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ppl think im leading him on
i have been dating an amazing guy for about a month, he is a year younger but he is so clingy. i really like him but we havent become like official boyfriend girlfriend yet. so people say im leading him on, playing him and takeing advantage, useing, being a cougar, but im nottt i just am so uneasy about this.. im still hurting from my ex who was also my bff bf and everything, cheated on me, we were the longest couple iv ever known. he says he will wait for me, even today though i went with friends and hes babysitting but he texted me so much my phone died.. clingy. what can i do i really like him, im nott using him i dont wana hurt him ever, hes to obsessive and already whipped, but hes such a sweet guy. should i become officalish or no... also what would be good places or dates to go for us since we arent tooo..? im 16 nearly 17 and a suberban chicka
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You may not like my answer friend, but I have had a lot (too much) experience with this type of situation -- don't date him and let him know there is no hope. I know you like him and he's so sweet and nice and would do anything in the world for you, however, he's already showing bad signs. He's clingy, you can't keep your phone on, he's a whipped pup...you don't want to really date a guy like this, do you? Also, as time goes on, it will only get worse.
I "talked" to a guy like this, exactly like this, and he turned into crazy stalker. I had to leave my phone turned off because he called constantly (literally), when I did turn it on if I wasn't ringing again I had 30 some voicemails (no joke) and they were each like 3 minutes long. I don't want you to go through this and that's why you need to tell him that you like him, however, it would be best if you stayed friends.
I couldn't stay friends with the guy I was talking to, but maybe you can. Just make sure you tell him that and end it now because you both get hurt.
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You aren't really into this guy, are you?
If you think a guy is clingy at this stage in the game, you can't date him seriously. People who call you names like user or courgar are assholes, but if people who love and respect your are worried you are leading him on, they are probably picking up on the fact that you are just not into him enough to make it work.
All signs point to this being the time to make a choice: Either be offical, or to be nothing. If you can't bring yourself to choose offical (either because of his behavoir, or your past) then it's time to back out and stop dating him.
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