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liar, liar, pants on fire.
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(This may be long, sorry.)
I'm really confused about my one best friend. Her name is Sara and she is really nice and funny, and she is like my best friend since 6th or 7th grade. (I'm in 10th right now.) So we've been pretty close for awhile. Well, this year I made a ton of new really close friends, and I introduced them to her and they liked her (they weren't like friend though) but they thought she was nice and everything. Sara has a really great personality, except for one tiny flaw. She is a hugeeeeee liar. She did something really mean to one of my very close friends. I'm not going to explain it, because it is very long. But, she did something so unbelievable, you wouldn't even think of it. But anyway, that happened a few months ago. She basically went behind my back, lied, hurt me, and 5 other people.. at least, and it was just horrible. I was so in shock, I didn't know how to handle it. So, I never really like yelled at her for it or anything, it was just so unbelievable. Well anyway, I don't trust anything she says anymore. I know she is still lying about a lot of stuff. It's really hard to be best friends with someone when you don't trust them.. i'm afraid to bring it up because i hate confrontation and it just sometimes doesn't seem worth it. It bothers me everyday, all of my other friends absolutely hate her. So, it also makes hanging out with all of them on weekends hard too. She doesn't have many friends, besides me and maybee like 3 other people, tops. So, it's hard to just ditch her. I don't really want to do that anyway though. What should I do? I'm so confused.
If you'd like to know the full story, let me know. :) it gets really into detail, and anyone willing to listen and give me more advice, that would be greatttt. thank youuu.
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I understand that it's hard for you to handle confrontation. A lot of people are like that. But this girl is supposed to be your best friend and you should be able to calmly talk to her without it because a huge argument. If you feel that it isn't worth it, you need to move on from this girl. You don't have to completely ditch her, but you can slowly distance yourself from her. If she asks why you're doing it, tell her that what she did to your friend and the way she lied really put a rift in your friendship.
It would probably be best to talk to her about it now though. Tell her that if she keeps lying to you, you'll never be able to regain your trust in her. If she doesn't change after this, she's not worth having as a friend.
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you shouldn't let her hurt your relationship with other people. first tell her the truth about how she acts if she doesn't clean up her act then you need to let her go. she can still be your friend but not your best friend. obviously its not a tiny flaw, she has something wrong and she might hurt you or one of your friends again. there are plenty of decent people in the world don't let her affect you.
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Well the best thing for you to do is just maybe stop being friends with her. You sound like the type of girl that really doesn't like to people. in that case you're just like me, but all she's going to do is bring you down in the end no matter how much u
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