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Female to Male transgender?
I'm a 15 female and I've been dealing with depression and confusion with my gender its been this way since i was real young i just don't feel, act, or even think like a girl. I'm pansexual meaning I'm gender blind i don't juge people by their genders because of the problem I've been dealing with. I talked to my mom about how I'm feeling but she doesn't take me seriously she only says we can PROBLEY change my name other than that she doesn't bring it up, and I'm to scared of her juging me that i keep quiet its already hard enough for me to open up so i can't turn to anyone for help. I want a sex change but i don't have much money. People tell me not to go through with it cause i might change my mind but i have no doubts and i just want to feel happy sometimes i lay in bed and cry all night just thinking about this. It makes me feel so stupid and i wonder why I'm even here. I don't know what to do anymore. Please can you help.
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I'm helping a friend of mine transition from female to male. It's a really long, difficult process (although I wish for his sake it was easier).
First off, you need to find a counsellor who specializes in gender issues. They can help talk you through the requirements in your country. For instance, in Canada, you are required to undergo a year of hormones and a year of Real Life, which is when you full out identify as a man but without the legal gender change on your documents BEFORE you can have surgery. You also have to be over 18 and qualify through mental health testing.
Real Life can be quite challenging, as it basically involves coming out as a man to everybody. You have to explain to potential employers why a man is registering as a woman in his legal documents.
Secondly, you need a support group. Is there a GLBTQ group at your school or in your community?
You also need to tell those people who are telling you not to go through with this to stuff it. This is who you are. You were born a man in a woman's body. I would normally say to wait it out because you're young, but from my friend's experiences I know that it's pretty much from childhood that you're sure. This is where the support group comes in. You need supportive friends who will love you for who you are, no matter what your exterior is.
I'm not sure exactly how you would go about things in the best manner possible, but I would say that finding a good, experienced, open-minded counselor is the most important part. They'll be able to guide you in all the minutiae.
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Oh sweetie. Your perfectly "normal".
Your perfect, becuase your real! Your true.
So don't ever let anyone tell you different.
Your amazing.. and you will see that one day.
There is an operation.
It does cost alot of money.. you have to be older to do the procedure. It is a long drawn out process..
You can google it.. and there will be all kinds of adivce on this..
You'll be fine (:
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Firstly, since you are fifteen, it actually is possible (but unlikely) that you will change your mind. Still, you know what you want, and there was a story recently about a German boy becoming a girl at 12. The lack of money is an issue given how expensive this type of procedure is, and I don't know your location or how accepting people in your life would be, but the best advice I can give you is just start calling yourself a boy. You can start dressing as such if that is what you want, and dating as such, though that runs into issues with the other person's sexuality, you might just have to stick to the gay community, but then, that could be an issue either way since many straight people could have a problem dating a transsexual. I know a couple people that used gender pronouns and dress of the opposite gender. It's not a permanent solution but it's something you can do now, and it might show your mom how serious you are.
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You are not the only one to ever have these feelings, However..As hard as it is to deal with it you might need to wait until you are an adult to make the operation choice final. Changing your sex is not only a lifetime commitment but you CAN'T go back and change your mind later down the line. Frankly, I think you should try to work with who you are and except the fact that you are born in your body. Everybody has their own point of views on transgenders but in my mind changing your sex still does not change your real identity. Transgenders surgery is VERY costly, Most surgeries are these days. I am taking a wild guess but I can promise you that if you ever DID attempt to get surgery well it will cost more than $50,000. You not only have the sex surgery but you are looking at plastic surgery, Hormonal pills and god only knows what else. You are born who you are if you want to be more manly like why not cut your hair, Change the way you dress, but the surgery is taking it to the extreme. Everyone is right, You might change your mind. You never know what the future holds, Sometimes when you think your mind is set on something the future says other wise.
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