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Should my relationship come out of secret ?
OK I am 13/f and I have this relationship I'm in that is secret.
OK my friend started liking me and flirting with me. I liked him too just was afraid that he might not like me back. So he asked me do me and him want to be together. At first I told him we should be secretive. The reason why I said so because were both in the same classroom and I like kinda been with three of them in there and one was before some of our classes were mixed together. So I didn't want people to call me names and stuff like that. Our relationship is good in secretive but it's hard that we see each other everyday and its hard not to hug or try to be romantic. So my biggest question should i keep it in secret or tell a few people to get the idea. Or just start showing people that we are a thing and soon they will figure out.
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That's confusing. I don't understand your reason to keep a relationship secret.
Anyways, hiding a relationship shows that you're ashamed of it. You shouldn't have any reason to be ashamed. The relationship won't last too long if you're trying to hide it.
In my opinion, you care too much about what people think.
If you like this guy, you should be happy to be with him and be fine with people knowing. You don't need to go out and tell everyone you're dating, but you don't need to hide it.
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What you talk about in your question is how other people feel about you and your boyfriend. Don't worry about what other people think. In a way, you're asking whether you should make a decision based on what other people think.
You two should just do your own thing and not worry about what other people think. There's no need to tell certain people and there's no need to keep it secret unless the two of you want to keep it secret.
This is ultimately a decision between you and your boyfriend. Don't worry about other people and don't worry about whether they should know or not.
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I am trying to understand why you felt the need for it to be a secret and your reason was "because were both in the same classroom and I like kinda been with three of them in there..." Hopefully I am interpreting this correctly and you mean that you, your male friend you want to be secretive with and three other guys you have also dated are all in the same class together? If I am correct, then most likely you are fearing the worst attack from other females, those jealous that you can get so many guys to show interest in you and wanna date you, or girls who simply call you a slut or something like that. They are just immature and jealous, IF anything like that happens. Basing your actions on what you think might happen is not a good idea. It means you are falling into the trap of allowing peer pressure to dictate what choices you make in life. Better to learn now to not pay any mind to what others say. Females can be really vicious with each other. At your age, the brain isn't fully done growing yet and its why teens make stupid decisions and terrible mistakes in how they treat others. Just know theres nothing wrong with you and this guy dating, it doesnt have to be in secret and if their minds are too immature yet to handle themselve in an appropriate manner then any name calling will prove nothing more than the fact that their brains aren't done growing to mature-hood yet. If I called you a hermit, would that make you a hermit. If I could get 50 people to call you a hermit, even though you aren't one...if called that enough and you don't have enough personal strength to reject the labeling inside your mind where it really matters, then your mind will begin to believe that perhaps there must be a reason why we call you a hermit and you will begin to act like one to be in agreement with our statements. and slowly you become a loner, anti social, wishing to go off on your own away from society.
Be strong, just be yourselves, enjoy holding hands and giving hugs at school. Eventually, when you and he show the kids that what they think doesnt mateter to you, then the commenting will die down. If you react to it, it will continue cus theyre getting a pay back. So keep it cool and don't react.
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I think you should let everyone know. Relationships in secrets tend to not last long. When people know you guys are together, you won't have other females trying to get with him. It saves all the drama. It shouldn't matter what others might say about you or think about you. If he makes you happy then f**k what others say. You just do you 👌 let them call you things. Cause at the end of the day no matter what they call you, you'll still be in that relationship
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