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actions+words=ok?
so this person i am seeing says some of the most hurtful things to me. then goes out and does something all sweet, and thinks because he has done this wonderful thing it makes up for those hurtful things he says. is words i qoute " actions woman not words"
that is what he says when i confront him, what do i do? he never can talk serious when i bring up this stuff he starts acting like a child and making noises so he cant hear me! it frustrates me beyond belief! i have hadto tell him to grow up! wwhat happend to the man i met that was loving caring respectful ?
ps i am 21 female
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Let me tell you that verbal abuse is so damaging that it leaves a lifetime of scars that never go away.
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Do you want a man that treats you like this? I know that you can find better than this.
You are in a relationship, your not getting paid. Therefore,e you SHOULDN'T be babysitting!
Tell this creep to get lost.
The man that you first met, is gone. Now you see his true colors, and you don't like it. SO why are you still with him?
Good luck!
-E
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true actions speak louder than words but words cut deep. he can not expect you to just get over the hurtful things that he said just cause he is nice to you. in my opinion he is just being nice to you afterwards to keep you around...walk away from him for good if he cant treat you with respect with WORDS AND ACTIONS. you deserve better than that :)
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Girl, I've been there, done that.
He is acting a fool, becuase you let him.
If you want it to stop.. make him believe it!
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If he acts like a child treat him like a child. If someone is treating you in such a way that it hurts your feelings, and then doing something "wonderful" to make it up to you, he is basically abusing you. Its the same as if a guy hit you, and then bought you flowers because he feels bad after words. It doesn't make it okay.
If this were me i would break up with him, but i dont know your situation and how much you love this guy.
But heres my opinion...Using Actions to cover up your hurtful Words do NOT make things okay.
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If he cannot be serious in this kind of conversation, he definitely needs to grow up. You deserve so much better treatment and sometimes, words are worse than any kind of actions. And good actions should not mean you should forget all the horrible words he has said to you, and he needs to realize that.
Talk to him one last time. Tell him you want back that "loving, caring, respectful" guy that you met and he needs to change for the relationship to work. Best of luck to you, friend.
P.S. Tell him a positive + negative = does NOT always equal a positive. Haha.
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I've been in your situation. Tell him that that may be true, but the tongue has the power of life, as of death. It can cause pain, or happiness. If you really love him, stick through it and explain to him how you feel. If he acts childish, leave it alone. Watch everything he does and see if you could put up with that if you both were actually married. 14/f
I hope this helps you. ;)
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