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Hi everyone. My name is Drew McPhatter. I am 13 years old, but people have told me to be a very wise girl (yes, i am a girl.=-)) for my age. I live in North Carolina all of my life. Music is my life. I have been piano and keyboard(which is my signature instrument) for ten years, while I have been also playing saxaphone(any), clarinet, percussion/drums, bass guitar, and trumpet for a good two-three years. Being a musician, I believe that music of any type is good for the soul. It helps to mold you and make you, well...you. Feel free to send me a private message as well as ask me a question =-)
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so this person i am seeing says some of the most hurtful things to me. then goes out and does something all sweet, and thinks because he has done this wonderful thing it makes up for those hurtful things he says. is words i qoute " actions woman not words"
that is what he says when i confront him, what do i do? he never can talk serious when i bring up this stuff he starts acting like a child and making noises so he cant hear me! it frustrates me beyond belief! i have hadto tell him to grow up! wwhat happend to the man i met that was loving caring respectful ?
ps i am 21 female
I've been in your situation. Tell him that that may be true, but the tongue has the power of life, as of death. It can cause pain, or happiness. If you really love him, stick through it and explain to him how you feel. If he acts childish, leave it alone. Watch everything he does and see if you could put up with that if you both were actually married. 14/f
I hope this helps you. ;)
Okay i'm 14, and i'm horney like all the time..
i like this guy, but he's a little older then me?
i really want to have sex with him, but i'm scared of all the things that could happen, i've been finger and it's okay, but tomarrow i'm supose to have sex???? what should i do?
I'm 14 too. And teen to teen, majority of these columnists are right-you are wayyy to young.
Of course, you have the final decision, but please think about it. Is a couple hours of pleasure really worth a lifetime of responsibility? (i'm saying this part because of your age)
The reason you're being really horny lately is because your horomones are developing, and its only gonna get worse from here. But you have to learn how to control yourself. (If you don't know how to.)
If you're dating this person, discuss your boundaries-what you don't and do feel comfortable doing. Expect him to do the same. And if he doesn't respect what you are and aren't willing ot do, then he really isn't worth it.
Be young and enjoy your teen years. Worry about the serious stuff later.
Hope i helped!
AK
I'm a 15 year old girl, 5'5" and about 165 pounds. I have muscle too but there's also fat like in the rest of my body I want to get rid of. I've just been gaining wait.. since last year I've been like "Okay, I'm going to stop binge eating and start running for 1 hour everyday" but then I end up binge eating and then hoping to go running soon.. making excuses and stuff. Its so annoying. I really want to be around 110 pounds, though, and don't need comments on if you don't think its a good weight or whatever, I just want to know how.
I dont want to go anorexic/bulemic cause it sounds gross and its unhealthy. I dont know how to eat better as like I eat what my parents make. We rarely ever eat out but from now on I'm never buying lunch from school again. But like my family makes traditional African (Cameroonian) foods and being in America i see like other sugary things and it makes me want to eat that stuff but we don't really have that stuff in my house so i subsitute this with eating sugar, like putting sugar on my corn flakes or cheerios, or binge eating whenever we get more sugary stuff which makes my mom not like to buy stuff like that cause of the binge eating. its so annoying. like i do it with ice cream or nutella.. im like 'this is the last time' but i just keep doing it. i've been doing it since i dont know, i was like 9 or 10? but its gotten worse each year. it wasnt like this when I was in England when I was younger and skinny. Stupid American portions. But like in lunch when we get so much food, i've been taught to finish whats on my plate so its weird to like throw food away.. especially since I dont want to waste money. For that reason I'm not buying lunch anymore.
I think my problem is snacks. Like we dont really have snacks other than fruits so often i get bored with eating them or when fruits are finished i end up binging on something sugary or something. my mom says snacks arent really important but i think a variety of healthy snacks will. i need examples so i can tell my mom to buy them. like as healthy as possible.. my mom just bought nutrigrain bars and im worried at my impulsiveness if I'm going to binge on those. So what are a variety of cheap healthy snacks we could get regularly?
And is there a website with very healthy recipes for food, or like recipes like on that new show "Cook yourself thin" where like it reduces the calories? If i have to help my mom cook to get skinnier I'll try! and then i'll learn how to cook better so its a win win, lol
And finally, EXERCISES! would it be a good idea to run for 1 hour before school and/or after school, or 30 mins before and/after school to reach my goal in my goal time? would running just solve all my problems? i feel its more effective than riding my bicycle.. cause i dont have great stamina and am often embarassed during gym class when we run cause i end up being the slowest cause i cant keep up the tempo. i mean its not like im not athletic. I play volleyball but im off season and unfortunately my parents wouldnt let me do club vball this year so basically my exercise has been like about 20 mins of gym class. but are there other ways to target my problem areas.. which are pretty much everywhere cause everywhere gets fat? its like all around my body, ugh. Like put a website with these exercises and how to do them, or really describe it and stuff. I need a work out plan then if running alone won't solve it. Like a basic outline of how to manage my time with that and how long i should spend doing things..
I need motivation! I dont have an ipod which really sucks but I have to make do with that. I really want to reach my goal but how to just.. get out there? What do you do or what tips do you know about how to just go and exercise? I know it will get easier overtime but how to just start it? I really want to be skinny cause I'm moving to a new town and I wanna get new clothes that will look good on me. I dont like going shopping now because I'm not at my ideal weight yet. But at the same time, I need new clothes. I rarely get to go shopping for clothes (this school year I've gone like twice in total) which makes it worse.. I like want to only buy things when i really like how i look. I mean I'm pretty but I can be like a lot prettier if I was skinnier definately. It would really help my self esteem, too.
So basically i need a work out plan & eating plan (w/ recipes for very healthy meals and healthy snack ideas on websites) and tips in general too.
Thanks a lot!!!
Well, to start off, monitor your eating and exercising habits for about a week. And then modify them with a food and exercise log that you can keep up with. I've made my goal of 20 pounds in a year by doing this. Sounds bad, I know, but it all depends on the length of time you want the weight gone.
What I suggest you do is to go to this website and keep up with your journals. It works for me=):
http://www.my-calorie-counter.com
It says you have to be 18 or older, so I just made myself a little older;). But it is a very nice place to help you keep track of things. And it also has some DELICIOUS recipes too.
Hope I helped! Anymore questions feel free to ask!
Ayatame_Kishatake (This is my name up there too;))
He very rude and hurt my feeling becouse i am deaf and different
Well, you need to break up with him and get away from him as soon as possible. Just because your deaf, you aren't different. So what? You're just like any other person, and you should be treated with respect. =-)
A.K.
Let's start from the top, shall we?
He's perfect, in so many ways. He's the perfect height, and his eyes are the kind to fall in love with. And I have. That's just the start.
He's always one to make me laugh and smile, even when I've had the worst day ever. I found out my dog of 11 years died, and he still was able to help me forget, and I don't even think he knows that he does it.
He's the guy that shows up in my dreams. The one that always seems to know what to say, even if he doesn't say anything at all. And I know all this sounds super cliche, but it is so much true.
I don't know. You know how every now and then, there is someone that you can see yourself with for the rest of your life? Well, it;s just like that with me. He's that one. And, granted, he does know that I exist. After all, we seem to always be bumping into each other (figuratively, of course).
And I always somehow embarrass myself. I either trip over my own shoe, the flat surface of the school, fall down the stairs, fall out of my chair, or get super hyper so that I have no idea what I actually end up saying, and about every other thing that I could possibly do to embarrass myself.
Normally, girls tend to do this in front of people that are super hot, and super shallow. But he's not like that. You can see in his eyes that he actually cares about people. About what people actually feel. I've seen plenty of guys in my life, from every end of the spectrum possible, and yet I have never seen anyone like him. Never met anyone like him. Never had a chance at anyone like him.
And that doesn't even begin to cover what he does to me. Whenever he's around, I'm hyper-aware of any and every little movement he makes. I hear his name, and my heart double-times it. Talking with him usually leaves me light headed. And there is so much else that I can't even put into words. With as many words as there are in the entire English language, I have yet to find a words that describes everything about this whole situation.
Wow. Looking back at this, I have to admit: DJ does seem to be right. I seem to be in love with him. But it just doesn't feel right to say that I'm in love with him. Major like, definately. But love? I just don't know. This is one of those questions that more than likely won't ever be answered. At least not anytime soon. Oh well. I can't think about it anymore. It's just.....too hard to understand and think about.
Anyone have any kind of advice for me?
♥Dinky
Well darlin' it sounds like love to me by the way you're talking! Lol, but really, take a shot at em. What have you got to lose?? Keep me posted on what happens, and hope i helped! A.K.
17/girl.
(This may be long, sorry.)
I'm really confused about my one best friend. Her name is Sara and she is really nice and funny, and she is like my best friend since 6th or 7th grade. (I'm in 10th right now.) So we've been pretty close for awhile. Well, this year I made a ton of new really close friends, and I introduced them to her and they liked her (they weren't like friend though) but they thought she was nice and everything. Sara has a really great personality, except for one tiny flaw. She is a hugeeeeee liar. She did something really mean to one of my very close friends. I'm not going to explain it, because it is very long. But, she did something so unbelievable, you wouldn't even think of it. But anyway, that happened a few months ago. She basically went behind my back, lied, hurt me, and 5 other people.. at least, and it was just horrible. I was so in shock, I didn't know how to handle it. So, I never really like yelled at her for it or anything, it was just so unbelievable. Well anyway, I don't trust anything she says anymore. I know she is still lying about a lot of stuff. It's really hard to be best friends with someone when you don't trust them.. i'm afraid to bring it up because i hate confrontation and it just sometimes doesn't seem worth it. It bothers me everyday, all of my other friends absolutely hate her. So, it also makes hanging out with all of them on weekends hard too. She doesn't have many friends, besides me and maybee like 3 other people, tops. So, it's hard to just ditch her. I don't really want to do that anyway though. What should I do? I'm so confused.
If you'd like to know the full story, let me know. :) it gets really into detail, and anyone willing to listen and give me more advice, that would be greatttt. thank youuu.
Well the best thing for you to do is just maybe stop being friends with her. You sound like the type of girl that really doesn't like to people. in that case you're just like me, but all she's going to do is bring you down in the end no matter how much u
me and my boyfriend broke up about a week ago and as shallow as this sounds, i'm positive that i won't be able to get over him unless i meet someone else, someone better. my ex is like my best friend now and i want it to stay that way but i need that love connection with someone and i know there are better guys out there. so i need to know where to meet a great guy and that will show me that love really does exist. any ideas? 17/f.
Okay.
Well it sounds like you've been so used to being in a relationship, that it's difficult to have someone around. That's okay. Just get out, and meet new people. Hang with the girlfriends.
A.K.
Well, friday I found out he is playing with my friend Lidia(13, mexacin).
He apperently Loved my outfit for the record I wear jeans 24-7, but I had wore a skirt... I think I scared everyone by doing that. As for him... I mean I've had this crush like almost 2 years... Did I menchin I don't crush much? Well, Dec '08 he was soo different he said on that painful day "I'm not ready for a girlfriend, I don't like you that way, I'm sorry. I only wanna be friends." He sure didn't spare my feelings then, but in March he started acting soo polite... He isn't so polite around me now but still. Do players change their attitude alot? I wish I could forget but my nature... I kinda hang on to the past... Now that I think about it... He seems to try so hard to impress my friends even if he doesn't know them... My love life has quite the quirl doesn't it...
I won't see him till our groups bowling thing (Wens.), Should I dress different? What should I do? When I do something like suddenly dye my hair he notices praticuly everything I do, including my behavior... There was this one time we where at the library I kinda kept to myself my face covered my DS... He just then decided to get close(like 3 inches) from my face, and ask if I was okay.... Am I in to deep? Seriously what do I do??
-Sakura Kaori
Okay, gurlie, now i'm back on...
One thing that players are known to do is look for something better. So this sounds like to me that everytime the person he finds isn't so great, he comes running back to you, because he thinks you're...what's the word...weak.
Yes, players have a tendency to change their attitude for the reason I just listed.
In conclusion, it sounds like for one minute, he wants to be your boyfriend, and the next, just friends with benefits. But like I said, just hold on and see what his actions are. I could have better judgement if I knew the guy....
Hope I helped!
A.K.
Heyy, so I been known as a prude girl and ya I am but I'm thinkin about acutally doing something with a guy but I'm so soooooo scared and don't know how to start doing stuff withguys once we start kisssing. I mean can u you help me through this and tell me how to loosin up a litte ya know?
Lol hahahaha! You sound just like me!!!
Well, it depends on how you were raised. And everyone's naturally nervous of their 'first time'.
Me, I learned a long time ago that I just wasn't ready for that step yet, no matter how much I wanted to. Around where I live I'm known as a role model to older and younger kids, so it all depends on one person, YOU. If you think you're ready to accept the consequences of your actions, then by all means, go ahead and have a little fun. But mind this: For every cause there's an effect. But if it's more of a want-but you aren't ready for it-don't do it. You'll regret it in the future.
I would love to meet you. You sound so totally like my twin right now. Lol.
Hope I helped!
Drew (the girl type) McPhatter aka Ayatame Kishatake
Okay so i was in a relationship with this guy and he was so sweet he was funny amazingly cute and would always make me happy and he told me he loves me,But we met online and i really liked him,but he just stopped getting online and i don't no if i should call him,But now im in a relationship with this other guy and hes really sweet and caring but no really cute and likes to talk to me,but i don't no if im just with him cause the way he acts reminds me of my ex,Please help me,What do i do?
Well, love, in long distance or internet relationships, people have a tendency to to that, so that question you're going to have to answer yourself. Start talking to the other person again and see what the deal is. Either you still love him, or you've moved on.
Hope I helped! Tell me what happens!
Drew McPhatter aka Ayatame Kishatake
My ex is talkinto me alot i ask her if she loves me she says yes and she says she is going to break up with her boyfriend for me and of course i love her and i wanna be with her but she is leaving him for me and because hes a jerk and i dont want her to get hurt bye me i love her to much pleae help me!!!
Okay, well you sound like you already know what to do. Just one thing though: when you say he's a jerk, do you mean he's abusive? If so, GET HER OUT OF THERE IMMEDIATELY. Go to an adult you can trust and tell them what is happening. But if you didn't mean it that way, well, have another shot at the girl. Try to fix whatever broke you guys up in the first place.
Have fun in love's paradise!
Drew McPhatter aka Ayatame Kishatake
Okay, me & my crush Kyle are good friends but recently I learned he's a player like 22nd I think he said to me "I 'like' alot of girls here." we were at are groups normal bowling day. After he said that he completely ignored me. Something else he said was "Guys think girls are cute when they mess-up, exspealiy when they like the guy." Uhg... He's a shy, player though... He acts like it, but I fear if he does am I just another girl or what? He's (almost) 15, shy, tall, blonde, smart & a player.
I'm 15/ female, shy, averge hieght, brunette(dyed red) & hardly crush.
Help would be awsome it's bad enough my enemy T is flirting with him. -_-'
Help? Please, I'm beggin.
-Sakura Kaori
I've been in that same situation just a few months ago, and if he has a reputation for being a player, than more than likely he playing you, too. And as for what he said, it is a possibility that he's trying to do a little 'window shopping' if you know what I mean. Just to be sure, wait it out, and if he says more stuff like that, then it's a good possibility his ways haven't changed.
Keep me posted on what happens!
Hope I helped!
Drew McPhatter aka Ayatame Kishatake