealousy and trust issues and especially my anger towards him when i accuse him of doing thing that he says that not doing and he probably isnt (link)
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This sounds all too familiar to me!
Look, this isn't really an issue about controlling anything but understanding where it all comes from. A big part of this is not only accpeting what happened with you in the past, but also learning that it does not define your future. It sounds like you were burned pretty bad in the past and I'm definitely sorry to hear that!
Think of it this way, since you seem to understand how angry you get when he hangs out with other girls. Put yourself in his shoes for a moment and think about how much longer you'd want to be in a relationship with someone who treated him the way you do. Even if you can only manage this for a few seconds, I'm sure you'll notice it's not a wonderful feeling.
You'll never learn to control your jealousy until you understand where it comes from and why. At that point, you can begin making the necessary choices necessary to change your behavior. Because, as we always hear, nobody ever 'makes' you feel a certain way - you allow them to do so. In this case, you create possible scenarios in your head and live in the world of "what if". What if he's doing this? What if he's kissing one of the girls? What if one of them is hitting on him? You probably find yourself in a panic with anxiety symptoms. And for what?
If you have time to see a counselor or therapist, I would highly recommend it. These types of trust issues will not go away quickly and should be dealt with appropriately. Trust is essential in a relationship; so consider it as something you're paying forward.
Best of luck!
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i don't know why he won't let me tell. he let me tell my best friend but now he wants to break up with me cause he afraid it will get out that were dating!!! (link)
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I do agree with the previous advice that was posted; it's great stuff to think about.
I want to approach this from a different angle though because this is also about empowering yourself. You are an individual with your own thoughts and free will. If you want to tell people, then tell people. Never let anyone have this type of control or power over you.
If anything, a relationship is something to be proud of because it takes work. If he's unwilling to recognize this, then you should probably move on to someone who will want to shout it from the rooftop; or 5th period.
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i posted a question on here recently about liking it when my boyfriend slaps me, bites me, smacks me, etc. we only started doing stuff like this the other day, and only when i ask him to.
but today something happened that kind of threw me off guard and worried me a bit. see, he's the type who doesnt believe in using "unnatural" drugs. like, anything that isn't weed or shrooms. (he's made it quite clear that if i do anything other than those two substances, he'll leave me) but today i was trying to be honest with him and told him about some experimenting that i contributed in with one of my friends several months ago. after i told him he slapped me. it didnt harm me, but i was still shocked. i hadn't asked him to, and he's never been the type to hit me when he's angry. he felt horrible and apologized when he noticed that i didn't like it.
i forgave him but it got me to thinking; since i've told him that i get off from being slapped, i'm concerned that maybe this will give him permission to slap me even when i don't ask for it. i only ask to be slapped, obviously, when i'm in "the mood". i'm sure he knows that, but i also think i should talk to him about it. since the non-consentual hitting has only happened once, should i not be concerned? (link)
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You should be concerned.
There is a very big difference between what happens during the heat of passion and what happens during the heat of an argument. If anything, it involves self-control. Typically, one would know that what happens in the bedroom is not necessarily OK at any other time during the day. Keep in mind that you also mentioned how you ask him to physically hit you during your intimate moments.
However, his slap occurred during a non-intimate moment and was uninvited. Hence, you should be concerned if that was his default automatic response. I would like to also bring your attention to the fact that your relationship (at least as it relates to drugs) is conditional (i.e. if you do this, I will leave you). To me, this implies control over you and your behavior. If he understands how much you mean to him, this is a threat that can be used time and again to keep you in line with what he deems as acceptable.
My advice to you, is to have this talk with him about what happened and why it happened. However, you really should be looking at the overall relationship at this point. Even if he apologizes for slapping you, why would he ever do so in the first place? You should really be careful here, girl, because this can turn into a dicey situation. Sit down and have this talk and find out as much as you can about why it happened, lay out the groundrules of separation from sex and normal life during the day, and sit down with yourself and think if this relationship is really worth your time and dignity.
Best of luck.
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Uhmmm. Okay. So my boyfriend used to date this girl. Then they broke up and he started dating me. Well WE broke up and now he's kind of sort of going back to her? But whatever, I don't really care, I think theyre good for eachother. She cheated on him, he cheated on me, they deserve eachother. Anyway. She's never really done anything to me... She goes to a rival school and my basketball team has always just kind of hated her. Cause she's a really really bad sport. But now hse wants to hang out with me and my friend... cause she was "getting bad vibes" anddd now I guess we're hanging out. I don't know what to do! I dont' know if she hates me or not and it's all really awkward right now... I don't know, I don'tknow her that well but I don't really like her all that much. She's kind of a ho... haha I'm being serious. I don't know if I really wanna be freinds with her just cause we come from such different worlds and ughhh I know my ex is gonna try to get involved and like push us to be friends but I don't know what to do!!! (link)
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See, you do care, though. I want to repeat a few things you wrote because I think they definitely deserve a second look:
1. She goes to a rival school and my basketball team has always just kind of hated her cause she's a really really bad sport.
2. I don't know if she hates me or not
3. I don't know her that well but I don't really like her that much; she's kind of a ho
About #1: Just because your basketball team hates her for no reason, doesn't mean you need to as well. Yes, there are plenty of bad sports in athletics but there are also people who are very passionate about the game. Just make sure you don't confuse the two. Also, don't dislike someone just because your basketball team does.
About #2: You'll never know whether she hates you or not until you ask her. Don't you think talking about this with her would be a good idea. After all, I'm sure she probably has some of the same concerns you do about hanging out with each other AND your ex. Whether you do it over e-mail, text, phone, or in person, it might be worth a try asking her the question. If she chooses not to answer, you can always say you tried.
About #3: If you don't know someone very well, then saying they're a ho is pretty ridiculous. Unless you know a person, you shouldn't make judgments on them based on what other people say or what you perceive to be true. Can you imagine how many arguments, wars, and fights have started because someone else assumed something about the other party?
Overall, you say you don't care about this situation, but clearly you do. The way I read what you wrote, you really don't have any reason NOT to hang out with her because you don't even know who she is. I would suggest trying to get to know her more and then determining whether or not you two should hang out. If it turns out you two don't get along or you both feel it would be awkward, then you'll have your answer.
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