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18f.

i'm very inexperienced .. the farthest i've gone with a boy was him going down my pants but he didn't finger me or anything. the problem is, i get turned on by everything and get really wet.

even if a guy is texting me and talking dirty i'll get turned on .. my question is .. if i'm messing around with a guy i will obviously be really wet since i get turned on so easily but will this show that i'm very inexperienced?

Most definently NOT.
Getting really wet.. is a WONDERFUL thing.. there are wemon out there that pay big money for things that keep them wet.. your the american dream (=

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Okay I'm a little confused,


Say I had sex 7 days ago, I take a pregnancy test resulting from the 7 days ago I had sex..but I had sex AGAIN the day before I took the test would it relapse and effect the results from the first time I had unprotected sex?


Let me try to break this down so it's not confusing..


7 days ago I had unprotected sex with my partner

I took a test, However I also had unprotected sex again the day before I took the pregnancy test. Would the test come out negative or would the results get effected?

WEll. If you were pregnant, it would say pregnant.. However. If you didn't get pregnant until the day before you took your test.. it would be negative..being as it's not noticeable by test that early..
Try taking another one in about a week..
If your not..
Stop having unprotected sex..It's dangerous AND it'll eliminate these scares (=

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14/f
Everytime i shave my vagina, i get really itchy and irratated down there. I used a regular razor & shaving cream. Is this a common problem? & how can i shave/trim my pub hair without having all this discomfort? Or is there something I'm doing wrong? Any tips/answeres would help ! [:

Try shaving down, towards your feet.
Then if you want it baby bottom smooth, shave up. So that it's not riping the hairs at the root.. it's just trimming the hair to the skin.

Also after your done shaving.. put lotion on..
or try, baby oil gel.
Hope this helps (=

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Everytime my periods coming, my boobs swell a whole cup size. Its very painful, and there not very large. Just B cups, but when they swell to a C's it hurts really badly. I don't know what to do or how to stop this from happening.

Is there any way i can stop this from happening?

Stop drinking Caffine.. like about a week before your period is supposed to come on.. it won't emliminate the swelling.. but will def. help with the discomfort feeling (=

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I just started using tampons so please don't be mean to me if this is something everybody already knows! Can you pee with a tampon in?

So, if you can how do you keep from peeing on the tampon string?

Thank you

You can pee with a tampon in..
But i personally have never been able to master not hitting the tampon string.. LOL.

I guess you could reach from behind and hold it to your leg or something??

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I overheard my cousin on the phone talking to his friend and he said he was around this girl he likes and he got a boner or he wanted to bone her or something. So what would that mean? What is a boner? Or did I just hear it wrong?

He could have said "i got a boner"
or her could have said "i want to bone her"

Both are sexual.
Him having a boner means, he got hard because he thinks she is sexy..

And him wanting to bone her mean, he wants to have sex with her ..

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what exactly does 69 mean, sexually speaking? I hear people talk about it all the time and I know it is related to sex and I have no idea what they are talking about. So, what does 69 mean sexually? Can anybody tell me without making fun of me for not already knowing? :-)

69 is a sexual position.

it can be done between:
2 females
2 males.
or a male and female.

it's when one person is laying on they're back and the other is on they're stomach
giving oral sex to eachother.

Like your laying on your back.. and they are on top of you.. they're feet above your head.. and they're head pointing towards your feet.. so they're privates are in your face and your's in they'res..
Quite fun, if done right (=

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I need to know what it means when you are a slut? How many guys do you have to sleep with to be a slut? Is there like a test or something you can take that tells you if you are being slutty or whatever?

I slept with tree guys in the same night. I feel like the worst person! I didn't tell any of them that I had slept with any of the others, I just wanted to see who was best. Now I feel really stupid. You can tell me the truth when you answer my question, I won't be mad or rate you low.

Is there anything that I can do to make this better? Should I tell the guys? What if one of them has a disease and I gave it to all of them?

DONT TELL ANYONE.
You will be called a slut. Wether you are or not.. people can be cruel.
It will ruin your life. I promise.

Take this as a lesson learned.. Don't sleep around.. for your safety and others'.
People in this world are SICK.
Some even sleep with wemon and men knowingly passing STD's around, even AIDS.

Be careful honey!!
I don't think you are a "slut"
But i do think that what you did that night was slutty. However.. your young and you can come back from this.. Keep ya head up.

Be careful (=

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I really need to find out because my girlfriend has warts! Am I going to get them to? Does anybody know for sure are warts contagious? Thank you to anybody who can answer me one way or the other. I will rate you!

They ARE contagious.
It is either a viral infection or a STD.

There is a chance you WILL NOT catch anything, but at the same time.. there is a larger chance, and known fact, that you will indeed catch the virus.

Be careful.

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When I wiped my bottom this morning there was blood on the tissue and it isn't from my period! I checked really good and it is coming from my backside! I am very scared! Why in the world would I poop blood? Can anybody help me?

It could be a number of different things..

If you "pooped" alot.. it could be that.
If you are constapated..that could def. be it..

If you have a tear in your rectum.
Google it.. and ask a doctor, if it does not stop

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maybe I am prude but I have never let my boyfriend do this. I guess I am afraid that I won't like it! So what does it feel like to be eaten out? I am a girl (obviously!) and I really want to know! You don't have to be all graphic and stuff but I think you know what I am asking. :-)

Truthfully, it depends on if your lover knows what they are doing.
I'm a lesbian, so i have a better chance at sucess..being as she is a woman herself, and knows what feels good and doesn't.

Men, kinda have to be taught.. unless they just have the pussy eating gene. LOL. (=

But if done right.. it is simply AMAZING.

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so this person i am seeing says some of the most hurtful things to me. then goes out and does something all sweet, and thinks because he has done this wonderful thing it makes up for those hurtful things he says. is words i qoute " actions woman not words"

that is what he says when i confront him, what do i do? he never can talk serious when i bring up this stuff he starts acting like a child and making noises so he cant hear me! it frustrates me beyond belief! i have hadto tell him to grow up! wwhat happend to the man i met that was loving caring respectful ?

ps i am 21 female

Girl, I've been there, done that.
He is acting a fool, becuase you let him.

If you want it to stop.. make him believe it!

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The first time I had "sex", he didn't get it all the way, he just got in the head. Does this count as popping my cherry, or am I still considered a virgin?

If you were bleeding afterwards.. then there is chance he did pop your cherry..
doesn't have to be all the way in.. depending on his size.

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so towards the end of january, i was arrested, along with two of my friends, for having a xanax pill on me, two packs of pall malls, and for being out past curfew. (i'm 17, female, by the way.) and so i had to go see a probation officer, and she gave me 6 months probation, with random drug tests. i knew i didn't have anything to worry about with the drug tests, since i don't do drugs. but she only told me what would happen to me if i failed a drug test. i can't remember what she said would happen if i got into trouble with the law again.

so anyways, about a month later, i got caught shoplifting, (dumb, i know. don't lecture me) and got slapped with another citation. so we called the chick, since she said if i did get into trouble again, to let her know within 48 hours of it happening. and we did, and she said she'll need to meet up with me again.

but now its been almost a month and a half and we haven't heard anything from her. i'm getting anxious, and so are my parents. and since i'm going to start driving soon, i'm worried that i'll get pulled over for speeding or something and then they'll see they have a warrent for me and take my happy ass down to juvi. why is she taking so long to call? what do you think will be my punishment, with the law? i'd prefer answers from someone who knows a lot about this type of stuff or has been in this situation before. thanks. and please, no lectures. i've learned from my mistakes and now i just need some answers.

Ok, your 17. You won't go to juvi.. your going to JAIL.
She hasn't called you becuase your an adult. You know you need to go see her.. you are "on the run" You know this..and you should do something about this NOW.
You won't get out of this with just probation.
You have violated your probation.. and depending on the state you live in.. it is mandatory that you spend at least 45 days in jail, for your VOP.

And as for getting pulled over once your driving.. Don't speed, don't break the law and you won't get pulled over to be arrested.

But if you keep running with a warrant. The charge will grow and you WILL pay for it.

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I'm a 15 female and I've been dealing with depression and confusion with my gender its been this way since i was real young i just don't feel, act, or even think like a girl. I'm pansexual meaning I'm gender blind i don't juge people by their genders because of the problem I've been dealing with. I talked to my mom about how I'm feeling but she doesn't take me seriously she only says we can PROBLEY change my name other than that she doesn't bring it up, and I'm to scared of her juging me that i keep quiet its already hard enough for me to open up so i can't turn to anyone for help. I want a sex change but i don't have much money. People tell me not to go through with it cause i might change my mind but i have no doubts and i just want to feel happy sometimes i lay in bed and cry all night just thinking about this. It makes me feel so stupid and i wonder why I'm even here. I don't know what to do anymore. Please can you help.

Oh sweetie. Your perfectly "normal".
Your perfect, becuase your real! Your true.
So don't ever let anyone tell you different.
Your amazing.. and you will see that one day.

There is an operation.
It does cost alot of money.. you have to be older to do the procedure. It is a long drawn out process..
You can google it.. and there will be all kinds of adivce on this..

You'll be fine (:

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http://www.kohls.com/kohlsStore/juniors/shortscapris/shorts/PRD~593715/SO+YarnDyed+Striped+Hollywood+Shorts.jsp#

oh you could do so much with these shorts..

A black, brown or red shirt definently..
Solid.. any stly shirt but long sleeve..
Maybe a black 3 quarter inch sleeve.. button down.

If your tall and slender.. you could do flats or heels..
If your shorter and your legs are thick.. either some tennis shoes.. or heels.

(:

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Can U become pregnant from having anal sex?

No. Can't happen.. once sperm hits oxygen .. it dies.

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What is ur email? I'll be able to talk more through that

i don't give my email out like that.. sorry (:

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I recently got a job doing birthday parties at a bowling alley. I got the job because my manager from my last job (which was also doing birthday parties) works there now, so it was kind of favor. But after the first couple of weeks, I realized I just don't want to do it. I'm so sick of doing the parties. How do I quit? Do I stick it out? Do I just tell her I don't want to do it?

If you need the money, you suck it up!
If not.. give your manager two weeks notice..
meaning, if you do want to quit.. tell her two weeks from today.. will be my last day.
I appreciate the oppertunity.. I just don't have the time for this any longer..
She'll probably let you go early.. but for a good reference in the future.. always use a two weeks notice before leaving a job (:

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Ok, so I let my boyfriend finger me for the first time the other day, and it wasn't great at all.
Whenever I do it myself, it's awesome, but I just can't...you know....'get there' when he does it.
Any ideas on how I can help him, or whatever, without insulting him?
Thanks

No way to tell him, without hurting his feelings.. unless he's not a sensitive guy.
But you just need to show him and tell him what you like..
If anything.. he'll think it's sexy to watch you do it..
don't tell him he sucks LOL..
Just say oh baby.. lemme show you something that drives me crazy.. i bet you'd be GREAT at it.. so on and so on..
Everything will be fine.. much better than to have him suck.. you'll just grow to be turned off by him.. if you don't change it now (:

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