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Loosing feelings for boyfriend, getting feelings for other.
Okay well, i have a boyfriend, Name is John. And im loosing feelings for him, and im starting to get feelings for this guy Chance. I know, break up with John.
Yeah, well its not that simple. Me and john are VERY close, AND weve spent a year and two months on each other. And i just dont wanna hurt him.
please help
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god that must be hard to deal with. Are you entirely sure your not just getting bored of john in a romatic way and loking elsewhere? Maybe you should try and explain to john that unless you two spice up your relationship it will have to come to an end. theres no point in trying to love someone you have little or no feeling for. Make sure you know his feelings for you too and that he knows you would still be very close friends even if it did come to an end. If he still does love you try not to force him into friendship it could confuse him and make it hard for him to talk to you about things. Maybe you both just need a clean break, yknow see other people for a while, even try a date with chance. If you can't stop thinking about him during the break you know it was a mistake and you do love him. then its up to you to tell him and explain good luck x
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My questions to you are: What is it that draws you to Chance that John isn't giving you? In other words, what gives you strong feelings for Chance? Are there things John can work on to make your relationship better? Why are you attracted to Chance?
See, the thing is it's easy to be attracted to someone else but harder to fix what already exist. If John isn't working with you in this relationship, then it's definitely time to talk to him about it. You always want to give both the relationship and the other person a chance. He can't fix something he doesn't know about, so it's up to you to tell him.
Best of luck!
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if you truly have feelings for another boy and you think that boy has feelings for you then you should go for it. i know a breakup with john will be hard. breakups are never easy and they arent meant to be but if you are feeling for another boy then its what needs to be done. you can try doing it simple and im sure he will understand. there is no way that you cant hurt him. but if you keep dating him you will hurt him even more than you already will now.
if you want when you breakup with him, suggest that once he is moved on that if he would like to be your friend. seeing that you two were really close you would want him to be a great friend in your life.
i hope i helped :) if you need more advice just ask
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