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ex boyfriends new girl
Uhmmm. Okay. So my boyfriend used to date this girl. Then they broke up and he started dating me. Well WE broke up and now he's kind of sort of going back to her? But whatever, I don't really care, I think theyre good for eachother. She cheated on him, he cheated on me, they deserve eachother. Anyway. She's never really done anything to me... She goes to a rival school and my basketball team has always just kind of hated her. Cause she's a really really bad sport. But now hse wants to hang out with me and my friend... cause she was "getting bad vibes" anddd now I guess we're hanging out. I don't know what to do! I dont' know if she hates me or not and it's all really awkward right now... I don't know, I don'tknow her that well but I don't really like her all that much. She's kind of a ho... haha I'm being serious. I don't know if I really wanna be freinds with her just cause we come from such different worlds and ughhh I know my ex is gonna try to get involved and like push us to be friends but I don't know what to do!!!
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See, you do care, though. I want to repeat a few things you wrote because I think they definitely deserve a second look:
1. She goes to a rival school and my basketball team has always just kind of hated her cause she's a really really bad sport.
2. I don't know if she hates me or not
3. I don't know her that well but I don't really like her that much; she's kind of a ho
About #1: Just because your basketball team hates her for no reason, doesn't mean you need to as well. Yes, there are plenty of bad sports in athletics but there are also people who are very passionate about the game. Just make sure you don't confuse the two. Also, don't dislike someone just because your basketball team does.
About #2: You'll never know whether she hates you or not until you ask her. Don't you think talking about this with her would be a good idea. After all, I'm sure she probably has some of the same concerns you do about hanging out with each other AND your ex. Whether you do it over e-mail, text, phone, or in person, it might be worth a try asking her the question. If she chooses not to answer, you can always say you tried.
About #3: If you don't know someone very well, then saying they're a ho is pretty ridiculous. Unless you know a person, you shouldn't make judgments on them based on what other people say or what you perceive to be true. Can you imagine how many arguments, wars, and fights have started because someone else assumed something about the other party?
Overall, you say you don't care about this situation, but clearly you do. The way I read what you wrote, you really don't have any reason NOT to hang out with her because you don't even know who she is. I would suggest trying to get to know her more and then determining whether or not you two should hang out. If it turns out you two don't get along or you both feel it would be awkward, then you'll have your answer.
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Well, if you both go to different schools, then you must live in different towns. So itd be easy for you to avoid hanging out with her, therefore you dont HAVE to be friends with her, especially if you dont like her.
As long as your ex doesnt know then you won't have to explain the whole thing to him.
She shuldnt want to hang with you all cause shes getting "bad vibes", she should wanna hang with you because she wants to be friends. She is probably just trying to make sure you dont hate her for taking the guy back. Or so you dont get the idea that he went out with you to try and get over her but couldnt...
I'm not sure, i dont know the situation well. If i were you I'd stay away from her. But not in a mean way, make sure you both stay friends and are friendly with each other.
Better friends then enemies right? :)
Hope you figure it all out!
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