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Two girls, so confused
Ok so I really like a girl, and honestly I love her, and I know teens say that a lot but we've been friends out entire life, and I've liked her ever since I can remember. Her name is Gwyneth and we've been friends since we were babies, and last year we went to school together. I thought I was friend zoned for years, but looking back I'm not too sure. I asked her to the dance once but I don't even know if it was as friends or as more. During the dance, I went back to a secluded area with my friend Bradley and we hung out back there. We were just talking and having some Dr.pepper lol and then Gwyneth's friend, Kate walked in and asked if I was mad at Gwyneth. I was so surprised and I told her "no why". She said they thought I was mad that Gwyneth wasnt dancing with me, and after all I was her date to the dance ( but I didn't know if we went as friends or more) I said that I was fine, but later Gwyneth walked in and asked if I was mad at her for not dancing with me. I wasn't but to tell the truth it would've been nice, but I didn't expect much thinking I was friend zoned. After telling her I wasn't, she said we should go dance, and I didn't know why she asked, if it was as friends, or if she even liked me. So we did but later that night a guy asked her out and they dated. The next dance we didn't go together but all my friends told me she wanted to dance with me and it killed me to leave her lonley but I couldn't be sure if she liked me, and if she didn't like me, I could lose a life-long friend. So I didn't dance with her at the second dance. I've never stopped loving her but now we go to different schools
Now she has a boyfriend but we go to different schools. and she liked my picture on Instagram for a wcw. I know that's really silly, but it's all I have left of her. she's had multiple boyfriends since then, it's only been a little less than a year.
So the question is: is it too late for me and her, I can't stop thinking about her, I'd do anything for her. It kills me because I had such an oppurtunity but I blew it. And sorry for the long post I'm at a new school and I don't have any friends yet so this is the only place I can talk about it and it's been killing me lately. THANKS FOR THE HELP IN ADVANCE AND I WILL GIVE ADVICE BACK!
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If she's in a relationship, it's too late unless they break up. You don't want to get in the middle of a relationship or ruin anything.
You can be friends with her, but nothing more. But if she and her boyfriend break up, go for it.
The thing is, you never know until you try. You can't just keep wondering if she likes you, if it was as friends or more, ect because you'll never know the answer unless you ask.
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Unfortunately, I think it's a bit too late to say something now since she has a boyfriend. However, if her relationship doesn't work out and you know she is single, I think having that conversation with her is perfectly fine.
I think you've learned an important lesson here, though. Sometimes, you just gotta ask the question instead of wondering because wondering will eventually drive you crazy and you end up with some regret like you have now.
There will be other relationships and girls that come along - if a relationship with Gwyneth doesn't work out, remember how important it is to just say how you feel and clear the air. It's a really important lesson because you should never assume that someone should know how you feel.
Good luck!
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If she is dating someone else right now it may be too late but maybe not, depends if she breaks up with him...then theres an opening to try. If she dates and becomes engaged, I'd say it was too late.
Now you realize that it is better to have tried to share your feelings with a girl and be rejected than to not do so and then continue on all your life wondering about the what if's, just what if she did have feelings for you too?
If you felt you might have been in the 'friend zone' I suggest you read up on it on line and put in a search like 'how guys can avoid friend zone' and learn what you may be doing wrong. Here's one of many I found.
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You'll see that you have to work on your self confidence and not fear rejection. A good way to not suffer as many rejections,( u will still get some) is to learn what signs to look for that a female may be interested in you. If you spot the signs of interest in a girl that you yourself have been eyeing, then it most likely she'd be glad to go out with you. Here's a couple to get you started learning.
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This last one is geared more towards younger females, teens, college age and a clear tactic of using their girlfriends to come talk to you on their behalf.
This was clearly a missed sign that she was interested in you. Though she was dancing with others, she preferred to dance with you and sent her friends to ask if it bothered you...she was hoping against all hope that it bothered you enough to come dance with her and tell her that the rest of the evening was only yours to dance with her because you care about her alot...you want the greater share of time with her. That would have confirmed to her your interest.
She may still be under the impression that you like her but not enough for a romantic relationship. So keep watching carefully, if she ends up breaking up with current boyfriend, move on in. Say something, invite her on a date and tell her in person how long you've had feelings for her but didn't know how to express them. In a years time, if she only dates short term, she's not really interested in those guys...maybe cus she may still be interested in you as well.
Good luck.
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