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So I started my last period on april 27th. I think it ended on the 5th or 6th of May. I still haven't gottn my period for this month, should I be worried and what should I do. I feel bloated and I feel like its right there but it just hasn't came (link)
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My apologies for getting back to you so late, my friend -- if you have yet to get your period, I think it is a very good idea to see a doctor. They are always ready to help you in any way that they can, and I'm sure they can tell you exactly what is going on. At times, it is just from stress that we get our periods later than usual and can even skip a month because of this. Best of luck, my friend, I am sure that everything is fine. :)
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13/f
and i like a
13/m
BEWARE: this might be long.
OK. So i have posted so many questions on the same topic. But i haven't gotten any real good advice. All of my answers usually say "just go with what you think is right" or "its better to do it and say you did the to not and regret it later." so i hope you can give me better advice. like what i should specifically do.
So i have like this guy for a long time. Ive known him since elementary school and he lives two houses away from me. I think I'm IN LOVE with him. now don't say "i think your too young to be IN LOVE" or "you need to wait and see if these feelings leave. if they don't then....." because I've heard it all before. I know for a fact that I'm IN LOVE with him. so i know that he likes me because he asked me out at the beginning of 7th grade. I said no because my mom doesn't approve of neighbors dating. because if we ever break up then it'll be awkward because i see him all over the place. but i like him so much that i am willing to hide it from my mom. But another reason why i know that he likes me is because, not too long ago, we were walking home together and he touched my ass. on purpose. so if that's not flirting than i don't know what flirting is. lol. so i have no idea what to do. do i ask him out myself or just wait for him to ask me out? please help me. and im sorry that this was so long. thank you in advance. (link)
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I'm sorry to hear that you haven't received the advice that you need. However, hopefully, I can give you some good advice, friend. Thanks for inboxing me! :)
Not to worry, I will not tell you that you are too young because I too was in love at thirteen. For most teenagers, it's not really love, but I know that it was for me and it seems to be for you also. It seems that you have already established that you both have feelings for one another, which is the first step. Now, you need to go to step two: Establishing a Relationship.
I'm not really happy about you not telling your mother, however, I'm assuming that you will not tell you no matter what I tell you. :) So I'll go ahead and give you my best advice, friend. He lives a couple of doors down, therefore, it's very convienent for you to see him and talk to him. You need to, when you see him or you may go to his house (whichever you are more comfortable with), talk to him and explain to him how you feel and listen to how he feels as well. If he tells you that he likes you back, which you've already established this (you should still ask though for communication purposes), and let him know that you would like to be more than friends.
I wish you the very best of luck, I'm sure everything will work out just fine. However, I hope that maybe if things do work out, you will tell your mom sometime and maybe she will understand if you two are very serious and it is love.
P.S. I do want to say that you should keep your eyes open at all times for any behaviors that may signal that he's only with you for sexual things. I only mentioned this because he touched your butt, which may not be too big of a deal, just want you to keep an eye out because boys can be very pushy sometimes and you don't want to rush into anything.
Sincerely, LagunaBabe
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I am looking for Godly advice please. My husband got violent today, threatening both me and my daughter, breaking things and hurting us... I went to the police, which I have never done with him, and now he is in jail. I dont know that he will even try to come back, it may be that he just lashes out, or never contacts me again. But what if he does, what do I do if he wants to get help and come home? How do I handle this? Im scared, and trying not to fall apart. I dont think that what he did is ok at all, but does anyone know if the Bible says anything about how to handle this? (link)
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I am a Christian and honey, I can tell you that God would not want you to stay with this man. Others may tell you that you should stay, or your shouldn't get a divorce, however, God does not want us to be abused. Many Christians point to the bible verse "submit to your husband" however, that does not mean submmit to your husband if you are being beaten.
I'm glad that you put him in jail, that was the very best thing for you and your daughter. Do not go back with him because he may do it again, and if you really feel the urge to go back with him then you must be sure that he is taking steps to get real help (but i really recommend not going back). God will not think badly of you for not going back to him because husbands are also supposed to be kind to their wives, also mentiond in the Bible.
I wish you the best of luck with your situation, friend. You did the right thing by callig the police. Even if you feel as though you need to get a divorce, after what your husband has done, God will understand. Separating is also an option without divoring, if you would feel more comfortable. Pray and God will lead you in the right direction, he wouldn't want you or your daughter to be beaten and your husband will be held accountable for what he did.
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the other night I was with my boyfriend and we were laying on his couch watching a movie when this came to mind: we have been going out for around 6 months and haven't made out yet and we hardly ever kiss. I am the kind of girl that likes the guy to make the first move, and what I am wondering is; why is he being so cautious or as my friends say "like a freezer"? (link)
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He's probably nervous and doesn't want to offend you in any way or make you feel like you have to rush things. So maybe try to talk to him and let him know that you'd like to kiss more, and that he doesn't have to be as cautious as he has been.
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I just broke up with my long-distance boyfriend 2 days ago because I couldn't handle the distance. I really do still love him, and I'm not handling the break up well.
We decided mutually to be friends, but it's not really working. He's being unusually mean to me (which is to be expected I guess, since it's only been 2 days). This is too hard on me, and every time I end a call with him I end up crying. My feelings for him are still strong, but I do want to stick with my decision. Today we planned to chat at a certain time, and it's about 2 hours past & he's nowhere to be found.
My question is: should I cut off all contact? I really would like to be friends, but I can tell it is clearly going to take me some time. Also, if I do decide to cut all contact..should I tell him or just do it?
Btw, I'm leaning more towards the 'just doing it' option, without telling him, because after I talk to him it usually leaves me wanting to talk to him again. If I just stop contact, I won't have a chance to talk to him first. My only concern with this option is that when I am ready to be friends (maybe a month or so down the line), he won't want to speak with me/be my friend because I did the no contact thing without telling him. Ahh, please any advice would help!! I just want to be happy again. Thank you.
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Unfortunately, as much as we still want to be friends with our ex's, it can be too painful sometimes. I think you and I both know that this is one of those times. I would cut all contact with him and not tell him because as you mentioned, that will only lead to more talking, more heartache, etc. I think you'll find yourself a lot happier when you can break the ties with this guy and move on with your life.
However, you must know that he may not want to be friends with you later on, but if he's being mean to you now, what's the point? Good luck, friend.
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Okay so im 17 and im single, but this guy has liked me for about two years. ive told him once i wasnt ready for a relationship but then when im with him i dont let him kiss me or hold my hand but as the time goes by that day i get weak and we end up kissing. i dont know if this is bad because i want a boyfriend, i just dont want him as a boyfriend. Should i tell him im not interested or just give it a shot with him.? (link)
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Hi, friend! Thanks for the inbox question. :)
If you don't want him as a boyfriend, and he has liked you for two years -- it's probably best that you stop kissing him. You need to explain to him that you're sorry for leading him on in any way possible, but the kissing has to stop because you do not share the same feelings for him as he has for you. I know this can be a tough thing to say, but believe me, it's for the best.
Never give it a shot with someone that you really don't want as a boyfriend because it has no future. Good luck, girl! :)
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I have a simple question that could have a lot of answers. What is a girl's favorite scent on a guy? Specifically, please. (link)
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I like Axe, any scent by Axe smells great on a guy.
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Hey, i need help on flirting!!! how do i make myself more comfortable around guys and how should i flirt with them 2 make (him) like me more??!?!!?
Thanksssss :))))))) (link)
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Here's a flirting guide for you friend, good luck, be yourself! :) This is a safe website that I checked out myself, just to add.
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/flirting-tips-for-girls-how-to-flirt-with-a-guy.html
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how can i hint that i want a boy to ask me out? (link)
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Hi, friend. Here's a safe website that I checked myself and it's a little guide telling you how to hint you like a guy. :)
http://www.wonderhowto.com/how-to-hint-boy-that-like-him-081449/
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i was talking to this guy i like and hes been busy with work and we was texting he said he was going to bed so i said goodnight silly text me sometime even if its fuck you or something laugh out loud and he said ok next time i want to fuck ill holla laugh out loud jk(just kidding) i said laugh out loud your funny what i mean is text me sometime because i kno your busy but id like to hear from ya and that your still alive and kicking he said damn wasnt tryin to be funny laugh out loud ok i will get some rest. what does he mean by all of that? (link)
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He's just flirting with you, however, you may want to keep an eye out just to make sure he isn't just after your body.
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In your opinion do you think a 15 year old girl and a 16 year old boy have a long distance relationship? Do you think it would be worth it or not?
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Well, anything is possible and for true love, it can last a million miles away -- however, being just fourteen and fifteen, it's most likely not true love, even if it sometimes feels like it. A lot of times it's just infatuation or a major crush or puppy love. I would say that if you aren't truly certain you really love each other and it's going to last, it's not going to be worth it and you'll most likely get lonely not being able to see each other. Believe me, it's very difficult. I spend most of my days in tears when I couldn't see my boyfriend when we were in a long distance relationship.
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I've been in a long distance relationship for 9 months. We're recently broken up, and I showed my boyfriend fake pictures, and only JUST showed him my actual self a few days ago. I was terrified to tell him, but he actually took it MUCH better than I thought he would. He was a little upset at what I did, but said he still loved me, and if I 'work with him a little bit' by showing him more pics of my real self & maybe getting a webcam, then we could get back together.
We both have strong feelings for eachother, & I (stupidly) ended the relationship because I knew I could never meet him since I sent fake pics. But now, he knows what I really look like, and accepted me, so a relationship is possible again.
This is my only problem. I've only showed him shoulders up pics of me. I'm not fat..but curvy. He's a tall, lanky guy, VERY skinny, he only weighs 120 lbs! But, I weigh more than that, & I'm scared to show him pics of my whole body. He's been asking for 'bikini'/full body pics & for me to get a webcam, but I honestly don't have any bikini pics, because I hate my body. I think it's too curvy, and it's my #1 insecurity.
Anyway, I do love him, & I realize if he can get over me faking pics, & he does like my face..then can my body really be a cause for him to stop loving me? I'm just scared he'll be unattracted to me, and won't want to tell me because he's too nice.
Basically what I'm asking is: 1. How should I go about showing him pics of my full body? Just send him a bunch then say I have to leave quickly? (I don't want to be there when he sees them, hahah) 2. Should I get a webcam if he accepts the pics the way they are? It's not really like I'd be showing my body on there anyway, he'd really only see my face. Thank you. (link)
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First off, thanks for asking me a question! Secondly, this is really heartbreaking to me, my friend. I can tell that this has really torn you up and I think you need a big confidence boost. You sound beautiful and seem to be a beautiful person and I am so thankful you're over 120 Ibs -- nobdoy likes a stick figure, haha. I love curves, they are so beautiful and that's a real woman, so you always keep that in mind. Do things that make you feel beautiful and treat yourself to little manicures (if you're like me and cannot afford to get those big fancy ones, do them yourself, it's fun), take a warm bath and relax, just whatever makes you feel at your best.
Now, onto your questions.
1) I do not think you should at all, friend. Actually, I think you were right in the first place by not showing him pictures of your actual self. I understand how that may make you feel guilty as you have been dating this guy over the internet for nine months, a considerably long time, however, you must remember -- this is over the internet, and guys aren't always what they seem (that's in real life, as well). Something that really bothers me is that he told you
to "work with him a little bit."
Please take a moment to think about that, doesn't that seem a bit disturbing? It's like he's trying to make you feel even more guilty so you'll surrender to him for his own sexual pleasure, understand what I mean? I don't like this at all friend and I know it's been nine months of your life talking to this guy online, but really, within the nine months, he shouldn't have even asked this of you. Of course, I am not sure of your age, so I'm not sure of any legal issues, but I find this a problem regardless of age.
2. No, this will only be giving into him more. I think that it would best to end this relationship friend. After all, you mentioned you'd never be able to meet, therefore, why waste your time any longer? You could find a guy who you don't have to "work with a little bit" for him to love or get back together with you. In fact, if he really loved you, would he really say that you have work with him a little bit for his own sexual needs? I think we both know that the answer is "no" to that question.
I'm sorry friend if you were looking for a different answer, but I have to tell you the truth. This is heartbreaking just to read, and I feel very bad that you have invested such time in someone who has only seemed to take advantage. However, I am so proud of you for NOT showing him the real you. Not because you aren't beautiful because I bet you are gorgeous, friend, you certainly are on the inside just from reading this -- but because it was the safe and right thing to do. Save yourself some trouble, more time, and heartache and ditch this guy, please.
Thank you again for writing me and I hope that you will take my advice. Please feel free to send me an update (just send it as a question to me, like this one) or if you have any more questions, I will be more than happy to answer it. Best of luck to you my friend, please keep your head held high and find your confidence and flaunt those curves, honey! :)
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So i met this guy, and by his looks he is definitely not my type. Infact, i dont go for guys out of my race. (He's still half white though). But he has an amazing personalility, all the qualities of a guy im looking for; he's beyond perfect. I want to ask him out, but the looks are bothering me. I know looks have nothing to do with anything, but even though i like him, i dont think i could do anything physical with him like kissing. Do you think its just because its in my head? And do you think a relationship can last even though you arent sexually attracted to them? Do you think i should just be friends or go for something more? (link)
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Sometimes we have to look past the looks because some of those really hot, good looking guys are just jerks and very cocky. I understand it may be hard for you to date someone out of your race, but this may open your eyes a bit. And if you start to fall for him, I guarantee that the looks won't matter because that will start to attract you to him. However, if you see that it's going to nowhere, you should definitely go back to being friends rather than leading him on.
Good luck.
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i have been dating an amazing guy for about a month, he is a year younger but he is so clingy. i really like him but we havent become like official boyfriend girlfriend yet. so people say im leading him on, playing him and takeing advantage, useing, being a cougar, but im nottt i just am so uneasy about this.. im still hurting from my ex who was also my bff bf and everything, cheated on me, we were the longest couple iv ever known. he says he will wait for me, even today though i went with friends and hes babysitting but he texted me so much my phone died.. clingy. what can i do i really like him, im nott using him i dont wana hurt him ever, hes to obsessive and already whipped, but hes such a sweet guy. should i become officalish or no... also what would be good places or dates to go for us since we arent tooo..? im 16 nearly 17 and a suberban chicka (link)
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You may not like my answer friend, but I have had a lot (too much) experience with this type of situation -- don't date him and let him know there is no hope. I know you like him and he's so sweet and nice and would do anything in the world for you, however, he's already showing bad signs. He's clingy, you can't keep your phone on, he's a whipped pup...you don't want to really date a guy like this, do you? Also, as time goes on, it will only get worse.
I "talked" to a guy like this, exactly like this, and he turned into crazy stalker. I had to leave my phone turned off because he called constantly (literally), when I did turn it on if I wasn't ringing again I had 30 some voicemails (no joke) and they were each like 3 minutes long. I don't want you to go through this and that's why you need to tell him that you like him, however, it would be best if you stayed friends.
I couldn't stay friends with the guy I was talking to, but maybe you can. Just make sure you tell him that and end it now because you both get hurt.
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So this kid I like goes to my school, but we dont have classes together. Soon I found out he had an instand messanger and he was also SINGLE, and I started to talk to him. He's really funny and has a personality that was sooo amazing. Everything was perfectly normal, we talked and flirted. However, one day I told the guy i started to like him, and in about an hour this girl messages me and says stop flirting with her bf. For me that was a blow to my face, so I told her I would back off. After that incident, I messaged the guy I liked and i asked him if he had a girlfriend. He said YES! And that really upset me and i told him I wouldnt have liked him if he told me that he already had a gf. After that we talked and we cooled things down.
About two weeks later, I was on the computer and stumbled upon the girl's profile. It said she was single and she lives in another state. Also I looked the guy I like profile and he was single too. So I had a feeling he had lied to me, becuase he never had changed his status into in a relationship. So I talked to him about the disaster again.
The guy I liked started to talk. When I had said I liked him, he told the girl(the person who emailed me) about it. So I guess she was jealous of competetion for him.... But I asked him why he lied about having a gf, and he sayd Idk. So this is what I need answered. Why do you think he lied to me about it?
Female 14 (link)
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He lied to you because he wanted his cake and to be able to eat it too. He's not a good guy, if he was, he would have told you in the beginning. Just kick this guy to the curb, he's one of those dumb boys every girl cannot stand.
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how do you tell if a guy actually likes you or if hes just using you for action?
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The difference is that a guy who likes you will not be afraid to let anyone know abbout it, will date you (if permitted by his and your parents), will take you on dates (if old enough and able), will treat your with respect and be very kind and caring towards you. However, a guy who is using you will sometimes try to hide that he's with you or say "It's best to just not tell anyone, it'll be our little secret...", will or won't date but will only take you on dates that you can get "action" on or won't take you on dates because he only wants the "action." Sometimes he won't treat you very nicely, only if he gets what he wants.
If you find a guy is using you, kick him to the curb. You don't deserve that friend.
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compare their new girls to their ex's ,whether it be recent or not.I was an amazing girlfriend and my ex even admitted that and there's not many girls at my school like me and even his friends loved me and thought he shouldnt break up with me.I just feel as though when he finds a new girl if he compares her with me,he will realize what he lost! (link)
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I'm sure many of them do, and chances are, your ex-boyfriend will be looking at how you treated him and he's being treated by his new girl at one time or another. However, please don't sit around and wait for him to come crawling back -- it's what he should do, but unfortunately, that doesn't always happen.
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so this person i am seeing says some of the most hurtful things to me. then goes out and does something all sweet, and thinks because he has done this wonderful thing it makes up for those hurtful things he says. is words i qoute " actions woman not words"
that is what he says when i confront him, what do i do? he never can talk serious when i bring up this stuff he starts acting like a child and making noises so he cant hear me! it frustrates me beyond belief! i have hadto tell him to grow up! wwhat happend to the man i met that was loving caring respectful ?
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If he cannot be serious in this kind of conversation, he definitely needs to grow up. You deserve so much better treatment and sometimes, words are worse than any kind of actions. And good actions should not mean you should forget all the horrible words he has said to you, and he needs to realize that.
Talk to him one last time. Tell him you want back that "loving, caring, respectful" guy that you met and he needs to change for the relationship to work. Best of luck to you, friend.
P.S. Tell him a positive + negative = does NOT always equal a positive. Haha.
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so i havnt had my first kiss yet but when i do and not just kiss i mean get into them (snog) do you use tounges ? (link)
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Some people do and some do not, it's really up to the couple and if they feel comfortable enough to do so. There is no right or wrong way to kiss.
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my boyfriend doesnt talk to me .. what should i do? (link)
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If your boyfriend isn't talking to you, he doesn't sound like much of a boyfriend, does he? Get rid of this guy and break it off because if he isn't even talking to you, he doesn't even deserve your time of day.
Trust me, ditch this guy.
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